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When the Shift Hits

Welcome to When the Shift Hits—the podcast that cuts through fear, propaganda, and division to uncover truth and reclaim our power so we can build a future rooted in truth, justice, and collective well-being.

  1. Sep 25

    EP. 2 - Were We Even Raised In The Same Family? | Estrangement Series: Love, Hure & Everything in Between - 9/25/26

    Episode 2 Summary - Were We Even Raised in the Same Family? How can two people grow up in the same family and walk away with completely different stories about what happened? In Episode 2 of Estranged: Love, Hurt & Everything In Between, we peel back the layers of childhood memory, family roles, attachment, and emotional meaning to explore why a parent can sincerely say, “I did everything for you,” while their adult child sincerely says, “You were never there.” Drawing in part from the work of Dr. Gabor Maté, we look at the difference between what happened to us and what happened inside us because of it—and how a child’s interpretation of an experience can become a wound that lasts well into adulthood. We also ask a question that can completely change how we view our childhoods: Who were our parents when they were parenting us? Their age, culture, finances, marriage, trauma, emotional tools, family history, and stage of life may all have shaped the version of them that we experienced.This episode also explores why siblings can have radically different memories of the same parents, why intent and impact are not the same thing, and why “I did the best I could” and “I needed more” can both be true. We examine attachment versus authenticity, invisible family rules, generational patterns, the stories families tell about themselves, and what happens when one person challenges the accepted version of the past. Most importantly, this is not about excusing harm or pretending every perspective is equally valid. Context does not erase accountability, and curiosity is not absolution. Instead of fighting over whose version of the family story wins, this episode invites us to ask a more powerful question: “Tell me what it was like for you.”Sourceshttps://drgabormate.com/trauma/https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/https://drgabormate.com/book/hold-on-to-your-kids/https://drgabormate.com/childhood-development-parenting/https://drgabormate.com/events/trauma-illness-healing-in-a-toxic-culture-26/SEO Hashtags#FamilyEstrangement, #Estrangement, #ChildhoodTrauma, #GaborMate, #DrGaborMate, #FamilyTrauma, #GenerationalTrauma, #IntergenerationalTrauma, #ParentChildRelationship, #AdultChildren, #EstrangedParents, #EstrangedAdultChildren, #FamilyDynamics, #DysfunctionalFamily, #AttachmentTrauma, #AttachmentStyles, #Authenticity, #ChildhoodWounds, #EmotionalNeglect, #InnerChildHealing, #FamilyHealing, #TraumaHealing, #IntentVsImpact, #FamilyConflict, #SiblingRelationships, #SiblingEstrangement, #EmotionalHealing, #BreakingGenerationalCycles, #CycleBreaking, #FamilyPatterns, #ToxicFamily, #HealingChildhoodTrauma, #WhenTheShiftHits

    EP. 2 - Were We Even Raised In The Same Family? | Estrangement Series: Love, Hure & Everything in Between - 9/25/26
  2. Sep 25

    EP. 1 - Cutting Off Family - Estrangement Series: Love, Hurt & Everything in Between - 8/26/26

