Patty's Place

Lisa
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A place to talk about grief, dementia and caregiving. A place to find comfort when you are going through a difficult time. A place to know you are not alone as you go through this difficult time.

  1. 2d ago ·  Video

    Caregiver Support Is The Best Medicine-Interview with Dr. Warren Wong

    I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. We sit down with Dr. Warren Wong to rethink what dementia care should look like when the goal is love, dignity, and real quality of life for both the person living with memory loss and the caregiver. We share hard truths about emergencies, wandering, and burnout, plus practical ways to build trust and get meaningful support instead of trying to white knuckle it alone.  • Dr. Wong’s journey into geriatrics and the PACE model for keeping seniors in the community  • Why “call 911” can trigger hospitalization and loss of independence for frail older adults  • Cultural expectations and caregiver guilt that block families from asking for help  • Our personal story of refusal to test, crisis diagnosis, and the overwhelm of finding memory care  • Trust building, routine resistance, and the green light yellow light red light days  • Why showering can be terrifying and how to approach care with more safety  • Medicare GUIDE, caregiver training, respite options, and 24 7 dementia support  • Care navigation versus care coordination and why checklists are not enough  • Dementia villages, memory cafes, and social connection as part of care  • “Doing to” versus “doing for” versus “doing with” as a dignity framework  • Wandering risk and why the first 24 hours matter  Make sure you leave us a review or subscribe to our YouTube channel  Support the show

    41 min

  2. May 20

    Stop Saying “Let Me Know If You Need Anything”-Interview with Kelly Edmundson

    I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. The funeral ends, the messages slow down, and suddenly the calendar becomes the hardest part of grief. We sit down with Kelly Edmondson, founder and CEO of Timely Presence, to talk about what support should look like after the sympathy flowers are gone and real life returns. As a former trauma nurse and now a certified grief counselor, Kelly brings both clinical experience and the honesty of living through profound loss as a bereaved mother. We get specific about the moments that sting: a loved one’s birthday, Mother’s Day, the holiday season, and the first anniversary of death. Kelly explains why “If you need anything, let me know” often fails, and what helps more: steady, practical presence that doesn’t ask the griever to manage everyone else’s discomfort. We also talk about grief brain and the hidden symptoms people don’t expect, from exhaustion and low motivation to forgetfulness and trouble focusing at work, especially when bereavement leave runs out long before you feel like yourself again. Kelly walks us through how Timely Presence supports someone through the first year with heirloom-quality memorial gifts delivered on key dates, including an engraved memory box, interactive wind chimes, a crystal votive candle holder, and a 3D photo crystal keepsake. We also explore creating new rituals, planning for triggers, and why even pet loss can feel like a “loud absence” after years of caregiving routines. Year-Long Sympathy & Memorial Gift Collections | Timely Presence If you’ve ever wanted to show up better for someone grieving, or you’re trying to navigate your own loss with more tenderness and less isolation, listen through and share this with a friend. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us what milestone date is hardest for you to face. Support the show

    31 min

  3. May 13

    What An End Of Life Doula Really Does For Families-Interview with Victoria Volk

    I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. Grief gets treated like a single moment, but for caregivers it’s often a long, exhausting season. We sit down with Victoria Volk, certified grief specialist and creator of Grieving Voices, to talk about what actually helps when dementia caregiving, hospice decisions, and anticipatory grief collide. She explains what an end-of-life doula does, why hospice is often introduced too late, and how a supportive advocate can protect a patient’s wishes while easing pressure on the family.  We also dig into a definition of grief that reaches far beyond death: the loss of hopes, dreams, and expectations. That one shift changes how we understand caregiver burnout, anger, and the ways old losses can resurface when a new crisis hits. Victoria walks us through grief recovery as an evidence-based method for addressing emotional pain, including the hard truth that you can’t always get the apology you deserve, but you can still become emotionally complete.  Finally, we call out the grief myths many of us learned early, like “be strong,” “replace the loss,” and “time heals all wounds,” and we talk about boundaries that protect your energy without shutting people out. If you’re navigating hospice care, end-of-life planning, dementia, or the messy reality of grief in the body, this conversation offers practical language and real relief. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more caregivers can find this support. https://theunleashedheart.com/ Support the show

    41 min

  4. May 7

    A Grief Doula Explains What Helps After Loss-Interview with Cindy Burns

    I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. Grief can make the world feel smaller overnight, and widowhood can make you wonder who you even are without the person you built your days around. We’re joined by Cindy J. Burns, a grief coach, grief doula, and self-described widow coach, for an honest conversation about what helps when you’re tired of pretending you’re fine and you just want to breathe again. We talk through the difference between a death doula and a grief doula, including how support changes from anticipatory grief at end of life to the raw, lonely weeks after the loss. Cindy breaks down a powerful reframe: moving from living in grief, where grief colors every moment, to living with grief, where it stays with you but doesn’t control every hour. Along the way, we dig into the practical realities people don’t warn you about like eating alone in a restaurant, walking back into a house that feels wrong, sorting belongings at your own pace, and learning tasks your spouse used to handle, from finances to car maintenance. Cindy also gives permission to feel what you feel, including anger and even rage, and she shares simple ways to find micro-moments of joy without guilt. We close with gratitude as a daily practice, plus how to connect with Cindy at cindyjburns.com, including a free consult and her short quiz for widows to help pinpoint what’s keeping you stuck. If this conversation helps, please subscribe, share it with someone who needs steady support, and leave a review so more grieving caregivers, widows, and widowers can find Patty’s Place. Support the show

