Dealing with Feeling

Marc Brackett
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  • SOCIETY & CULTURE

Welcome to the Dealing With Feeling Podcast: a series focused on evidence-based strategies for healthy emotion regulation. Hosted by Dr. Marc Brackett, an expert and pioneer in the field of emotional intelligence research, this series offers a wealth of expert insights, celebrity interviews, and evidence-based strategies designed to deepen your understanding of your emotions and those of others.

  1. 2D AGO

    Mattering: How to Feel Valued and Add Value with Jennifer Breheny Wallace

    "Feeling like you matter" often gets treated like a nice idea. Something soft. Something optional. In reality, it is a core human need, and when it's missing, the consequences show up everywhere, from disengagement at work to loneliness at home. Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with journalist and bestselling author Jennifer Breheny Wallace on Dealing With Feeling to talk about what mattering really means, why it's not about ego or achievement, and how everyday interactions quietly shape whether people feel valued and able to add value. In this conversation: What researchers actually mean by "mattering," and why it has two essential parts The SAID framework and how it shows up in daily relationships Why disengagement is often a sign of pain, not laziness How life transitions can collapse our sense of mattering, and how to rebuild it Parenting for healthy mattering without tying worth to performance Intrinsic vs extrinsic values, and what they do to well-being over time Why workplaces that ignore mattering struggle with retention and productivity About the guest: Jennifer Breheny Wallace is an award-winning journalist and the author of the New York Times bestselling books Never Enough and Mattering. Her work focuses on achievement culture, connection, and how individuals and institutions can build environments where people feel valued and able to add value. Connect with Jennifer Breheny Wallace: Website: https://www.jenniferbwallace.com Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://marcbrackett.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett X: https://x.com/drmarcbrackett Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett Dr. Marc Brackett's books: Permission to Feel Dealing with Feeling Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER, an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates. A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. Thanks also to Oji Life Lab for their generous support. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence, and more, visit https://ojilifelab.com or click the link in the description of this episode and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

    53 min

  2. FEB 4

    When "Be Patient" Protects the System, with Dr. Christina Cipriano

    "Be patient" gets treated like a virtue in every system. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it is the line that keeps unfairness in place, because it asks the people carrying the cost to stay quiet so everyone else can stay comfortable. Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano on Dealing With Feeling to talk about what patience looks like when it is wisdom, and what it looks like when it becomes compliance. They also talk about how to interrupt harm without turning it into humiliation. In this conversation: When "be patient" supports growth, and when it protects comfort Why "that's just how we do things" can be one of the most dangerous phrases in any system Calling people in vs. calling people out, and what each one asks of a leader What it means to hold urgency and dignity in the same moment A simple reset you can use when tension spikes and you still have to lead How to respond when you feel that stomach drop, but you cannot opt out of the room About the guest: Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano is an Associate Professor at the Yale Child Study Center and the Director of the Education Collaboratory at Yale. She is the author of Be Unapologetically Impatient: The Mindset Required to Change the Way We Do Things. Connect with Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano: Website: https://www.drchriscip.com Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://marcbrackett.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett X: https://x.com/drmarcbrackett Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett Dr. Marc Brackett's books: Permission to Feel Dealing with Feeling Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER, an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates. A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. Thanks also to Oji Life Lab for their generous support. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence, and more, visit https://ojilifelab.com or click the link in the description of this episode and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

    51 min

  3. JAN 28

    "Just Breathe" Isn't a Plan: SOUL COLE on Stress, Masculinity, and Stillness

    We call it "being productive," but for a lot of us it's a nervous system stuck in go mode. Always on. Always bracing. Then someone says "just breathe" and it sounds like a joke. Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with former NFL wide receiver and mindfulness facilitator Brandon "SOUL COLE" Coleman to talk about what happens when performance mode becomes your identity and stillness starts to feel unsafe. In this conversation: The identity crash after injury and why it can trigger anxiety, depression, and shutdown Why five minutes a day can actually change your patterns if you stick with it Mindfulness vs. breathwork and why "just breathe" isn't enough The five senses reset that works for skeptics in under two minutes Masculinity, vulnerability, and unlearning "tighten up" What it looks like to plant these skills early for kids and communities About the guest: Brandon "SOUL COLE" Coleman is a former NFL wide receiver and mindfulness facilitator who helps people build practical tools for regulation, resilience, and real-life performance. Connect with SOUL COLE: Instagram: @b_cole16 SOUL Impact Foundation: https://soulimpactfoundation.org Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://marcbrackett.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett X: https://x.com/drmarcbrackett Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett Dr. Marc Brackett's Books: Permission to Feel Dealing with Feeling Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates. A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

    1h 5m

  4. JAN 28

    Doomscrolling, Group Chats, and Burnout: Dr. Elisha Goldstein on Breaking the Stress Cycle

    We call it "normal life." But for most of us, it's a low-grade chronic stress loop. News alerts. Group chats. Doomscrolling. Constant urgency. In this episode of Dealing With Feeling, Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Elisha Goldstein to explore how tiny emotional shifts can interrupt stress patterns, strengthen relationships, and change the trajectory of our health over time. This is a conversation about emotional longevity — and what it means to stop living in permanent survival mode. In this conversation: Why anxiety is not your identity, but a reinforced loop How low-grade stress becomes "the water we swim in" Elisha's 4R method: Recognize, Release, Refocus, Reinforce Moving from blame into skillful emotional requests in relationships How small shifts in real moments create long-term change About the guest: Dr. Elisha Goldstein is a clinical psychologist, teacher, and author whose work focuses on mindfulness, resilience, and emotional health. Guest links: Website: https://elishagoldstein.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/drelishagoldstein Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://marcbrackett.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett X: https://x.com/drmarcbrackett Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett Dr. Marc Brackett's Books Permission to Feel Dealing with Feeling Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates. A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