    In this first episode of the Estranged: Love, Hurt & Everything In Between Series, we start with the word itself. What if estrangement does not begin with a blocked number, a missed holiday, or a declaration of no contact? What if it begins much earlier, when someone starts feeling like a stranger inside their own family? We explore the pain of feeling unseen, unheard, or misunderstood by the people who are supposed to know us best, and how family roles, expectations, and changing identities can slowly create emotional distance long before physical separation happens.We also look at the many forms estrangement can take, including parent-adult child estrangement, sibling estrangement, low contact, emotional estrangement, cyclical estrangement, and complete no contact. Along the way, we challenge some of the most common assumptions: that estrangement always means abuse, that the person who leaves is automatically selfish, that boundaries equal rejection, or that no contact is always punishment. Instead, we ask what happened before the final break, what repeated patterns may have gone unseen, and why two people can experience the same relationship in completely different ways.Most of all, this episode is an invitation to approach estrangement with more curiosity and fewer easy judgments. Love, grief, anger, relief, guilt, longing, and even hope can all exist at the same time. Sometimes the deepest loss is not only the person, but the future we thought we were going to share. The episode closes with a grounding exercise to help you return to the present moment and ask a gentler question: not “Who is right?” but “What am I feeling, and what do I need right now?”Sources and research referenced:https://www.familyreconciliation.org/faqshttps://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10254574/https://www.apa.org/monitor/2024/04/healing-pain-estrangementhttps://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/family-estrangementhttps://www.etymonline.com/word/estrangehttps://drgabormate.com/childhood-development-parenting/https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1Bx6TtYsis/SEO keywords / hashtags#FamilyEstrangement, #Estrangement, #AdultChildEstrangement, #NoContact, #GoingNoContact, #EstrangedParents, #EstrangedAdultChildren, #FamilyRelationships, #FamilyConflict, #ToxicFamily, #FamilyDynamics, #FamilyTrauma, #GenerationalTrauma, #IntergenerationalTrauma, #FamilyBoundaries, #HealthyBoundaries, #EmotionalBoundaries, #SiblingEstrangement, #ParentChildRelationship, #DysfunctionalFamily, #EmotionalEstra

    EP. 1 - Cutting Off Family - Estrangement Series: Love, Hurt & Everything in Between - 8/26/26
  3. 06/13/2025

    EP. 12.3 | Unequal Risk: Why Protesting Isn’t the Same for Everyone

    EP. 12.3 | Unequal Risk: Why Protesting Isn’t the Same for Everyone In the current political climate—with heightened militarization in cities, mass protests, and strategic provocation by the administration—the danger is not abstract. It is real, present, and escalated for communities of color. Learn how to protest without putting your life at unnecessary risk. Protect yourself. Protect your people. Protect the message. For Black, Indigenous and People of Color protestors, every decision—what time to arrive, what to wear, who to stand next to, whether to film or chant—can carry disproportionate weight. The cost of misperception or mistaken identity is higher. And as history has shown, the system is often quicker to punish us, even when we act within our rights. White allies must understand this imbalance. They should use their privilege to create buffers, de-escalate with police, take frontline roles, and follow Black and Brown leadership. If you're a white ally, please know this, BIPOC people are often perceived by law enforcement as a threat, you are not perceived that way. Even when you're locked and loaded, law enforcement tries to de-escalate. Not so much with BIPOC. While protest is a constitutional right, the risks of exercising that right are not equally distributed—particularly when it comes to race. In the U.S., Black and Brown protestors face systematically higher levels of threat, violence, and legal repercussions than white protestors. This is not anecdotal—it’s documented by decades of historical context, policing data, and civil rights scholarship. Law enforcement in the U.S. was not founded as a neutral public safety institution. In the South, early police forces evolved directly from slave patrols, designed to catch and punish Black people escaping bondage. In the North, early policing often targeted immigrant communities and striking workers. This racialized legacy lives on in modern structures of policing. Numerous studies have shown that Black Americans are disproportionately stopped, searched, arrested, and subjected to use of force—even when controlling for behavior or location. Black and Brown protestors must assess risk with strategy. Protest can take many forms. Public visibility is just one of them. Strategic resistance also includes organizing behind the scenes, protecting your digital safety, and investing in community care. Your life matters more than any single action. Engage Strategically, Not Spontaneously. That doesn’t mean don’t protest. It means: Only show up if the protest is: Organized by trusted leadersWell-planned with de-escalation strategiesEquipped with legal observers and medicsHappening during daylightExplicitly nonviolent, with trained marshals and a clear missionOtherwise, consider alternative forms of protest that carry far less physical risk while still making an impact: Mutual aidDigital organizingPhone banking and legislative pressureFundraising for bail or grassroots campaignsEducating your network with verified content Why Staying Strategic is Resistance ·      By choosing to protect your body and mind in high-risk moments, you are not opting out—you’re opting in for the long haul. Movements need sustainability. They need survival. They need elders. They need strategists. We honor our ancestors not just by showing up, but by showing wisdom. Thank you for watching. My name is Jannette and this is When the shift hits. Please subscribe, like and share to keep all protestors safe. Until the next time, stay safe, stay engaged and remember that the shift starts with you, because when you shift, so does everything around you.

