Let’s Get Real with Jena Burris

Jena Burris

Welcome to Let’s Get Real, the podcast for women who feel like they’re holding it all together on the outside… but falling apart on the inside. If you’re exhausted from pretending, overwhelmed by the pressure to be everything for everyone, or unsure who you even are anymore—you’re not alone. And you’re not crazy. Let’s Get Real is where we have honest conversations about the struggles most people avoid—healing emotional wounds, losing yourself in motherhood, rebuilding your identity, and learning how to live whole again. I’m Jena Burris—wife, mom, and your host. With a background in marriage and family therapy, life coaching, and years spent navigating life behind the scenes of the NFL and Hollywood, I’m passionate about creating a space where real conversations lead to real healing. Each week, you’ll hear real stories, practical tools, and the reminder that freedom is closer than you think. Because I believe that in order to heal, we have to get real. New episodes every Tuesday. Real talk. Real tools. Real healing. For speaking inquiries, brand partnerships, or workshop opportunities, visit www.jenaburris.com or email jena@jenaburris.com.

  1. 3D AGO

    How Childhood Shapes Us with Stacy Schaffer

    Free Resource for Moms Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood?  You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way. I created this FREE guide for you:  🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again  Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate. 👉 https://jenaburris.kit.com/ecc29b3801 Episode 45: How Childhood Shapes Us with Stacy Schaffer So many adults move through life believing they should be “past” what happened to them. That childhood is over. That it shouldn’t still affect them. But our early experiences don’t stay neatly tucked in the past. They quietly shape how we love, how we parent, how we handle stress, and how safe we feel being ourselves. In this episode of Let’s Get Real, I sit down with Stacy Schaffer, a licensed professional counselor with over 20 years of experience working with children, teens, and young adults. She’s also the author of With Love from a Children’s Therapist and brings a rare dual perspective as both a clinician and a survivor of childhood trauma. This conversation is tender, honest, and deeply relatable. Childhood Doesn’t Stay in Childhood Stacy shares openly about growing up in an environment marked by trauma, silence, and unmet emotional needs. When she tried to speak up as a young child, she wasn’t heard. That silence didn’t make the pain disappear. It taught her how to survive. Like many people, Stacy learned to cope by starting over. By pushing forward. By performing well and deciding not to look back. For a long time, that strategy worked. It helped her build a life, choose a career, and appear “fine” on the outside. But survival strategies often have an expiration date. When childhood pain goes unacknowledged, it doesn’t fade with time. It follows us into adulthood, shaping our nervous systems, our relationships, and the stories we tell ourselves about who we have to be to stay safe. How Childhood Trauma Shows Up Later One of the most grounding parts of this conversation is Stacy’s explanation of what childhood trauma actually is. Trauma isn’t about comparison. It’s not about whether someone else “had it worse.” Trauma is any experience that overwhelms a child’s nervous system and changes how they understand the world. Unprocessed childhood trauma often shows up sideways in adulthood. It can look like perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, anxiety, over-functioning, or constantly feeling like you have to hold everything together. These patterns aren’t flaws. They’re adaptations. They once helped a child survive in an unsafe or unpredictable environment. The problem isn’t that these coping mechanisms exist. The problem is when we don’t know why they’re there. When pain stays unnamed, it gets repeated. Connect with Stacy You can learn more about Stacy’s work, her book With Love from a Children’s Therapist, and download the first chapter for free at stacyschaffer.com. She also shares thoughtful, grounded insights for parents and caregivers on Instagram at @hoperestored. P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters — and I’m here for you.

