Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table Podcast: A WBQC Production

🎙️ WQBC: Presented by the BQC

Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: Erotica Kink Love & Intimacy Romance We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Podcast is a WBQC Production. 2025 All rights reserved. wbqc.substack.com

  1. 6d ago

    S.2, Ep. 5: Where Are the Zaddies?

    🎧 Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! 👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties * Mars * Trisha Cheeks A table for two. 💭 Episode 5 Summary We’ll be talking about something most of our listeners enjoy: zaddies. What are they? Who are they? What are our experiences? And who are some of the best zaddy (or cougar) examples in pop culture today? And our age gap tropes setting an appropriate ideal, and should it be a standard? 🔑 Key Words (Source: Merriam-Webster Online) Cougar Zaddy 🎶 Ep. 5 Playlist 3 Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table Podcast: A WBQC Production S. 2, Ep. 4: What About Your Friends? The Basics of Intersectionality, Community, & Accountability 5 3 0:00 Current time: 0:00 / Total time: -1:19:06 -1:19:06 S. 2, Ep. 4: What About Your Friends? The Basics of Intersectionality, Community, & Accountability This is the 101 class for something we’re cooking up for the summer ☀️ 🎙️ WBQC: Presented by the BQC May 20, 2026 🎧 Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! 👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties * Wips * Regina Starr * The Voice of the Voiceless, the incomparable Trisha Cheeks 💭 Ep. 4 Summary Cultivating intersectional community — what are the events that make actionable items come to fruition? * How are people being held accountable? * What is community, and can one cultivate community without inclusivity? * What is a community to you? * How do some bad actors and agents of chaos impact the larger work? * Are there some things preventing people from moving forward? * What is the adversity from one group to another? 🧆 The Hot Line 🤓 Sources Definitions (via the marvel of all words, Merriam-Webster) * Community * Intersectionality * Intersectional Feminism * 3rd Wave feminism * Attitude * Weaponizing * Discernment * Intentionality Talking points * Staying 10 toes down on what your actions * What does authentic intersectionality mean to the audience/listener/viewer? Blog/Article References Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Podcast Ep. 9: I’m Grown and I Do What I Want: Policing Black Bodies and Sexualities and How We Fight Back 🎙️ WBQC: Presented by the BQC · September 17, 2025 Listen now * The Power of Community: Why It Matters for Black Women * Black Women: A History of Creating Our Own Spaces by Amalfi Parker Elder, Esq. and Patrice Tillery * The Culture Shelf: Black Women Taught Us - A conversation with Jenn M. Smith, PhD * African American women and social equality, K. Sue Jewell * Black Women Been Knew: Understanding Intersectionality to Advance Justice by Brandi Blessett Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Podcast Ep. 10: Hypersexuality, Black Women, and Neurodivergency 🎙️ WBQC: Presented by the BQC · October 29, 2025 A note from the editor: Hey, y’all — this is The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks. I want to start off by apologizing to the homies at WBQC for the delay in this upload. I got into my head about editing when I woke up today and said “f**k! I can edit the thing IN Substack. I am such a loon.” Listen now 🎶 Ep. 3 Playlist This would normally be a part of the program where we post a custom-built playlist created by the Hotties, however, we were all about girlfriends and community and found family this week, that we decided to say “f**k it,” and bogart the smash 1995 soundtrack of the movie, identically-titled Waiting to Exhale. You cannot beat this soundtrack and this iconic video by the late Whitney Houston. IDK a millennial woman who hasn’t fantasized about having this tight of a shot during a bedroom music video shoot for a song you’re also the star of a movie of. Like, come on, now. 📣 Be Good & Follow Us Like what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below: * Substack * Instagram * Bluesky * YouTube * Spotify * Apple Podcasts #health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame #community #friendship #foundfamily This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

