Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman: Personal Growth and Spirituality

The Hanged Woman Podcast
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Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman is a personal growth and emotional healing podcast about understanding the patterns, beliefs, and experiences that shape who we are and how we move through the world. Hosted by Julienne Irons, each theme explores a different part of the human experience through practical, scientific, and energetic perspectives, bringing together therapists, researchers, healers, spiritual practitioners, coaches, and other experts to ask the questions that don't always have simple answers. From self-worth, relationships, money, grief, happiness, identity, family wounds, spirituality, nervous system regulation, and emotional healing to the deeper questions of why we think, feel, and respond the way we do, the show is about getting curious instead of rushing to fix ourselves. If you're questioning old patterns, navigating change, learning to trust yourself, or simply looking for a new way to understand your life, hang with us. Because sometimes healing doesn't begin with finding the answer. It begins with seeing the question differently. Perspective is power.

  1. 2d ago

    The Neuroscience of Envy & Jealousy: Comparison, Social Pain & Self-Compassion with Dr. D'Marti Burgos

    Why does someone else's success sometimes feel painful? Why do envy and jealousy seem to appear before we even have time to think? And what if these emotions aren't signs that something is wrong with us—but ancient survival mechanisms designed to keep us connected? In this episode of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman, host Julienne Irons sits down with physician and neuroscience expert Dr. D'Marti Burgos to explore the fascinating science behind comparison, envy, jealousy, belonging, and self-compassion. Together, they unpack why social rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain, how comparison shaped human evolution, why social media amplifies our stress response, and how understanding what's happening in the brain can help us respond with curiosity instead of shame. If you've ever wondered why comparison feels so automatic—or how to stop getting stuck in it—this episode offers one of the most practical scientific explanations you'll hear. In this episode, we discuss: Why envy and jealousy evolved to help us survive The surprising purpose behind comparison Upward vs. downward comparison How social media changes the way our brains compare Why social rejection literally hurts The neuroscience behind schadenfreude Benign envy vs. malicious envy Why chronic comparison rewires the brain Practical ways to interrupt comparison loops How gratitude, mindfulness, self-compassion, and community reshape our nervous systems Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and Setup 01:14 Branding Agency Break 02:13 Why Envy and Jealousy Exist 03:53 Jealousy as a Survival Mechanism 06:07 Envy and Self-Improvement 06:41 What Happens in the Brain During Comparison 07:08 The Hidden Danger of Downward Comparison 10:07 Humanizing the "Out Group" 12:42 Why Upward Comparison Hurts 15:20 How Authenticity Closes the Comparison Gap 16:18 Why Humans Naturally Compare 17:19 Comparison, Evolution & Belonging 20:01 Why We Compare Ourselves to Similar People 22:20 The iPhone Example: Social Belonging in Action 24:10 The Three-Step Brain Response to Envy 25:42 Why Envy Feels Like Physical Pain 26:48 Healing After Loss Sponsor Break 27:48 Branding Perspective Shift 28:27 The Neuroscience of Schadenfreude 30:52 Guilt, Shame & Automatic Reactions 32:43 Benign vs. Malicious Envy 37:40 How Chronic Comparison Rewires the Brain 40:21 Evidence-Based Ways to Interrupt Comparison 42:53 Gratitude, Meditation & Self-Compassion 46:23 Why Social Connection Is the Antidote 47:56 Final Perspective Shift & Closing Thoughts 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Dr. D’Marti Burgos here  Website: www.Dmartiburgos.com Instagram: @dr.curlz Email: behappy@dmartiburgos.com https://www.youtube.com/@dmartiburgos

  2. Aug 12

    Money, Comparison & Values: Reclaiming Your Definition of Success with Leah Hadley