    38 min
  2. MAR 10

    Navigating Change with Grit & Gratitude with Laura Bratton

    Free Resource for Moms Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood? You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way. I created this FREE guide for you:  🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again  Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate. 👉 Click here to download it now Episode 44: Navigating Change with Grit & Gratitude with Laura Bratton Change can feel terrifying especially when it arrives without warning. For many women, unexpected loss, health challenges, or major life transitions don’t just disrupt daily routines; they shake identity, belonging, and the future we thought we were building. In this episode of Let’s Get Real, I sit down with Laura Bratton, author of Harnessing Courage and founder of UB Global, for a deeply honest conversation about grief, fear, faith, and what it really looks like to move forward when life no longer looks the way you imagined. Laura shares her personal story of losing her sight as a teenager and the years of denial, depression, anxiety, and grief that followed. Instead of a polished “everything worked out” narrative, this conversation stays rooted in the real middle: the fear, the doubt, and the slow, day-by-day work of healing. When Change Hits Before You’re Ready Laura was diagnosed with a degenerative eye condition as a child, but it wasn’t until her teenage years that vision loss began to impact every part of her life. At first, denial took over, believing it wouldn’t be permanent, that life would somehow return to normal after graduation. When reality finally settled in, it brought an overwhelming wave of grief and fear. As a teenager navigating identity, friendships, and belonging, Laura described being caught between the sadness of what she had already lost and the anxiety of an unknown future. One question kept surfacing: “Do I still belong?” The Quiet Truth About Grief and Depression One of the most powerful moments in this episode was Laura’s honesty about her internal dialogue during those years. Rather than anger or “why me,” her dominant thought was simple and heavy: “I can’t. This is too hard.” That sentence became her nightly prayer and her first thought each morning. This part of the conversation matters deeply to me, because so many women feel isolated in their grief, believing something is wrong with them for struggling. Laura named what often goes unspoken: depression, anxiety, and fear are not signs of weakness or failure. They are normal human responses to loss. When those realities aren’t talked about, people stay stuck believing they’re alone. Why Support Systems Matter More Than We Realize Healing didn’t happen overnight and it didn’t happen in isolation. Laura shared how her parents became a steady anchor during those years. Instead of asking her to imagine an entire future, they helped her narrow the focus: Eat breakfastGet to schoolMake it through one classThat was enough. Over time, “day by day” became “hour by hour,” and slowly, life became more manageable. There was no dramatic breakthrough—just repetition, patience, and people willing to stay. Sometimes, healing looks like someone else holding hope for you until you can hold it yourself. If this conversation resonated with you, I encourage you to share it with another woman who might need it. You are not alone in this. Connect with Laura Bratton You can learn more about Laura’s work, her book Harnessing Courage, and her coaching and speaking at LauraBratton.com. Her work is a powerful reminder that grief, fear, faith, and

    36 min
  3. MAR 3

    Breaking The Generational Cycle of Addiction with Jennifer Chase

    Free Resource for Moms Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood? You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way. I created this FREE guide for you:  🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again  Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate. 👉 Click here to download it now Episode 43: Breaking the Generational Cycle of Addiction with Jennifer Chase Addiction doesn’t affect just one person. It weaves itself through families, childhoods, marriages, and motherhood often quietly, often hidden behind appearances, success, or silence. In this episode of Let’s Get Real, I sat down with Jennifer Chase for a conversation that felt honest, brave, and deeply necessary. Jennifer is a woman in long-term recovery, the daughter of an alcoholic, the mother of a recovering addict, and now a life coach who helps families heal together. Her story is layered shaped by generational addiction, trauma, codependency, and ultimately, healing. What she shared wasn’t just about addiction.  It was about survival, identity, and what it truly takes to break cycles that have been passed down for generations. When Addiction Is the Environment You Grow Up In Jennifer shared what it was like growing up in a home where addiction was ever-present even if it wasn’t always named. Her father struggled with alcoholism.  Her mother was emotionally distant.  From the outside, her family looked successful, stable, and even enviable. But inside, life felt unpredictable and unsafe. As a child, Jennifer learned what so many children in these environments learn:  If something feels wrong, it must be me. She spoke about isolating at a very young age, internalizing shame, and believing that if she could just be quieter, easier, or less emotional, things might feel better. What struck me most was how early survival patterns form when safety isn’t consistent and how those patterns often follow us into adulthood. Codependency: The Other Half of the Story One of the most powerful parts of this episode is Jennifer’s explanation of codependency especially within families. She shared a simple but revealing question: When your loved one is okay, are you okay and when they’re not, are you not? Codependency, she explained, mirrors addiction neurologically.  It’s another survival response, another attempt to control fear, pain, and uncertainty. We talked about how parents can swing between under-protecting and over-protecting and how both extremes leave children without the tools they need to navigate life. Connect with Jennifer Chase Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jennifer.reinhartchase Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jen_chase/ Website: https://www.riseaddictionlc.com/ P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters and I’m here for you.

