The Intimacy Inquiry

Andrew Phipps
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Welcome to The Intimacy Inquiry. Join us for open, curious, and non-judgmental conversations exploring the vast landscape of intimacy and sexuality. We delve into everything, including but not limited to, the value of good sex education to the importance of exploring and understanding our own bodies, overcoming trauma, and how to forge deeper connections with your partner, . Our expert guests include sex therapists, adult content creators, sexologists, authors, somatic healers, porn addiction specialists, marriage and family therapists, intimacy therapists, trauma-informed counselors, and many more. Using explicit language with respect, we fearlessly tackle topics like love, desire, passion, relationships, sexuality and gender, BDSM, tantric sex, massage, touching, kissing, and masturbation – essentially, anything and everything related to intimacy. If you're ready to explore the complexities and nuances of human connection and desire in a respectful and insightful way, you've found your space. Subscribe to The Intimacy Inquiry and join the conversation.

  1. Creating, Maintaining, and Rebuilding Long-Term Intimacy with Bella Krutik

    3D AGO

    Creating, Maintaining, and Rebuilding Long-Term Intimacy with Bella Krutik

    Creating, Maintaining, and Rebuilding Long-Term Intimacy with Bella Krutik Bella Krutik, a relationship nervous system and feminine embodiment coach, shares how she helps successful women and men rebuild trust, intimacy, and long-term connection. She reflects on her formative years as a rule-following, approval-seeking “good girl,” shaped by a first-generation Australian/Latvian immigrant family culture of playing small and staying safe. Bella describes marrying at 20, divorcing four years later, then repeating similar patterns in a second marriage (people-pleasing, self-abandonment, blame, weak boundaries). Years after separating and divorcing her second husband (the father of her son), they reconciled and rebuilt a deeply honest, connected partnership after both did substantial work: she trained as a feminine embodiment coach; he stopped drinking, attended therapy and men’s circles. They discuss how unrealistic cultural narratives about “perfect love” reduce self-responsibility and make normal human flaws look like red flags. Bella explains embodiment as shifting from living “neck up” into the body—tracking felt sensations, releasing “frozen tension,” and learning to respond rather than react in conflict. The episode also covers signs of “flatmate” relationships (logistics-only talk, screens, intimacy dropping), redefining sex as broader intimacy, practical reconnection via intentional touch and deeper conversations, gratitude as a practiced muscle, and how high-achievers must soften and drop control at home. Bella outlines how she helps clients discern whether to stay or leave without “should,” and how she protects herself by holding sessions in a “container” and using embodiment practices afterward. 00:00 Meet Bella Krutik 01:08 Formative Years 03:24 Immigrant Family Culture: Playing Small, Staying Safe 05:11 Embodiment & Learning Through Mistakes 07:04 Early Relationships: Unaware Patterns & a First Marriage at 20 09:49 Second Marriage, Same Patterns: The Myth of the ‘Ideal Partner’ 12:43 Reconciliation After Divorce: Inner Work, Boundaries & Vulnerability 15:54 Society’s ‘Perfect Love’ Script 19:15 What Feminine Embodiment Means in Practice (From Head to Body) 25:29 Holding Pain to Access Pleasure 31:08 From Lovers to Flatmates 35:41 Redefining Sex: From Performance to Intimacy 37:24 Rebuilding Connection: Touch, Presence, and Turning Off Distractions 39:45 The Gratitude Practice: Training Your Brain to See the Good 43:42 Imperfect Love: Slipping, Repairing, and Embracing Messy Emotions 45:12 High Achievers at Home 50:28 Stay or Go? Untangling ‘Should’ and Taking Responsibility 55:03 Protecting the Helper: Holding a ‘Container’ for Clients’ Trauma 57:50 What’s Next: Career Vision, Partnership Without Remarriage, and a Possible Book 01:05:41 Final Reflections & Farewell https://bellakcoaching.com/ https://www.instagram.com/bellakcoaching/ https://www.facebook.com/isabel.krutik

