Really Not That Deep Podcast

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Hosted by Joelle, a Master’s of Psychology student and self-development creator, Really Not That Deep is your space to explore what it truly means to grow, heal, and reconnect with yourself. Each episode blends modern psychology with spirituality and mindfulness; from rewiring your self-talk and understanding your patterns, to learning how to actually feel good again. It’s for anyone who wants to evolve, laugh, and remember that even the deepest parts of life… don’t have to be that deep.

  1. 6D AGO

    40. The Psychology of Uncertainty: Why Your Brain Hates Not Knowing

    If you are waiting for the day when you finally feel "ready," clear, and like you have your life figured out... I have some news that might actually set you free. We have been sold a lie that successful people are certain people. But the truth? Uncertainty isn't a phase you are supposed to graduate from. It is a skill you are supposed to master. In this episode, we are bridging neuroscience and spirituality to explain why your brain treats the unknown like a threat—and how to retrain your nervous system to find safety in the messy middle. We dive into: - The Neuroscience of "Not Knowing": Why your brain creates anxiety when it can't predict the future (and why that doesn't mean you're failing). - The "Certainty Myth": Why society forces us to have 5-year plans in a world that changes every 5 minutes. - Reframing Confusion: Why feeling lost is actually a sign of higher intelligence and complexity. - The 10-10-10 Rule: A practical tool to zoom out and stop the spiral. - Direction vs. Destination: How to build a life that feels like you without knowing exactly where you are going. 🦋 If this episode resonated and you want to go deeper into regulating your nervous system so you can actually handle uncertainty, this is for you. This is my step-by-step digital system to help you move from anxiety to alignment using psychological tools. 👉 https://stan.store/joellenewman/p/rewire-your-nervous-system-redefine-who-you-are

    26 min

  2. FEB 2

    39. How to Recommit to Your Goals Without Beating Yourself Up

    It’s the end of January — how are your goals really doing?In this episode, we talk about why falling off your New Year’s resolutions is normal, why vision and direction still matter, and how to recommit without guilt or pressure.If you want a calm, supportive way to reset your goals, check out my nervous system–friendly Notion guide to help you reconnect to your vision and move forward with clarity.https://stan.store/joellenewman/p/rewire-your-nervous-system-redefine-who-you-are

    22 min

  3. JAN 25

    38. The Truth You Already Know but Won't Admit

    There are moments in life when nothing is obviously wrong — but your body feels heavy, resistant, or quietly unsettled. This episode is about that feeling.We’re talking about the truth you already know on a subconscious level, but haven’t let yourself fully acknowledge yet. The kind of knowing that shows up as anxiety, exhaustion, or a subtle sense of “this isn’t it,” long before your mind has language for it.

    9 min

  4. JAN 15

    37. Universal Truths About How Your Reality Is Shaped

    In this episode, we explore the universal truths that quietly shape how we experience life—through stoicism, psychology, and real lived observation. Instead of chasing motivation or quick fixes, we look at why life feels the way it does, and how your inner world shapes your lived reality.Instead of chasing motivation, manifestation hacks, or quick fixes, this conversation looks at why life feels the way it does, and how your inner world—your beliefs, attention, and interpretations—shapes your lived reality.This episode breaks down the deeper principles behind emotional peace, personal growth, and meaning, in a way that actually holds up when life feels uncertain, busy, or overwhelming.We explore:- Why life itself is neutral, and how meaning is assigned- How your inner world shapes your experience of the outer world- The role of attention, interpretation, and emotional responsibility- Why resistance creates suffering—and acceptance creates clarity- How detachment builds emotional strength, not apathy- Why meaning is built through action, not waiting for certaintyThis episode is for seekers—people who want truth that feels grounding, practical, and real, not performative or overly spiritualized.If you’ve been craving a calm, clear way to understand reality, meaning, and personal power, this conversation will meet you where you are—and likely shift how you see your life moving forward.This is the foundation. The full framework is in my guide - Rewire Your Nervous System. Redefine Who You Are. https://stan.store/joellenewman/p/rewire-your-nervous-system-redefine-who-you-are

    13 min

  5. 12/23/2025

    36. How to Release What’s Blocking Your Highest Self

    If you’re ready to get real with yourself and stop repeating the same patterns, I created a guide to support this work on a deeper level: https://stan.store/joellenewman/p/rewire-your-nervous-system-redefine-who-you-are Every year, we say we’re “reflecting” —
and somehow it turns into self-criticism, pressure, and feeling behind. This episode is for you if you’re tired of repeating the same emotional or mental patterns and want this next chapter to actually feel different. We talk about why year-end reflection often turns into self-attack, how unfinished cycles keep showing up in your life, and what it really means to release limiting beliefs without shame or forcing change. This isn’t about becoming a new person overnight.
It’s about regulating your nervous system, unblocking your highest self, and creating space for what’s next. If you’re ready to stop carrying the same patterns forward — start here. Reflection prompts from the episode: – What actually happened this year? – What did this year ask of me? – What didn’t work — without blaming myself? – What am I proud of that no one sees?– What am I ready to leave here before the new year?