    54 min
  4. FEB 24

    How to Find Peace When Life Feels Overwhelming: The Heart of a Caregiver with Mary Tutterow

    Free Resource for Moms Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood? You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way. I created this FREE guide for you: 🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate. 👉 Click here to download it now Episode 42: How to Find Peace When Life Feels Overwhelming: The Heart of a Caregiver with Mary Tutterow Caregiving seasons often arrive without warning. One moment, life feels predictable, your plans, your identity, the direction you’re heading.  And the next, everything feels uncertain. In this episode of Let’s Get Real, I sat down with Mary Tutterow to talk about what it truly means to find peace when life feels overwhelming not by escaping hardship, but by learning how to walk through it differently. Mary is a former news anchor and PR executive whose life took an unexpected turn when she became a full-time caregiver first to her daughter born with a severe seizure disorder, then to her son, and later to her mother-in-law battling cancer and dementia. What began as the unraveling of everything she thought she knew about herself became the doorway back to her truest self and to a peace she never believed was possible in circumstances this hard. The Moment Everything Shifted One of the most powerful moments in our conversation came when Mary shared a deeply personal experience that transformed how she understood suffering, faith, and peace. In the middle of a long night, holding her infant daughter through relentless seizures, Mary reached a breaking point and for the first time, cried out not for answers, but for God’s presence. That moment marked the beginning of a new way of living: Releasing the need to fix everythingLearning to say “I don’t know”Letting go of self-sufficiencyAllowing God to walk with her instead of rescuing her out of the painAs Mary shared this, I was reminded of something so many of us resist: peace doesn’t come from circumstances changing, it comes from changing how we walk through them. Peace Is Not the Absence of Pain One of the biggest misconceptions Mary gently dismantled in this episode was this belief: “I can’t have peace until things get better.” Instead, she shared a powerful reframe: Peace is not dependent on healing, finances, or certaintyPeace is a choice available even in chaosPeace comes from presence, not control.We talked about how resisting reality often deepens suffering and how grief, acceptance, and surrender can create space for peace to emerge in the middle of the mess. If You’re an Overwhelmed Caregiver If you’re in a season where: You feel stretched beyond capacityYou’re grieving a life you didn’t chooseYou’re exhausted from holding everything togetherYou’re longing for peace but don’t know where to find itThis episode is for you. Peace doesn’t mean your life becomes easy. It means you are no longer destroyed by what is hard. Connect with Mary Tutterow Website: https://www.TheHeartoftheCaregiver.com Website: https://www.MaryTutterow.com P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters and I’m here for you.

    41 min
  5. FEB 17

    High-Conflict Divorce: Protecting Your Sanity in Legal Chaos with Lisa Johnson

    Free Resource for Moms Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood? You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way. I created this FREE guide for you: 🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate. 👉 https://jenaburris.kit.com/ecc29b3801 Episode 41: High-Conflict Divorce — Protecting Your Sanity in Legal Chaos with Lisa Johnson For many women, divorce isn’t just the end of a marriage, it becomes a long, exhausting battle they never saw coming. Instead of closure, they’re met with manipulation, intimidation, endless court filings, and an ex who refuses to let go. The emotional toll is heavy. The financial cost can be devastating. And the question so many moms quietly ask is:  How do I survive this without losing myself or my kids? In this episode of Let’s Get Real, I sit down with Lisa Johnson, a high-conflict divorce strategist and certified domestic violence advocate who knows the family court system from the inside out, not just professionally, but personally. Lisa spent nearly 10 years navigating post-separation legal abuse, represented herself through over 100 court appearances, and ultimately won a precedent-setting case now published in state law. Today, she helps parents around the world navigate high-conflict divorce, custody battles, coercive control, and post-separation abuse. This conversation is honest, grounding, and deeply validating for anyone who feels trapped in legal chaos. When Divorce Becomes Legal Abuse Lisa explains that high-conflict divorce is not the same as a difficult divorce. In many cases, emotions run high at first but eventually settle down. In high-conflict situations, that never happens. Instead, the legal system itself becomes a weapon. Legal abuse (also called litigation abuse or paper abuse) happens when an ex uses the courts to: Drain you financiallyForce constant court appearancesControl your time, energy, and emotional bandwidthMaintain power long after the relationship ends The goal isn’t resolution — it’s punishment. Why Smart, Capable Women Get Stuck One of the most important truths Lisa shares is this: Abuse doesn’t happen because someone is weak. Many of her clients are highly educated, successful professionals — even attorneys and therapists. Abuse unfolds slowly through coercive control, gaslighting, and manipulation. By the time it’s visible, the person is already deeply entangled. Shame keeps people silent. Confusion keeps them stuck. Naming what’s happening is often the first step toward clarity. Why This Conversation Matters If you’re in the middle of a high-conflict divorce and questioning your sanity, hear this: You are not crazy. You are not weak. And you are not alone. There are ways to protect your peace, your children, and your future — even when it feels overwhelming. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Sometimes, clarity is the most powerful form of hope. CONNECT WITH Lisa Johnson Facebook:  https://facebook.com/beentheregotout Instagram: https://instagram.com/been_there_got_out YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BeenThereGotOut P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters — and I’m here for you.