    1h 1m
  2. May 20

    S. 2, Ep. 4: What About Your Friends? The Basics of Intersectionality, Community, & Accountability

    🎧 Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! 👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties * Wips * Regina Starr * The Voice of the Voiceless, the incomparable Trisha Cheeks 💭 Ep. 4 Summary Cultivating intersectional community — what are the events that make actionable items come to fruition? * How are people being held accountable? * What is community, and can one cultivate community without inclusivity? * What is a community to you? * How do some bad actors and agents of chaos impact the larger work? * Are there some things preventing people from moving forward? * What is the adversity from one group to another? 🧆 The Hot Line 🤓 Sources Definitions (via the marvel of all words, Merriam-Webster) * Community * Intersectionality * Intersectional Feminism * 3rd Wave feminism * Attitude * Weaponizing * Discernment * Intentionality Talking points * Staying 10 toes down on what your actions * What does authentic intersectionality mean to the audience/listener/viewer? Blog/Article References * The Power of Community: Why It Matters for Black Women * Black Women: A History of Creating Our Own Spaces by Amalfi Parker Elder, Esq. and Patrice Tillery * The Culture Shelf: Black Women Taught Us - A conversation with Jenn M. Smith, PhD * African American women and social equality, K. Sue Jewell * Black Women Been Knew: Understanding Intersectionality to Advance Justice by Brandi Blessett 🎶 Ep. 3 Playlist This would normally be a part of the program where we post a custom-built playlist created by the Hotties, however, we were all about girlfriends and community and found family this week, that we decided to say “f**k it,” and bogart the smash 1995 soundtrack of the movie, identically-titled Waiting to Exhale. You cannot beat this soundtrack and this iconic video by the late Whitney Houston. IDK a millennial woman who hasn’t fantasized about having this tight of a shot during a bedroom music video shoot for a song you’re also the star of a movie of. Like, come on, now. 📣 Be Good & Follow Us Like what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below: * Substack * Instagram * Bluesky * YouTube * Spotify * Apple Podcasts #health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame #community #friendship #foundfamily This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

