In the Grey

Shelby Steward
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  • Self-Improvement

 Life, identity, and everything they told us not to talk about. Because life isn't black and white. 

  1. Jun 2

    I'm back.... with Toxic Love and Betrayal

    Sometimes the people who hurt us the most aren't strangers. They're the people we trusted with our hearts. In this episode of In the Grey, we explore the painful reality that not everyone who says they love you wants to see you succeed. We talk about the friends, family members, partners, and loved ones who seem comfortable when you're struggling but become distant, critical, or resentful when you start growing, healing, and thriving. Why do some people support us when we're at our lowest but disappear when we're at our best? Why does success make certain people uncomfortable? And how do we tell the difference between genuine love and relationships built on dependency? This conversation dives into betrayal, conditional support, toxic loyalty, and the hard truth that some people need you to stay broken because it makes them feel important. We discuss the subtle ways people sabotage those they claim to care about and what it means to choose your own growth, even when it costs you relationships. If you've ever felt betrayed by someone you trusted, questioned whether people were truly happy for you, or struggled with letting go of relationships that only worked when you were struggling, this episode is for you. Because real love does not fear your growth. It celebrates it.

    15 min

  2. Feb 1

    When You Realize You’re the Problem

    There’s a moment most of us try to outrun. Not the moment someone hurts us.  Not the moment something falls apart. But the moment we realize we’re not just reacting to life…we’ve been contributing to the patterns we keep finding ourselves in. This episode isn’t about self-hatred. It isn’t about shame spirals. It isn’t about labeling yourself as “bad.” It’s about the quiet, destabilizing realization that defensiveness no longer works. Your explanations feel thin. That your old stories don’t hold the way they used to. We talk about the grief of outgrowing a version of yourself you once defended. Why shame often shows up after awareness. What it feels like to double down instead of change. And what it took for me to finally choose honesty over being right. No villains. No escape hatches. Just a mirror. If you’ve ever felt yourself standing at the edge of real self-confrontation…this episode is for you.

    7 min

  3. Jan 14

    You Can Be a Victim and Still Be Toxic

    Being hurt doesn’t automatically make you safe to be around. In this episode of In the Grey, we sit with one of the most avoided truths: trauma can explain behavior without excusing it—and unresolved pain can still cause real harm. This conversation isn’t about blaming survivors or denying lived experience. It’s about honesty. About the ways survival patterns can quietly turn into control, manipulation, emotional unpredictability, and avoidance of responsibility. We talk about how unhealed trauma leaks into relationships, why being wounded doesn’t grant immunity from accountability, and what it actually means to break the cycle instead of repeating it. This episode is heavy. It’s uncomfortable. And for some, it may be the first time the mirror doesn’t flinch. Listen with care. Sit with it. Let it change you.

    6 min

  4. Jan 7

    Being Hurt Doesn’t Automatically Make You Right.

    Pain has a way of convincing us we’re justified, justified in our words, our silence, our distance, our anger. But hurt isn’t the same thing as truth, and suffering doesn’t automatically grant moral authority. In this episode of In the Grey, we sit in the uncomfortable space between impact and responsibility. I talk about how being wounded can blur our self-awareness, how easily pain turns into entitlement, and why accountability still matters—even when you were wronged first. We unpack the difference between reacting and responding, why “I was hurt” isn’t the same as “I was right,” and how unchecked pain can quietly turn us into the very thing that hurt us. This isn’t about shaming yourself for having emotions; it’s about refusing to let your pain become a weapon. If you’ve ever justified behavior because of what you went through… If you’ve ever looked back and thought, I get why I did that—but I still wish I hadn’t…This episode is for you. Growth doesn’t start when the hurt ends. It starts when honesty begins.

    7 min

  5. 12/31/2025

    Why We Can’t Communicate: Mirroring, Deflection, Playing the Victim & Listening to Respond

    In this episode of In the Grey, we’re unpacking the real reasons communication collapses — not in theory, but in the everyday moments when we emotionally mirror someone instead of supporting them, when we deflect instead of taking responsibility, when we slip into victim mode, and especially when we listen to respond instead of listening to understand. Through real examples and relatable scenarios, we explore how these habits quietly erode trust, safety, and connection in our relationships.  Then we bring it all together with a powerful conversation about what we can actually do to strengthen our communication skills in 2026 — individually, as partners, as friends, and as human beings learning to show up better. If you’ve ever thought, “Why does every conversation feel like a misunderstanding?” — this episode is for you.

    11 min

  6. 12/24/2025

    Coming Back, Breaking Down, and Christmas

    🎙️✨ Hey friends… I’m officially BACK. After taking some much-needed time off social media, I’m here — rested, graduated, slightly unhinged, and more grounded than ever 😅🤍. In this catch-up episode, I open up about why I stepped away, what the silence taught me, and how it feels to finally walk across that stage 🎓🥂 after months of juggling work, school, and life. We talk healing 🌱😮‍💨, burnout, emotional honesty, and why sometimes disappearing for a minute is the only way to stay whole. And with Christmas tomorrow 🎄🤍✨, I’m sharing a heartfelt message for anyone navigating the holidays — whether they’re magical, messy, lonely, chaotic, or somewhere in between. Whatever your day looks like, you deserve softness, peace, and a little light. If you’ve been waiting for the return of In the Grey, this one feels like coming home. 🤍

    6 min

  7. 07/26/2025

    The Entitlement of Millennials

    "Are millennials really entitled—or just misunderstood?" In this episode of In the Grey, we dive deep into the millennial stereotype: the belief that rules apply to everyone else but us. From the roots of entitlement to the pressure of proving you’re not “one of those millennials,” we explore where these attitudes come from, why they’re so polarizing, and how to move toward accountability without losing compassion.

    7 min

  8. 07/19/2025

    High Functioning But Falling Apart

    Some of us don’t miss a deadline. We show up, smile, check on others, and get the job done. On the outside? Calm. Collected. Capable. On the inside? Tired. Hollow. Quietly unraveling. This episode is for the ones who look fine but don’t feel fine. For the ones who’ve mastered the art of coping through achievement, hiding pain behind productivity. We talk about:  🧠 What high-functioning anxiety and depression really look like  🤐 Why so many of us hide our struggle  💔 The emotional toll of being “the strong one”  🫂 And why you deserve support—without having to break first You don’t owe the world performance. You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to feel. You’re allowed to be human.

    8 min
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 Life, identity, and everything they told us not to talk about. Because life isn't black and white. 

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  • Creator
    Shelby Steward
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    24
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 In the Grey
  • Show Website
    In the Grey