Let's Get It With Coach Los

Los Acie (Certified Life & Relationship Coach)
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Welcome to the show with Coach Los, a certified life and relationship coach. This podcast is for anyone tired of dating games or struggling with relationship challenges. Each episode offers actionable advice, real-life insights, and coaching strategies to help you communicate better, rebuild trust, or decide if it’s time to move on. Tune in for empowering messages, practical tips, and expert strategies to help you create the healthy, loving relationship you deserve. It’s time to stop overthinking and start living with clarity.

  1. 44m ago

    When Emotional 'Maturity' Is Actually Avoidance in Disguise

    Protecting your peace sounds healthy. But sometimes what you are calling peace is really emotional avoidance. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down how emotional avoidance can disguise itself as emotional maturity in dating and relationships. If you pride yourself on being unbothered, detached, calm, or drama-free, but struggle with emotional intimacy, vulnerability, conflict resolution, or feeling truly connected to your partner, your “maturity” may actually be a defense mechanism. Coach Los breaks down: Why being calm is not the same as being emotionally mature How emotional detachment can look like peace while actually creating distance Why avoiding conflict can block intimacy and relationship repair How suppressing emotions can lead to stronger triggers later Why labeling people “too much” may reveal discomfort with emotional depth The difference between emotional availability, emotional intelligence, and emotional maturity How healthy conflict helps couples build trust, closeness, and understanding Coach Los also explains why real emotional maturity is not about staying above your emotions. It is about staying grounded inside them. Because healthy relationships require more than emotional control. They require the ability to stay connected, communicate honestly, and work toward repair even when the conversation gets uncomfortable.

  2. 3d ago

    4 Hidden Ways You're Teaching Them to Do LESS

    If you are always the one holding the relationship together, solving the problems, planning everything, and anticipating every need, you may think you are being a great partner. But you may actually be teaching the other person to do less. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down four hidden ways overfunctioning in relationships creates emotional imbalance, resentment, and burnout. If you constantly feel like you are doing all the work in your relationship, carrying the emotional load, or wondering why your partner never steps up, the problem may not only be what they are failing to do. It may also be the space you are not leaving for them to contribute. Coach Los breaks down: Why anticipating every need can become anxiety management instead of love How overfunctioning can weaken accountability in a relationship Why fixing problems before they happen can stop your partner from growing How doing emotional labor for two creates an unhealthy imbalance Why speaking for your partner keeps them from using their own voice How avoiding conflict can turn into self-silencing Why healthy relationships need mutual responsibility, not one person carrying everything Coach Los also explores why overfunctioning often comes from fear. Fear that things will fall apart. Fear that you will not be enough. Fear that if you stop doing everything, the relationship will stop working. But healthy love requires room for both people to participate. Because you show people how to love you by giving them the opportunity to actually show up for you.

  3. 5d ago

    Why Healed People Stay Single (The Truth NO One Wants to Admit)

    Healing does not automatically make dating easier. Sometimes the more self-aware, emotionally healthy, and grounded you become, the harder it feels to find someone who actually fits your life. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down why healed people can stay single longer, even when they are ready for love. If you have done the inner work, raised your standards, stopped tolerating toxic relationship patterns, and still cannot find the right person, the issue may not be that you are doing something wrong. You may simply be less willing to force what does not fit. Coach Los breaks down: Why healing often makes you less attracted to chaos and inconsistency How stronger boundaries can shrink your dating pool Why emotional maturity makes red flags harder to ignore How self-respect changes what you are willing to tolerate Why healthy singles can struggle with dating fatigue How high standards and real compatibility are different from perfectionism Why being single can sometimes be a sign of discernment, not failure Coach Los also explores why healed people often stop choosing relationships just to avoid being alone. They would rather wait for alignment than manufacture connection. Because once you know what healthy love actually feels like, it becomes much harder to talk yourself into staying with someone who cannot meet you there.

  4. Sep 29

    If You're Just Learning These 4 Things at Month 4 Your Relationship's Built to FAIL

    By month four, you should not still be discovering the basic things that determine whether a relationship can actually work. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down four things you should know much earlier if you are serious about building a healthy, lasting relationship. If you are still learning someone’s core values, relationship intentions, emotional capacity, or non-negotiables months into dating, the problem may not be chemistry. It may be that the relationship was built without enough clarity from the beginning. Coach Los breaks down: Why waiting too long to discuss relationship goals creates false momentum How core values reveal compatibility better than chemistry alone Why emotional availability should be clear before deep attachment forms How standards, boundaries, and deal breakers protect you from wasting months Why good conversation does not automatically mean long-term compatibility How intentional dating helps you spot misalignment earlier Why relationship clarity should come before emotional investment gets too deep Coach Los also explores why some relationships feel strong simply because time has passed. Time does not create compatibility. Clarity does. Because if you are four months in and only now discovering the things that should have shaped your decision in the first few dates, you may not be building a relationship. You may be uncovering why it was never structurally sound to begin with.

