True You Podcast

Bill Tierney and Martin Kettelhut
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True You Podcast is all about reconnecting with your authentic self—the version of you that’s in flow, where life feels effortless and aligned. In moments of struggle, when everything feels like an uphill battle, it's a sign you've lost touch with your true self. Through deep conversations and personal insights, we explore what it takes to stay in alignment, create harmony, and live as the true you—most of the time, not just by accident.

  1. Episode 45: Hiding Your Light Under a Bushel

    6D AGO

    Episode 45: Hiding Your Light Under a Bushel

    In this episode, Bill and Marty talk through Marty’s conflict about wanting his writing to be read while not wanting to promote it, including anger and guilt triggered by manipulative publishing pitches that ask for money. Using Internal Family Systems, Bill helps Marty identify a tender, younger part carrying pain and beliefs like “I’m worthless,” along with a stoic protector focused on survival and not appearing weak. Marty connects with the younger part with compassion, the protector relaxes, and they end by reframing the path forward as finding a way to share his work that aligns with his message about relationship and connection. Chapters: 00:00 Live IFS Coaching Preview: Exiles, Protectors & a New Beginning 01:38 Meet Dr. Martin Kettelhut: Executive Coaching, Structure & Love 03:34 Today’s Session Goal: Getting Marty’s Writing Read 06:01 The Inner Tug-of-War: Purpose vs. Promotion (and the 19th-Century Dream) 11:23 What Difference Will the Writing Make? A World Built on Relationships 16:37 Finding an Aligned Path to Be Discovered (Without Selling Out) 20:36 “Oh Brother…”: The Daunted Part, Past Disappointments & Pain 24:05 Creating Safety to Meet the Part: Vulnerability, Deflation & 10% Feeling 27:09 Welcoming the Protector: Creating Safety Before Going Deeper 29:57 What Triggered the Shutdown? Fear, Tenderness, and the Stoic Strategy 32:53 “Be a Man”: Survival Beliefs, Rejection Wounds, and Early Roots 35:29 The Unseen Child: Longing to Be Valued (Train Set Memory) 36:28 Firefighters & Coping: When Relaxation Becomes a Counter-Strategy 41:04 Meeting the Exile: Worthlessness, Existential Ache, and the Hidden Little Boy 44:24 Reparenting in Real Time: Holding the Child, Updating the Protector 47:46 Time-Travel Reframe: Stop Letting the 10-Year-Old Market the Book 50:11 Integration & Next Steps: Bringing Parts to the Present and Finding an Aligned Path 54:43 Closing Reflections: Tenderness, Relationship, and Ending the Session Links and Resources: • True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcastTrue You Podcast Instagram Page - https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast• If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com• Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com• Contact Bill - bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    56 min
  2. Episode 44: Tending to the Inner World

    FEB 13

    Episode 44: Tending to the Inner World

    In this episode, Bill and Marty talk about self-regulation and what to do when compassion or a results-focused mindset stops working, especially during frustration or miscommunication. They share personal stories and walk through both proactive and reactive ways to steady yourself and return to calm. The conversation touches on sleep, diet, and small life experiments that help you figure out what actually supports your well-being. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Vigilance and Depression 01:00 Welcome to the True You Podcast 01:22 Compassionate Results Coaching 02:26 Dealing with Frustration and Miscommunication 03:47 Understanding Vigilance and Core Fears 08:05 Childhood Influences on Vigilance 11:03 Managing Bottlenecks and Frustration 16:56 Top-Down and Bottom-Up Regulation 23:28 Self-Management and Compassion 24:57 Understanding the Dao Approach to Inner Critic 26:45 Resisting vs. Engaging with the Inner Critic 28:00 Creating Physical Representations of Inner Critic 29:23 Personal Experiences with Inner Battles 34:00 Proactive Self-Regulation Techniques 36:23 Commitment to a Chemical-Free Lifestyle 38:13 The Impact of Diet on Self-Regulation 48:28 Reflecting on Life as an Experiment Links and Resources: • ‘Taming Your Gremlin’ by Rick Carson: https://www.amazon.com/Taming-Your-Gremlin-Surprisingly-Getting/dp/0060520221 • True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • True You Podcast Instagram Page - https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast • If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform  • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill - bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    51 min
  3. Episode 43: Permission and Safety

