Life Over 40

Jese Gary
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Life Over 40 is the go-to podcast for women redefining what it means to thrive after 40. Each week, we dive into real, unfiltered conversations on topics like healthy aging, career reinvention, relationships, parenting, infertility, and starting over. Hosted by Jese Gary, this podcast features relatable stories and expert advice to inspire and empower women in this transformative stage of life. Whether you’re looking for motivation, advice, or a sense of community, you’re in the right place. Tune in, subscribe, and join the conversation. Life over 40 is just the beginning!

  1. Aug 19

    Who Do You Become When the Old You Doesn't Fit Anymore

    There is a specific kind of quiet that happens when you open your closet, and nothing in there feels like you anymore. Not because you have nothing to wear, but because the woman those clothes were bought for is not quite the woman standing there now. If you have felt that, this conversation is for you. I first recorded this with my friend Toi Sweeney, and when I watched it back, I realized it was never really about fashion. It is about identity. About confidence. About letting go of the woman you used to be so you can intentionally become the one this next chapter is asking for. So as you listen, keep one question in the back of your mind: who do I need to become for the life I am trying to build? What you'll hear: Why reinvention after 40 is not about becoming someone new, it is about becoming more of who you already areThe quiet grief of letting go of the version of you that fit your old lifeWhat your closet is really telling you about your identity, and how to dress the woman you are nowThe simplest place to start when getting dressed has become pure decision fatigueWhy your body, your season, and your sense of self all keep shifting, and how to meet that with honesty instead of shameAbout the guest: Toi Sweeney is an award-winning fashion stylist, brand image strategist, speaker, and best-selling author of Secrets of a Well Dressed Brand: The Art of Increasing Your Perceived Value. She spent nearly two decades at QVC as a style director dressing on-air hosts, and is the founder of The Well Dressed Brand. Find her at toisweeney.com. Join us: Start the free Identity Audit and join The Second Half SocietySubscribe for a new conversation every weekLoved this one? Send it to the woman you would have called first. Who do you need to become for your next chapter? Tell me in the comments. #LifeOver40 #ReinventYourself #WomenOver40

  2. Aug 12

    Why I Spent Years Hiding (And Why I Finally Stopped)

    Are you living on autopilot? Does everyone expect you to be the polished version everyone could count on? It took me until my 40s to notice I had been performing to be seen instead of actually being seen. This episode is me telling the truth about what it costs to keep only the shiny parts on display, and what happens when you finally let people see the whole you, the still-learning, still-figuring-it-out you. 📧 Join our email list for deeper conversations, weekly encouragement, and tools for navigating life after 40. Download my free resource, the Identity Audit. 👉 https://lifeover40withjese.myflodesk.com/identityaudit Check out Nick Segal's book: https://amzn.to/4q8O0Ne About Life Over 40: Life Over 40 is a Life Design podcast for women who are ready to stop surviving and start living intentionally. Each week, Jese Gary shares honest conversations about simplifying life, managing money with purpose, building healthy habits, rediscovering joy, and creating a future you are genuinely excited about. This is the home of The Second Half Society, because your second half is not about starting over. It is about living on purpose. TAKE ACTION & STAY CONNECTED: 🎙️ Listen to the podcast for more empowering episodes 👉 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2440660 💛 If this episode encouraged you, hit LIKE and subscribe to join this growing community of women redefining life over 40.

  3. Jul 22

    You're Not Choosing the Wrong People… You're Repeating a Pattern

    Download your Identity Audit resource: https://lifeover40withjese.myflodesk.com/identityaudit Have you ever found yourself asking... "Why does this keep happening?" Whether it's dating the same type of person, struggling to set boundaries, outgrowing friendships, or feeling emotionally exhausted, many of us unknowingly repeat relationship patterns that keep us stuck. In this episode of Life Over 40, I sit down with relationship coach and author Alfina Lofaro to explore why our childhood experiences, beliefs, and unconscious habits continue to shape our relationships well into adulthood—and, more importantly, how we can begin to change them. This conversation isn't just about romantic relationships. It's about the relationship you have with yourself, your friends, your family, your career, and the life you're intentionally creating after 40. If you've been craving healthier relationships, more joy, and a deeper understanding of yourself, this episode is for you. In this episode, we discuss: ✔️ Why we repeat the same relationship patterns ✔️ How childhood experiences influence adult relationships ✔️ The importance of self-awareness and curiosity ✔️ Setting healthy boundaries without creating conflict ✔️ Why safety and trust matter in every relationship ✔️ People-pleasing, communication, and emotional patterns ✔️ How to create healthier, more fulfilling relationships after 40 About Alfina Lofaro: Alfina Lofaro is a relationship coach, kinesiologist, speaker, and author of Love Deliberately. She helps people uncover the unconscious patterns shaping their relationships so they can build deeper, healthier, and more fulfilling connections. AlfinaLofaro.com - https://AlfinaLofaro.com Love Deliberately (Book) - https://amazon.com/search?q=Love+Deliberately+Alfina+Lofaro Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Alfina's background 02:10 Why relationships are a reflection of self 04:04 The importance of nurturing all types of relationships 06:01 Trust as a foundational element in every relationship 08:06 Common relationship patterns in women over forty 09:58 The impact of childhood and cultural conditioning 11:50 How to recognize and change unconscious patterns 13:52 The role of safety and trust in love and connection 15:48 Practical steps for self-awareness and curiosity 18:10 Setting healthy boundaries with love and respect 19:59 Living on purpose: joy and connection in midlife 21:59 How to connect more deeply with yourself and others 24:10 Final thoughts and resources 25:07 Connecting with Alfina and closing remarks TAKE ACTION & STAY CONNECTED 📧 Join our email list for deeper conversations, weekly encouragement, and tools for navigating life after 40 👉 https://lifeover40withjese.myflodesk.com/identityaudit 🎙️ Listen to the podcast for more empowering episodes 👉 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2440660 💛 If this episode encouraged you, hit LIKE and subscribe to join this growing community of women redefining life over 40.

