Own Your Shift with Kim

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Self-worth and mindset coaching for women in midlife who have done the therapy, the courses, and the inner work — and still feel like something isn't landing. Host Kim Mayberry is a mindset coach, Reiki Master, breathwork practitioner, and NLP certified trainer. Raw, honest conversations about self-worth, nervous system healing, identity work, and manifestation. No toxic positivity. No performance. Just real talk. New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM.

  1. 3d ago

    Why Your Pain Gets Quiet When You're Fully In It: The Science of Flow State, the Helper's High, and What Your Symptoms Are Actually Telling You

    What if the thing you keep avoiding because you feel anxious is sometimes the very thing that helps you feel more like yourself again? There are days Kim wakes up with anxiety already sitting heavy before the day has even started. Days when she doesn’t want to talk, work, or show up. And then she steps into a client session she can’t cancel. Somewhere in the middle of being fully present with another person, something shifts. The anxiety gets quieter. The heaviness lifts. She feels engaged, connected, and completely different from how she felt an hour earlier. So Kim started asking: what is actually happening there? Is it distraction? Or is there something deeper happening when we become absorbed in meaningful activity, connection, and service? In this episode, Kim explores three ideas that helped her make sense of the pattern: flow state, the “helper’s high,” and behavioral activation. Not as a promise that meaningful activity fixes every symptom — but as a way to understand why withdrawal can sometimes make us feel worse, while re-engagement can sometimes help us feel more grounded and alive. • The coaching-session moment that started this question• What flow state is and why deep engagement can quiet mental noise• Why anxious thoughts can feel louder when we have more attention available for them• The “helper’s high” and what authentic service and connection can do for our emotional state• Why genuine connection matters more than performing positivity• How behavioral activation uses action to help interrupt cycles of withdrawal and low mood• The difference between rest that restores and avoidance that keeps us stuck• Why “I don’t feel ready” doesn’t always mean “I shouldn’t do it”• How to notice whether an activity leaves you depleted, regulated, energized, or more connected• A pain-specialist story that changed the way Kim thought about symptoms and attention 1. Track the patternNotice what happens to your mood and symptoms before, during, and after specific activities. 2. Make a list of your flow activitiesWhat helps you become absorbed, present, creative, connected, or useful? 3. Schedule them before you feel like itDon’t rely only on motivation. Give meaningful activities a place on your calendar. 4. Learn the difference between depletion and avoidanceSometimes you genuinely need rest. Other times anxiety is asking you to retreat from something that may actually help you reconnect. 5. Stop waiting for perfect readinessYou may not always feel better first. Sometimes the shift begins after you take the first step. The goal isn’t to ignore your body or push through everything. It’s to become more curious about what your symptoms are doing, what helps them soften, and what brings you back into contact with your life. If you’re ready to understand your patterns, interrupt old responses, and practice a different way of showing up, join the Priority List for The Shift Starts With You. Founding round — only 10 spots:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/theshiftstartswithyouwaitlist Grab a FREE chapter of Unhurtable:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/freechapteroptin 📲 Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim 🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM. Follow Own Your Shift with Kim so you never miss an episode. If this one made you rethink the relationship between avoidance, engagement, and how you feel, share it with someone who may need the conversation.

  2. Sep 23

    The Passage: What It Actually Feels Like to Cross From Who You Were to Who You're Becoming