    FEB 6

    Episode 43: Permission and Safety

    In this episode, join Marty and Bill as they navigate the complexities of conflict resolution using Internal Family Systems (IFS). In this episode, Bill introduces a vital protocol he's developing to enhance IFS effectiveness in coaching and personal relationships. From handling internal conflicts to mediating external disputes, Bill and Marty explore the nuances of compassionate accountability, informed consent, and creating a safe space for open dialogue. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Tense Conversations 01:09 Welcome to the True You Podcast 01:43 The Importance of Protocol in IFS 03:33 Case Study: Mediating Marital Conflict 05:37 Understanding Internal Conflict 08:40 Case Study: Financial Dispute Mediation 13:21 Developing a Mediation Protocol 25:50 Navigating Uncertainty in Agreements 27:50 The Role of Accountability in Relationships 29:42 Compassionate Accountability and Personal Growth 30:31 The Power of Structured Conversations 32:16 The Importance of Staying Connected 36:47 Handling Defensiveness in Conflict 43:58 Innovative Communication Tools 50:11 Concluding Thoughts and Future Directions Links and Resources: • True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform  • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill - bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    54 min
  4. Episode 42: You're In Your Head

    JAN 30

    Episode 42: You're In Your Head

    In this episode, join Bill and Marty as they explore the intricate dance between being in one's head and staying present in the moment. The discussion covers how to gracefully handle moments when someone points out that you're overthinking or disconnected. They share insights from nonviolent communication techniques and personal coaching approaches to help maintain a balance between intellect and emotional presence. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 01:05 Discussing the Criticism of Being 'In Your Head' 04:35 Nonviolent Communication and Presence 09:02 Personal Anecdotes on Connection and Disconnection 18:00 The Value of Intellectual Engagement 25:16 Discovering the Power of Spreadsheets 25:52 Balancing Emotions and Intellect 26:34 The Importance of Planning 29:00 Pressure and Decision Making 31:42 Coaching and Presence 33:17 The Role of the Body in Awareness 39:50 The Internal Committee and Sobriety 43:20 Summarizing Key Insights 46:04 New Year's Eve Plans Links and Resources: • True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform  • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill - bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com 🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links ➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs ➡️Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice 🔗 Parts Work Practice page: https://www.partsworkpractice.com/ 📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here: http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/ ➡️Attend IFS Coaching Groups: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups 📞Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment, go to https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact 🎙️Listen to True You Podcast at https://trueyoupodcast.com available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube! #recovery #ifs #internalfamilysystems #ifscoach #ifscoaching #ifsmodel #partswork #partsworkcoach #podcast #ifspodcast #selfhelf #selfimprovement #leadership #richardschwartz #groupcoaching #ifsgroups #compassionateresults

    47 min
  5. Episode 41: Change Without Shame and Fear

    JAN 16

    Episode 41: Change Without Shame and Fear

    In this episode, Bill and Marty discuss their coaching methodologies and client relationships. They explore the demographics and evolution of their client bases, from financial advisors to leadership positions, and delve into ontological coaching versus Internal Family Systems (IFS) coaching. The conversation turns personal as Bill shares insights from a recent IFS session, addressing his relationship with food, body image, and the concept of pleasure and escape. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview 00:35 Coaching Approaches and Client Demographics 02:50 Internal Family Systems (IFS) in Coaching 04:17 Ontological Coaching vs. IFS Coaching 06:01 Personal Journey with IFS 08:50 Exploring Inner Conflicts and Parts 13:23 Session Insights and Reflections 24:26 Different Coaching Styles and Their Impact 28:09 Introduction to Ontological Coaching 28:38 Coaching Session Proposal 29:30 Exploring Relationship with Food 31:08 Comparing Addictions: Food vs. Substances 35:41 Money Management as an Analogy 38:22 Motivations for Change 43:07 Identifying Underlying Issues 48:09 Seeking Genuine Pleasure and Presence 54:08 Conclusion and Next Steps Links and Resources: • Contact Barti Bourgault - https://www.movebeyondtheedge.com/contact • True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform  • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com • Contact Bill - bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    57 min
  6. Episode 40: Character

