The FitZen Project

Rachel Fitzpatrick
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The FitZen Project is a podcast about self-leadership, authenticity, purpose, and personal transformation. Hosted by Rachel Fitzpatrick, each episode explores how to trust yourself, navigate life transitions, set healthy boundaries, overcome self-doubt, and create a life that feels aligned with who you truly are. Through honest conversations, inspiring guest stories, and practical reflections on mindset, energy management, relationships, grief, purpose, and conscious living, you'll discover what happens when you stop outsourcing your happiness and start leading yourself from the inside out. Whether you're rebuilding after loss, questioning what's next, healing old patterns, or stepping into a new chapter, The FitZen Project offers encouragement, perspective, and tools for meaningful change. Alignment is the new hustle. You are your most important project.

  1. 1d ago

    When Did You Stop Being You? How to Find Your Way Back | Scott Lackey

    When did you stop being you? Not all at once. Maybe it happened every time you said yes when you wanted to say no. Every time you chose what was expected over what you actually wanted. Every time you handed another tiny piece of yourself to a job, a relationship, a role, or the version of you everyone else needed you to be. Until one day, you look around at a life you helped build and wonder: Where the hell did I go? This episode is a little different. It’s the finale of my very first FitZen Book Club, where Lisa and I sat down with Scott Lackey, author of Wake Up to Die Again, after spending weeks reading, discussing, and questioning the hell out of his story. And what started as a conversation about the book became something much bigger. 🍋 THE SQUEEZE Scott describes what happens when we slowly give pieces of ourselves away—and why we often don’t realize how far we’ve wandered until we wake up feeling empty. But finding your way back doesn’t require having your entire life figured out. Sometimes, you just need to know which direction is yours. 🧃 THE JUICE In this conversation, we get into: What Scott understands about his own story now that he couldn't have known while writing itThe fear of creating something when you're convinced nobody will careHow we slowly give pieces of ourselves away without realizing itWhy hitting a low point can force you to finally pay attentionThe difference between measuring your life by distance versus directionWhat our scars reveal—and what happens when we stop hiding themThe terrifying freedom of letting people see who you actually areWhy you don't need to know the entire path before taking your next stepWhat Scott's readers have taught him about the book he wroteThe question Scott is asking himself now: What am I being called to wake up to next?And somewhere in the middle of all of it, we come back to one simple truth: Walk the way, and the way will appear. 💊 MICRODOSE OF COURAGE This week, don't figure out your entire life. Ask yourself: What direction do I know I want to move in? Then take the next logical step. One email. One conversation. One decision. One honest admission to yourself. You don't need proof that you're going to end up exactly where you think you're going. You just need enough courage to take the next step toward yourself. 📩 KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING If you want to keep doing this work with me, join The Weekly Change Request—my free weekly email where we take the conversations happening on the podcast and turn them into something you can actually use in your life. You'll find the link in the show notes. Wild enough to be free. Wise enough to receive. Lotus and LunaLink provides 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreAffirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Because you are your most important project. Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project is a podcast for high-achieving women navigating relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, saying no, guilt, and constantly asking, “Am I the problem?”—especially when they’re walking on eggshells, managing emotional responsibility, overfunctioning, struggling with self-abandonment and self-trust, and experiencing relationship anxiety, attachment issues, nervous system dysregu...

  2. Sep 22

    Girl, What’s My Weakness? MEN!

    Girl, What’s My Weakness? MEN! You can lead meetings, manage crises, and handle almost everything on your own—but one man changes his tone, and suddenly you’re asking three friends what to do. Girl…what’s your weakness? In this episode, Rachel gets honest about the years she gave her power away in romantic relationships—outsourcing decisions, managing other people’s emotions, softening her boundaries, and confusing control with safety. This isn’t an episode about blaming men. It’s about recognizing the moment you stop trusting yourself in love—and learning how to let the cards fall where they fall. Inside this episode:  Why you can feel powerful everywhere except in your relationships  How managing someone else’s emotions becomes self-abandonment  What the victimhood triangle has to do with outsourced decisions  Why your partner’s reaction is not yours to manage  How yoga and project management can teach you to stay in your own lane  The difference between responding and reacting  How to begin trusting your own judgment again Your Microdose of Courage Ask yourself: “If I trusted my own judgment, what would I do?” Then take one small action that honors your answer—before asking someone else what they think. If you’re ready to lower your emotional armor, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and learn to receive support without losing your freedom, you’re in the right place. Join Rachel’s free weekly email, The Weekly Change Request, for one honest reflection and one courageous action to help you come back to yourself. Lotus and LunaLink provides 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreAffirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Because you are your most important project. Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project is a podcast for high-achieving women navigating relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, saying no, guilt, and constantly asking, “Am I the problem?”—especially when they’re walking on eggshells, managing emotional responsibility, overfunctioning, struggling with self-abandonment and self-trust, and experiencing relationship anxiety, attachment issues, nervous system dysregu...

