The Fat and Horny Podcast

Nobuhle N Nyoni

They lied to you. Women are sexual beings! Welcome to The Fat and Horny Podcast, hosted by Nobuhle N Nyoni, The Sex Storyteller. This is a space where African, Black and Brown women talk about sex, sexuality, sexual health, and sex education, at their intersection with culture, religion, and patriarchy. We know it sounds too serious, but we promise we have a good time with it, too. In season 2, Dawryn Nyiramugisha, a sex coach, teaches us how to breathe during sex for heightened pleasure. Alwande, a somatic sex coach, shares funny and vulnerable moments that shaped her sexual confidence. Warimi Karogo, host of the 69 Podcast, paints a picture of what sexual practices looked like before colonisation to highlight the erasure of African culture and history. See? We keep it balanced because decolonising sex should feel that way. The goal? To educate women out of sexual trauma and into pleasure. Fat or not! More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen If you aren't in a position to do that yet, a rating, follow or comment on your favourite podcast platform will also go a long way.

  1. Oct 22

    How Vaginismus Affects Your Mental Health, Relationships, and Your Identity with Elizabeth Adewale

    Vaginismus is not just a physical condition. It follows you into the mirror, into your relationships, and into your quiet moments. In this episode, Elizabeth Adewale and I talk about what vaginismus does to a woman beyond the physical pain. We get into how vaginismus reshapes the way a woman sees herself and her identity as a sexual being, and what it does to intimate relationships. Purity culture and religion are brought into the conversation, and sit at the base of the shame women often feel when they think their bodies are "failing" them. About Our Guest Elizabeth Adewale is a certified sexuality educator, public health professional, and sexual and reproductive health advocate. She holds a Master’s degree in Public Health and has spent the past five years educating thousands of people on sexual health, pleasure, intimacy, contraception, and reproductive wellbeing through digital platforms, workshops, and partnerships with health organizations. Her work focuses on helping people better understand their bodies, enjoy healthier and more fulfilling intimate relationships, navigate concerns around pain and pleasure, and access evidence-based sexual health information that is practical, accessible, and free from shame. Connect with her: IG & TikTok: @theelizabethadewale Twitter (X): @elizaego Contact details: contact.elizabethadewale@gmail.com Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every contribution counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. ---------------------------------- Keywords: vaginismus, pelvic floor, mental health, women's sexual health, intimate relationships, pain during sex, pain during penetration, trauma and vaginismus

    How Vaginismus Affects Your Mental Health, Relationships, and Your Identity with Elizabeth Adewale

  2. Oct 15

    Vaginismus, the Pelvic Floor, and the Trauma Behind Your Pain with Faith Duncan Shotunde

    If you have been told that vaginismus is simply a vaginal problem, this episode will change everything you thought you knew. In this conversation, I sit down with Faith Duncan Shotunde, a pelvic floor physiotherapist, to unpack what vaginismus actually is. Faith breaks down the different types of vaginismus, the causes that Black and Brown women specifically may never have considered, and why vaginismus is a full-body issue that goes far deeper than the vagina alone. We also get into the role of the pelvic floor muscles in vaginismus, the trauma that often sits underneath the physical symptoms and the effects of vaginismus on newborns during childbirth. About Our Guest Faith Duncan-Shotunde is an Award-winning Pelvic Floor Expert | Global Speaker |Educator | Creator of Fast-Result Pelvic Health Systems. She was recognised as the pioneer of Women and Pelvic Health Physiotherapy in Lagos State, Nigeria. She has spent the last 16 years developing rehabilitation systems, training physiotherapists, and designing structured solutions that help men and women overcome pelvic floor dysfunctions within 30 days. Through her systems, she has helped women achieve pain-free vaginal penetration after years of fear, men experience consistent erections and improved stamina, individuals eliminate urine leakage during daily activities, and pregnant women experience shorter labour without vaginal tears- improving the quality of life around intimate health and scaling economic development with healthy individuals.  She is ranked as Nigeria's Number one Leading Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist and a top three pelvic floor physiotherapist in Africa. She is the creator of Fear Free Sex, Hard Stamina, Control Over Peezing and Preggofit- proven frameworks that help individuals overcome Pelvic floor problems within 15 days. She has collaborated with notable women's health organisations including Jumejilo, Fertitude, Babymigo, and Lavendarcare. Her work has been featured on platforms such as the International Forum on Women's Health Care, Mypelvicfloormuscle, RCCG Convention, Eko FM, amongst others. Connect with her: Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/faithduncanshotunde?stkn=bGxwdWdkcm9hOW9i @faithduncanshotunde wa.me/+2347063993734 www.thewomanhealthphysio.com Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. ---------------------------------- Keywords: vaginismus, pelvic floor, types of vaginismus, women's sexual health, vaginismus and childbirth, pain during sex, pain during penetration, trauma and vaginismus