  4. 06/13/2025

    EP. 12.2 | Digital Surveillance and Protest Tips

    EP. 12.2 | Digital Surveillance and Protest Tips In this powerful episode of When the Shift Hits, we dive into the growing threat of digital surveillance in 2025—and what it means for protestors, activists, and everyday Americans. With the U.S. government deepening its partnership with Palantir Technologies, data from DMV records, IRS filings, utility accounts, social media, and even biometrictracking are being centralized into one massive surveillance system—justified under the guise of national security. But what does this mean for your right to protest, to dissent, and to simply be?We break down how this technology is used in real time to monitor protests, the racial disparities baked into facial recognition, and the post-protest consequences no one is talking about. Plus, I share practical tools to help you protect your digital presence—from turning off location tracking to using encrypted apps and knowing your rights. This is not about fear—it’s about strategy. You are powerful, but only if you stay protected.📌 Hashtags:#DigitalSurveillance, #ProtestSafety, #Palantir, #KnowYourRights, #MassSurveillance, #FacialRecognition, #ACLU, #EFF, #ActivistToolkit, #DigitalPrivacy, #StopTheSurveillanceState, #TechAndTyranny, #TurnOffTracking, #DissentIsPatriotic, #WhenTheShiftHitsNews Sources:https://www.forbes.com/sites/morgansimon/2020/01/15/investing-in-immigrant-surveillance-palantir-and-the-notechforice-campaign/

  5. 06/09/2025

    EP. 11.1 | Let’s Slow the Scroll: Reclaim Your Peace, Rewire Your Brain, and Come Back to the Moment

    Let’s Slow the Scroll: Reclaim Your Peace, Rewire Your Brain, and Come Back to the Moment📖 Episode Description (SEO-Optimized)Are you overwhelmed by the news, doomscrolling past midnight, and feeling like your nervous system is in a constant state of emergency? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to stay stuck there.In this powerful episode of When the Shift Hits, Jannette shares her honest experience with burnout, overstimulation, and the grief of not being able to “do enough.” She offers a tender call to action: step away from the noise, return to what grounds you, and reset your nervous system with a powerful eye movement practice that supports vagus nerve regulation.From the threats posed by the Senate’s proposed budget cuts to Medicaid, Medicare, and SNAP, to the heaviness of global suffering—from Gaza to Ukraine to local injustice—this episode reminds us that the antidote to despair isn’t denial... it's presence.You’ll learn:Why doomscrolling fuels nervous system dysregulation.How checking out can be a sacred act of restoration. Why small, local joys like dancing, breadmaking, and laughter help us return to the present. How to use a simple eye movement exercise to stimulate the vagus nerve and reset your stateThis isn’t just a video. It’s a recalibration. A moment to pause, ground, and re-enter the world with intention.⁠🎯 Today’s Call to Action:Take one full hour offline. Get outside. Breathe. Reclaim your mind. Then come back with purpose.🧘‍♀️ Spiritual Anchor Included:Vagus Nerve Eye Movement Reset for anxiety, stress, trauma, and nervous system restoration.👉 @whentheshifthits - Subscribe, like, and share to help someone else breathe easier today. Hashtags#VagusNerveReset, #NervousSystemHealing, #StopDoomscrolling, #MindfulResistance, #DigitalDetox, #TraumaInformedActivism, #EyeMovementTherapy, #BurnoutRecovery, #MedicareCuts, #SNAPCuts, #GrassrootsPower, #EMDRInspired, #MentalHealthAwareness, #ConsciousLiving, #SomaticPractice, #SpiritualActivism, #ResistWithRest, #BlackContentCreators, #HealingThroughCommunity, #WhenTheShiftHits

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Welcome to When the Shift Hits—the podcast that cuts through fear, propaganda, and division to uncover truth and reclaim our power so we can build a future rooted in truth, justice, and collective well-being.