    JAN 2

    Episode 40: Character

    In this episode, Martin and Bill engage in a thought-provoking discussion on the nature of character and its distinction from actions, philosophy, or societal roles. They examine how character is a reflection of one's true self, evolving over time through life's challenges. The conversation includes insights into the importance of integrity and authenticity, drawing from literature and personal anecdotes. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Character 00:17 Meet the Hosts 00:51 Defining Character 04:43 False Identities and True Self 08:11 Character in Adversity 15:14 A Personal Story of Responsibility 20:12 Transformation at Basketball Camp 21:06 Unexpected Christian Influence 22:24 Character and Authenticity 23:40 The Role of Books and Mentors 26:03 Building Character Through IFS 27:07 Setting Intentions for the New Year 32:03 Overcoming Fear and Embracing Change 34:00 The Power of Clarity and Alignment 37:10 Effort and Flow in Character Building 38:51 Concluding Thoughts Links and Resources: • True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com• Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com• Contact Bill - bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    40 min
  7. Episode 39: Effective Communication

    12/12/2025

    Episode 39: Effective Communication

    In this episode, Marty and Bill explore the fundamentals of effective communication. This episode covers the essential elements such as honor and genuine listening, supported by personal anecdotes and practical examples. They delve into the significance of the 'talking stick' in structured communication and highlight a powerful completion process for meaningful departures. With engaging insights and valuable takeaways for leaders and individuals alike, this episode is an enlightening journey into mastering the art of communication. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Effective Communication 00:54 Welcome to the True You Podcast 01:37 Defining Leadership in Various Contexts 02:52 Adjusting to Podcasting Setup 03:27 Choosing Today's Topic: Effective Communication 05:29 The Talking Stick: A Symbol of Communication 11:05 Listening to Understand vs. Listening to Respond 14:25 The Role of Coaches in Effective Communication 18:27 Non-Verbal Cues in Communication 21:41 The Importance of Honoring Connections 25:37 Reflecting on Departing Members 26:04 Eulogy and Honoring Departures 26:52 Questions for Departing Members 27:57 Emotional Reflections and Activations 32:34 Exploring Incompletions 35:32 The Power of Addressing Incompletions 43:01 Deciding How to Address Incompletions 44:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Links and Resources: • Group Completion questions: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/s/GroupCompletionQuestions.pdf• True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com• Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com• Contact Bill - bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    45 min
  8. Episode 38: Playing a New Game

    11/28/2025

    Episode 38: Playing a New Game

    In this episode, Bill and Marty explore the concept of starting anew and reinventing oneself. They discuss the transformative power of coaching and the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model in facilitating personal breakthroughs. Through real-life examples and insightful anecdotes, they highlight the importance of having a clear vision, structured plans, and consistent support to sustain change.  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the True You Podcast 00:12 Exploring the Concept of Reinvention 01:03 The Role of Coaching in Personal Transformation 02:00 Client Session Insights: Shifting Internal Contexts 03:26 Focused vs. Shotgun Approach in Coaching 05:11 Understanding the IFS Model 06:01 Group vs. Individual Coaching Dynamics 09:28 Addressing Internal Conflicts and Protective Parts 17:19 Building and Maintaining a New Vision 20:41 The Importance of Accountability and Structure 26:00 Mentoring Conflicting Parts 27:07 Creating a New Vision 28:44 The Role of Academia in Personal Growth 32:06 The Importance of Context and Change 38:45 Practicing and Sustaining New Realities 45:48 The Power of Preparation and Improvisation Links and Resources: • True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast• If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/• Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com• Contact Marty - mkettelhut@msn.com• Contact Bill - bill@compassionateresultscoaching.com

    48 min
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True You Podcast is all about reconnecting with your authentic self—the version of you that’s in flow, where life feels effortless and aligned. In moments of struggle, when everything feels like an uphill battle, it's a sign you've lost touch with your true self. Through deep conversations and personal insights, we explore what it takes to stay in alignment, create harmony, and live as the true you—most of the time, not just by accident.

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  • Creator
    Bill Tierney and Martin Kettelhut
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    45
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Bill Tierney and Martin Kettelhut
  • Show Website
    True You Podcast