    Vaginismus, the Pelvic Floor, and the Trauma Behind Your Pain with Faith Duncan Shotunde

  3. Oct 8

    A Twitter Thread Diagnosed Me with Vaginismus with Nobuhle N Nyoni

    In this episode, I am sharing my personal journey with vaginismus. The years of painful sex I called normal, the compliments I mistook for confirmation that everything was fine, and the moment a doctor confirmed what a stranger on the internet had already told me. This is the episode I wish had existed when I was trying to figure out what happening to my body. THis episode opens Season 3 of The Fat and Horny Podcast, themed Body Uncensored. A season dedicated to the pain African and Black women are told is normal, the diagnoses that take too long, and the conversations our communities are not having about women's sexual health. This season we are covering vaginismus, endometriosis, PMOS, menopause, menatal health and sexuality, STIs, FGM, and more! Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   Join our community of 700+ women: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. ------------------------------------ Keywords: vaginismus, women's sexual health, vaginismus diagnosis, vaginsimus symptoms, pain during sex, Nobuhle N Nyoni

    A Twitter Thread Diagnosed Me with Vaginismus with Nobuhle N Nyoni

  4. 11/13/2025

    But It Was a Woman? Validating Survivors of Same-Sex Sexual Violence with Alice Mills Mai

    Content Warning: This episode contains conversations about various forms of sexual assault and violence. Please prioritise your well-being and listen with care. If you need to, feel free to skip this episode. In this episode, Alice Mills Mai helps us understand the sexual trauma often faced by same-sex violence survivors. She defines what intimate partner violence can look like and speaks to the reality that healing and trauma recovery don't look the same for every survivor. Society and authorities lessen the severity of these charges because "it was just a woman." Yet bodies only remember the sexual violence exerted on them, not the gender of the perpetrator. This problem exists because the legal definition of rape or sexual assault is penetration-centred, ignoring non-consensual acts such as touching, coercion, and the violation of boundaries within BDSM dynamics. Dr. Alice brings a key perspective on validating survivors' experiences, especially when their trauma is dismissed because the perpetrator was another woman. The discussion sheds light on the barriers faced by marginalised groups, including Black women, masculine-presenting lesbians, and fat women, who are often not believed by law enforcement or their own communities. Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content Is Queen. ------------------------------- Keywords: sexual violence, sexual assault, sexual trauma, consent, LGBTQIA+, body image, sex and sexuality, trauma healing, Dr Alice The Trauma Therapist,

    But It Was a Woman? Validating Survivors of Same-Sex Sexual Violence with Alice Mills Mai

  5. 10/29/2025

    At What Age Does My Body Belong to Me? with Amanda Tayte-Tait

    Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of child sexual abuse. Please prioritise your well-being and listen with care. If you need to, feel free to skip this episode. How do you reclaim your body and find pleasure after sexual trauma? In this conversation, we speak with Amanda Tayte-Tait, a survivor of child sexual abuse that began when she was just six years old. Amanda shares her journey of healing from the sexual shame, numbness, and societal silence surrounding abuse, highlighting the harm behind purity culture and how it inhibits healing and self-forgiveness. She helps us understand what it took for her to understand the power of consent, communicate her sexual boundaries, and reconnect her body to sex and pleasure after years of living with sexual trauma. We also discuss the powerful message behind her book, At What Age Does My Body Belong to Me? Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content Is Queen. --------------------------- Keywords: child sexual abuse, sexual trauma, sexual assault, rape, sexual violence, sex and sexuality, trauma healing, hypersexuality, sexual shame, pleasure

    At What Age Does My Body Belong to Me? with Amanda Tayte-Tait

  6. 10/16/2025

    Decolonise Sex For Mind-blowing Orgasms with Dawryn Nyiramugisha

    What if your sexual wellness and pleasure weren't just a personal goal, but a power you were always meant to claim? In this episode, holistic sexologist and intimacy coach Dawryn Nyiramugisha explores the revolutionary idea that fat women have an erotic birthright, and she takes us back into African culture to prove it. She dismantles the colonial myths and shame that have historically denied this truth, replacing them with a joy-filled roadmap to reclaiming your sensual power. Dawryn shares how to blend African sensual wisdom with practical tools, techniques to rewire your brain, and how to express your sexual desires, especially in queer relationships confidently. She reminds us of the importance of breathing and staying present during sex. Bonus: She teaches us how to breathe during sex for heightened pleasure. Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content Is Queen. ------------------------- Keywords: decolonising sex, sex and sexuality, body image, beauty standards, sensuality, African culture, intimacy, women's pleasure, sexual wellness