    49 min
  6. FEB 10

    Breaking Free from Caregiver Burnout with Lynette Weldon

    Free Resource for Moms Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood? You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way. I created this FREE guide for you:  🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again  Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate. 👉 Click here to download it now Ep. 40  Breaking Free from Caregiver Burnout with Lynette Weldon Motherhood stretches us in more ways than we ever imagined—but caregiving asks even more of the heart. When you're caring for a child with special needs or ongoing medical concerns, the emotional, physical, and mental load multiplies. You love fiercely, but you’re also human. And too often, that humanity—your exhaustion, grief, resentment, guilt, and deep longing to feel like yourself again—goes unseen. This week’s episode of Let’s Get Real is one so many moms have been waiting for. I sit down with Lynette Weldon—a longtime caregiver, practitioner, and mom who has walked through medical trauma, emotional collapse, and the quiet unraveling that happens when you disappear inside the needs of everyone else. This conversation is raw, honest, and deeply validating. If you’ve ever thought: “I should be able to handle this…”“Everyone needs me—I’ll take care of myself later…”“I feel guilty for wanting a break…”“I don’t even recognize myself anymore…”You are not alone. And you are not failing. Why Caregiving Burnout Doesn’t Happen Overnight Lynette shares how burnout begins slowly—long before we name it: You start putting yourself last “just for now.”Survival mode becomes normal.Your identity shrinks to appointments, advocacy, and medical paperwork.You swallow guilt, resentment, loneliness, and grief because you don’t want anyone to misunderstand your love.Over time, it wears down your patience, your body, your joy, and your sense of self. And the hardest part?  Moms often feel like they aren’t allowed to talk about it. Because if they do… they fear being judged. Misunderstood. Seen as ungrateful or selfish. But caregiving brings its own grief. Its own losses. Its own invisible wounds. Naming them is not selfish—it’s sacred. If You’re Feeling Burned Out… You’re Not Failing. You’re Tired. And You Deserve Support. This episode is a reminder that you don’t have to hold it all together.  You don’t have to be the strong one all the time.  You don’t have to bury your exhaustion and pretend you’re fine. You matter too. And healing doesn’t mean abandoning your child—it means keeping yourself whole so you can keep showing up with love without losing yourself in the process. If this episode encouraged you, please share it with another mom who needs the reminder that she doesn’t have to do this alone. You aren’t failing.  You aren’t selfish.  You aren’t invisible. You’re human—and you deserve support, rest, and room to breathe again. Connect with Lynette Weldon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100095075297153 Instagram: http://instagram.com/lynetteweldon3 P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters — and I’m here for you.

    38 min
  7. FEB 3

    When Motherhood Feels “Too Much”: Understanding the Highly Sensitive Mom with Elizabeth Cush

    Free Resource for Moms Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood? You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way. I created this FREE guide for you:  🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again  Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate. 👉 Click here to download it now Ep. 39 When Motherhood Feels “Too Much”: Understanding the Highly Sensitive Mom with Elizabeth Cush Have you ever wondered why motherhood feels louder, heavier, or more overwhelming for you than it seems to for everyone else? Why the school pickup line makes your chest tighten, why constant noise feels like too much, or why you need just five minutes alone before you can even think straight again? If you’ve ever whispered to yourself, “What is wrong with me? Why can’t I handle this like other moms?”  I want you to hear this clearly: Nothing is wrong with you. You might just be a highly sensitive woman trying to survive modern motherhood. In this week’s episode of Let’s Get Real, I sat down with therapist and podcast host Elizabeth Cush, who has spent nearly two decades supporting highly sensitive women through overwhelm, deep processing, and the emotional intensity that so often gets misunderstood. This conversation felt like someone finally turning the lights on in a room I didn’t know I’d been sitting in. Practical First Steps for the Highly Sensitive Mom Here are some of Elizabeth’s simplest, most powerful strategies: 1. Put a hand on your heart and breathe. Physical touch + deep breathing signals safety to your nervous system. 2. Build a micro-community that “gets it.” Just one or two people who understand sensitivity can change everything. 3. Let yourself experiment. There is no perfect routine, no perfect strategy. Try things. Adjust. Repeat. 4. Stop apologizing for your sensitivity. It’s not a liability — it’s a gift. This Episode Is for Every Mom Who Has Ever Whispered “It’s Too Much.” Motherhood asks a lot of us.  But sensitive moms feel that “lot” more intensely — biologically, emotionally, and spiritually. My hope is that this episode feels like an exhale.  A naming.  A homecoming. Because when we understand our sensitivity, we stop fighting ourselves and start caring for ourselves. And that’s when motherhood begins to feel lighter — not because it gets easier, but because we stop carrying it alone. CONNECT WITH ELIZABETH CUSH Facebook:   / aywwpodcast   YouTube:   / @elizabethcushlcpc3220   Instagram:  / awakenyourwisewoman   P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters — and I’m here for you.