    32 min

  5. Apr 29

    Living With Alzheimer’s-Interview with Samuel Simon

    I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. Alzheimer’s doesn’t just change memory. It can change time, language, confidence, and the simple feeling of being anchored in the world. We talk with Sam Simon, author of *Dementia Man: An Existential Journey*, and his wife Susan about what it really means to keep choosing life after an Alzheimer’s diagnosis and how to push back on the damaging belief that a life with cognitive disease isn’t worth living. Sam shares the moments that scared him most, including what he calls the “nothingness place,” when he feels like he drops out of the world while searching for a word or thought. We also unpack why getting an accurate dementia diagnosis can take years, how symptoms get brushed off as “normal aging,” and the small practical systems that reduce daily chaos at home. Susan adds the caregiver perspective, including what it takes to support independence while keeping life steady and safe. From there we widen the lens to advocacy and accessibility. If ramps and braille are standard ADA accommodations, why do airports, grocery stores, and other public spaces offer so little support for cognitive disability? We dig into dementia-friendly design, the sunflower lanyard used for hidden disabilities, and the idea of a “cognitive navigator” who can help without taking away dignity. We also share communication tools like improv-style “Yes, And,” plus the hard truth of anticipatory grief when someone is still here, yet changing. If you find this helpful, subscribe, share the episode with a friend who needs it, and leave us a review so more caregivers and families can find Patty’s Place. Support the show

    45 min

  6. Apr 22

    What If Caregiver Injuries Are Not Inevitable-Interview with Ben Couch

    I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. A lot of caregivers learn transfers the hard way: you get through today, you wake up sore tomorrow, and you tell yourself it’s just the price of loving someone. I’m joined by Ben Couch, creator of Eastern Ergonomics and a longtime healthcare educator with decades of martial arts training, to challenge that belief with practical, body-safe tools you can use right away. We dig into why caregiver injuries happen so often during bed-to-wheelchair and chair-to-toilet moves, and why “better equipment” still isn’t enough without better ergonomics. Ben breaks down the mindset shift that changes everything: the transfer starts when you walk into the room. From there, we talk simple mechanics like posture, breathing, center of gravity, and stance. His explanation of balance and “triangulation” makes it clear why small foot placement changes can protect your back, shoulders, and knees over hundreds of transfers. We also zoom out to the emotional side of dementia caregiving. Agitation is often a need that can’t find the right words, and we explore de escalation skills that help you get on the same team as the person you’re caring for. Ben shares real stories from caring for his own mom with Alzheimer’s and what he wishes more hospitals and facilities understood about dementia communication and safe handling. If you’re a home caregiver or you lead a team in senior living, you’ll walk away with a clearer, safer way to think about movement, conflict, and care. Subscribe, share this with a caregiver who needs it, and leave a review so more families can find Patty’s Place. Support the show

    34 min

  7. Apr 15

    Therapy Is Not Scary And Your Brain Is Lying-Interview with Dr. Kathryn Brzozowski

    I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. Dementia caregiving can break your heart in a way most people don’t understand: you’re grieving someone who is still here. We sit down with psychotherapist Dr Katherine Brasowski, who has 25+ years of experience in grief counseling, anxiety, chronic illness, and major life transitions, to name what so many families feel but rarely say out loud, the loneliness of “already losing them,” the exhaustion after visits, and the guilt that shows up the moment you try to take a breath for yourself. We get practical about mental health, too. We talk small daily habits that actually work for real life, not just perfect routines, and why emotional burnout is not weakness. Dr Brasowski reframes self-care as building the scaffolding of a life that can withstand difficulty: supportive relationships, doable routines, and tiny moments that bring you back to the present. We also unpack caregiver guilt through a cognitive behavioral therapy lens, showing how thoughts drive feelings and how shifting the inner script can change everything. If therapy feels intimidating, we clear that up. We discuss common misconceptions about the therapy process, why the therapist-client relationship matters so much, and why good therapy is more than venting. You’ll also hear about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, grief as waves, and what it means to live a full life that includes sadness. Dr Brasowski shares her practice, Speak Easy Counseling and Therapy, plus “Now And Then” one-time therapy sessions designed for people who want focused support without an ongoing commitment. If this resonates, subscribe, share this with a caregiver who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find Patty’s Place. Support the show

    34 min

  8. Apr 8

    A Better Dementia Journey-Interview with Amy Shaw

    I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. Dementia doesn’t just change memory, it changes the rules of the relationship. When a person still looks like the mom, dad, or spouse you’ve always known, it’s easy to assume they’re choosing to be difficult, hiding things, or “not trying.” That misunderstanding can turn caregiving into a daily argument and it burns families out fast.  We’re joined by Amy Shaw, founder of BetterDementia.com and a dementia clinician, educator, and author, to unpack a brain-based way to make sense of what’s happening. We talk about why many people living with Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias truly cannot see their own decline, how to translate confusing behaviors back to brain function, and why the typical “mild, moderate, severe” labels often don’t help when you’re the one managing finances, meds, safety, and day-to-day care.  We also get honest about the caregiver experience: anticipatory grief, guilt, resentment, burnout, and even anticipatory relief. Amy shares practical dementia communication strategies that protect dignity, plus ways to simplify visits and social situations so your loved one can still feel capable and in control. We close with planning tips for memory care transitions, palliative care, and hospice so families can make hard decisions outside a crisis.  Better Dementia | Support for Dementia Caregivers — Families and Professionals If this helped you feel less alone, subscribe, share this with a caregiver friend, and leave a review so more families can find Patty’s Place. Support the show

    40 min
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A place to talk about grief, dementia and caregiving. A place to find comfort when you are going through a difficult time. A place to know you are not alone as you go through this difficult time.

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  • Creator
    Lisa
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    40
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Patty's Place
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