    1h 6m
  2. Lauren Venables on Safety, Somatics, and Dropping the Guard to Create Deeper Intimacy

    5D AGO

    Lauren Venables on Safety, Somatics, and Dropping the Guard to Create Deeper Intimacy

    Lauren Venables on Safety, Somatics, and Dropping the Guard to Create Deeper Intimacy Lauren Venables, a Sydney-based feminine embodiment and intimacy coach who supports high-achieving women in feeling safe enough to drop their guard and receive intimacy, pleasure, and devotion through somatic practices, nervous system work, trauma-informed coaching, grief, and relational healing. Lauren shares how she was shy, perfectionistic, and afraid to be seen as a teen despite being a dancer, and how bullying and a lack of safety in relationships shaped her early intimacy and self-expression. She describes a major turning point after a nine-year relationship that lacked passion and polarity, followed by years of mindset work before discovering body-based nervous system practices. She emphasizes creating safety in the body to support boundaries, communication, consent, and deeper intimacy, and outlines a practical approach for discussing desires with a partner: get clear on what you want, regulate through breath and somatic awareness, then speak from vulnerability without blame. The conversation explores redefining sex as intimacy and pleasure rather than penetration and performance. They address shame in the body, releasing emotion through somatic validation and feeling sensations, and the importance of self-pleasure for understanding desire and communicating preferences. The host and Lauren discuss how BDSM/kink communities often model clearer communication and boundaries, and they examine how mainstream porn and sexualized media can distort expectations and harm self-worth. Lauren reinforces that it’s never too late to reconnect with libido, especially by restoring safety amid burnout, hormones, or menopause. She also describes practitioner self-care, energetic boundaries, mentors, nature grounding, and her future aims to follow her “aliveness,” and continue living what she teaches through ongoing learning. 00:00 Meet Lauren Venables: Embodiment, Intimacy & Nervous System Safety 00:51 From Shy Teen to Confident Coach 03:15 Dancer in Her Head: Perfectionism, Bullying & Fear of Being Seen 04:43 Why High-Achieving Women Keep Their Guard Up in Love 07:06 Safety, Discernment & Finding Your Yes/No in the Body 08:24 When Success Masks Coercion: The Hidden Side of “Having It Together” 11:03 Lauren’s Turning Point 13:31 Learning to Ask for What You Need: Masculine Safety & Being Held 16:02 How to Talk About Desire Without Shame: Somatic Prep + Vulnerable Language 20:06 Redefining Sex as Intimacy: Beyond Penetration, Toward Connection 23:11 Feminism, Polarity & the Craving to Be Led (Without Losing Power) 26:13 Boundaries Without Walls: Discernment, Nervous System Clarity & Shame Release 30:38 Meeting Shame with Validation: Somatic Tools to Let It Dissolve 33:08 Why We Rush Self-Pleasure (and What We Miss) 34:12 Know Your Desire: Self-Exploration & Communicating Needs 35:46 What Kink Communities Get Right: Consent, Boundaries & Debriefs 37:58 Learning to Love Yourself Through Body Work 39:09 Porn, Media & Sexual Scripts: The Impact on Self-Worth 42:59 1:1 vs Group Work: Safety, Shame, and Going Deeper 44:48 “You’re Never Too Old”: Reclaiming Libido by Creating Safety 49:13 The Body Keeps the Score: Integrating Mind + Somatic Healing 51:04 Holding Space Without Burnout: Practitioner Self-Care & Boundaries 53:40 Grounding in Nature + Looking Ahead (Practice, Love, and Closing) https://www.laurenvenables.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurenvenables1/

