Hey Sammi : Sports Parent Confessions

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Got a youth sports question you can't ask in the group chat? Text me. I'll answer it on the show. Playing time, quitting mid-season, that one coach, the parent on the sideline who won't stop — every week I answer the real questions sports families are actually dealing with. Ten minutes. Every week. No judgment. I'm Sammi. Ask me anything.

1d ago

Is a 90 minute drive to practice too much?

https://heysammi.com/ how far is too far to drive for youth sports? a mom in chicago wrote to me about her family's routine: 90 minutes each way, three times a week, with her husband saying it's too much and her saying it's what their daughter needs. in this episode i do the math out loud, nine hours a week, a part-time job spent watching taillights, and then interrogate the sentence doing all the work: it's what she needs. needs for what, exactly? i walk through the questions that actually settle it. is this truly the only place she can develop, or just the best-known option? what is the drive costing in sleep, homework, siblings, and marriage? and what's happening in the car for those three hours, because a drive can be the relationship or two silent phones and a kid asleep on the window. then the middle path the far club will never suggest: a one-season experiment closer to home, with a review date, so the decision gets made with data from your own family instead of a brochure. plus the two voices missing from the argument, the sibling in the back seat and the daughter herself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2d ago

Should i say something to the parents who brag nonstop?

https://heysammi.com/ how do you deal with sports parents who brag constantly? a dad in san diego wrote to me because one family's highlight reels and stat updates have become the soundtrack of the season, and his son has started measuring himself with somebody else's ruler. in this episode i save him an awkward parking lot conversation: you don't confront them, because nobody in the history of bleachers has ever taken that note well. instead i explain what bragging usually is, anxiety wearing a varsity jacket, and why hearing it that way changes everything. then the real work, which happens at your dinner table: the question that lets your kid decode the bragging himself, why a kid who figures it out owns the immunity forever, and the one boring sentence, cool man, that makes him unprovokable on the field. i also cover quiet pride, telling your kid what you love about how he plays with no audience, the one exception where you do go to the coach, and the surprising person to keep an eye on: the bragged-about kid himself, who's carrying the trophy-cabinet weight nobody sees. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3d ago

We missed a tournament for vacation. now my kid is benched.

https://heysammi.com/ should a family skip a mandatory youth sports tournament for vacation? a dad in kansas city wrote to me after doing exactly that, and now his son's minutes have vanished and nobody will say why. in this episode i answer his question directly: no, you didn't make the wrong call. a family vacation beats a youth tournament, and it's not close. then the harder part, the silent benching. i explain the difference between a coach holding kids accountable and a coach running punishment theater, and give you the exact script for the conversation: calm, midweek, factual, ending with one question. what does the path back look like? a decent coach gives you something transparent and finite. vagueness and an endless freeze tell you what the program really is. i also cover what your son needs while this plays out: a dad who isn't sorry, the truth sized for a kid, and the only response that works when the weather is unfair. show up, work like crazy, and make the bench decision embarrassing. plus why you keep the circle small instead of polling the bleachers, and the end-of-season audit that decides whether you re-register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 13

My kid's teammate got recruited at 14. is mine behind?

https://heysammi.com/ is my child behind if teammates are already getting recruited? a mom in raleigh wrote to me after her daughter watched a 14 year old teammate commit, and now her daughter is doing math in her head that nobody assigned her. in this episode i explain what early commitments actually are, mostly informal, often reversed, and always marketed, and why the recruiting timeline keeps creeping earlier. i take apart the word behind, because it collapses under one question: behind on what schedule? real rosters are full of late bloomers who got serious at sixteen and passed the early stars. then the practical part: why reassurance bounces off a fourteen year old but evidence doesn't, and how to build the only comparison that matters, her versus her from six months ago. i also get into the recruiting feed itself, a slot machine for teenage self-doubt, the house rules that keep comparison from moving in, and the small move with a long reach: helping her congratulate the teammate for real. plus what the work at fourteen actually is if she does want to play in college. exposure finds prepared players, not the other way around. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 12

What if the other sports parents are way more intense than us?