    Have you ever looked around and felt like everyone else was somehow ahead of you? Whether it's buying a home, building wealth, growing a business, or reaching a career milestone, comparison around money can quietly convince us we're falling behind. In Part 2 of our Envy & Jealousy series, host Julienne Irons sits down with financial therapist and wealth advisor Leah Hadley to explore why money becomes such a powerful measuring stick for our self-worth—and why it doesn't have to. Together they unpack how life transitions can shake our confidence, why wealth often looks very different than we assume, and how defining success through your own values can free you from chasing someone else's timeline. In this episode, you'll learn: Why feeling "behind" is often based on comparison—not reality The difference between the appearance of wealth and actual financial freedom Why money is neutral—and how we assign meaning to it How major life transitions impact confidence and financial decisions How to identify when you're climbing someone else's ladder A practical exercise to align your spending with your values Why your definition of success may deserve a second look Timestamps 00:00 Why We Feel Behind Around Money 01:22 3 of Cups Healing Sponsor 02:16 Meet Financial Therapist Leah Hadley 04:16 Rebuilding Confidence After Life Transitions 06:52 The Hidden Meaning Behind Feeling "Behind" 08:47 Homeownership, Timelines & Social Pressure 11:38 The Difference Between Looking Wealthy and Being Wealthy 14:09 Are You Climbing Someone Else's Ladder? 17:22 Money, Identity & Major Life Changes 20:35 Midroll Break 22:30 Grieving the Life You Thought You'd Have 24:12 Rebuilding Trust After Financial Setbacks 26:53 Values-Based Money Decisions 29:05 Reducing Comparison Triggers 30:24 Redefining Success on Your Own Terms 35:31 Leah's Empowered Sisterhood 38:02 Julienne's Takeaway & Next Week's Science Episode 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Leah Hadley here 👉🏽 🌐 Website: https://intentionalwealthpartners.com/ 📚 Substack: Intentional Money 📺 YouTube: Intentional Money Moves

  3. Aug 6

    Comparison, Shame & the Nervous System: Finding Your Values with Therapist Jillian Blank

    Why do we compare ourselves to other people? And why can someone else's success sometimes make us question our own worth? In the first episode of our Envy & Jealousy series, host Julienne Irons sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Jillian Blank to explore the psychology of comparison, the role of shame, and how our nervous system influences the stories we tell ourselves. Jillian explains why comparison isn't simply a social media problem. Instead, it's deeply connected to our need for safety, belonging, and the early experiences that shaped our identity. She introduces the concept of the Window of Tolerance, discusses how trauma and nervous system dysregulation fuel unhealthy comparison, and shares practical tools for recognizing when we're acting from fear instead of our authentic values. Throughout the conversation, Julienne reflects on her own experiences with comparison in the entertainment industry, leading to a powerful realization about pursuing someone else's version of success versus honoring her own. In this episode you'll learn: Why comparison is a normal human survival response How childhood conditioning and ancestral patterns influence self-worth What the Window of Tolerance is and why it matters The difference between comparison driven by shame and comparison inspired by values How to identify your own "inner critic" and interrupt anxious thought loops Practical nervous system tools for responding to comparison with compassion Why curiosity is more healing than self-criticism 00:00 Welcome Back Seekers 00:36 Comparison as a Signal 01:33 Business and Branding Break 02:32 Meet Therapist Jillian 04:02 Reading Not Enough 05:46 Why We Compare 07:02 Roots Before Social Media 08:26 Childhood Conditioning 09:34 Values Change the Lens 13:54 Window of Tolerance 16:35 Nervous System and Fear 18:20 Inspired or Afraid 23:32 Midroll Break 25:26 Compassionate Starting Point 30:10 Interrupting the Cycle 32:46 What Comparison Says 35:19 Key Perspective Shift 36:35 Where to Find Jillian 37:18 Closing Reflections and Next Week 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Jillian Blank here 👉🏽 🌐 https://jillianblank.com Zen Care: https://zencare.co/provider/therapist/jillian-blank?state=california

  4. Jul 29

    Happiness as a Manifestation Tool: Frequency, Gratitude & Authentic Joy with Aissa Thalia (Re-Release)