    What if the hardest part of transformation isn’t starting — but living through the space between who you were and who you’re becoming? Most transformation stories are told from the other side. The breakthrough. The success. The clean ending. This episode is different. Kim is recording from the middle of it — from inside what she calls the passage. That uncomfortable, grief-filled, plot-twist-heavy space where something has already shifted internally, but your external reality hasn’t fully caught up yet. The old version of you no longer fits. The new version of you isn’t fully embodied yet. And you’re asked to keep moving without having all the evidence. Kim shares what this season has looked like in her own life and walks through the stages of the passage — from recognizing that something is changing, to choosing between the familiar and the unknown, to grieving what you’re leaving behind, and eventually stepping into an identity that no longer feels like something you’re chasing. It simply becomes who you are. • What “the passage” actually is and how it differs from simply feeling stuck• The moment you recognize something is genuinely shifting• How awareness changes suffering into movement• The choice point between what is familiar and what is aligned• Why leaving the old path can still hurt even when you know it’s time• The grief that often comes with becoming someone new• The difference between hoping things will work out and deeply knowing you’re moving somewhere different• Why expansion can sometimes feel like contraction• What begins to change when the new identity takes root Kim also shares what she is leaving behind — the version of herself who stayed small, used confusion as a reason to stay still, and feared being responsible for someone else’s transformation. And what is replacing that fear is something deeper: A growing trust in her own authority. A belief that she is capable of sitting across from another woman in a difficult season and saying: I see you. I know this place. I know the way through. Not because everything is perfect. But because she has lived the passage herself. 1. Your relationship with your own authorityYou stop looking outside yourself for constant permission or proof. 2. Your tolerance for smallnessThe places where you once shrank, settled, or stayed quiet become harder to ignore. 3. How you hold other people’s transformationYou stop trying to rescue people and become more capable of standing beside them while they find their own way through. This isn’t a motivational episode about rushing to the breakthrough. It’s an honest conversation about what transformation can cost — and why becoming more fully yourself can still be worth that cost. If you’re in your own passage and ready to go deeper, join the Priority List for The Shift Starts With You. Founding round — only 10 spots:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/theshiftstartswithyouwaitlist Start with a FREE chapter of Unhurtable:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/freechapteroptin 📲 Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim 🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM. Follow Own Your Shift with Kim so you never miss an episode. If this conversation found you in the middle of your own transition, share it with someone walking through theirs and leave a rating or review to help more women discover the show.

  3. Sep 16

    The Law of Assumption: How to Tune Into the Reality You Want and Watch Your Life Shift to Match

    What if the reality you want isn’t something you have to force into existence — but something you begin to notice, choose, and live from differently? In this episode, Kim explores the Law of Assumption: the idea that what you repeatedly assume to be true can shape how you interpret situations, what you notice, and how you respond. She opens with a personal story from a run. Before starting, Kim stepped into the identity of someone for whom running felt easy and natural. She came home a full minute faster than her previous runs — same body, same route, different internal starting point. That experience led her deeper into a question: what changes when you stop trying to “think positive” and start examining the assumptions underneath your thoughts? Kim explores Neville Goddard’s teaching on assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled, then connects it to how attention works in everyday life — including how the brain filters enormous amounts of information and prioritizes what seems relevant. The point isn’t that a thought magically controls reality. It’s that assumptions can influence what you notice, expect, tolerate, attempt, and reinforce. • What the Law of Assumption means — and what it doesn’t• Kim’s running story and the role identity played in her experience• Why assumptions can be more influential than passing thoughts• How attention and expectation shape what you notice• Neville Goddard’s idea of “the feeling of the wish fulfilled”• Why affirmations may fall flat when the deeper assumption hasn’t changed• The “channel switching” metaphor for choosing a different baseline• The Fresh Eyes experiment you can try today Thoughts come and go. Assumptions run deeper. They’re the beliefs you often stop questioning because they feel obvious, familiar, or simply true. “I always struggle with money.”“Relationships never work out for me.”“I’m not disciplined.”“Things are always harder for me.” When an assumption becomes familiar enough, you may notice evidence that supports it while overlooking evidence that challenges it. The work isn’t pretending something is true when it clearly isn’t. It’s becoming aware of the assumption you’re living from — and practicing a different one through attention, behavior, and repetition. 1. The Morning AssumptionChoose the identity or internal state you want to practice before the day begins. 2. The Fresh Eyes WalkMove through part of your day as if you’re seeing your life through the eyes of the version of you who already feels grounded, capable, and supported. 3. Assumption AuditingWhen a pattern repeats, ask: “What am I assuming is true here?” 4. Use Physical Evidence DeliberatelyNotice real moments that support the new belief instead of automatically dismissing them. This episode connects to The Creation episode, The Shift Starts With You series, The Shift Framework, and The Frequency episode. If you’re ready to identify the assumptions underneath your patterns and practice a different internal baseline, join the Priority List for The Shift Starts With You. Founding round — only 10 spots:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/theshiftstartswithyouwaitlist Grab a FREE chapter of Unhurtable:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/freechapteroptin 📲 Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim 🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM. Follow Own Your Shift with Kim so you never miss an episode. If this conversation shifted the way you think about your assumptions, share it with someone who may need it and leave a rating or review to help more women discover the show.

