Messy on Purpose

Fylisha Kruse

Messy on Purpose is where we talk about the parts no one posts—the real, uncomfortable moments that actually shape who we are. Hosted by Fylisha, with Lee joining as producer and co-host, Messy on Purpose is a mix of raw co-host conversations, guest interviews, and global perspectives. This podcast is about ownership, awareness, and choosing growth without pretending life is perfect. We all have a mess. What matters is how we face it. Let’s be messy. Let’s be real. Let’s grow—on purpose.

  1. 23h ago

    #102: 😵‍💫 “I’m Fine” Is Usually a Lie

    In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee talk about one of the most common lies we tell ourselves and everyone around us: “I’m fine.” Sometimes we say it because we don’t want to inconvenience someone. Sometimes we say it because we don’t want to upset anyone, start a hard conversation, admit what we’re really feeling, or face the thing we already know we need to do. But “I’m fine” can quickly become a defense mechanism. It can stop conversations, avoid vulnerability, keep us stuck in self-pity, and let us numb our way through life instead of actually dealing with what’s going on. Fylisha and Lee also talk about the other side of it—how often we accept “I’m fine” from people we care about instead of digging a little deeper. They discuss: Why “I’m fine” is usually hiding something deeperHow we use it to avoid hard conversationsThe difference between processing emotions and staying stuckWhy numbing your life is not the same as healingHow to be honest without making yourself a burdenWhy people who care should be willing to ask againThis episode is a reminder that bad feelings are not something you have to avoid forever. Talk it out.Find solutions.Be honest about what you need.And when someone you love says they’re fine, don’t be afraid to care enough to ask one more question. Because “I’m fine” might end the conversation…but the truth is usually where healing begins.

  2. 4d ago

    The Weekly WTF #16: 🤔 Is Every Moment Content Now?

    This week on The Weekly WTF, Fylisha and Lee are talking about the need to film everything.Every meal.Every workout.Every concert.Every vacation.Every “candid” moment that somehow took seven tries.At some point, you have to ask… are we enjoying life, or are we just collecting footage to prove we did?But we’re also asking the other side: why does it bother people so much?If someone is sharing their experience, making memories, creating content, or documenting a moment without hurting anyone else, is it really that big of a deal?We’re talking about being present, respecting the people around you, not turning every moment into a production, and also letting people enjoy their lives without making it your problem.Film it. Don’t film it.Just don’t ruin the moment for everyone else.

  3. Sep 28

    #101: 🚫 Stop Making It Your Whole Personality

    In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee talk about how easily people can turn one part of their life into their entire personality—whether it’s a political party, sports team, religion, job, lifestyle, or group they belong to.They discuss why people do this, how identity can get wrapped up in labels, and why it becomes dangerous when something outside of you starts making your decisions for you.Fylisha and Lee dive into the importance of thinking for yourself, staying true to your values, and not blindly following any person, group, belief system, workplace, church, political party, or community without questioning whether it actually aligns with who you are.They talk about:Why people attach their identity to labelsThe danger of letting one thing consume youHow blind loyalty can show up in work, home, church, politics, and relationshipsWhy your values should guide your decisionsThe importance of thinking for yourselfStaying true to who you are instead of becoming who others expect you to beThis episode is a reminder that you can believe in something, support something, or be part of something without losing yourself in it.Because you are not here to be a follower.You are here to be you.

  4. Sep 24

    The Weekly WTF #15: 💁Tipping Has Gotten Out of Control

    On this episode of The Weekly WTF, Fylisha and Lee are talking about tipping culture and how it has officially gotten out of hand. At some point, tipping went from showing appreciation for good service to being asked for 20%, 25%, or 30% before anything even happens. You grab a coffee. Tip screen.You pick up your own food. Tip screen.You buy something at a counter. Tip screen.You do half the work yourself. Still… tip screen. We’re talking about tip fatigue, awkward checkout moments, guilt-tripping customers, and why everyone suddenly feels pressured to add extra money just to avoid feeling like a terrible person. Tipping for great service makes sense.Being emotionally held hostage by a tablet does not.