    1h 19m
  3. May 6

    S. 2, Ep. 3: Books & Hoes — The Bookish Partners We Crave (1st Birthday Edition)

    🎧 Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! 👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties * Morticia Black * Regina Starr * Wips * “The Voice of the Voiceless” Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle) 💭 Ep. 3 Summary From alphas, cinnamon rolls, and slutty golden retrievers and all that’s in between - we all have our faves. What fictional characters make up the “ideal” book bae? Why do we love (to hate) them the way we do? 🧆 The Hot Line 🤓 Sources * Mini guide for sexual terms and acronyms in Erotic Books for clueless pandas * A Deep Dive Into Our Favorite Romance Novel Tropes * 129 Romance Tropes We Love And Love To Hate * What is with all these acronyms? HEA? STL? What do they mean? * BDSM & Kink Roles & Terms * What is a Romance Trope — A Guide to Romantic Storylines * Hooks vs Tropes: What’s the Difference? * Your Complete Guide to Romance Tropes * How To Understand Dark Romance Trigger Warnings * How Romance, Romantasy, and “Smut” Took Over Publishing and Entertainment: A Statistical Analysis 🤓 Research & Trend(s) * TikTok(BookTok) and Instagram (Bookstagram) challenges, memes/gifs (Boyfriend “lean” challenge, Internet boyfriend —James Tang) * Story scene re-enactments * Fan made videos/skits * BookTok rankings (using popular sound trends, ie., “Dancing/Dance(?) Moms”) * James Tang - A TCK (Third Culture Kid) and actor who quickly became one of the most popular TikTok/Twitch content creators from this trend. Known for making popular/current BookTok videos as well as original “internet boyfriend” skits. * Thirst trap trends blending reality from the escapism. 🎓 Impact Consumer sales (articles on stats/demographics about book sales) and Cultural (cliches and clashes), Societal norms and challenges * Heated rivalries (lol) arose between die hard readers and new readers * Blatant privilege on display by a well-known publishing company (QUINN), offering massive deals to TikTokers (ie., receiving a six-figure book deal - without having a single word written, flying out “key” TikTok influencers to extravagant events with no clear plan/research being conducted - just coasting on the algorithm and “vibes” in hopes of drawing in readers) * Influencers being called out for supporting problematic authors and thinly veiled biases toward marginalized groups (the “I can’t/couldn’t relate to this…” and “I didn’t understand why they were included…” bunch) * How Romance, Romantasy, and “Smut” Took Over Publishing and Entertainment: A Statistical Analysis 💭 Idealizations (Expectations and Escapism) How they can lead to unhealthy thoughts, parasocial activity, and toxicity within the communities * Fawning over “perfect” book characters that sometimes causes readers to question and/or become unhappy in their own real-life relationships. * Becoming obsessed with the fictional world that they’ve “escaped” into, going as far as to threaten the author(s) who wrote the story and/or other readers who may critique the story. * Consumer safety (content/trigger warnings, spreading of gossip/misinformation. deepfakes/AI content/sources and that promote harmful/negative views/situations, unsafe environments (spaces that prey on unknowing readers to take advantage of them mentally/emotionally, financially, physically, etc.). * Predatory behavior (how to spot/recognize/address this behavior and make others aware of it happening in a safe way). Spaces like this are also bad for business! And if they continue to spread, not only do readers lose access to good stories, authors are forced to choose between creating/writing or earning a living (which means less books are produced). - Wips We all share this space and have an ethical/moral obligation to protect it in order to continue to enjoy/connect with everyone in this reading space. - Wips The foolishness/f******t you allow in your space is exactly how you’ll lose it. - Wips Why are characters surprised when they get pregnant? Like, they be so surprised and nary a condom has been introduced. All sorts of fun locations and positions, tho. Perhaps the yearning is the condom. — Trisha Cheeks in a group chat. (how annoying is Luke Bateman’s book deal?, Ben Mercer, Jun 03, 2025) “Bateman started a TikTok account, quickly secured a book deal and his debut is meant to arrive in about 18 months time. It’s very fast as book release dates go, which is a feat given the machinery that needs to crank into gear, but it also suggests there may be some behind the scenes shenanigans and planning that we are not privy to. The fact that it feels so organised is in itself interesting and it’s this that’s resulted in a firestorm of negative publicity on the platform where Bateman’s audience exists. The whole thing has almost gone too smoothly so along with a sense of unfairness, the audience have a lingering feeling, rightly or wrongly, that they’ve been manipulated. That’s not good.” 🗣️ Define Book Boy/Girlfriend/Theyfriend A “book boyfriend” is a fictional male character from a romance novel or fantasy series who readers fall deeply in love with. (Maheshwari Raj. Love in the Margins: Inside the Book Boyfriend Obsession, Jun 28, 2025) (Seven reasons why book boyfriends are just better, Anna Martin, Feb 2, 2024) * They’re Way More Calming * You Don’t Have to Go Out to Date 🗣️ Boy/Girl/TheyFriend Checklist (Individual Results Will Vary, lol) (Bookcase and Coffee Podcast, Ep. 50, Book Boyfriend Checklist with Duchess Katie & Lady Sadie) ☀️ When should you, as a reader, step away from the book bae fantasy? (Romance Books: Comfort Reads or Unrealistic Expectations, OG’s Soapbox, Aug 13, 2025) “Are romance books giving me comfort, or are they making me have an unrealistic view of what love should look like?” 📚 WBQC Booklist Here is a list of books mentioned on this episode — and some others we wanted to talk about, but you know, hilarity ensues. Have any faves you want to share? Name them in the comments below ⬇️ * Any and everything written by Kennedy Ryan * Any and everything written by Tia Williams * This Ends Here by LM Juniper * Outdrawn by Deanna Grey * Terms and Conditions by Lauren Asher (Dreamland Billionaires trilogy) * The Brown Sisters series by Talia Hibbert * Cozy Latin Billionaires series Leonar Soliz * A Girl Like Her by Talia Hibbert * Morning Glory Milking Farm by CM Nascosta * Ice Planet Barbarians series by Ruby Dixon * Accidents Happen series by Jessica Cage * A Chaos series by Keta Kendrick * Princes of Sin series by Kerri Maniscalco * The Mead Mishaps series by Kimberly Lemming * Elevator Pitch by Evelyn Leigh * The Re-Do List by Denise Williams * Just Our Luck by Denise William * Flirty Little Secret by Jessica Lepe * Margo’s Got Money Troubles by Rufi Thorpe * American Royalty by Tracey Livesay * The Duchess Effect by Tracey Livesay * Only for the Week by Natasha Bishop * Tastes Like Shakkar by Nisha Sharma (If Shakespeare was an Auntie Trilogy) * Dating Dr. Dil by Nisha Sharma (If Shakespeare was an Auntie Trilogy) * Pride and Protest by Nikki Payne (Jane Austen retelling) * Sex, Lies, and Sensibility by Nikki Payne (Jane Austen retelling) * The Curve Series by Danielle Allen * Curvy Girl Summer * Plus Size Player * Big Girl Blitz * The Love Con by Seressia Glass * Better Than Fiction by Alexa Martin 🗣️: Word of the Day Áilleánach (Irish) * Definition: Described as an Irish term for an “attractive and yet useless man.” * Pronunciation: Often described as phonetically similar to “Allenwrench.” * Context: It is a noun, with the genitive form na n-áilleánach. 🎶 Ep. 3 Playlist 😈 NSFW Meme of the Week 📣 Be Good & Follow Us Like what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below: * Substack * Instagram * Bluesky * YouTube * Spotify * Apple Podcasts #health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