  3. Sep 17

    How to Speak Your Truth Without Attacking Your Partner or Backing Down

    You finally say what hurts—but are you communicating your truth or emotionally discharging it onto your partner? Using the right therapy words doesn’t automatically make a conversation kind, productive, or emotionally safe. But keeping quiet to avoid conflict isn’t the answer either. You shouldn’t have to choose between weaponizing your pain and abandoning yourself to keep the peace. In this Yoga mini, we explore how two yogic principles can help you recognize the moment your body prepares for war—and create enough space to tell the truth without attacking your partner or backing down from what you genuinely need. Because yoga isn’t only what happens on your mat. It’s the moment you notice your impulse to strike, defend, appease, or disappear—and remember that you still have a choice. Stay until the end for a guided practice and your Microdose of Courage to use before your next difficult conversation. Your feelings deserve a voice. The person you love deserves their humanity. And you deserve relationships where truth and kindness can exist in the same room. Lotus and LunaLink provides 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreAffirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Because you are your most important project. Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project is a podcast for high-achieving women navigating relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, saying no, guilt, and constantly asking, “Am I the problem?”—especially when they’re walking on eggshells, managing emotional responsibility, overfunctioning, struggling with self-abandonment and self-trust, and experiencing relationship anxiety, attachment issues, nervous system dysregu...

  4. Sep 16

    Doing Everything—and Resenting Your Partner? Make This Change Request

    “Why do I have to do everything?” If that sentence keeps running through your mind, your relationship may have a scope problem. High-achieving women are excellent at noticing gaps and closing them. You handle the laundry, schedule the appointments, plan the vacation, manage the calendar—and eventually, the responsibilities you silently accepted become the receipts you present during an argument. What began as helpfulness quietly becomes hostility. In this Project Management mini, you’ll discover how to recognize relationship scope creep and turn one responsibility you resent into a clear change request to your partner—before your resentment becomes contempt. Because an unspoken expectation is not an agreement, and waiting for your partner to notice what everything is costing you is not a sustainable relationship-management system. Your Microdose of Courage Submit one relationship change request. Name the responsibility. Tell the truth about its impact. Request the change. If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Join free through the link in the show notes. Because you are your most important project. Lotus and LunaLink provides 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreAffirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Because you are your most important project. Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project is a podcast for high-achieving women navigating relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, saying no, guilt, and constantly asking, “Am I the problem?”—especially when they’re walking on eggshells, managing emotional responsibility, overfunctioning, struggling with self-abandonment and self-trust, and experiencing relationship anxiety, attachment issues, nervous system dysregu...

  5. Sep 15

    How to Say What Hurts Without Destroying What You Love—even When You’re Right

    How to Say What Hurts Without Destroying What You LoveYour pain can be completely valid—and you can still be wrong in the way you treat someone you love. What began as date night for the couple sitting beside us became a public unraveling of thirteen years of resentment. She felt like she had to do everything. He kept apologizing. And then one sentence—and one visible exhale—changed who I thought needed The FitZen Project. In this episode, you’ll discover: The line between communicating your pain and punishing your partner with it.How the fixer’s helpfulness can quietly harden into hostility.What one exhausted husband revealed about managing someone else’s emotions.If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I have to do everything?”—or apologized simply to end the argument—this conversation may show you a side of the pattern you haven’t considered. Stay until the end for your Microdose of Courage: one small action to address resentment before it becomes contempt. Because your pain deserves to be acknowledged—but your hurt does not give you permission to hurt someone else. You are your most important project. If you can make decisions at work but one unhappy look from your partner makes you question yourself, you don’t need more advice—you need practice staying on your own side. Join the Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you stop managing your partner’s emotions and trust your own judgment. Lotus and LunaLink provides 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreAffirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Because you are your most important project. Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project is a podcast for high-achieving women navigating relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, saying no, guilt, and constantly asking, “Am I the problem?”—especially when they’re walking on eggshells, managing emotional responsibility, overfunctioning, struggling with self-abandonment and self-trust, and experiencing relationship anxiety, attachment issues, nervous system dysregu...