  4. Sep 9

    Your Emotions Are Trying to Tell You Something: How to Use Your Emotional Guidance System to Navigate Your Life

    What if your emotions aren’t problems to manage — but signals that can help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface? In this episode, Kim explores how to use emotions as information instead of treating them as something to suppress, fix, or push through. She opens with one of the most honest stories she’s shared on the show: the intense anxiety she felt right before launching this podcast. At the time, it felt like a clear sign to stop. But after pressing publish anyway, she began to recognize an important distinction — sometimes discomfort is a warning, and sometimes it shows up because you’re expanding beyond what feels familiar. That experience changed the way Kim listens to her emotional guidance system. • Why emotions can be information rather than obstacles• How to tell the difference between a warning signal and an expansion signal• Anger as a possible boundary signal or direction signal• The question Kim asks when anxiety shows up• Why worry often pulls us into an imagined future• Why fear doesn’t always mean “don’t go”• Gratitude as an intentional practice• The difference between empowerment and excitement• How joy and love can help reveal what feels aligned• Three questions to use with almost any emotional response ANGERAsk what boundary, expectation, or situation the anger may be pointing toward. Is something genuinely out of alignment — or are you reaching a new edge? ANXIETY & WORRYInstead of automatically treating anxiety as proof that something is wrong, ask whether there is a real issue that needs attention or whether you’re anticipating an outcome that hasn’t happened. FEARFear can signal danger, but it can also appear when you’re entering unfamiliar territory. The goal isn’t to ignore it — it’s to understand what it’s responding to. Kim also explores gratitude, empowerment, joy, and love — not simply as rewards for when life is going well, but as states you can intentionally reconnect with during a difficult season. The point isn’t to force positivity. It’s to notice what your emotions are showing you and use that information to choose your next step with greater clarity. 1. What are you pointing at?What situation, belief, boundary, desire, or fear is underneath this feeling? 2. Is this something I need to address — or something I’m about to expand into?Is the emotion asking you to stop and pay attention, or are you moving beyond what has previously felt safe and familiar? 3. What do you need from me right now so you can release?Do you need rest, a boundary, a conversation, reassurance, movement, or a different decision? Your emotions don’t have to become storms you simply survive. They can become part of an ongoing conversation with yourself. If you’re ready to understand your patterns, interrupt old responses, and practice a new way of relating to yourself, join the Priority List for The Shift Starts With You. Founding round — only 10 spots:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/theshiftstartswithyouwaitlist Grab a FREE chapter of Unhurtable:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/freechapteroptin 📲 Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim 🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM. Follow Own Your Shift with Kim so you never miss an episode. If this conversation helped you understand one of your emotions differently, share it with someone who may need it and leave a review to help more women discover the show.