    59 min
  3. Navigating Modern Therapy and Relationships with Briana Bass

    FEB 13

    Navigating Modern Therapy and Relationships with Briana Bass

    Navigating Modern Therapy and Relationships with Briana Bass In this episode, Briana Bass, a licensed professional counselor associate and board-certified clinical psychologist, shares insights from her unique background, combining high-level corporate experience and work in addiction centers. She discusses the transformative power of modern, evidence-based therapy in addressing the challenges of today's high-pressure world. Briana reflects on her formative years and explains how modern therapy differs from traditional approaches by focusing on real-world issues such as chronic stress, gender roles, political climate, and technology. She also touches on the loneliness epidemic, the impact of dating apps, and the importance of authenticity and communication in building deep, meaningful relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Briana Bass 00:45 Briana's Formative Years 02:35 Modern Therapy Explained 04:57 Challenges of Modern Life 07:33 The Impact of Technology on Relationships 16:41 Loneliness in a Connected World 17:30 Deepening Emotional Intimacy 22:25 Navigating Life Transitions 24:10 Navigating Life's Changes Together 25:02 The Power of Communication 25:41 Rebuilding Connection 26:04 Emotional Regulation and Vulnerability 27:34 Practical Tips for Reconnecting 30:23 The Impact of Modern Dating 38:47 Challenges of High-Pressure Environments 40:33 Balancing Personal and Professional Life 43:01 Maintaining Mental and Emotional Health 45:18 Final Thoughts and Reflections https://brianabass.org/

    46 min
  4. Rebuilding Self-Trust with Brylye Collins: Navigating Love, Life, and Leadership

    FEB 6

    Rebuilding Self-Trust with Brylye Collins: Navigating Love, Life, and Leadership

    Rebuilding Self-Trust with Brylye Collins: Navigating Love, Life, and Leadership In this episode, Brylye Collins, a relationship coach, talent leader, and founder of Building with Bry, shares her journey from a corporate HR and talent acquisition background to empowering singles in finding intentional relationships. Drawing on over 20 years of experience, Brylye discusses the importance of self-trust and clarity in dating, her transition from traditional corporate roles to relationship coaching, and the unique challenges high-achieving professionals face in their personal lives. Brylye also talks about the value of embracing one's individuality outside of societal labels, the drawbacks of relying on dating apps, and the importance of practicing self-care and intentional living. Additionally, she introduces her upcoming workbook and single empowerment retreats aimed at helping individuals reconnect with themselves before pursuing relationships. The conversation also touches on the dynamics of modern dating, the importance of realistic expectations, and fostering genuine connections. 00:00 Introduction to Brylye Collins 01:27 Career Journey and Transition 03:18 Founding Rose Talent Consulting 04:52 Building with Bry: Personal Empowerment 05:40 Reconnecting with Yourself 09:45 Challenges in Modern Dating 17:19 Matchmaking Insights and Practices 21:37 Client Expectations and Realities 24:51 Evaluating Client Readiness 26:30 The Lessons in Meeting People 27:09 Navigating Post-Divorce Relationships 28:23 The Impact of Modern Communication on Relationships 31:22 The Importance of Thriving Solo 33:26 Embracing Solitude and Self-Discovery 35:02 Handling Intimacy After Long-Term Relationships 36:59 Empowerment Retreats and Workbooks 43:01 Balancing Personal Wellbeing 45:57 Finding the Right Relationship 50:25 Final Thoughts on Relationships and Self-Growth https://www.buildingwithbry.com/ http://instagram.com/buildingwithbry.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/brylyecollins/ https://www.tiktok.com/@bryduffy?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