  4. Jul 15

    You're Probably Maintaining Your Life Right Now

    I did not realize I had slowly stopped living. Nothing was wrong. No crisis, no unhappiness, just week after week that looked exactly like the one before it.  Join our email list for deeper conversations, weekly encouragement, and tools for navigating life after 40 👉 https://lifeover40withjese.myflodesk.com/identityaudit And that was the part that scared me. This is the story of the moment that woke me up, and the small choice I finally made after letting fear sit in the driver's seat for way too long. What you will hear: - The question I had to ask myself before anything changed, and why "nothing is wrong" is sometimes the hardest place to leave - How being the responsible one quietly became my whole identity - Why I took a Monday off in the middle of the day to go to fan fest, and what "a season of frolicking" actually means - The free application I let fear stop me from finishing, and the day I finally submitted it - Four questions and one small challenge to help you start choosing today instead of waiting for someday About Life Over 40: Life Over 40 is a place for women who are ready to stop surviving and start living intentionally. Each week we have honest conversations about simplifying life, managing money with purpose, building healthy habits, rediscovering joy, and creating a future you are genuinely excited about. No gurus, no toxic positivity, just a friend a few steps ahead of you, figuring it out loud. Comment below and tell me: where have you been waiting for someday instead of choosing today? #lifeover40 #lifeafter40 #womenover40 #midlife #midlifewomen #intentionalliving #midlifereinvention #chooseyourself #secondhalf #womenintheir40s TAKE ACTION & STAY CONNECTED 📧 Join our email list for deeper conversations, weekly encouragement, and tools for navigating life after 40 👉 https://lifeover40withjese.myflodesk.com/identityaudit 🎙️ Listen to the podcast for more empowering episodes 👉 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2440660 💛 If this episode encouraged you, hit LIKE and subscribe to join this growing community of women redefining life over 40.

  5. Jul 15

    Tired of Living Everyone Else's Dream? Do This After 40

    Struggling with loss of identity? Download my free resource: https://lifeover40withjese.myflodesk.com/identityaudit For decades, you were the responsible one; now you want to live intentionally. Are you finding yourself asking, "Who am I now?" If that is where you are, you are not broken, and you are not alone. That is more than half of us quietly trying to find ourselves again. In this solo episode, I am walking you through how I moved from reactive living to intentional living, and how the book On Your Terms helped me rewrite what success actually means for my life now that I am 45. Here is what we get into: - Why redefining success without apologizing for it is the first real step - The personal vision statement exercise that changed how I say yes and no - Why I stopped trying to monetize every joy (and the one hobby rule I gave myself) - What it really means to "glow up" after 40, and why it is internal, not external - The daily question I now ask: does this move me toward the woman I am becoming? This season is not a midlife crisis. It is a different chapter with new purpose. You did not lose yourself. You were building. Now you get to choose what comes next, on your own terms. I am not done. I am just getting started, and if you are over 40, neither are you. Resources mentioned  On Your Terms: Discovering a More Joyful and Purpose-Filled Life Through Value Conscious Negotiating: https://amzn.to/4oLOCHW Let's keep the conversation going  If this episode is resonating with you, drop a comment with the one word for the area of your life that feels reactive instead of intentional right now: health, money, relationships, or career. Then tell me one goal you want to reach in the next 5 years and one for the next 10. Not what sounds impressive, but what feels aligned to your version of success. If you are in this season of redefining who you are as you enter your 40s, subscribe and join other women navigating purpose, identity, money, and intentional living together. This is your second half, and you get to craft it on your terms. New episodes every other week. #intentionalliving #lifeafter40 #womenover40 #over40 #midlife #redefiningsuccess #midlifereinvention TAKE ACTION & STAY CONNECTED 📧 Join our email list for deeper conversations, weekly encouragement, and tools for navigating life after 40 👉 https://lifeover40withjese.myflodesk.com/identityaudit 🎙️ Listen to the podcast for more empowering episodes 👉 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2440660 💛 If this episode encouraged you, hit LIKE and subscribe to join this growing community of women redefining life over 40.