https://heysammi.com/ is it normal to feel out of place among intense sports parents? a mom in austin wrote to me because her family feels like the odd one out on a team where parents film warmups and talk college timelines about fourth graders. in this episode i split her question in two, because is this the wrong team for us and is this the wrong team for her can have completely different answers. i explain how to tell a team problem from a bleacher problem by watching your kid instead of the parents, why the kid culture and the parent culture aren't always the same weather, and the cheap solutions for surviving an unbearable sideline. then the warning signs that intensity is leaking onto the field: kids quoting rankings, talking about falling behind, and breathing adult anxiety. i also cover the pull nobody names, the way watching other families spend more and drive further starts to feel like the standard. it isn't. it's just the loudest option. orange slices, one practice a week, and free sundays is not falling behind. it's a childhood, and somebody in that league should get to have one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 11

A coach told my 12 year old to lose weight.

https://heysammi.com/ what should a parent do when a coach tells their child to lose weight? a mom in phoenix wrote to me because her daughter's coach said she'd perform better if she lost weight. her daughter is twelve, and she doesn't know where to start. in this episode i sort it into three jobs, in order: your daughter first, your house second, and that coach third. because the first thing that needs saying is simple. the coach was wrong. not clumsy, not old school. wrong. i cover what to say to your daughter once and plainly, why a big emotional response teaches her the topic is radioactive, and how to make sure the comment costs the coach standing instead of costing her. then the home front: why diet talk and good-food-bad-food language matter more than any speech, what quiet warning signs to watch for, and why calling your pediatrician at maybe beats waiting for definitely. finally, the coach. why this is not a feedback conversation, why it goes to the club in writing, and why a club that shrugs at this is a club you leave. plus the one sentence your daughter actually needs to hear when it's handled: i took care of it, and you're safe out there. got a question for the show? email me. hey@heysammi.com https://heysammi.com/ One note since this episode touches disordered eating: it's a sensitive area, and if it ever comes up beyond the show / for your family or someone close I'm glad to help find the right resources. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 6

Does my kid really need to play more than one sport?

https://heysammi.com/ Is it bad for a kid to specialize in one sport? a dad in tampa wrote to me because his son is obsessed with one sport, refuses to try anything else, and every adult at every barbecue keeps warning him about multi-sport athletes. in this episode i separate what the research actually says from what the barbecue says. the real risk has a name, and it's year-round, same-movement repetition at adult intensity in a growing body, not the number of jerseys in the closet. i explain why obsession at this age is love, not a diagnosis, and why forcing a second team as medicine teaches a kid that loving something too much gets you sentenced to something you hate. then the protective playbook: variety of movement without variety of teams, swimming and bikes and backyard nonsense all count, a real offseason every year, rotating positions inside the one sport, and the soreness signals worth reading. i also name the moment to hold the line, when the club asks for all twelve months, because pros take offseasons and somehow nine year olds aren't allowed to. and for the refusing part: stop selling other sports and start playing with him instead. if a second sport ever happens, it starts there, as his idea. got a question for the show? email me. hey@heysammi.com https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 5

I yelled at a referee and my kid saw. how do i fix it?

https://heysammi.com/ what should a parent do after losing their temper at a youth sports game? a dad in cincinnati wrote to me after screaming at a referee while his daughter watched. she hasn't mentioned it, but something between them shifted, and he can feel it. in this episode i explain what she actually saw, which wasn't a bad call. it was the safest adult in her life losing control in public, in her place, in front of her people. then i get into the good news: kids don't need parents who never break, they need parents who repair. i give the anatomy of a clean apology, short, no excuses, and absolutely no but-that-call-was-terrible, because the word but deletes everything in front of it. i also cover what not to do afterward, like asking if you're okay now or circling back all week, which quietly turns your apology into your kid's job. finally, the part that actually convinces her: the next three games. a real plan, told to her in advance, and three quiet saturdays in a row. evidence beats promises. because she'll have referees her whole life, bad bosses, unfair calls, and this week you get to show her what a do-over looks like. the ones who repair raise kids who repair. got a question for the show? email me. hey@heysammi.com https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Got a youth sports question you can't ask in the group chat? Text me. I'll answer it on the show. Playing time, quitting mid-season, that one coach, the parent on the sideline who won't stop — every week I answer the real questions sports families are actually dealing with. Ten minutes. Every week. No judgment. I'm Sammi. Ask me anything.