More Time for Mom

Dr. Amber Curtis

Are you a worn-out mom who used to be the star of the office, spend 45 minutes doing your hair and makeup, and take romantic getaways before you had kids…but now you’re constantly behind and out of PTO at work, there are three days’ worth of dishes piled in the sink, the kids scream when tablet time is over, and you’re so touched out by 8pm that you scroll Instagram instead of spending time with your husband?   Welcome to the club. If you’re paralyzed by what to do first whenever you miraculously find 15 free minutes and fall asleep in tears because you’ve always tried to do everything right but now it feels so wrong, you are NOT alone. I went crazy trying to “balance” it all and believing other experts who tell you to just wake up earlier or manage your time better. Turns out you’re not the problem; toxic productivity culture has led you to equate your self-worth with what you have to show for your time.   I’ve spent years applying my PhD research skills to find scientifically proven strategies for keeping up without burning out—then tailoring them for busy mamas whose hands, hearts, and schedules are fuller than they ever imagined. Now I’ve helped dozens of other women discover the hidden causes behind your stress so you can reclaim your time, restore your energy, rediscover your identity, and look back in 20 years with pride instead of regret.    Join me, Dr. Amber Curtis—certified life coach, behavioral science professor, public speaker, devoted wife, and mom of four—every Tuesday for real, raw stories and actionable advice on productivity, organization, time management, and that elusive thing we call work-life “balance” so you can be the happy, present wife and mom you dream of without sacrificing the talents you’re meant to share with the world.   Ready to make more time for YOU? Hit play and make sure to tune in for new episodes every Tuesday. It's time to take back your life for who and what you love. You’ll soon realize “time” was never the problem after all.

  1. 1D AGO

    Is Your Nervous System Ruining Your Relationships? 3 Keys to Secure Attachment

    Send us a text We all need connection but if your nervous system got wired to perceive attachment as unsafe, it’ll sabotage ALL your relationships. In this powerful follow-up on attachment theory, I’m unpacking the truth behind how attachment styles reflect the protective adaptations your brain and body learned to keep you safe. Attachment style isn’t your personality; it’s your nervous system’s survival strategy. I’ll show you how to determine your current attachment style, guide you through three steps to cultivate more secure attachment moving forward, and share exactly what your kids need from you so they can have happy, healthy relationships as adults. Thanks to neuroplasticity, it’s never too late to create deeper connection, healthier communication, and more secure relationships.   BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Four simple questions to reveal your attachment styleHow many “personality traits” are actually just stress responses in disguiseThe 3-step process to rewire your brain for more secure attachmentThe three core ingredients needed for your kids to develop secure attachmentHow it’s NEVER too late to repair attachment (no matter how old your kids are or how strained the bond)  FOR SO MUCH MORE: Book a free consult to learn more about healing your nervous system so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult)   Get on the waitlist for the next round of my 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM to learn the six most powerful life coaching tools every mom needs so that you and your family can flourish: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist   HOMEWORK: Share this episode with another mama who needs these crucial insights. Then email me through the link in the show notes or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share a relationship you’re struggling with and what you want to be better.    COMING UP NEXT: Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to hear a very vulnerable personal story of how my connection with one of my sons was severely severed and what I’m doing to repair it. Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to help@solutionsforsimplicity.com and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE! CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

    24 min
  2. JAN 20

    4 Attachment Styles Every Mom MUST Know (For Yourself & Your Kids)

    Send us a text If you’ve ever been frustrated by or struggled to connect with someone you love, you’ve GOT to understand the four attachment styles that dictate all your relationships—especially marriage & motherhood. Today we’re diving into attachment theory: how it forms, how it presents as adults, & how dramatically it affects your parenting. Your (and others’) attachment style isn’t a personality flaw. It’s the nervous system’s relational survival strategy. It affects how safe you feel with people, how you approach social connection, how you handle conflict, how you interpret silence or feedback, & what happens inside you when stress hits. EVERY mom needs to know this so you can cultivate the secure attachment your kids need to thrive—especially if it wasn’t modeled to you as a child.   BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: The four attachment styles that determine whether and how you connect with EVERYONE around you: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, & secure The four biggest factors that shape a child’s attachment style (& how they’re forming in your kids right now) Why a child’s nervous system will always prioritize attachment over authenticityThe many ways insecure attachment manifests: people-pleasing, hypervigilance, emotional shutdown or reactivity, fear of vulnerability, unreliability, & moreHow neuroplasticity and nervous system healing make it possible to move toward secure attachment & repair relationships (especially with your kids) at ANY age—even if you didn’t grow up with it  FOR SO MUCH MORE: Check out these books on attachment theory: Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld & Dr. Gabor MateThe Attachment Parenting Book by Dr. William and Martha SearsRaising Securely Attached Kids by Eli HarwoodAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller  Book a free consult to learn more about healing your nervous system so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult)   Get on the waitlist for the next round of my 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM to learn the six most powerful life coaching tools EVERY mom needs so that you and your family can flourish: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist   HOMEWORK: Reflect on which of the four attachment styles best describes you and/or other people you know. If it's anything other than secure attachment, what do you think caused you to be that way? What fears do you have about moving towards more secure attachment in the future? Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsfo CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