    59 min

  5. JAN 28

    Gaslighting in Relationships and How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself with Dr. Robin Stern

    Gaslighting is not just an argument. It is a slow erosion of identity. Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with his longtime friend and colleague Dr. Robin Stern to unpack The Gaslight Effect, how anxiety fuels both the gaslighter and the gaslightee, and what it takes to rebuild self-trust. They explore how people don't lose their reality overnight. They lose it in inches, one second-guess at a time. In this conversation: What gaslighting really is and why it is so disorienting The three stages of The Gaslight Effect: disbelief, defense, depression That first "maybe it wasn't that bad" moment, and why it matters How fear of being "the bad one" keeps the cycle going How to start rebuilding self-trust after months or years of doubt About the guest: Dr. Robin Stern is a psychoanalyst and the Senior Advisor to the Director at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. She is the author of The Gaslight Effect, the Recovery Guide of the same name, the host of The Gaslight Effect podcast and a leading voice on gaslighting and self-trust. Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://robinstern.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/dr.robinstern X: https://x.com/RobinSStern Facebook: https://facebook.com/drrobinstern LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Resources: The Gaslight Effect The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://marcbrackett.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett X: https://x.com/drmarcbrackett Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett Dr. Marc Brackett's Books Permission to Feel Dealing with Feeling Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates. A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

    1h 6m

  6. JAN 28

    What Most Parents Say That Shuts Teens Down with Jamie Lockwood & Liz Fletcher

    Teens have language for anxiety. Most adults never got language for their own feelings. Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Jamie Lockwood and Liz Fletcher to talk about what it means to raise and teach teens in this mental health moment. Together, they explore why more "mental health talk" hasn't solved the crisis, what teens actually need from adults, and how to support big feelings without shutting down, fixing, or turning everything into a performance. In this conversation: Why teen mental health is declining even with more "mental health talk" The adolescent brain "under construction" and why that matters Emotion judge vs. emotion scientist, and how teens can make the shift Tools used in real school settings (CBT triangle, RAIN, circle of control) Co-regulation at home when parents are exhausted, overwhelmed, and scared What they wish parents had known about emotions About the guests: Jamie Lockwood is a school-based clinician. Liz Fletcher is an educator and parent.  The Teens Guide to Emotions: Our Essential Workbook for Navigating Big Feelings, Decision-Making, and Relationships with Confidence https://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Em... Website: https://www.fearlessinkpress.com. Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://marcbrackett.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett X: https://x.com/drmarcbrackett Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett Dr. Marc Brackett's Books Permission to Feel Dealing with Feeling Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates. A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

    59 min

  7. JAN 28

    The Happiness Trap, and Why 'More' Never Feels like Enough with Dr. Laurie Santos

    We turned happiness into a checklist. Then wondered why it never feels like enough. Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Laurie Santos to unpack the "happiness trap" and the quiet ways we chase the wrong things. They talk about miswanting, why we get obsessed with the future, and how a life that looks good on paper can still feel empty on the inside. You'll hear what the research actually says helps, and the small shifts that make happiness feel more real and more sustainable. In this conversation: Why our brains are so bad at predicting what will make us happy The "hyper-focus on the future" that steals joy from the present Happy in your life vs. happy with your life, and why that distinction matters Why social connection keeps showing up as a happiness "superpower" How emotional intelligence and RULER support real well-being, not fake positivity About the guest: Dr. Laurie Santos is a Yale psychologist and host of The Happiness Lab. Listen to The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos: https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-h...  Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://marcbrackett.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett X: https://x.com/drmarcbrackett Facebook: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett Dr. Marc Brackett's Books Permission to Feel Dealing with Feeling Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates. A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support. Visit https://ojilifelab.com and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

    58 min

  8. JAN 28

    The Anxiety Loop Explained, and How to Interrupt It with Dr. Judson Brewer

    The worst part of anxiety is not the feeling. It's the loop. The "what if" that keeps feeding itself until it feels like truth. Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Judson Brewer to unpack how worry becomes a habit, why reassurance and mental debate often backfire, and how curiosity can disrupt the cycle without forcing you to "think positive." In this conversation: How anxiety becomes a loop: trigger → worry → short relief → more worry Why worrying feels like control even when it isn't Curiosity as the interrupt that changes the pattern Anxiety vs stress vs overwhelm and why precise labeling matters A simple way to shift from "oh no" to "oh" About the guest: Dr. Judson Brewer is a psychiatrist and neuroscientist who studies habit change and anxiety. Judd's books: Unwinding Anxiety, The Craving Mind, The Hunger Habit https://drjud.com Programs & resources:  https://goingbeyondanxiety.com https://juddbrewer.substack.com Connect with Marc Brackett: Website: https://marcbrackett.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/marc.brackett X: https://x.com/drmarcbrackett Meta: https://facebook.com/drmarcbrackett LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett Dr. Marc Brackett's Books Permission to Feel Dealing with Feeling Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates. A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support. Visit https://ojilifelab.com and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

    1h 17m
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Welcome to the Dealing With Feeling Podcast: a series focused on evidence-based strategies for healthy emotion regulation. Hosted by Dr. Marc Brackett, an expert and pioneer in the field of emotional intelligence research, this series offers a wealth of expert insights, celebrity interviews, and evidence-based strategies designed to deepen your understanding of your emotions and those of others.

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  • Creator
    Marc Brackett
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2024
  • Show Website
    Dealing with Feeling

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