Behind The White Coat - Real Talk For Physician Spouses

Amanda

Being married to medicine comes with challenges—long hours, relocations, and feeling like you’re navigating it all alone. That’s where this podcast comes in. I’m sharing the things I wish someone had told me—how to survive medical training, juggle parenting, manage finances, and actually build a life you love. We’ll cover everything from making friends in a new city to understanding insurance, finding childcare, and staying connected as a couple. Some episodes will be just me, sharing real stories and lessons learned. Other times, I’ll bring on expert guests—financial advisors, physician spouses, and those who’ve been through it all—to offer practical advice. Most of all, this is a place for community. A space where you can feel understood, supported, and even laugh along the way. Because being married to medicine doesn’t mean doing it alone. So grab a coffee (or wine!), and let’s talk about the real side of life Behind The White Coat.

  1. 2D AGO

    #48| Self-Care Is A Necessity, Not A Luxury

    We slow down together with a breath and get honest about self-care for the messy, tired days when we still have to show up. We redefine self-care as a necessity and share simple, low-cost ways to feel more like ourselves again, especially as physician spouses and partners.  • why self-care gets skipped: no time, no energy, no money and the belief it is selfish  • what running on empty looks like: exhaustion, irritability, disconnection and short patience  • a clear definition of real self-care beyond bubble baths and shopping  • questions to find your version of self-care: what restores you, grounds you and brings joy  • five-minute reset with breathing and stillness for consistent relief  • free movement ideas that shift mood: walking, stretching, yoga and YouTube workouts  • small morning or night rituals: silence, journaling, brain dumps, reading and gratitude  • connection check-ins: calls, voice memos and simple time with a friend  • protecting your energy with boundaries: saying no, leaving early and not over-explaining  Send me a message, tell me what that one small act is that you are going to implement today.  Share this episode with somebody that you feel like maybe does need to stop for a minute, slow down, and implement self-care themselves.  If you enjoyed this episode, I would love for you to subscribe and leave a review. Connect with me on Instagram or email me at amanda@abtnhomes.com with your thoughts, topic ideas, questions, or even guest suggestions.

    12 min
  2. FEB 23

    #45| Money Guidance That Matches Medicine: Aligning Advice With Your Life

    We sit down with Lauren Oschman of Vestia Advisors to demystify how to choose a financial advisor who truly understands physician life, from RVUs and contracts to maternity leave and disability. We dig into independence, credentials, and fee models so you can interview with confidence. • What real financial planning includes beyond investments • Why independence and conflicts of interest matter • CFP and ChFC credentials and specialized expertise • Fee structures explained: commissions, AUM, flat fees, hybrids • How physician finances differ and why stakes are higher • Risk management, asset protection, and insurance fit • One question that reveals decision support through change • How to connect with Lauren and find more resources If you are interviewing a financial advisor, Lauren recommends starting with these five key questions: 1. Do you work with doctors? If so, how many? Understand their experience with physician households and how familiar they are with the financial realities of medical careers. 2. What will you actually do for me? Go beyond investments. Ask for real, practical examples of how they support clients in areas like contracts, compensation, loans, disability claims, maternity leave planning, and more. 3. Are you independent? Clarify whether they provide unbiased advice or are tied to a specific bank, insurance company, or private equity structure. 4. What are your qualifications? Look for respected designations such as CFP or ChFC, and ask about any specialized credentials that may be relevant to physician families. 5. How do you get paid? Understand their fee structure and identify any potential conflicts of interest in how they earn compensation. Follow Lauren on Instagram or visit her website for contact details and to learn more about her services. If this conversation was meaningful to you, feel free to reach out or share it with a friend, your partner, or another physician spouse navigating similar decisions. Also, please consider subscribing or leaving a review to help more physician families discover the show.  Connect with me on Instagram or email me at amanda@abtnhomes.com with your thoughts, topic ideas, questions, or even guest suggestions.

    38 min
  3. FEB 2

    #42| How A Simple Weekly Call Became A Lifeline For Physician Partners

    Two journeys run side by side: a physician’s career and a partner’s quiet evolution. We explore the unseen weight physician families carry, how a simple weekly call became a global lifeline, and practical steps to move from surviving to mostly thriving. • medlife backstory across training, fellowship, and practice • strain of transition to attending with a young family • hitting a low point and choosing to rebuild • origins of The Flipside and why the name matters • pandemic-era Connect Calls and global community growth • what the weekly calls look like and who they serve • hidden burdens partners carry and identity shifts • privilege and struggle coexisting without canceling each other • micro-connections as relationship glue • advocacy, research, and integrating partner voices in medical education • one practical action for overwhelmed partners today • how to find Hayley and join the community • listener offer for membership TFSL Membership: Our guest, Hayley, has generously shared an exclusive discount for listeners. Use the code AMANDA to receive $50 CAD off the TFSL Membership, regularly priced at $149.99 CAD. This offer is valid until February 28, 2017, so be sure to take advantage of it before it expires.  If you would like to connect with Hayley and learn more about her work, you can find her on Instagram. You can also visit The Flipside Life’s website or follow their Instagram page for more information, resources, and updates.  If this episode sparked something for you, I would love for you to subscribe, leave a review, or pass it along to someone in your circle who needs to hear it.  Connect with me on Instagram or email me at amanda@abtnhomes.com with your thoughts, topic ideas, questions, or even guest suggestions.

    29 min
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About

Being married to medicine comes with challenges—long hours, relocations, and feeling like you’re navigating it all alone. That’s where this podcast comes in. I’m sharing the things I wish someone had told me—how to survive medical training, juggle parenting, manage finances, and actually build a life you love. We’ll cover everything from making friends in a new city to understanding insurance, finding childcare, and staying connected as a couple. Some episodes will be just me, sharing real stories and lessons learned. Other times, I’ll bring on expert guests—financial advisors, physician spouses, and those who’ve been through it all—to offer practical advice. Most of all, this is a place for community. A space where you can feel understood, supported, and even laugh along the way. Because being married to medicine doesn’t mean doing it alone. So grab a coffee (or wine!), and let’s talk about the real side of life Behind The White Coat.

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