    18 min
  3. JAN 13

    The Most Important Mindset Shift You’ll Ever Make as a Mom & Why SMART Women Stay Stuck

    Send us a text This episode is feisty in the best way. Too many moms—and the smartest ones at that—succumb  to the trap of two vicious, popular mindsets that prevent them from taking true control over their own life and happiness. I want so much more for you! I want you to experience the profound mindset shift I did, realizing that investing in yourself is the GREATEST thing you can do—and not just for you but for your kids. I wasted years of my life crippled by the lie that there must be one perfect way to be and that if I worked hard enough, I’d get there. Even once I finally saw the wisdom in not trying to do it all yourself, I still approached getting help in all the wrong ways. Now I see there’s a third, alternative truth that I can’t wait for you to adopt as well. BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Why learning does not equal growing—and in fact often keeps you stuck longerHow a consumer mindset trains you to believe the solutions to your problems can be bought and distracts you from the real root of your stressWhy YOU are the greatest asset to not just your own life but your family’s life as wellHow personal and financial risk is necessary for growth, not something to avoid—and how ensure a return on your investment even if you “lose” your moneyYou don’t need more information; you need to invest in more support to grow your confidence, capacity, and calm   AS MENTIONED: When you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships. First round starts Friday, January 16th; sign up at https://momsmadenew.com    HOMEWORK: Notice whether your daily thoughts and actions signal more of a student, consumer, or investor mindset. Really consider adopting more of an investor one. Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. If you’re ready to really invest in yourself so your whole family can flourish, sign up for a free consult at https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult)    COMING UP NEXT: Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden causes of stress stealing your time and joy. CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

    14 min
  4. JAN 6

    Why You Never Change: The Neuroscience of Staying Stuck

    Send us a text In this first episode of the new year, I’m naming the real reason so many women—especially high-achieving, overwhelmed moms—set goals every January but still end up quickly reverting back to old patterns. Even when you want change. Even when you know what to do. Even when you’re deeply dissatisfied with where you are. It all comes down to your nervous system and the subconscious beliefs that your brain relies on to keep you safe. I also offer a series of alternative perspectives on the classic excuses women use as justifications for why investing in the tools and support that will help you change isn’t possible for them. This episode is confronting, but in the most kind and loving way.    BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: How EVERY goal triggers stress because change requires time, energy, risk, and often moneyWhy your brain defaults to its normal patterns and, worse, relies on unhealthy coping mechanisms to soothe the discomfort of your failed attempts to changeHow nervous system work isn’t fluff; it’s THE missing link between desire and action. (Spoiler alert: Mindset work will never be enough!)Why you can’t expect new results until you become someone who has the neurological capacity to overcome your limiting beliefsWhy investing in support often feels impossible, unnecessary, unsafe (but is the KEY to transformation because you can’t outthink your own brain by yourself)  AS MENTIONED: 1) FREE LIVE masterclass: “Why Plans, Habits, & Goals Backfire – and What You REALLY Need for a Successful 2026” on Tuesday, January 6th at 1pm Eastern with replay included; sign up at https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/backfire   2) When you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships. First round starts Friday, January 16th; sign up at https://momsmadenew.com   3) Prior podcast episodes on “How to Hormone Hack Your Goals” Part 1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17810686Part 2: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17851261   HOMEWORK: Consider whether the be Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to help@solutionsforsimplicity.com and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE! CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

    30 min
  5. 12/30/2025

    Moms’ HARDEST Week of the Year (and How to Get Through It)

    Send us a text In this episode, I name what so many moms quietly feel: the week after Christmas is often the hardest week of the entire year—not because you’re doing anything wrong, but because your nervous system is depleted and your circumstances haven’t caught up with your desire for a fresh start. I also share three very specific things you can look forward to—including free resources and a brand-new program designed to help overwhelmed moms stop white-knuckling their way through life and finally feel like themselves again. If you’re feeling overstimulated, worn out, and stuck in limbo until the kids go back to school…this episode is your permission to start understanding what your brain and body really need right now.    BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Why this in-between week feels so emotionally heavy for momsWhy your brain desperately wants to fast-forward to JanuaryHow boredom, chaos, mental load, and lack of structure drain you even moreHow giving your brain something to look forward to can shift your emotional stateWhat actually helps when you feel stuck, unmotivated, and tapped out  AS MENTIONED: FREE on-demand masterclass: “Unburdened: Releasing the Mental Load” available until Friday, January 2nd at 11:59pm Pacific at https://solutionsforsimplicity.com/unburdenedFREE LIVE masterclass: “Why Plans, Habits, & Goals Backfire – and What You REALLY Need for a Successful 2026” on Tuesday, January 6th at 1pm Eastern with replay included; sign up at https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/backfireWhen you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs to flourish. Starts Friday, January 16th; sign up at https://momsmadenew.com  HOMEWORK: Take advantage of at least one (or ideally all three) of the opportunities above. Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. For so much more, sign up for a free consult at https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult)   COMING UP NEXT: Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden causes of stress keeping you overwhelmed and stealing your time and joy.  CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