    1h 51m
  4. Mar 26

    S. 2, Ep. 1: It’s for Black People Anyway (but the Listeners Can be Anyone)

    TW: The Hotties discuss for the listeners the following: sexual content, white supremacy, white fragility, sexism, racism, police/state violence discussion, and the presence of explicit anecdotes. We also discuss peer reviewed studies and medical definitions. We are not doctors, but we do suggest therapy. Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! 👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties * Doc Dubs * Wips * The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle) Ep. 1 Summary We’re back, baby! We’re just getting comfortable this episode, but we’ll have more structured shows coming up. Ep. 1 Playlist ✌🏾Be good or be good at it, hotties. Check out all of our past episodes on the following platforms: * Substack * Instagram * Bluesky * YouTube * Spotify * Apple Podcasts #health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

    1h 36m
  5. 12/11/2025

    Ep. 12: Inaugural Season Finale — the WBQC Exit Interview

    TW: The Hotties discuss for the listeners the following: sexual content, white supremacy, white fragility, sexism, racism, police/state violence discussion, and the presence of explicit anecdotes. We also discuss peer reviewed studies and medical definitions. We are not doctors, but we do suggest therapy. Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! 👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties * Doc Dubs * Mars (for the first time, and won’t be the last) * Regina Starr * Wips * Summ’ah * The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle) 🧐 Ep. 12 — Summarized When starting this podcast, we had a few objectives: First, we loved the energy of the description. It is vivid, specific, and immediately establishes a “for us, by us” intimacy that is crucial in the erotica and kink space. The phrasing “We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off” is a fantastic hook; it sets a boundary and an invitation simultaneously. In this episode, we don’t want to call this a “State of the Union,” per se, but as a review of what we’ve learned, enjoyed, hits and misses in our journeys through the fun, yet often turbulent audio erotica community. Speaking of community, that was one reason this podcast started and something The Hotties mention often in this episode. We truly cherish the friendships and connections we’ve made, especially with one another. No one should feel alone unless they want to BE ALONE. We’ve learned a lot about ourselves as individual and confirmed a lot of what we already knew (E.G., the titles of this season’s episodes), and hope that the listeners of this showcast have learned alongside with us. And don’t you worry — we WILL be back in 2026. Have episode ideas for us to add to the queue? Guests you want us to talk to drop us a line here. 🎶 Ep. 12 Playlist We weren’t going to leave y’all without any tunes! 🤬 NSFW Meme to Send You Off With ✌🏾Be good or be good at it, hotties. Check out all of our past episodes on the following platforms: * Substack * Instagram * Bluesky * YouTube * Spotify * Apple Podcasts #health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