    52 min
  5. Embracing Pleasure and Power: A Deep Dive with Dr. Jordin Wiggins

    FEB 4

    Embracing Pleasure and Power: A Deep Dive with Dr. Jordin Wiggins

    Embracing Pleasure and Power: A Deep Dive with Dr. Jordin Wiggins In this insightful episode, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a naturopathic doctor, author, and pleasure and intimacy coach, shares her revolutionary approach to women's sexual health and wellness. As the CEO of the Pleasure Collective and host of the Amazing Pleasure Principles podcast, Dr. Wiggins combines her 13 years of holistic medical experience with personal insights as a sexual abuse survivor to help high-achieving women reclaim their pleasure. She discusses her journey, the impact of hormone health on sexual desire, and the systemic issues in women's healthcare. Dr. Wiggins also emphasizes the importance of pleasure in all aspects of life and offers practical advice for women to receive and enjoy more from their lives. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand the deep connections between pleasure, health, and overall well-being. 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Jordin Wiggins 01:20 Formative Years and Early Influences 03:24 Hormone and Sexual Health Journey 05:23 The Pink Canary and Rediscovering Pleasure 07:01 Challenges in Women's Health and Hormone Therapy 09:35 Super Traits and Their Impact on Relationships 21:39 Expanding the Definition of Pleasure 26:35 Medical System Gaps and Women's Health 35:05 Receiving in Life and Relationships 39:13 The Value of Support and Compensation 39:56 Embracing Sensation and Tantra 40:34 Emotional Shifts and Relationship Dynamics 41:58 Navigating Perimenopause and Hormone Therapy 44:09 Pleasure-Centered Relationships 46:35 Challenges of Long-Term Relationships 49:07 Self-Discovery and Authenticity 51:35 Protecting Mental Wellbeing 54:26 Healing from Abuse and Rebuilding 01:01:17 Recognizing Coercive Control 01:04:12 Starting the Journey to Deeper Intimacy 01:07:35 Future Plans and Final Thoughts https://form.typeform.com/to/p9OQD3F5?typeform-source=www.upwork.com https://www.thepleasurecollective.com/ https://www.facebook.com/jordin.wiggins https://www.youtube.com/@thepleasurecollective https://www.instagram.com/drjordinwiggins/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/drwigginsnd/ https://www.tiktok.com/@drjordinwiggins

    1h 11m
  6. Reclaiming Intimacy: Xanet Pailet's Journey from Sexless Marriage to Passionate Coach

    JAN 30

    Reclaiming Intimacy: Xanet Pailet's Journey from Sexless Marriage to Passionate Coach

    Reclaiming Intimacy: Xanet Pailet's Journey from Sexless Marriage to Passionate Coach In this episode, Xanet Pailet, a nationally recognized sex and intimacy coach, shares her transformative journey from a 26-year sexless marriage and a successful career as a healthcare executive to becoming a somatic sexologist and author. Pailet discusses her immersive healing retreats, her approach to trauma-informed body-based sexuality, and the importance of emotional and physical intimacy. She offers practical insights into how couples can reconnect and rekindle their passion, emphasizing the roles of empathy, safe communication, and somatic experiences. As she gears up for the release of her new book, 'The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit,' Pailet provides valuable advice for those seeking to improve their intimate lives. 00:00 Introduction to Xanet Pailet 01:04 Personal Journey and Formative Years 02:00 Challenges in a Sexless Marriage 05:41 Awakening and Self-Discovery 09:37 Transition to a New Career 13:05 The Importance of Pleasure and Intimacy 15:12 Modern Challenges to Intimacy 24:32 Tools for Improving Intimacy 27:46 Expectations vs. Reality of Couples Retreats 28:57 Tools for Emotional Safety and Empathy 30:19 Physical Aspects of Intimacy 31:18 Navigating Empty Nest Syndrome 35:19 The Importance of Somatic Experiencing 43:20 Future Plans and New Projects 48:35 Self-Care and Professional Boundaries 51:19 Taking Action to Reclaim Intimacy https://howtoimprovemylovellife.com/ https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com/ https://www.instagram.com/xanetpop/ https://www.youtube.com/@thepowerofpleasure8132/featured https://www.facebook.com/xanetpailet https://www.linkedin.com/in/xanet-pailet-2b464671/

    54 min
  7. Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality with Gigi Engle