    10 min
  6. 12/23/2025

    The Dopamine Trap of Christmas: Why You're Likely to Feel Disappointed

    Send us a text Christmas is supposed to feel magical… so why are so many moms disappointed once it finally arrives?If you find yourself feeling let down, overstimulated, exhausted, or even sad on/after Christmas, you didn’t do anything wrong. Your brain did exactly what it’s wired to do. In this episode, I unpack the dopamine trap of Christmas—a powerful neuroscientific reality for why the anticipation of the holidays feels better than the holiday itself, especially for moms.    BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:  Why moms are likely to feel more joy leading up to Christmas than during itThe neuroscience of dopamine, anticipation, and emotional letdownWhy feeling underwhelmed after Christmas does NOT mean you did anything “wrong”What to do when the holiday high fades and reality hits hardHow all this is happening for your sweet kids as well (cue the meltdowns!)   FOR SO MUCH MORE: When you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Sign up for a free consult (https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult) and/or join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM (https://momsmadenew.com), to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs to flourish.     HOMEWORK: Did this episode resonate? Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts.   COMING UP NEXT: Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden causes of stress keeping you overwhelmed and stealing your time and joy. CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

    11 min
  7. Why Losing Control Feels Like Losing Yourself: The Survival Response That’s COSTING You Connection

    12/16/2025

    Why Losing Control Feels Like Losing Yourself: The Survival Response That’s COSTING You Connection

    Send us a text If you’re the kind of mom who only feels okay when everything is under control (the house, your to-do list, the kids’ moods, even your own emotions), you can’t afford to miss this powerful interview with Dr. Hayden Finch on “control mode”: that subtle and often socially rewarded way high-achievers seek control to feel safe. Few, if any, moms realize their desire for control is actually a protective survival strategy your nervous system took on from a young age that’s now COSTING you connection. The more you need things “in order”, the more rigid, exhausted, and disconnected you become—especially in marriage and motherhood where control is basically impossible. In this episode, we explore the real difference between healthy discipline and threat-driven control, how control sabotages connection with your kids and husband, how to start relaxing your grip without spiraling, and so much more.     BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER: What “control mode” really is—yet why it actually doesn’t feel controlling at allWhere control seeking comes from (hint: BOTH chaotic childhoods and perfectionistic childhoods can create the same compulsion)What really happens in your brain and nervous system when life feels out of control—and why rigidity increases under stressHow trying to control or fix emotions (whether yours or others’) only blocks connection and authenticityHow real change comes not from relinquishing the control mode mindset but from experiencing that you survive life without total control  AS MENTIONED: Prior episode with Dr. Finch on procrastination and high functioning anxiety Get more of Dr. Hayden Finch, a licensed clinical psychologist, behavior change expert, author, and founder of the Finch Center for High Functioning Anxiety: WebsiteBook: The Psychology of Procrastination  When you start healing at the level of your nervous system, your whole home feels the difference. Sign up for a free consult and/or join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs to flourish.   HOMEWORK: Reflect on which path led you to strive to control things: a messy, chaotic childhood? A rigid, super strict childhood? Or a different experience later in life? Observe how it feels in your body when things feel OUT of control Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to help@solutionsforsimplicity.com and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE! CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

    38 min
5
out of 5
31 Ratings

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Are you a worn-out mom who used to be the star of the office, spend 45 minutes doing your hair and makeup, and take romantic getaways before you had kids…but now you’re constantly behind and out of PTO at work, there are three days’ worth of dishes piled in the sink, the kids scream when tablet time is over, and you’re so touched out by 8pm that you scroll Instagram instead of spending time with your husband?   Welcome to the club. If you’re paralyzed by what to do first whenever you miraculously find 15 free minutes and fall asleep in tears because you’ve always tried to do everything right but now it feels so wrong, you are NOT alone. I went crazy trying to “balance” it all and believing other experts who tell you to just wake up earlier or manage your time better. Turns out you’re not the problem; toxic productivity culture has led you to equate your self-worth with what you have to show for your time.   I’ve spent years applying my PhD research skills to find scientifically proven strategies for keeping up without burning out—then tailoring them for busy mamas whose hands, hearts, and schedules are fuller than they ever imagined. Now I’ve helped dozens of other women discover the hidden causes behind your stress so you can reclaim your time, restore your energy, rediscover your identity, and look back in 20 years with pride instead of regret.    Join me, Dr. Amber Curtis—certified life coach, behavioral science professor, public speaker, devoted wife, and mom of four—every Tuesday for real, raw stories and actionable advice on productivity, organization, time management, and that elusive thing we call work-life “balance” so you can be the happy, present wife and mom you dream of without sacrificing the talents you’re meant to share with the world.   Ready to make more time for YOU? Hit play and make sure to tune in for new episodes every Tuesday. It's time to take back your life for who and what you love. You’ll soon realize “time” was never the problem after all.

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