    2h 20m
  6. 11/18/2025

    Ep. 11 Taylor Swift is not Every Woman

    TW: The Hotties discuss for the listeners the following: sexual content, white supremacy, white fragility, sexism, racism, police/state violence discussion, and the presence of explicit anecdotes. We also discuss peer reviewed studies and medical definitions. We are not doctors, but we do suggest therapy. Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! 👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties * Doc Dubs * Regina Starr * Wips * Summ’ah * The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle) 📚Ep. 11 in Words * Key Takeaways * Summarize the main points: The history of chart segregation is the blueprint for today’s market. Taylor Swift’s dominance is enabled by systemic White gatekeeping. Pop is protected; R&B must innovate. * The Hotties’ Final Word * What is the solution? Is it to create our own systems, or to force integration? Why must we always fight for our place at a table built for someone else? The Hotties’ Final Word: What is the solution? Is it to create our own systems, or to force integration? Why must we always fight for our place at a table built for someone else? * The Set-Up: Start with the latest bland offering from the pop culture billionaire (Taylor Swift’s recent moves/news cycle) and pivot to the larger discussion. * The Thesis: This episode is about the systemic protections afforded to White women in pop culture, specifically in music, but also books and audio erotica/porn. * The Question: Why does Taylor Swift get to be every woman and occupy the cultural center, while Black artists who are her true competitors are marginalized? It’s about more than just personal taste; it’s about the mechanics of genre, charting, and White cultural gatekeeping. ✨ICYMI — Check out Ep. 9 for more on this topic ✨ The Cultural Key & Blue-Eyed Soul * The Central Argument: Taylor Swift, Justin Bieber, Justin Timberlake, and Sam Smith cannot make R&B music because key cultural components of the genre are missing. * Discuss the difference between technical musical proficiency and cultural lineage and experience. R&B is rooted in Black American social history, church music, and vocal traditions — it’s a cultural language. * Define/Discuss “Blue-Eyed Soul”: It’s a term of convenience that allows non-Black artists to profit from Black musical forms with and without appreciation (cite specific examples if desired, briefly). Chart Dominance vs. Pigeonholing * The Systemic Advantage: Taylor Swift gets to dominate the all-encompassing “Pop” chart because her true Black competitors are systematically relegated to the “R&B” or “Hip-Hop” charts. * The Hotties’ Take: Discuss how Pop is often a “White default” genre, while R&B is a “Black default” genre, regardless of the music’s actual sound. * Data Insight (Use Concrete Numbers): Briefly mention the racial disparity in the Hot 100 vs. R&B/Hip-Hop Airplay charts. Example (Hypothetical but based on trends): While Black artists consistently dominate R&B/Hip-Hop charts, they often account for less than $10 of the top $10 positions on the mainstream Hot 100 chart in certain periods, showing a clear ceiling for crossover success unless it’s a massive, undeniable hit. * The Growth Requirement * The Double Standard: Discuss the observation: “No growth is required for pop, but growth is required for R&B.” * Pop’s Goal (Taylor): To maintain mass appeal, often by adhering to a familiar, accessible formula. Success is measured by sameness and scale. * R&B’s Standard (Black Artists): The genre is often held to a standard of innovation, vocal agility, and deep emotional resonance. Growth is required just to exist at a high level. If Black artists simply make “Pop,” they are still called “R&B” or “Urban Pop,” further restricting their market reach. ⚪️ White Fragility and the Cult of Taylor * The Narrative Protection * Discuss how the media creates a protective narrative around Taylor Swift. She is always framed as the underdog, the victim, or the “girl next door” despite being one of the most powerful people in the industry. * The Fragility: Any criticism of Taylor Swift is met with a fervent, often aggressive defense from her (primarily White) fan base and media allies. This is an example of White fragility manifesting in pop culture — the inability to accept criticism about a White cultural icon because it challenges the comfortable status quo. * The “Everywoman” Myth * She is branded as relatable, but only within a very narrow, affluent, White, and heteronormative scope. * The Hotties’ Take: Break down why Taylor Swift is not “every woman” (e.g., her access to generational wealth, her systemic protection, her specific experiences do not translate to the experiences of Black women or other marginalized groups). * Discuss how the relentless push to frame her as “every woman” actively erases the experiences of non-White women whose lives are far more complex and politically charged. * The Cultural Vacuum in Audio/Visual Media * Expanding the Theme: Briefly connect this systemic protection to books, audio erotica, and porn. * Discuss how White women often dominate these spaces (especially in high-profile publishing or major platforms) even when the themes or genres are derivative or lack true depth, similar to the dominance of Taylor’s “bland offering.” * Question for the Table: Who are the Black women who are pushed out of or ghettoized in these spaces (e.g., in Romance, Sci-Fi, Erotica)? 🎶 Ep. 11 Playlist Here’s a list of tasty jams that have better songwriting chops: 📚 Resources for: Taylor Swift is Not Every Woman I. The History of Chart Segregation & The Genre Cage These articles provide essential context on the “Race Records” era and the systemic boxing of Black artists. * Article: “For Coloreds Only: Blackface and Segregation in the Billboard Charts and the GRAMMY Awards” * Why it’s useful: This academic-level piece directly connects the formation of racial categories in music (Rock/Country for White, R&B for Black) to the legacy of minstrelsy and Jim Crow, demonstrating that the charts were never “separate but equal.” * Link: (Search for the title on Google, as it’s an academic paper often hosted by university libraries.) * Article: “Race record” (Wikipedia) * Why it’s useful: A concise historical overview that confirms the timeline and terminology: “Harlem Hit Parade” $\rightarrow$ “Race Records” (1945) $\rightarrow$ “Rhythm & Blues Records” (1949, coined by Jerry Wexler). It verifies the name Ralph Peer as an influential white executive/DJ in early “Race Records” marketing. * Article: “The Development of National Record Charts” * Why it’s useful: Provides granular details on how Billboard separated its charts, confirming that the initial “Hit Parade” was a “mainstream (that is, white)” list, and the segregated charts were only a secondary measure of popularity. 📚 Taylor, Cultural Appropriation, and Chart Dominance These resources provide a modern critique of Taylor Swift’s “neutrality” and the ongoing issue of white artists co-opting Black genres. * Article: Taylor Swift and the Death of White Feminism * Why it’s useful: This article’s title directly addresses your theme of Taylor Swift not being “every woman” by framing her as the ultimate symbol of White Feminism. It argues that her brand of activism is selective, self-serving, and centers her personal interests (like the master’s dispute) above systemic issues. This directly relates to segments on White Fragility and the “Everywoman” Myth, suggesting that her overwhelming success has led to a cultural moment where a more intersectional or critical feminism dies under the weight of her highly protected, commercially successful, but ultimately narrow, white narrative. * Article: “I’ve Never Heard Silence Quite this Loud”: The Complexity of Taylor Swift’s Neutral Star Text * Why it’s useful: This paper argues that Swift’s dominance is partly achieved through a “neutral star image” that is widely palatable and allows disparate, even antithetical, fanbases (e.g., alt-right/queer women) to claim her. This supports your point that she is a blank slate onto which “every woman” can project, actively making her more marketable than complex Black peers. * Article: “FADE TO WHITE: Black Music, White Artists=Big Money” (EBONY Magazine) * Why it’s useful: Discusses the history of “blue-eyed soul” and cultural smudging, referencing Justin Timberlake and Justin Bieber being “co-signed” by Black producers (Timbaland, Usher), creating “complications for the Black community.” This perfectly backs your “Cultural Key” and R&B discussion. * Article: “When victimhood becomes a brand: Dissecting the racial undertones in Taylor Swift’s...” (Missing Perspectives) * Why it’s useful: Directly critiques Swift’s use of racialized language (e.g., “bad bitches,” “savage”) and her tendency to “play the underdog” despite her immense power, supporting your argument about the “Victimhood Brand” and White Protection. * Article: “Some white artists, like Elvis, exploit Black culture. So celebrate Bobby Caldwell, who enriched it” (The Guardian) * Why it’s useful: This contrasts an “exploiter” (Elvis) with an “