    15 min

  6. 12/12/2025

    35. Reinvention Season: Why Life Feels Confusing Before You Level Up

    If your life feels confusing, unfamiliar, or “off” — but nothing is actually wrong — you might be in a reinvention season. In this episode, we break down the psychology behind identity shifts, why change triggers anxiety even when it’s positive, and what’s happening in your brain and nervous system during major life transitions. You’ll learn:– Why reinvention feels uncomfortable before it feels exciting– The signs you’re in a transition phase– Why your nervous system resists unfamiliarity– How to ground yourself when everything feels uncertain– Why feeling lost is often a sign of growthYou’re not falling apart. You’re leveling up — and this part is supposed to feel messy.

    19 min

  7. 12/01/2025

    34. Your Life Will Change When You Stop Being Scared of Your Potential

    You’re not scared of failing — you’re scared of who you’d have to become if it actually worked. This episode is your permission slip to step into the timeline you keep visualizing but haven’t let yourself fully claim. We’re diving into the psychology, neuroscience, identity work, and energetic expansion behind why you dim your light right when things start working — and how to finally break that cycle. Inside, we explore: ✨ The Psychology of Upper LimitsWhy your identity fights to keep you on the timeline it already knows — and how to stop self-sabotaging when success shows up. ✨ How Your Nervous System Controls Your TimelinePolyvagal theory, neuroception, and the real reason visibility, momentum, and expansion can feel “unsafe.”(And no — it’s not a mindset issue.) ✨ Why You Shrink Around Certain PeopleThe family dynamics, social conditioning, and emotional wiring that make confidence feel like a threat to connection. ✨ The EXPAND Framework™ — your blueprint for becoming the version of you who can hold moreA step-by-step identity and nervous system expansion process: E — Embody Safety: Regulate your nervous system so expansion actually feels familiar. X — eXpand Capacity: Micro-stretches that widen what your body can tolerate — money, visibility, success, momentum. P — Practice Visibility: Learning to be seen without collapsing, hiding, or shrinking. A — Align Your Identity: Acting in accordance with the future version of you before it feels natural. N — Normalize “More”: Training your baseline to hold bigger levels of ease, confidence, expression, and opportunity. D — Decide Your Timeline: Choosing the version of you—and the reality—you’re stepping into daily. ✨ The Future-Self Timeline MethodPsychology + action-based manifestation that shifts you into the version of you who already has what you desire. ✨ A 60-Second Timeline Jump VisualizationA gentle nervous-system-safe practice to instantly expand your internal baseline. If you’re done overthinking, done shrinking, and done delaying the life you know you’re meant for — this is your episode. It’s not that you’re not ready.It’s that your nervous system hasn’t felt safe enough to expand… yet.Let’s change that.

    25 min

  8. 11/22/2025

    33. Heal Your Nervous System, Change Your Life

    ✨ In this episode, we dive deep into nervous system regulation, somatic healing, and the REAL psychology behind getting yourself through hard times. If you’ve been anxious, overwhelmed, burnt out, or stuck in survival mode — this is the science-backed guide you’ve been looking for. You’ll learn: • What “doing the work” actually means • Why your body reacts before your mind • The connection between the amygdala, cortisol, and emotional overwhelm • Why mindset work won’t land if your nervous system isn’t regulated • Somatic tools like EFT tapping, vagus nerve activation, shaking, breathwork, butterfly tapping, and orienting • How to release stored emotion through the body • The neuroscience behind self-compassion + re-parenting • How identity is shaped by your nervous system patterns • The real loop of awareness → regulation → expression → reframing → integration • Why regulating your body literally rewires your perception, intuition, and sense of self This episode blends psychology, somatics, and emotional healing in a way that is grounded, practical, and actually doable in your everyday life. If you’re in your 20s, navigating change, healing patterns, or rebuilding your identity — these tools will help you feel grounded, capable, and connected again.💛 Nervous system healing is the foundation for confidence, resilience, and becoming the version of you who doesn’t spiral — she self-leads.

    40 min
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Hosted by Joelle, a Master’s of Psychology student and self-development creator, Really Not That Deep is your space to explore what it truly means to grow, heal, and reconnect with yourself. Each episode blends modern psychology with spirituality and mindfulness; from rewiring your self-talk and understanding your patterns, to learning how to actually feel good again. It’s for anyone who wants to evolve, laugh, and remember that even the deepest parts of life… don’t have to be that deep.

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