    JAN 28

    Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality with Gigi Engle

    Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality with Gigi Engle In this episode, we dive deep into sexuality, intimacy, and diverse relationships with Gigi Engle, a renowned sex and relationship psychotherapist. Starting with Gigi's formative years and journey in sex education, the discussion spans various topics including the pitfalls of traditional sex education, the impact of pornography on young minds, and the importance of pleasure-based sex education. Gigi shares insights on the dynamics in kinky and polyamorous relationships, the significance of open communication, and how societal norms shape our views on intimacy. They also discuss Gigi's forthcoming book 'Kink Curious,' shedding light on its contents and its aim to guide beginners and seasoned kinksters alike. The conversation further touches on the intersectionality of gender, sexuality, and disabilities in sex therapy, and ponders the future of sexual wellness in the age of AI and virtual connections. 00:00 Introduction to Gigi Engle 01:04 Formative Years and Early Career 03:55 Sex Education and Societal Norms 05:45 Impact of Pornography on Sexuality 12:00 Redefining Sex and Pleasure 16:26 Communication and Consent in Relationships 25:46 Exploring Kink and BDSM 29:07 Insights from Writing 'Kink Curious' 30:20 Introduction to the Book 30:35 Book Structure and Content 31:58 Exploring Unique Kinks 33:01 Non-Monogamy and Polyamory 36:39 Jealousy and Relationship Dynamics 41:26 Therapist's Personal Journey 49:44 AI in Sexual Wellness 53:22 Future Trends and Final Though https://www.missgigiengle.com/ https://www.missgigiengle.com/portfolio/books

    57 min
  8. Exploring Power, Art, and Intimacy: A Deep Dive with Mistress Malisandre

    JAN 26

    Exploring Power, Art, and Intimacy: A Deep Dive with Mistress Malisandre

    Exploring Power, Art, and Intimacy: A Deep Dive with Mistress Malisandre Mistress Malisandre, an artist, author, and power dynamic educator, discusses how her work with the House of Embers explores the transformation of power through art and immersive experiences. She shares her journey into power dynamics, beginning with observing power in her formative years and eventually becoming a professional dominatrix. Malisandre elaborates on the misconceptions surrounding BDSM and how she integrates elements of power dynamics into the lives of vanilla couples, emphasizing the importance of communication and consent. She also reflects on the vulnerability involved in her role, the ritualistic aspects of her practice, and her efforts to mentor others in the community. Additionally, Malisandre talks about her ongoing projects, including writing a book, and her mission to change conversations around power dynamics and therapy. The conversation touches on themes of intentional living, self-acceptance, and the necessity of maintaining boundaries. 00:00 Introduction to Mistress Malisandre 00:42 Early Life and Power Dynamics 03:21 Exploring Power in Relationships 04:50 Journey into BDSM 08:47 Misconceptions About BDSM 13:13 Communication in Relationships 18:24 Professional Domination and Personal Growth 31:15 Art and Ritual in Domination 41:17 Empathy and Holding Space 42:05 Freedom Through Control 42:52 Understanding Power Dynamics 44:07 The Process of Release 48:09 Setting Boundaries in Domination 53:35 Maintaining Personal Wellbeing 58:54 Balancing Vulnerability and Strength 01:08:32 Future Aspirations and Projects https://www.instagram.com/malisandres_place/ https://substack.com/@malisandre https://www.mistressmalisandre.com/

    1h 20m
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Welcome to The Intimacy Inquiry. Join us for open, curious, and non-judgmental conversations exploring the vast landscape of intimacy and sexuality. We delve into everything, including but not limited to, the value of good sex education to the importance of exploring and understanding our own bodies, overcoming trauma, and how to forge deeper connections with your partner, . Our expert guests include sex therapists, adult content creators, sexologists, authors, somatic healers, porn addiction specialists, marriage and family therapists, intimacy therapists, trauma-informed counselors, and many more. Using explicit language with respect, we fearlessly tackle topics like love, desire, passion, relationships, sexuality and gender, BDSM, tantric sex, massage, touching, kissing, and masturbation – essentially, anything and everything related to intimacy. If you're ready to explore the complexities and nuances of human connection and desire in a respectful and insightful way, you've found your space. Subscribe to The Intimacy Inquiry and join the conversation.

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  • Creator
    Andrew Phipps
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    106
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Andrew Phipps
  • Show Website
    The Intimacy Inquiry