    As part of the summer relaunch of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman (formerly The Hanged Woman Podcast), host Julienne Irons re-releases this uplifting conversation with happiness coach Aissa Thalia. Can happiness help us manifest the life we want? Aissa believes it can, but not because we should pretend everything is perfect or ignore what we are truly feeling. Instead, she explains how happiness can be cultivated from within through gratitude, presence, emotional awareness, and consistent practice. Together, Julienne and Aissa explore the difference between vibration and frequency, why joy can be magnetic, how gratitude helps us recognize abundance, and why honoring anger, sadness, and other difficult emotions is essential to experiencing authentic happiness. Aissa also shares practical tools for shifting our emotional state, including meditation, breathwork, journaling, affirmations, movement, self-compassion, and the grounding reminder, “I am here.” If you have ever found yourself waiting for the perfect relationship, career, achievement, or circumstance before allowing yourself to feel happy, this conversation offers a powerful invitation to stop outsourcing your joy and begin reclaiming it from within. Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Guest Introduction 01:20 Three of Cups Healing 02:13 Meet Aissa Thalia 02:55 Becoming a Happiness Coach 06:09 Happiness Is an Inside Job 08:09 Why We Seek External Validation 11:34 Gratitude and Manifestation 14:15 Vibration vs. Frequency 16:39 Why Joy Is Magnetic 19:11 The Work Required to Feel Good 20:57 Shifting Your Emotions at Home 24:34 Staying Grounded in Public 27:18 Honoring Difficult Emotions 29:29 Moving Through Anger and Sadness 30:59 Recognizing Performative Joy 32:11 Midroll Break 34:04 How Awareness Shapes Reality 35:55 Signs You Are in Alignment 38:17 How to Shift Your Vibration 41:57 Happiness Requires Practice 45:54 Finding Happiness During Struggle 49:49 The Many Forms of Happiness 53:30 Moving Out of a Lack Mindset 55:14 Peace as Happiness 57:01 Closing Reflection and Resources 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Dr. Aissa Thalia here  Happiness Cheat Sheet: https://www.happymindsetter.com/happinesscheatsheet/ Instagram: @happymindsetter

  5. Jul 22

    Happiness as a Frequency: Clearing Static & Finding Joy with Raquel Veisaga (Re-Release)

    As part of the summer relaunch of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman (formerly The Hanged Woman Podcast), host Julienne Irons re-releases this inspiring conversation with transformational coach Raquel Veisaga. What if happiness isn't something you chase... What if it's something that's been there all along, hidden beneath the noise? Raquel introduces the idea of "static"—the fears, stories, survival patterns, and meanings we assign to life's challenges that pull us away from our natural state of joy. Together, she and Julienne explore heart-brain coherence, nervous system regulation, breathwork, meditation, journaling, and the power of redefining the blueprint we've inherited for what happiness is supposed to look like. If you've ever felt like life keeps getting in the way of your happiness, this conversation offers a powerful reminder that sometimes the greatest shift isn't changing your circumstances—it's changing the meaning you give them. Whether you're listening for the first time or revisiting this episode with fresh ears, you'll walk away with practical tools for quieting the static and reconnecting with your own inner frequency. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome & Happiness Series 01:13 Three of Cups Healing 02:13 Meet Raquel Veisaga 04:47 What Is "Static"? 07:19 Happiness as a Frequency 09:10 Healing Through Reframing 12:09 Heart-Brain Coherence 18:30 Your Happiness Blueprint 22:39 Purpose vs. Presence 27:09 Where Science Meets Spirit 33:02 Redefining Happiness 36:13 Midroll 38:07 Recognizing Life's Static 38:49 Scarcity vs. Abundance 40:03 Embodying Presence 42:35 Why Breath Changes Everything 46:23 Using Breath During Crisis 50:04 Releasing Fear 54:20 Staying Happy During Chaos 59:05 Heart-Mind Coherence 01:02:08 The ARCHIE Framework 01:08:03 Human • Superhuman • Divinity 01:10:38 Defining Happiness 01:13:22 Closing Reflection 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Raquel Veisaga here:  https://www.v-saga.com/ Insta: @_vsaga, @bodyrituals, @vsaga.peaceandhappiness YouTube: V-Saga (323)307-7529 createalifeyoulove@v-saga.com