  5. Sep 26

    4 Hidden Dating Habits BLOCKING You From Finding the Person You WANT (Even If You're High-Quality)

    You can be attractive, emotionally intelligent, self-aware, and have high standards, and still struggle to find the right partner because of dating habits you do not realize are working against you. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down four hidden dating habits that can quietly block you from finding a high-quality partner. If you are tired of dating apps, meeting the wrong people, struggling to find compatible partners, or wondering why healthy love still feels hard to find, the issue may not be your worth. It may be your dating strategy. Coach Los breaks down: Why relying too heavily on dating apps and passive dating can limit your options How expanding your social circle increases your chances of meeting aligned partners Why chemistry and good conversation do not automatically mean compatibility How to date more intentionally by looking at values, beliefs, priorities, and integrity Why being physically present is not the same as having confident, approachable energy How guarded or skeptical energy can repel the kind of partner you actually want Why high-quality singles need a proactive dating strategy, not just hope and luck Coach Los also explains why finding the right person is not only about waiting for love to show up. It is about creating more opportunities for aligned people to actually find you. Because sometimes the problem is not that healthy love is unavailable. It is that your habits, environment, and dating approach are making it harder for the right relationship to reach you.

  6. Sep 24

    When He Pulls Away, This Is What’s ACTUALLY Happening (Stage by Stage)

    When a man pulls away, most women immediately wonder, “Did I do something wrong?” or “Is he losing interest?” But what is happening is often more structural than emotional. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down what it really means when a man pulls away, stage by stage. If you are dealing with mixed signals, inconsistent communication, breadcrumbing, emotional distance, or wondering whether he is still interested, this episode will help you stop reacting from anxiety and start reading the pattern with more clarity. Coach Los breaks down: Why men often subtract effort instead of announcing a shift What shorter texts, fewer calls, and lower energy may actually signal Why uncertainty can trigger relationship anxiety and overthinking What happens during the observation window when effort drops Why chasing clarity cannot create desire that is not already there How to recognize when he is re-engaging versus slowly drifting away Why inconsistent effort and breadcrumbing reveal more than vague words do How to respond when a man pulls away without chasing, performing, or overcompensating Coach Los also explains why the real question is not, “How do I get him back?” It is, “Are we actually aligned?” Because when a man pulls away, your job is not to rescue the connection. Your job is to observe, measure, and decide whether the relationship still deserves your participation.

  7. Sep 22

    The REAL Secret to Trusting Someone (It's NOT What You Think)

    Trust is not built by convincing yourself someone would never hurt you. It is built by knowing you can trust yourself to respond clearly if they ever do. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down the real secret to trusting someone in dating and relationships. If you struggle with trust issues, relationship anxiety, overthinking, fear of betrayal, or difficulty opening up after being hurt, the answer is not trying to control the other person or predict every possible outcome. It is learning how to trust your own judgment. Coach Los breaks down: Why trust is not the same as certainty How past relationship trauma can make you overanalyze new connections Why trying to predict betrayal creates more relationship anxiety How self-trust changes the way you evaluate someone’s character Why healthy trust requires observing patterns, not just listening to promises How boundaries help you feel safer without becoming guarded Why trusting yourself makes it easier to be emotionally available Coach Los also explores the difference between trusting someone blindly and trusting yourself enough to recognize when something no longer feels aligned. Because real trust is not, “I know you will never hurt me.” It is, “I trust myself enough to see clearly, respond wisely, and never abandon myself if something goes wrong.”

  8. Sep 19

    5 Ways "Healing" Can Become Another Trauma Response (Without You Realizing It)

    Not everything that looks like healing is actually healing. Sometimes the self-work you are most proud of is just old pain wearing a healthier outfit. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down five ways healing can quietly become another trauma response in dating, relationships, and emotional intimacy. You can read self-help books, journal, analyze your triggers, talk about your childhood wounds, and know all the therapy language, but still be guarded, disconnected, and emotionally unavailable if the work never moves from your head into your heart. Coach Los breaks down: Why overanalyzing your triggers can block real connection How chasing clarity can become a fear-based need for control Why being “unbothered” is not the same as being healed How cutting people off too quickly can become avoidance disguised as growth Why correcting every feeling can stop you from actually living How self-work can become self-protection if it makes you more detached, isolated, or guarded Coach Los also explores why true healing is not about becoming flawless, emotionless, or impossible to hurt. It is about becoming free, present, emotionally available, and able to build healthy love without letting past trauma run the relationship. Because healing done right should make you more open to love, intimacy, peace, and connection, not more distant from the very relationship you say you want.

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Welcome to the show with Coach Los, a certified life and relationship coach. This podcast is for anyone tired of dating games or struggling with relationship challenges. Each episode offers actionable advice, real-life insights, and coaching strategies to help you communicate better, rebuild trust, or decide if it’s time to move on. Tune in for empowering messages, practical tips, and expert strategies to help you create the healthy, loving relationship you deserve. It’s time to stop overthinking and start living with clarity.

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  • Creator
    Los Acie (Certified Life & Relationship Coach)
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    248
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Los Acie (Certified Life & Relationship Coach)
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    Let's Get It With Coach Los