  5. Sep 2

    The Shift Framework: Five Steps That Actually Change Your Self-Worth From the Inside Out

    You can understand the pattern and still feel stuck inside it. That’s where The Shift Framework comes in. In this episode, Kim introduces the five-step process that sits underneath everything she teaches, runs through this podcast, and forms the foundation of her coaching work. For the first time, she lays out the full framework in one place — in order — and shows what it looks like when you’re not teaching it from “the other side,” but living it in real time. Kim shares what it feels like to be in the gap between an internal shift that has genuinely happened and an external reality that hasn’t fully caught up yet. The scarcity mindset still fires. The old belief still tries to take over. The pattern still shows up. But now there’s a process for what happens next. Catch it. Interrupt it. Return to the feeling. Practice the new response. Repeat. That is The Shift Framework in action. 1. SEE ITYou can’t change what you refuse to look at. Instead of reading your reality as proof that you’re failing, learn to read it as data. What is this pattern trying to show you about the belief underneath it? 2. HEAR ITA belief you can’t name can keep running your life in the background. Put it into plain, honest language. Not the polished version. Not the spiritual bypass version. The real one. 3. INTERRUPT ITPatterns feel automatic because there’s often no space between the trigger and the response. One pause creates room for choice. That gap is where change begins. 4. FEEL ITDon’t wait for external evidence before you allow yourself to feel like the person you’re becoming. Practice the new identity before the circumstances fully reflect it. 5. TRAIN ITOne breakthrough doesn’t undo years of conditioning. Repetition builds the new baseline. The shift happens one rep at a time. • Why the framework works best in order• How to read your reality as data instead of failure• The question that helps reveal the belief underneath a pattern• Why naming the belief changes your relationship with it• How to create a gap between trigger and response• Why so much personal development work stops at awareness• Why waiting for proof before feeling different keeps you stuck• Why repetition — not revelation — creates lasting change This episode is the natural next step after The Shift Starts With You, Kim’s five-part series on self-worth. Episode 1: What Self-Worth Actually Is — And What It Isn’tEpisode 2: How You Learned You Weren’t EnoughEpisode 3: The Ways Low Self-Worth Shows Up That You’d Never RecognizeEpisode 4: Why You Can’t Think Your Way Into Self-WorthEpisode 5: The Feeling Is the Master Key If you’re ready to move from understanding your patterns to practicing a new way of living, join the Priority List for The Shift Starts With You. Founding members round — only 10 spots at a fraction of future pricing:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/theshiftstartswithyouwaitlist Start with a FREE chapter of Unhurtable:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/freechapteroptin 📲 Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim 🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM. Follow Own Your Shift with Kim so you never miss an episode. And if the show has helped you see something differently, leave a review or share it with a woman who may need to hear it.

  6. Aug 26

    The Shift Starts With You Series Episode 5: The Feeling Is the Master Key — What Life Actually Looks Like When Your Self-Worth Baseline Shifts

    What changes when you stop trying to understand your way into self-worth — and actually begin to feel worthy? This is the finale of The Shift Starts With You, and it brings everything from the last four episodes together. We’ve defined self-worth, traced the “not enough” wound back to where it began, uncovered the disguises low self-worth can wear, and explored why understanding the pattern isn’t always enough to change it. Now we get to the other side. The feeling is the master key. Not just understanding the wound. Not being able to explain your patterns. Not collecting another breakthrough. But beginning to experience the embodied feeling of being the woman you’ve been trying to become. Kim opens this episode with one of the most personal moments she’s shared on the show. Sitting on a beach in Hawaii during her son’s senior trip, she realized something had quietly changed. She was in a bathing suit, at the biggest she had ever been — and she wasn’t hiding, covering herself, or criticizing herself. Her body hadn’t suddenly changed. Her relationship with herself had. That moment revealed what a shifted self-worth baseline can actually feel like. In this episode, we explore:• Kim’s Hawaii beach moment and what it revealed about her self-worth• The six areas of life that can change as your self-worth changes• Why feeling matters as much as intellectual understanding• Four ways to begin practicing the feeling now• The Step In meditation as a daily practice• How to use your body as information when making decisions• How to recognize and anchor moments when a different version of you begins to emerge The six things that can change when your self-worth shifts: Your decisions — you choose from alignment instead of proving, pleasing, or protecting. What you tolerate — familiar no longer automatically means acceptable. Your ability to receive — love, support, compliments, opportunities, and rest become easier to allow. Your voice — you say what you mean and ask for what you need with less apology. Your relationship with your body — care begins replacing criticism. Your relationship with other women — comparison can make room for connection and belonging.Kim closes with four ways to practice the feeling before your circumstances have fully caught up — not by pretending, but by learning to access the internal state you want to live from. Because the version of you this series has been pointing toward may not be someone you need to create from scratch. The work can also be about returning to her. If this series helped you see yourself differently and you’re ready for the next step, join the Priority List for The Shift Starts With You. Founding round — only 10 spots:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/theshiftstartswithyouwaitlist Grab a FREE chapter of Unhurtable:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/freechapteroptin THE SHIFT STARTS WITH YOU — 5-PART SERIES Episode 1 — What Self-Worth Actually Is And What It Isn’tEpisode 2 — How You Learned You Weren’t EnoughEpisode 3 — The Ways Low Self-Worth Shows Up That You’d Never RecognizeEpisode 4 — Why You Can’t Think Your Way Into Self-WorthEpisode 5 — The Feeling Is the Master Key 📲 Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM. If this series shifted something for you, leave a review and tell Kim which episode hit you the hardest. And if there’s a woman in your life who needs this conversation, share the series with her.