  6. Jul 15

    The Neuroscience of Happiness: Rewiring Joy, Resilience & the Brain-Body Connection with Dr. D’Marti Burgos (Re-Release)

    As part of the summer relaunch of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman (formerly The Hanged Woman Podcast), host Julienne Irons re-releases this fascinating conversation with physician and neuroscience enthusiast Dr. D’Marti Burgos. Can happiness actually be trained? According to neuroscience, the answer is yes. Dr. Burgos explains how happiness isn’t controlled by a single “happy chemical,” but by an entire orchestra of brain regions working together. She breaks down why negativity bias, trauma, chronic stress, comparison, and rumination make happiness harder to access, while showing how small, science-backed practices can literally rewire the brain for greater joy, resilience, and emotional regulation. Together, they explore the brain-body connection, the surprising role of the amygdala, vagus nerve, gratitude, flow states, exercise, and neuroplasticity, offering practical tools you can begin using today to create lasting change. Whether you’re discovering this conversation for the first time or listening again with fresh ears, this episode is a hopeful reminder that what you practice today helps shape the brain you’ll have tomorrow. If this conversation inspired you, Dr. D’Marti Burgos has created a free HEARTS Happiness Workbook that blends neuroscience, psychology, and contemplative wisdom to help you put these concepts into practice. You can download it on the Happiness page at dmartiburgos.com, where you’ll also find information about her upcoming Happiness Course.   ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome & Happiness Series 01:30 Three of Cups Healing 02:24 Meet Dr. D’Marti Burgos 04:22 The Brain Orchestra Explained 10:47 Barriers to Happiness 12:48 Trauma, Genetics & Stress 16:14 Hedonic Adaptation 18:36 Medications & Mental Health 21:20 What Science Says Happiness Is 24:39 The ABC Model of Happiness 27:46 The Broaden-and-Build Theory 32:16 Happiness Chemicals Explained 33:38 Building Resilience 36:25 Rewiring the Brain 37:34 Gratitude & Loving-Kindness 41:24 Midroll 43:18 The Vagus Nerve & Stress Recovery 46:43 What Chronic Stress Does to the Brain 50:45 Science-Backed Coping Tools 57:26 Finding Flow 01:01:51 When Happiness Feels Impossible 01:06:00 Micro Acts of Joy 01:09:12 Neurosustainability 01:12:47 One Habit to Start Today 01:16:00 Defining Happiness   🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Dr. D’Marti Burgos here  Website: www.Dmartiburgos.com Instagram: @dr.curlz Email: behappy@dmartiburgos.com https://www.youtube.com/@dmartiburgos

  7. Jul 8

    No Point B: Happiness as Awareness & the End of Seeking with Joel Drazner (Re-Release)

    As part of the summer relaunch of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman (formerly The Hanged Woman Podcast), host Julienne Irons re-releases this thought-provoking conversation with spiritual psychology–trained coach Joel Drazner. What if happiness isn’t something you achieve? What if peace isn’t waiting at the end of your healing journey? Joel shares the insight that transformed his life: our feelings don’t come from our circumstances—they come from our thinking. From there, he introduces a radically simple understanding of awareness, challenging the belief that happiness lives somewhere outside ourselves. Together, they explore the illusion of separation, why we spend our lives chasing fulfillment, how relationships change when we stop expecting others to make us happy, and why the peace we’re searching for may have been here all along. Whether you’re hearing this conversation for the first time or revisiting it with fresh ears, this re-release offers a powerful invitation to stop searching and begin noticing. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome & Happiness Series 01:29 Three of Cups Healing 02:29 Meet Joel Drazner 04:07 Why Circumstances Don’t Create Feelings 06:03 Thinking Creates Experience 09:41 The Peace Beneath Every Emotion 13:12 Radical Simplicity 15:32 Why We Chase Happiness 18:21 The Illusion of Separation 21:21 Experiencing Oneness 24:16 Seeing Beyond Labels 27:46 Awareness & the Senses 28:53 One Shared Experience 30:24 Midroll 32:20 Happiness as Awareness 33:47 Watching Thoughts & Emotions 37:25 Free Will & Control 42:09 “I Am” Awareness Practice 46:49 Relationships Without Attachment 52:08 Nothing Outside of Me 55:45 What Happiness Really Is 58:20 Closing Reflections Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman is presented by 3 of Cups Healing. 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Branding 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Joel Drazner Website: joeldrazner.com Substack: No Point B! — https://thedraz.substack.com/ If you’d like to explore these ideas more deeply, Joel recommends Living in Peace, Living as Peace by Rupert Spira—a 33-minute guided meditation accompanied by a PDF that invites you to recognize the peace already present within you, independent of circumstances. It’s available for $10 at spirastore.gumroad.com/l/livinginpeace. You can also explore more of Rupert’s work on Substack at transparencyofthings.substack.com.

