Rebelling

Amy Knott Parrish

The Rebelling podcast is a thoughtful, emotionally honest podcast about identity, neurodivergence, and unlearning the pressure to be "normal." It has a mix of solo and interview episodes that are both curious and practical, about coping mechanisms, work, resources, relationships, and the inherited systems that shape our lives. It's the kind of podcast that makes you think differently about humanity, connection, and how we orient to reality. 

  1. 2D AGO

    Questioning How Work Works

    In this episode, I sit down for another conversation with Dana Calder, a queer, neurodivergent SVP in the fintech world and owner of EmberMind Consulting. Dana and I start with sourdough starter and baking, which turns out to be a surprisingly good entry point into our conversation about how work works. We talk about hierarchy, trust, AI, workplaces, and what happens when we try to use industrialized systems to do relational work, and relational systems to do industrialized work.   We both come at this through a neurodivergent lens, and what we’re trying to make sense of is that feeling of something not making sense, and what happens when you try to adjust yourself to make it work without looking at what the systems are actually trying to do. These are the two types of systems we're taking about today: Relational:  systems that pay attention to connection, context, and the fact that people are always affecting each other. It’s not about being nice or performative, it’s about actually treating relationship as part of the work itself.  Industrialized: systems built around efficiency, predictability, and standardization, systems that tend to assume people should be consistent, measurable, and somewhat interchangeable. We talk about the confusion that shows up over and over at work when we use the wrong system for the wrong thing. We try to standardize human experience, things like communication, trust, conflict, leadership, and then wonder why it feels flat or performative. And at the same time, we take decisions that actually need clarity and closure and turn them into ongoing relational processes, so nothing fully resolves, but everyone stays emotionally responsible for it. The tension underneath it all is what it feels like to be a person trying to make sense of systems that are built for predictability doing work full of ambiguity, while also carrying emotional and relational weight for things that actually just need to be decided. This conversation is about noticing that pattern as it shows up in work, leadership, and systems, and what might shift when we start to name it.  Dana Calder Embermind Consulting Sign up for Rebelling Study Hall

    59 min
  2. JAN 19

    Stretch & Repair: Finding Security in Connection with Jen Andrew

    I've been wondering...what if social security wasn’t just a government program, but something we build together with the people in and around our lives? In this episode of the Social Security series, Jen Andrew, a disability rights advocate, herbalist, and guest from The Myth of Knowing series, joins me to explore another reframe: relationships as a form of social security, and how showing up, stretching, and repairing can create the support systems we all need.  Jen and I talk about the complex, confusing, gratifying, and very real work of connection: balancing self-responsibility with reciprocity, holding space for discomfort, and learning how to give and receive care without losing ourselves. We talk about different levels of closeness, accountability, repair, and the subtle shifts that transform relationships into a social safety net.  If you’ve ever wished for a variety of relationships that can sustain as well as support you, and wondered how to navigate the discomfort that comes with being in community, this conversation is for you. Together, we rethink connection, care, and what it truly means to be secure with each other. Lovette Jallow The Lovette Jallow Perspective  Website Repentance and Repair Book by Danya Ruttenberg Gloria Alamrew Healing is Making Us Mean Dave Meesters Dining Halls Now! Adam Wilson The Peasantry School Newsletter Sand River Farm Website Garrett Bucks The White Pages Ben Folds Capable of Anything This song isn't mentioned in the episode, but when Jen says “I had a therapist say to me once, this might be controversial, but everyone is capable of abuse. Not that everyone’s an abuser, but that everyone actually can engage in abusive behavior, and talking about how are we responsible to each other, recognizing that in ourselves instead of … this person is good, this person is bad" I immediately thought of this song, so I wanted to include it.

    1h 14m

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The Rebelling podcast is a thoughtful, emotionally honest podcast about identity, neurodivergence, and unlearning the pressure to be "normal." It has a mix of solo and interview episodes that are both curious and practical, about coping mechanisms, work, resources, relationships, and the inherited systems that shape our lives. It's the kind of podcast that makes you think differently about humanity, connection, and how we orient to reality.