  7. Aug 19

    The Shift Starts With You Series Episode 4: The Six Things That Actually Shift Self-Worth at the Level It Lives

    You’ve read the books. Done the therapy. Listened to the podcasts. Had the breakthroughs. So why does it sometimes feel like nothing has actually changed? This is Episode 4 of The Shift Starts With You, a five-part series on self-worth—and this is the bridge between understanding the pattern and actually beginning to change it. By now, you may understand where the wound came from. You may recognize the disguises. You may even know exactly why you respond the way you do. But knowing something intellectually and living it differently are not always the same thing. In this episode, Kim explores why self-worth can’t be changed through insight alone — and why lasting change also requires new experiences, new responses, repetition, and a different relationship with yourself. Kim shares a season in her own life when she knew exactly how to care for her body as a trained fitness professional — yet still struggled to do it. It wasn’t simply a lack of knowledge. The deeper shift began when she started examining whether she truly believed she was worth caring for in the first place. That realization changed the way she approached her own growth — and eventually the work she now teaches. Why understanding a pattern isn’t always enough to change itThe gap between knowing what to do and actually being able to live itWhy new experiences matter when building new beliefsWhy regulation can come before transformationWhy repetition often creates more change than one powerful breakthroughHow relationships and environment can reinforce — or challenge — old patternsWhy self-compassion is more than positive thinkingWhy lasting change takes time1. Embodied experienceYour beliefs begin to change when you have new experiences that challenge the old story. 2. Regulation before transformationIt can be difficult to practice something new when you’re constantly operating from stress, fear, or self-protection. 3. Repetition over revelationOne breakthrough can create awareness. Repeated new choices help build a different baseline. 4. Environment and relationshipsThe people and environments around you can either reinforce the old version of you or support the person you’re becoming. 5. Self-compassionReal change becomes much harder when every setback turns into another reason to attack yourself. 6. TimeDeeply held beliefs usually weren’t created overnight — and they rarely change overnight either. This episode isn’t about learning more information. It’s about beginning to live differently with the information you already have. If you’ve been doing the inner work but still feel like something isn’t fully shifting, The Shift Starts With You was created to take this work deeper. Join Kim’s Priority List and be the first to hear what’s coming next. 👉 Join The Shift Starts With You Priority List — only 10 spots:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/theshiftstartswithyouwaitlist Download a FREE chapter of Unhurtable and continue the journey at your own pace. 👉 Get the free chapter:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/freechapteroptin Episode 1: What Self-Worth Actually Is — And What It Isn’tEpisode 2: How You Learned You Weren’t EnoughEpisode 3: The Ways Low Self-Worth Shows Up That You’d Never RecognizeEpisode 4: Why You Can’t Think Your Way Into Self-WorthEpisode 5: The Feeling Is the Master Key 📲 Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim 🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM. Follow Own Your Shift with Kim so you don’t miss the final episode of this series next week. And if this conversation gave you a new way of looking at your own growth, share it with someone who may need to hear it too.