    40 min
  8. JAN 27

    Rebuilding After Emotional Abuse: Finding Yourself Again with Julie Barth

    Free Resource for Moms Feeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood? You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way. I created this FREE guide for you:  🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again  Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate. 👉 Grab it here: https://jenaburris.kit.com/ecc29b3801 Ep 38 — Rebuilding After Emotional Abuse: Finding Yourself Again with Julie Barth This episode is one of the most important conversations I’ve ever had on the podcast regarding emotional abuse. So many women—maybe even you—know what it feels like to wake up one day and realize, I don’t even recognize myself anymore. Somewhere in the surviving, the caregiving, the giving up pieces of yourself to keep the peace, you lose your voice, your confidence, your clarity, and the parts of you that used to feel alive. In this episode, I sat down with Julie Barth, a writer, mom of six, trauma survivor, and founder of the Colin James Barth Outreach. Julie has lived through more crisis and heartbreak than most people will experience in a lifetime—and she has rebuilt herself every single time. Our conversation is honest, emotional, and full of truth that so many women need to hear. 💛 Julie’s Story Took My Breath Away As she shared her journey, I found myself amazed by her strength and heart. She spent nearly a decade in survival mode: raising a child with a significant medical conditiontraveling constantly for surgeriescaregiving for her husband through terminal cancerraising six kidsand somehow trying to keep life moving forwardWhen her husband passed, she didn’t have space to grieve. She was already numb, already on autopilot, already surviving. That’s when she entered a new relationship—one that seemed freeing at first, but ultimately became emotionally and financially abusive. Listening to her talk about ignoring red flags because she was desperate for relief… I know many women will see themselves in her story. 🧠 What Emotional Abuse Actually Feels Like Julie said something that hit me deeply: “Nothing makes sense anymore. You’re confused all the time.” That’s the part of emotional abuse we rarely talk about—the slow unraveling of your reality. You stop trusting your instincts. You start doubting your sanity. You rationalize what you’d never tolerate for someone else. You shrink yourself smaller and smaller until you don’t recognize who you’ve become. It’s not weakness. It’s survival. ✨ If You’re in This Situation, Here’s What Julie Wants You to Know These were her most powerful pieces of advice: 1. Commit fully. 2. Record yourself in your hardest moments. Julie said: “You forget the pain just like you forget childbirth.” Those videos remind you why you can’t go back. 3. Prepare in small, doable ways. You don’t need a master plan. You just need the next right step. 4. You will survive the messy middle. And on the other side? There is peace. Connect With Julie Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/julie_barth_author/?hl=en P.S. If this episode resonates with you, please reach out. I truly want to hear your story. You can DM me on Instagram @jenaburris or email me at jena@jenaburris.com. Your voice matters — and I’m here for you.

    50 min
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About

Welcome to Let’s Get Real, the podcast for women who feel like they’re holding it all together on the outside… but falling apart on the inside. If you’re exhausted from pretending, overwhelmed by the pressure to be everything for everyone, or unsure who you even are anymore—you’re not alone. And you’re not crazy. Let’s Get Real is where we have honest conversations about the struggles most people avoid—healing emotional wounds, losing yourself in motherhood, rebuilding your identity, and learning how to live whole again. I’m Jena Burris—wife, mom, and your host. With a background in marriage and family therapy, life coaching, and years spent navigating life behind the scenes of the NFL and Hollywood, I’m passionate about creating a space where real conversations lead to real healing. Each week, you’ll hear real stories, practical tools, and the reminder that freedom is closer than you think. Because I believe that in order to heal, we have to get real. New episodes every Tuesday. Real talk. Real tools. Real healing. For speaking inquiries, brand partnerships, or workshop opportunities, visit www.jenaburris.com or email jena@jenaburris.com.