  5. Sep 21

    #100: 😉 Life Changes, People Change, Don’t Wait to Reach Out

    In the 100th episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee talk about life changes, busy seasons, and the relationships we sometimes let slip because we assume there will always be more time. Life moves fast. People get busy. Priorities shift. And sometimes we think about reaching out to someone, but we don’t—then we wonder why they didn’t reach out either. Fylisha and Lee discuss why depending on everyone else to make the first move is not always fair. Everyone is carrying something. Everyone is navigating their own life. And while being ignored after reaching out is a different conversation, keeping score in relationships can quickly become unhealthy, unfair, and exhausting. They talk about: Why you should reach out when someone is on your mindHow life changes can affect relationshipsWhy scorekeeping creates resentmentThe importance of adapting as people grow and changeKnowing what to hold onto and what to let go ofWhy relationships take effort from both sidesThis episode is a reminder that life changes, people change, and we all have to learn how to adapt. Hold on to what matters.Let go of what no longer fits.And don’t wait forever to say something to the people you care about.

  6. Sep 17

    The Weekly WTF #14: 📲 Why Are We Making Communication So Hard?

    On this episode of The Weekly WTF, Fylisha and Lee are talking about one of the most unnecessary daily struggles: people choosing the wrong form of communication. Some phone calls absolutely should have been a text. A quick question, a simple update, a yes-or-no answer — we do not need to turn that into a whole meeting. But some texts should have been a phone call. If it takes 12 messages, three paragraphs, a screenshot, and someone still misunderstands the tone… just call. We’re talking about unnecessary calls, endless texting, misunderstood tone, and why people make basic communication way more complicated than it needs to be. Text when it’s simple.Call when it’s complicated.And stop turning easy conversations into full productions.

  7. Sep 14

    #99: 😈 Fight Your Inner Bitch Voice

    In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee talk about fighting your inner bitch voice—the weak voice that wants to make excuses, play the victim, and convince you that every hard season means you’re failing. They dive into how bad seasons are often lessons, not signs that you’re on the wrong path. Sometimes life gets uncomfortable because something needs to change. Your mindset, your habits, your environment, your standards, or the way you keep showing up for yourself. Fylisha and Lee also talk about why comparison is so dangerous. Everyone is fighting battles you can’t see. You don’t know what someone has survived, overcome, sacrificed, or struggled through. You only see what they choose to show you, so comparing your path to theirs will never be fair or accurate. They discuss: The weak voice that feeds excuses and victim mentalityWhy hard seasons can be lessons instead of failuresHow to recognize when life is asking you to change somethingWhy everyone’s battles look differentThe danger of comparing your journey to someone else’s highlight reelChoosing ownership over excusesThis episode is a reminder that the voice telling you to quit, complain, compare, or feel sorry for yourself does not get to lead your life. You do. Because bad seasons don’t always mean you’re lost.Sometimes they mean you’re being forced to grow.

  8. Sep 10

    The Weekly WTF #13: 😤 Why Are You Grunting With Baby Weights?

    This week on The Weekly WTF, Fylisha and Lee are calling out one of the most annoying gym behaviors: obnoxious grunting over absolutely nothing. You know the person. Every rep has a soundtrack.Every set needs an audience.Every lift sounds like a life-or-death situation.And then you look over… and it’s baby weights. We’re not talking about real effort. We’re not talking about heavy lifts. We’re talking about the over-the-top gym performance that makes everyone around you stop and wonder, “Was all that really necessary?” Train hard. Push yourself. Be intense. But if your warm-up set sounds like a monster truck rally, maybe bring it down a notch. Because the gym is not your personal theater, and the dumbbells are not impressed.

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Messy on Purpose is where we talk about the parts no one posts—the real, uncomfortable moments that actually shape who we are. Hosted by Fylisha, with Lee joining as producer and co-host, Messy on Purpose is a mix of raw co-host conversations, guest interviews, and global perspectives. This podcast is about ownership, awareness, and choosing growth without pretending life is perfect. We all have a mess. What matters is how we face it. Let’s be messy. Let’s be real. Let’s grow—on purpose.

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  • Creator
    Fylisha Kruse
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    118
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Fylisha Kruse
  • Show Website
    Messy on Purpose