  8. Aug 12

    The Shift Starts With You Series Episode 3: The Eight Disguises of Low Self-Worth

    Low self-worth doesn’t always look insecure. Sometimes, it looks impressive. It can look like high standards. Ambition. Loyalty. Kindness. Independence. Generosity. Being the woman who always has it together. And that’s exactly why it can be so difficult to recognize. This is Episode 3 of The Shift Starts With You, a five-part series on self-worth. In this episode, Kim breaks down eight common disguises low self-worth can wear — especially in high-functioning, self-aware women who have already done a lot of personal growth work. From the outside, these patterns may look like strengths. But underneath them can be an old belief that says: I have to earn my worth.I have to keep everyone happy.I have to prove myself.I have to justify my place.I have to protect myself before someone else can hurt me. The behaviors may have helped you survive, succeed, or feel safe at one point. But they may also be keeping you from experiencing what it feels like to be fully yourself. Why low self-worth can look like strength in high-functioning womenHow survival strategies can become personality traitsThe difference between healthy standards and perfectionism driven by fearWhy people-pleasing is often about safety, not simply kindnessWhy overachieving can become a way of proving your worthHow staying too long and leaving too early can come from the same woundWhy over-giving can become a way of earning your place in someone’s lifeHow “I’m fine” can sometimes become the most sophisticated disguise of all1. PerfectionismIt may look like having high standards, but underneath it can be a fear of being seen as inadequate, flawed, or less than. 2. OverachievingIt may look like ambition, but it can become a belief that your value comes from what you accomplish. 3. People-pleasingIt may look like kindness, but sometimes it’s about keeping the emotional environment safe by managing everyone else’s reactions. 4. Over-explainingIt may look like being thorough, but underneath it can be the belief that your choices, needs, or presence require justification. 5. Staying too longIt may look like loyalty, but sometimes staying comes from believing this is the best you’re allowed to have. 6. Leaving too earlyIt may look like discernment or independence, but it can also come from difficulty trusting that something good is safe to receive. 7. Over-givingIt may look like generosity, but it can quietly become a transaction: “If I give enough, maybe I’ll be valuable enough to keep.” 8. Performing okaynessIt may look like wisdom, resilience, or emotional maturity — while underneath, you’re still afraid of what it would mean to be fully seen. None of these patterns mean something is wrong with you. They are strategies. They made sense somewhere along the way. But once you can recognize the strategy, you can begin to ask whether you still need it. And that kind of clarity is where change starts. Episode 1: What Self-Worth Actually Is — And What It Isn’tEpisode 2: How You Learned You Weren’t EnoughEpisode 3: The Ways Low Self-Worth Shows Up That You’d Never RecognizeEpisode 4: Why You Can’t Think Your Way Into Self-WorthEpisode 5: The Feeling Is the Master Key If you recognized yourself in one or more of these patterns, continue the journey with a FREE chapter of Kim’s book, Unhurtable. 👉 Get your free chapter here:https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/freechapteroptin Ready to take the next step? ✨ Join the Priority List for The Shift Starts With YouOnly 10 spots available. 👉 https://www.ownyourshiftwithkim.com/theshiftstartswithyouwaitlist 📲 Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim 🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM. Follow Own Your Shift with Kim so you don’t miss the rest of this series. And if one of these eight patterns made you think of someone you love, share this episode with her. A follow or review also helps more women discover the show.

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Self-worth and mindset coaching for women in midlife who have done the therapy, the courses, and the inner work — and still feel like something isn't landing. Host Kim Mayberry is a mindset coach, Reiki Master, breathwork practitioner, and NLP certified trainer. Raw, honest conversations about self-worth, nervous system healing, identity work, and manifestation. No toxic positivity. No performance. Just real talk. New episodes every Wednesday at 5:55 AM.

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