  8. Jul 1

    From Fear to Freedom: Reconnecting With Your True Self to Find Happiness with Mackenzie Stewart

    Host Julienne Irons relaunches the beloved Happiness series on Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman (formerly The Hanged Woman Podcast) with intuitive life coach Mackenzie Stewart of Mindset by Mackenzie. Together, they explore why happiness isn’t something we chase, but something we uncover by reconnecting with our authentic selves. After spending six years climbing the corporate ladder while battling anxiety, perfectionism, and constant self-doubt, Mackenzie shares the moment she realized success wasn’t the same as fulfillment. She introduces her powerful four-step From Fear to Freedom framework, showing how curiosity, aligned action, and purpose can transform fear into growth. They discuss limiting beliefs, intuition, therapy versus coaching, people-pleasing, purpose, and why the life that truly fulfills us often begins the moment we stop living according to everyone else’s expectations. Whether you’re feeling stuck in your career, questioning your purpose, or simply longing for more joy, this conversation offers practical tools to help you reconnect with yourself and move toward a happier, more meaningful life. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome & Happiness Series Introduction 00:40 Meet Mackenzie Stewart 02:42 From Marketing Career to Life Coach 07:01 Blending Science & Spirituality 08:28 What Happiness Really Means 09:54 Why We Should Stop Avoiding Fear 13:44 Curiosity Instead of Judgment 15:29 Purpose Creates Fulfillment 18:11 A Holistic Approach to Coaching 21:36 Therapy vs. Life Coaching 24:24 Learning to Trust Your Intuition 27:23 Midroll 29:17 Why Misalignment Makes Us Miserable 31:18 The From Fear to Freedom Framework 33:16 Rewriting Your Story 35:21 Taking the Next Brave Step 37:29 A Powerful Client Transformation 41:12 The Practice of Curiosity 43:37 Daily Rituals & Oracle Cards 46:10 Collective Card Pull: “Align with Your Purpose” 51:52 What Happiness Means to Mackenzie 53:28 Closing Reflections Perspective Shifts for Healing with the Hanged Woman is presented by 3 of Cups Healing 🤳🏽 Connect with us here:  Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing  Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Find out more about the 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing  here 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Find out more about our Healing After Loss course here 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Makenzie Stewart here 👉🏽 Website: mindsetbymackenzie.com IG: @mindsetbymackenzie.com Illuminate Mantra & Oracle Deck: https://illuminatewisdom.com  use code HEALER10 at check out for a discount

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Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman is a personal growth and emotional healing podcast about understanding the patterns, beliefs, and experiences that shape who we are and how we move through the world. Hosted by Julienne Irons, each theme explores a different part of the human experience through practical, scientific, and energetic perspectives, bringing together therapists, researchers, healers, spiritual practitioners, coaches, and other experts to ask the questions that don't always have simple answers. From self-worth, relationships, money, grief, happiness, identity, family wounds, spirituality, nervous system regulation, and emotional healing to the deeper questions of why we think, feel, and respond the way we do, the show is about getting curious instead of rushing to fix ourselves. If you're questioning old patterns, navigating change, learning to trust yourself, or simply looking for a new way to understand your life, hang with us. Because sometimes healing doesn't begin with finding the answer. It begins with seeing the question differently. Perspective is power.

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