In Need of A Tension

Jairus Matthew Copeland
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Hosted by Jairus Matthew Copeland, In Need of A Tension is a safe space that facilitates and guides conversations surrounding life, relationships and the tensions that can arise. The foundation of each conversation relies upon the beliefs that more is available, better is attainable and there is always perspective to gain.

  1. 5D AGO

    Dangerous or A Danger To Us // Handling Anger & Strong Emotions

    This week, Jairus Matthew Copeland explores how strong emotions—especially anger—can be reframed as powerful, productive energy rather than destructive force. He argues that while anger often gets a negative reputation, it can serve as a motivator for growth and self-actualization when it is identified, named, and given a healthy outlet; otherwise, it risks being misdirected and harming relationships and personal progress. Through reflections, practical questions, and analogies, he encourages listeners to slow their reactions, take responsibility for how they wield emotional power, and become “dangerous” in a disciplined, measured way that fuels success without making them a danger to themselves or others.

    23 min

  2. FEB 18

    I Need Help to Hope // Navigating Life's Frustrations & Circumstances Honestly

    This week, Jairus Matthew Copeland reflects on navigating intense frustration, fear, and mounting life pressures—from illness and impending fatherhood to financial strain and personal expectations—while grappling with anger, self-doubt, and the temptation to lose hope. Rather than offering tidy solutions, the speaker leans into honesty, emphasizing that hope is sustained not by isolation but by seeking help, leaning on community, and refusing to give up on oneself or others even in the hardest seasons. Ultimately, Jairus reframes hardship as a shared human experience and argues that resilience is built through belief, perspective, and the courage to stay connected instead of retreating into fear or cynicism.

    18 min

  3. JAN 28

    The Pregnancy POD // Featuring Sarah Aubrey Copeland

    This episode features a candid, deeply personal conversation between Jairus Matthew Copeland and his wife, Sarah, as they reflect on their somewhat unexpected pregnancy journey, the physical and emotional realities of the third trimester, and the evolving identities they are stepping into as parents. Snowed in at home, they trace the moment they realized Sarah was pregnant, share the mix of fear, joy, surrender, and humor that followed, and talk openly about the toll pregnancy has taken on Sarah’s body alongside the meaning it has brought to both of them. As they prepare to welcome their daughter, Violet, they explore what motherhood and fatherhood mean to them—grappling with control, identity, faith, legacy, and the hope of raising a child grounded in who she is rather than what happens to her.

    1h 6m

  4. JAN 21

    Waiting Isn't Dying // How To Realize Your Greatest Desire

    This week, Jairus Matthew Copeland reframes waiting not as stagnation or failure, but as an essential, life-giving process of growth. Drawing from personal milestones—impending parenthood, a year of reflection, and even an unexpectedly hollow fantasy football win—Copeland explores the pressure to constantly achieve “more” and the emptiness that can follow unchecked striving. He argues that what we often mistake for delay is actually preparation: a season for building internal margin, discipline, and capacity so that future success doesn’t bankrupt us emotionally or spiritually. Waiting, Copeland insists, isn’t dying—it’s staying alive long enough to become someone who can truly sustain the life they want

    22 min

  5. 12/18/2025

    The Art of Reflection // A 2025 Look Back

    In this reflective, year-end solo episode, Jairus Matthew Copeland looks back on a transformative 2025 marked by marriage, impending fatherhood, and a first full year of coaching—one filled with both missteps and meaningful growth. Through stories about family, faith, disappointing others, and learning how to “fall with grace,” he explores how priorities can shift without abandoning core values, and why reflection matters more than rigid goal-setting. As he heads into 2026, Jairus reframes the new year not as a quest for new tools or radical reinvention, but as an invitation to use what he already has with greater intention, accountability, and presence, embracing gratitude for the present while remaining hopeful for what’s next.

    12 min

  6. 12/10/2025

    The Fight For Better // Becoming a Man w/ Coach Jae

    This week, Jairus Copeland talks with Coach Jae about the journey that took him from depression, substance abuse, and a struggling marriage to becoming a devoted husband, father, man of faith, and successful fitness coach. Coach Jae shares the disciplines and internal transformations that shaped him—therapy, fitness, fatherhood, honest communication, surrendering control, and spiritual renewal—while reflecting on masculinity, purpose, identity, and creating emotional space for family and community. His story is one of rebuilding from the inside out, embracing accountability, redefining manhood, and using faith and fitness as anchors for a healthier, more intentional life.

    54 min

  7. 12/03/2025

    Numb is the New Aware // How Escaping Crisis Can Lead You Forward

    In this episode, Jairus Matthew Copeland reframes numbness not as a lack of feeling, but as a new awareness—a neutral state that reveals how overwhelmed, overextended, and emotionally exhausted we’ve become. Speaking to those who feel stuck, tired of being strong, or disconnected from themselves, he explores how numbness often rises when unhealthy coping mechanisms are stripped away and we’re forced to truly face our internal landscape. Through personal stories about addiction, avoidance, accountability, and retreating into self-preservation, he highlights how numbness can either drag us back into chaos or push us toward growth, depending on the choices we make. Ultimately, he encourages listeners to see this numbness as an invitation to take inventory, seek healthier connections, and reshape their nervous systems so they can move toward clarity, authenticity, and deeper belonging.

    33 min

  8. 11/26/2025

    The Cycle of Confusion // Reclaim Your Mental Space

    In this episode, Jairus Matthew Copeland breaks down the emotional cycle of confusion → consumption → being consumed, illustrating how overwhelming thoughts, fears, and unresolved “small messes” can devour our mental energy and distort our sense of reality. Through personal stories—ranging from digital distraction to childhood wounds to adult fears of abandonment—he explains how unchecked confusion leads us to overconsume information, coping mechanisms, and distractions that only deepen the overwhelm. He believes that the way out requires building a deeper internal foundation, strengthening our mental resilience, seeking community, and choosing not to be ruled by lies or fears that feel all-consuming.

    36 min
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Hosted by Jairus Matthew Copeland, In Need of A Tension is a safe space that facilitates and guides conversations surrounding life, relationships and the tensions that can arise. The foundation of each conversation relies upon the beliefs that more is available, better is attainable and there is always perspective to gain.

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  • Creator
    Jairus Matthew Copeland
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    In Need of A Tension