  6. Jun 17

    My Doctor Said "Your Eggs Are Dying" Instead of Perimenopause

    Have you had the moment where you reacted to something so small that the size of what came out of you scared you? And then you spent the rest of the day apologizing to your family, to yourself, wondering if this is who you are now. It isn't. In this episode of Life Over 40, Jese sits down with holistic health coach and certified menopause coaching specialist Jessica Long for the conversation almost nobody is having out loud. Jessica brings the science of what is actually happening in our bodies after 40, starting with the day her own OBGYN told her "your eggs are dying" instead of saying the word perimenopause. Jese brings the lived experience of being on the other side of the shame loop. Together they say the quiet thing out loud. About Jessica Long: Jessica is a holistic health coach, certified menopause coaching specialist, and breath work facilitator who works with midlife women navigating perimenopause and hormonal change. She is the host of the Midlife Advice podcast (formerly Belong Wellness), a wife, and a mama of two little ones in the thick of her own perimenopause journey. Find her at belongwellness.com and on Instagram @belongwellness. About Life Over 40: Hosted by Jese Gary, a woman in her 40s who believes this season is a beginning, not a decline. New episodes weekly on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube. If this conversation gave you words for something you have been carrying, send it to a woman in your life who needs it. And subscribe so you do not miss next week. TAKE ACTION & STAY CONNECTED 📧 Join our email list for deeper conversations, weekly encouragement, and tools for navigating life after 40 👉 https://lifeover40withjese.myflodesk.com/identityaudit 🎙️ Listen to the podcast for more empowering episodes 👉 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2440660 💛 If this episode encouraged you, hit LIKE and subscribe to join this growing community of women redefining life over 40.

  7. Jun 3

    $41,784 — My First Real Money Check-In With You

    There's a specific kind of quiet panic that lives in women over 40 who are carrying debt and quietly hoping things will work themselves out. This episode is the moment I stopped pretending. I'm 45, I'm in debt, and I'm telling the truth about the number out loud. What you will hear: The exact number I owe and why I decided not to keep it private.Why the financial industry trained women over 40 to feel ashamed of debt, and what that silence has been costing us.The "you can't outbudget low revenue" reality I hit as a small business owner, and what I'm doing about it.The retirement conversation women in our 40s are not having out loud, and why I'm having it now.Why I'm bringing this conversation back every quarter until the number hits zero in January 2028.About Life Over 40: Life Over 40 is the show for women 40 and older who are tired of pretending everything is fine. Hosted by Jese Gary, this is the honest conversation about perimenopause, identity, faith as fabric, money, relationships, and the version of you that's still becoming. New episodes every week. Links: Download the free "Identity Audit" resource I Will Teach You to Be Rich: No Guilt. No Excuses. No B.S. Just a 6-Week Program That Works (Second Edition)  The Simple Path to Wealth: Your Road Map to Financial Independence and a Rich, Free Life  Share this episode with a woman in your life who's carrying a number she hasn't said out loud yet.

  8. May 20

    The Realistic Morning Routine for Women Over 40 (No 5AM Needed)

    Have you ever woken up and felt behind before your feet even hit the floor? Reaching for your phone, scrolling, responding to messages, thinking about everyone else's needs — and suddenly the day feels reactive instead of intentional?  If that sounds familiar, you are not lazy. You are not behind. And you definitely don't need to start waking up at 5 AM to fix it.  In this episode, Jese gets honest about why the rigid, 10-step, 5 AM "miracle morning" routines flooding social media aren't built for women over 40 — and what she's actually doing instead. After years of being the overachiever with the perfectly slotted 15-minute checklist (and the mid-day naps to recover from it), she's found a gentler, more realistic approach that actually fills her cup before the world starts pulling from it.  The core idea: you don't need a full morning routine. You need one intentional anchor habit that signals to your nervous system, "I'm ready. I'm grounded. I'm not behind."  In this episode:  Why the morning routines that worked in your 20s and 30s stop working after 40 (your energy has changed — that's not failure, that's truth)The "anchor habit" concept — one small intentional action that can steer your entire dayWhy your morning actually starts the night before, and the bedtime boundary Jese had to set with her phoneJese's realistic, ADHD-friendly morning routine (and the moments she still falls short)The truth about "wins before requests" — and why it's so hard to give from an empty cupThe reminder you need to hear: your morning doesn't have to impress anyone — it needs to support you If you've been blaming yourself for not being able to maintain the 5 AM routines you see online, this episode is your permission slip to stop. Resources Mentioned: Identity Audit Free Resource  Digital Journal Template

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Life Over 40 is the go-to podcast for women redefining what it means to thrive after 40. Each week, we dive into real, unfiltered conversations on topics like healthy aging, career reinvention, relationships, parenting, infertility, and starting over. Hosted by Jese Gary, this podcast features relatable stories and expert advice to inspire and empower women in this transformative stage of life. Whether you’re looking for motivation, advice, or a sense of community, you’re in the right place. Tune in, subscribe, and join the conversation. Life over 40 is just the beginning!

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  • Creator
    Jese Gary
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    45
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Life Over 40
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