    Decolonise Sex For Mind-blowing Orgasms with Dawryn Nyiramugisha

  7. 10/06/2025

    The Truth About Sexual Liberation That Nobody Taught You with Dr Donna Oriowo

    Hookup culture is sold as fun, freeing, and low-pressure. But for women, especially those navigating societal expectations and internalised sexual shame, the reality can be a minefield of ghosting, mixed signals, and shattered confidence. In this conversation, award-winning therapist and author Dr. Donna Oriowo dismantles hookup culture myths and explores the heart of what sexual liberation truly requires. She asks the tough questions: What are the mental and emotional costs of casual sex? How does being ghosted truly impact self-worth? And is the goal really "hookup culture," or are we just seeking power in a world that tells us our desire for pleasure is wrong? Dr. Donna challenges listeners to move beyond toxic individualism and see sexual healing as a community project. She helps us understand how to define sexual liberation for yourself, the crucial role of masturbation in self-knowledge, and why the LGBTQIA+ community holds the blueprint for the freedom so many claim to want. Book recommendations to decolonise your pleasure: Pleasure Activism, Good Sex, and Dr. Donna's Drink Water & Mind Your Business. Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content is Queen. ---------------------------------------- Keywords: sexual liberation, hookup culture, patriarchy, casual sex, pleasure, LGBTQIA+, body image, healing, masturbation, sex and sexuality

    The Truth About Sexual Liberation That Nobody Taught You with Dr Donna Oriowo

  8. 09/29/2025

    Does Sex With Fat Women Smell? And Other Sexual Lies We Need to Unlearn.

    Are fat women serving boring sex? In this episode, a Zimbabwean man talks about the intersections of sex, cultural sexual myths, and body image within the African context. He touches on how young boys are often socialised to view sex as a conquest rather than an emotional connection, leaving women to bear the weight of these expectations. The guest shares his personal journey of unlearning harmful sexual beliefs and navigating intimacy, from his late sexual debut to discovering the importance of mutual pleasure and communication. In the conversation, he dispels myths about fat women being "lazy during sex" or sexually undesirable, sharing his positive sexual experiences and highlighting the importance of confidence and adventure in the bedroom, from navigating sex positions to embracing sex toys, offering a fresh male perspective. Please help us reach more women discovering their sexuality, healing from sexual trauma, and learning to love their bodies beyond society's beauty standards. Rate or follow The Fat and Horny Podcast on Spotify, Afripods or Apple Podcasts. It helps others find us, and we would love to have them in this community. More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Follow us on TikTok: @youngandoversharing Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee. Every dime and dollar counts when it comes to women's pleasure. Buy us a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen   Be a guest: If you are an expert in sex, sexuality, or sexual health, or you have a personal experience that taught you how to heal or reclaim your pleasure, we would love to have you on the show. Please send your pitch to oversharingyoungwomen@gmail.com. Sponsored by Content Is Queen. --------------------------- Keywords: fatphobia, sex and sexuality, sex toys, African culture, pleasure, sex positions, decolonising sex, intersection of sex and culture, intimacy

    Does Sex With Fat Women Smell? And Other Sexual Lies We Need to Unlearn.
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They lied to you. Women are sexual beings! Welcome to The Fat and Horny Podcast, hosted by Nobuhle N Nyoni, The Sex Storyteller. This is a space where African, Black and Brown women talk about sex, sexuality, sexual health, and sex education, at their intersection with culture, religion, and patriarchy. We know it sounds too serious, but we promise we have a good time with it, too. In season 2, Dawryn Nyiramugisha, a sex coach, teaches us how to breathe during sex for heightened pleasure. Alwande, a somatic sex coach, shares funny and vulnerable moments that shaped her sexual confidence. Warimi Karogo, host of the 69 Podcast, paints a picture of what sexual practices looked like before colonisation to highlight the erasure of African culture and history. See? We keep it balanced because decolonising sex should feel that way. The goal? To educate women out of sexual trauma and into pleasure. Fat or not! More from us: Subscribe to the Young & Oversharing Newsletter Support the podcast: If you want to hear more conversations like this, please support the podcast by buying us a coffee here: https://buymeacoffee.com/foryoungwomen If you aren't in a position to do that yet, a rating, follow or comment on your favourite podcast platform will also go a long way.

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  • Creator
    Nobuhle N Nyoni
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    16
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Nobuhle N Nyoni
  • Show Website
    The Fat and Horny Podcast