What if failure doesn't actually mean you failed? In this episode of the Honor You Podcast, Melissa welcomes back Candice Van Dertholen to talk about the fear of failure, redefining success, and what it means to invest in something before you can see the return. Candice shares the story behind an event she spent nearly $32,000 bringing to life, including the moments when she questioned whether it would work, worried about losing money, and wondered if she had made the right decision. Through the experience, she discovered that success isn't always about immediate financial results. Sometimes, it's about the connections you create, the conversations you start, and the impact that continues long after the event ends. Together, Melissa and Candice explore what happens when fear takes over, why we often respond to uncertainty by doing more, and how creating space for reflection can help us reconnect with what matters most. In this episode, Melissa and Candice discuss: Why redefining success helped her move beyond the fear of losing money and focus on the impact she wanted to make. Why stillness can feel uncomfortable, especially when you're used to being busy and getting things done. How to begin meditating without expecting your mind to go completely quiet or needing to sit still for long periods. The “seven layers of why” exercise and how it can uncover the deeper motivations behind our decisions. The relationship between external validation, self-worth, and the pressure to prove yourself. Why the entrepreneurial journey rarely follows a straight line, and why it's never too late to make a change. Listen if you're interested in: Understanding why the fear of failure can keep you stuck, even when you're pursuing something meaningful. Redefining success beyond money, productivity, and external validation. Learning how to interrupt overthinking and spiraling when you're under pressure. Exploring the connection between investing in yourself, trusting your decisions, and long-term growth. Finding practical ways to slow down, reflect, and reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming. And…if you’re ready to explore a life of Aligned Success, Click here to book a free 1-hour consultation with Melissa. More about Candice: Candice Van Dertholen is a Speaker, Retreat Facilitator, and Private Advisor to conscious business owners. She is the founder of The Warrior Within Healing and brings over 20 years of experience across leadership, small business development, and wellness. Her work centers on root-cause healing, supporting both emerging healers and purpose-driven entrepreneurs in rebuilding inner trust, strengthening clarity, and expanding their businesses with intention. Candice integrates embodiment and nervous system regulation as the foundation, then guides clients into aligned, sustainable growth strategies that support long-term success. She also serves as Vice President of HR-4U Inc. and leads the virtual chapter for Military Spouse Chamber of Commerce initiatives. Connect with Candice: Booking Site: https://heal.me/candice LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/candicevandertholen Instagram: https://instagram.com/candice_elizabeth.co/ This episode is for: Entrepreneurs and business owners navigating uncertainty, financial risk, or the emotional ups and downs of building something new. High achievers who struggle to slow down, feel productive enough, or trust that they're on the right path. Anyone who finds themselves overthinking, seeking external validation, or worrying about what happens if things don't work out. People ready to explore simple practices for greater self-awareness, including meditation, mindful movement, and asking deeper questions about why something matters. Resources To Help Get You Started: Take my Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself? and receive a free 7-day targeted action plan to get started My free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here The Honor You Course: If you're ready to take your next step toward aligned success, I'm excited to share that the self-paced version of The Honor You Lab is now open! The Honor You Lab is a 6‑week transformational reset designed for professionals who know there has to be a better way than burnout, survival, and autopilot success. Inside the Lab you’ll find structured audio lessons, activities, and prompts to help you develop a new internal framework that helps you reset, reconnect with yourself, and live life according to your needs, not external expectations. Let’s connect! Instagram: @melissa_coloton Website: melissacoloton.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/ TikTok: @melissacoloton YouTube: @melissacolotonshow About The Honor You Podcast The Honor You Podcast explores personal growth, purpose, identity, and what it means to honor who you are becoming, without burnout, shame, or hustle culture. Hosted by Melissa Coloton, the show blends reflection, insight, and practical tools through the framework of The Honor You Method, offering grounded guidance for navigating transitions, leadership, and aligned decision-making. Each episode invites you to slow down, listen inward, and make intentional choices rooted in your values, your season, and your well-being. This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about honoring yourself, one aligned step at a time.