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  7. 10/29/2025

    Ep. 10: Hypersexuality, Black Women, and Neurodivergency

    A note from the editor: Hey, y’all — this is The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks. I want to start off by apologizing to the homies at WBQC for the delay in this upload. I got into my head about editing when I woke up today and said “f**k! I can edit the thing IN Substack. I am such a loon.” Anyway, this topic is right on time, apparently. We talk about ADHD and navigating the world as a neurodivergent Black woman with our neurotypical friends. Thank the Black Jesus that I already prepped this blog. Enjoy. — The Tizzle TW: The Hotties discuss for the listeners the following: sexual content, police/state violence discussion, and the presence of explicit anecdotes. We also discuss peer reviewed studies and medical definitions. We are not doctors, but we do suggest therapy. Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! 🤵🏾‍♀️This Episode’s Hotties * Doc Dubs * Regina Starr * The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle) 📖 Definitions and Key Words Hypersexuality is generally defined as a pattern of excessive, persistent, or distressing sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviors that interfere with daily life, relationships, or overall well-being. Social Links: * Hypersexuality vs. Hyposexuality in Austim * What do Autistic Meltdowns Look Like in Black Women * Black Women Are the Only Women Who Are Intersectional * Tips for Neurodivergent Black Women Here are some nuances from different sources: * Psychiatric/Psychological Lens: The American Psychiatric Association does not officially recognize “hypersexual disorder” in the DSM-5, but it has been described in clinical research as: * “Recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, urges, and behaviors that are time-consuming and difficult to control, often continuing despite negative consequences.” * Medical Lens: In neurology and psychiatry, hypersexuality can also appear as a symptom of certain conditions (e.g., bipolar disorder, frontotemporal dementia) or as a side effect of some medications. * “An unusually increased or inappropriate preoccupation with sexual thoughts or behaviors.” (Cleveland Clinic) * Everyday / Cultural Lens: Outside the medical setting, “hypersexual” is often used, sometimes problematically, to describe people (especially women and marginalized folks) who are perceived as having higher-than-average sexual desire or activity, even if it’s not clinically excessive. So in short:👉 Clinically, hypersexuality = compulsive, disruptive sexual behaviors. 👉 Culturally, hypersexuality = being labeled “too sexual,” often unfairly and based on stereotypes. 🔍 Studies & Articles 1. A Systematic Review of the Relationship Between Neurodiversity and Psychosexual Functioning in Individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) (Young, Cocallis et al., 2023) (PMC) What it covers:Look at how neurodivergent people, specifically with ASD or ADHD, experience psychosexual functioning — i.e., orientation, behaviors, experiences — including risk, sexual selfhood, etc. Good source for connecting neurodivergency + sexual behavior/hypersexuality risk. Pull quotes: * “The scientific literature on psychosexual functioning shows a range of outcomes for individuals with neurodiversity.” (PMC) * “...to prioritize further research and identify interventions to reduce risk.” (PMC) Relevance:Helps with understanding how ADHD/ASD might correlate with hypersexual behavior, or how sexual desire, regulation, and risk differ among neurodivergent people. Might be missing race/demographic breakdowns (i.e., fewer studies specific to Black women). 2. Association of ADHD and Hypersexuality and Paraphilias (Systematic Review) (PubMed) What it covers:Explores whether ADHD is associated with hypersexuality and paraphilic behaviors. Reviews multiple studies comparing ADHD individuals with non-ADHD individuals, etc. Pull quotes: * “Subjects with ADHD suffer from inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. Clinicians often assume that specific symptoms of ADHD are bound to affect sexual desire by increasing the frequency of hypersexuality.” (PubMed) * “Some individuals who suffer from ADHD report hypersexuality and paraphilias, but no clear data emerged supporting the idea that hypersexuality and paraphilias are more frequent in an ADHD population.” (PubMed) Relevance:Helps bring nuance: ADHD can correlate with hypersexuality / unusual sexual urges, but causation isn’t well established. This is relevant especially in considering neurodivergent identities and how hypersexuality might be over-pathologized or misunderstood. 