  6. Sep 10

    Your Partner Is Upset—Does That Mean Your Decision Was Wrong?

    You made the decision. You set the boundary. You said no. Then your partner got upset—and suddenly you're explaining, backpedaling, apologizing, or wondering if you were wrong in the first place. This week, we're taking our Microdose of Courage onto the yoga mat.  THE SQUEEZE What if the hardest part of keeping a promise to yourself isn't making the decision? It's staying with yourself when someone you love doesn't like it. THE JUICE Today, I'm showing you what your yoga practice can teach you about staying with a decision when someone else's discomfort makes you want to abandon it. Because your relationship has Warrior II moments. Your body gets uncomfortable. Your brain wants out. And your instinct is to do whatever will make that discomfort disappear. But yoga gives us a safe place to practice something different: noticing the discomfort, breathing, creating space, and deciding whether something is actually wrong—or simply uncomfortable.  And that's the practice we're taking off the mat. Your partner's disappointment doesn't automatically mean your decision was wrong. YOUR MICRODOSE OF COURAGE Keep one small promise to yourself—even if someone you love doesn't like it. When the discomfort comes: Take a breath. Feel your feet. Unclench your jaw. Notice where you're gripping. Then ask yourself: Do I actually want to change my decision—or am I just trying to make this discomfort go away? And then choose. The goal isn't to never change your mind. It's to stop automatically abandoning yourself just because someone else is unhappy.  KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING If this gave you something to work on this week, join my newsletter through the link in the show notes. That's where we take these conversations a little deeper—relationships, boundaries, self-trust, and what it actually looks like to choose yourself when someone you love isn't happy about it. You are your most important project. Lotus and LunaLink provides 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreAffirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Because you are your most important project. Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project is a podcast for high-achieving women navigating relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, saying no, guilt, and constantly asking, “Am I the problem?”—especially when they’re walking on eggshells, managing emotional responsibility, overfunctioning, struggling with self-abandonment and self-trust, and experiencing relationship anxiety, attachment issues, nervous system dysregu...

  7. Sep 9

    Why You Trust Yourself at Work—but Second-Guess Everything in Your Relationship

    You keep your commitments at work. You make decisions. You deliver. People trust you. So why does all that confidence seem to disappear when your partner is unhappy with a decision you've made? THE SQUEEZE How many promises have you made to yourself in your relationship that you've broken the second your partner didn't like them? THE JUICE Today, I'm showing you how project managers use commitments to build trust—and what that can teach you about rebuilding trust with yourself. Because when a project repeatedly misses its commitments, eventually it doesn't just lose a deadline. It loses credibility. Your relationship with yourself works the same way. In this Project Management mini, we're taking Jack McFen's insight from this week's long-form conversation—when you stop breaking promises to yourself, you start trusting yourself more—and putting it into practice.  We'll look at what happens when you say no and then change it to yes, promise yourself you won't engage in another disrespectful conversation and then engage anyway, or give away the time you said you'd take for yourself because your partner is upset. Your brain is keeping track. It's looking for evidence that your word can be trusted. YOUR MICRODOSE OF COURAGE Make one commitment to yourself small enough that you can actually keep it. Maybe it's: I'm not explaining my no twice. I'm taking the 30 minutes I said I'd take. If this conversation becomes disrespectful, I'm stepping away. Then follow through. Because every time you do, you're giving yourself another piece of evidence that your word can be trusted. And remember: your partner's reaction doesn't automatically cancel your commitment.  KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING If this gave you something to work on this week, join my newsletter through the link in the show notes. That's where we take these conversations deeper—relationships, boundaries, self-trust, and what it actually looks like to choose yourself when someone you love isn't happy about it. You are your most important project. Lotus and LunaLink provides 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreAffirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Because you are your most important project. Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project is a podcast for high-achieving women navigating relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, saying no, guilt, and constantly asking, “Am I the problem?”—especially when they’re walking on eggshells, managing emotional responsibility, overfunctioning, struggling with self-abandonment and self-trust, and experiencing relationship anxiety, attachment issues, nervous system dysregu...