3. ADHD prevalence in patients with hypersexuality and paraphilic disorders: a systematic review and meta‐analysis (PubMed) What it covers:Estimated how common ADHD is among people with hypersexuality or paraphilic disorders. Pull quotes: * “The overall estimate of the prevalence of ADHD in patients with hypersexuality or paraphilic disorders was 22.6% (95% interval: 17-29.4) with high heterogeneity (I² = 63%).” (PubMed) * “No significant difference in ADHD prevalence between the following subgroups: hypersexuality vs. paraphilic disorders, studies exploring the history of childhood ADHD vs. adult ADHD, US studies vs. others.” (PubMed) Relevance:Shows that ADHD is relatively common among people with hypersexuality/paraphilias, though “common” doesn’t mean universal, and designs/methods vary. Helpful in exploring the neurodivergent context for hypersexuality. 4. Investigating the Associations Of Adult ADHD Symptoms, Hypersexuality, and Problematic Pornography Use Among Men and Women on a Large-scale, Non-Clinical Sample (PubMed) What it covers:Looks at how ADHD symptoms relate to hypersexuality and problematic pornography use (PPU), comparing men and women in a large, non-clinical sample (~14,000 people). Pull quotes: * “Results indicated that hypersexuality had a positive and moderate association with problematic pornography use among women … and a positive and strong association among men.” (PubMed) * “ADHD symptoms had positive and moderate associations with hypersexuality in both men and women …” (PubMed) Relevance:Shows gendered differences: while ADHD correlates with hypersexuality in both sexes, the relationship with PPU is weaker for women. Could be useful when talking about Black women + neurodivergent + hypersexuality: perhaps women face additional layers (stigma, underreporting, fewer resources) that impact risk expression. 5. Hypersexuality in neurological disorders: A systematic review (PubMed) What it covers: Examines hypersexuality in the context of neurological disorders (e.g., Parkinson’s, dementia, etc.) rather than developmental neurodivergence, but informative for how brain/neurology impacts sexual behavior when regulation, impulse control, etc., are affected. Pull quotes: * “Hypersexuality (HS) accompanying neurological conditions remains poorly characterized despite profound psychosocial impacts.” (PubMed) * “HS was defined as a condition characterized by excessive and persistent preoccupation with sexual thoughts, urges, and behaviors that cause significant distress or impairment in personal, social, or occupational functioning.” (PubMed) Relevance:While not specific to Black women, this helps with understanding definitions, criteria, and what “hypersexuality” means in clinical/research settings (distress, impairment). 6. An investigation of Jezebel stereotype awareness, gendered racial identity, and sexual beliefs and behaviours among Black adult women (Taylor & Francis Online) What it covers:Looks at how awareness of the “Jezebel” stereotype (a hypersexual stereotype applied to Black women) interacts with gendered racial identity beliefs and influences sexual beliefs/behaviors (sexual assertiveness, satisfaction, guilt, relational attachment). Good for the intersection of Black women + stereotype/hypersexual narratives. Pull quotes: * “Black women who felt more positively connected to their Black woman identity reported greater sexual assertiveness and satisfaction.” (Taylor & Francis Online) * “More awareness of the Jezebel stereotype was associated with higher sexual guilt and attachment avoidance.” (Taylor & Francis Online) Relevance:Very directly relevant. Helps ground discussion about how societal stereotypes contribute to sexual self-image, shame, and behavior among Black women. Connect this to neurodivergency by considering whether neurodivergent Black women might have heightened vulnerability or different responses to these stereotypes. 7. Race-Based Sexual Stereotypes, Gendered Racism, and Sexual Decision Making Among Young Black Cisgender Women (PMC) What it covers:Focuses on young Black women (18-25), exploring how racialized sexual stereotypes and experiences of gendered racism shape sexual decision-making: safer sex, partner selection, empowerment, etc. Pull quotes: * “Due to their intersecting racial identity and gender identity, Black women are characterized by stigmatizing race-based sexual stereotypes (RBSS) that may contribute to persistent, disproportionately high rates of adverse sexual and reproductive health outcomes.” (PMC) * “Participants reported that RBSS may lead Black women to be resistant to learning new information about safer sex practices, feeli