  8. Sep 8

    Successful at Everything—So Why Are You Losing Yourself in Your Relationship?

    What happens when keeping the peace becomes how you measure your worth—and you realize the life you're working so hard to hold together might not even be the life you want? THE JUICE In this episode, you'll discover: How to tell if the success you're chasing is actually yours—or just something you've been taught to want.The cost you pay every time you people-please and make keeping everyone else happy your responsibility.What happens to your relationship with yourself when you stop trusting your own decisions.I sat down with Jack McFen, host of Average Jacks, for a conversation that started with one big question: What the hell does success even mean? We talk about external validation, comparison, failure, people-pleasing, boundaries, non-negotiables, and what happens when you've become so good at showing up for everyone else that you stop showing up for yourself. Because you can be successful as hell and still measure your worth by how happy everyone around you is—especially in your relationships. And maybe success isn't keeping everybody happy. Maybe it's trusting yourself even when they're unhappy. YOUR MICRODOSE OF COURAGE Keep one promise to yourself—even if someone you love doesn't like it. Maybe it's a no you've been afraid to say. A boundary you keep negotiating. Or a decision you already know is right for you. One promise. Keep it. You don't rebuild self-trust by getting everyone else to agree with you. You rebuild it by showing yourself: I can trust me, even when they're unhappy. ABOUT JACK Jack McFen is the host of Average Jacks, a podcast built around real people, real growth, and redefining what success actually looks like for the everyday person. Jack and I get into the messy middle of ambition, fulfillment, comparison, relationships, and learning to recognize the small wins that actually build a life. Find Jack, his podcast, book, and weekly newsletter through the links below. KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING If you're a high-achieving woman exhausted from keeping the peace in painful romantic relationships, subscribe to my newsletter. We're talking boundaries without guilt, self-trust, and how to stop carrying your partner's emotions just because they're unhappy with your choices. Subscribe through the link in the show notes. You are your most important project. Lotus and LunaLink provides 20% off (sale items not included)Liforme Yoga MatsUse code RACHELF10 at checkout for a discount!RageCreate | Affirmations|Oracles & moreAffirmation card deck. Use Code FITZEN for 20% off Tabatha Debruyn 9D Breathwork Active Breathwork is a powerful tool for self-exploration and emotional healing.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show If you can lead confidently at work but begin questioning yourself when your partner is unhappy, join the free Weekly Change Request for one email and one courageous action each week to help you practice staying on your own side. Because you are your most important project. Weekly Change Request  Get your FREE Guide: FitZen to Prioritize Instagram: thefitzenproject Website: thefitzenproject.com  Music provided by: Purple Planet Music: https://www.purple-planet.com/home The FitZen Project is a podcast for high-achieving women navigating relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, saying no, guilt, and constantly asking, “Am I the problem?”—especially when they’re walking on eggshells, managing emotional responsibility, overfunctioning, struggling with self-abandonment and self-trust, and experiencing relationship anxiety, attachment issues, nervous system dysregu...

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The FitZen Project is a podcast about self-leadership, authenticity, purpose, and personal transformation. Hosted by Rachel Fitzpatrick, each episode explores how to trust yourself, navigate life transitions, set healthy boundaries, overcome self-doubt, and create a life that feels aligned with who you truly are. Through honest conversations, inspiring guest stories, and practical reflections on mindset, energy management, relationships, grief, purpose, and conscious living, you'll discover what happens when you stop outsourcing your happiness and start leading yourself from the inside out. Whether you're rebuilding after loss, questioning what's next, healing old patterns, or stepping into a new chapter, The FitZen Project offers encouragement, perspective, and tools for meaningful change. Alignment is the new hustle. You are your most important project.

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  • Creator
    Rachel Fitzpatrick
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    84
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The FitZen Project
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