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  8. 09/17/2025

    Ep. 9: I’m Grown and I Do What I Want: Policing Black Bodies and Sexualities and How We Fight Back

    TW: The Hotties discuss for the listeners the following: sexual content, police/state violence discussion, and the presence of explicit anecdotes. Listener discretion is advised. You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations. Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into: * Erotica * Kink * Love & Intimacy * Romance We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served! Ep. 9: I’m Grown and I Do What I Want: Policing Black Bodies and Sexualities and How We Fight Back 🤵🏾‍♀️This Episode’s Hotties * ✨Special Guest: Theo * Morticia Black * Wips * Super Sexy Spy * Doc Dubs * Summ’ah * The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle) 📝 Show Segments * Policing Black Bodies and Sexualities and How We Fight Back * 🆕 The Sports Report * Here Me Out 📣 Shout out to: Ellie The Elephant ➡️ Following the Leaders Theo advices to come correct when you’re following their socials (check this out first): * Instagram * Patreon 🍛 The Menu Black people's sexualities are policed by state media and online norms. And so we wanted to talk about how we navigate that, especially people like us who are probably just now getting really comfortable exploring our sexualities and our bodies and our willingness to put our desires and thoughts out there, particularly as creators of erotica or writers and things like that. The Hotties have pulled recent scholarship, essays, and policy briefs that help explain how the policing of Black femmes has operated across history, law, digital culture, and policy. Below are concise citations you can paste into your episode notes. * Dorothy Roberts — Killing the Black Body: Race, Reproduction, and the Meaning of Liberty (classic foundational text on reproductive and sexual policing of Black women). PenguinRandomhouse.com * Brill / recent article — “Policing Black Femininity Through Unsolicited Digital Advice” — study on how unsolicited advice in digital spaces operates as a form of gendered racial policing (2025). Useful for the social-media policing angle. Brill * SAGE journal article — “How Policing Black Women's Bodies Built the Modern City” — recent scholarship connecting sexual policing to institutional policing and urban governance. Good for historical → institutional framing. SAGE Journals * AAIHS / essay — “The Sexual Criminalization of Black Women” — overview of criminalization patterns and their historical roots; helpful for the law & policy discussion. AAIHS * Policy brief — “PROJECT 2025: The Impact on Black Women” (Black RJ / 2024) — short brief analyzing how certain policy proposals threaten bodily autonomy and gender/sexuality rights; useful for discussing present-day legislative threats. blackrj.org 🎶 Ep. 9 Spotify Playlist Suggestions? Tell us in the comments below ⬇️ Like what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below: * Substack * Instagram * Bluesky * YouTube * Spotify * Apple Podcasts #health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

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