Learning From Reb Usher Freund zt"l

Rav Shlomo Katz

In this series Rav Shlomo Katz explores the inspiring, powerful Torah and Wisdom of Reb Usher Freund zt"l

  1. 16. And Even If I’m Right, Then What...

    JAN 12

    16. And Even If I’m Right, Then What...

    Rav Shlomo Katz and the chevra of Shirat David dive into a letter from Reb Usher that hits a nerve: what happens when you know you’re right… and it still doesn’t bring peace? Reb Usher takes us beneath the surface of machlokes and into the heart of the matter: the hidden “tzar hatzorer”—that inner dictator that keeps chanting “I’m right, he’s wrong”—and how it slowly disconnects us from the source of life. The surprising avodah here isn’t winning the argument. It’s building a bris ahavah she’einah teluyah b’davar—a covenant of love that isn’t dependent on agreement—until it can actually spark hisnatzetzus Or HaGeulah. And then comes the most vulnerable turn: the real tefillah of geulah might be only one word—“Ima!” The cry of a soul that’s terrified of one thing בלבד: being cut off from Hashem’s Presence for even a moment. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a “right vs. wrong” loop, this one is for you. ----------For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.comJoin Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t 00:00 Intro03:24 Covenant of Unconditional Love Explanation09:02 Reb Asher’s Method: Uniting Diverse Groups10:55 Digging Deeper Than the Argument20:42 Consequences of Separating from Friends22:14 Distraction’s Role in Breaking Unity23:21 Prayer of the Poor Soul26:43 Gates of Faith Open Before a Person28:11 Ultimate Knowledge: Realizing We Never Truly Know32:36 Cannot Control Others – Prepare a Vessel for Redemption34:29 Entering the Gates of Faith – Touching Eternity37:56 Stage Incident and Desire to Retaliate 38:57 Choosing Silence – Walking Off the Stage46:21 Closing Prayer and Invitation to Shul

    48 min
  2. 15. Don’t Let Damaging Thoughts Break You

    11/24/2025

    15. Don’t Let Damaging Thoughts Break You

    This week, Rav Shlomo Katz and the chevra of Shirat David continue the letter from Reb Usher which deals with one of the most painful questions in real avodas Hashem: Why do the dirtiest, most damaging thoughts show up precisely in our holiest moments – during davening, on Yom Kippur, when we finally feel like we’re showing up? Instead of letting those thoughts “prove” that we’re garbage, Reb Usher flips the script. He teaches that these intrusive machshavos are not a verdict on who we are – they’re a wake-up call to who we aren’t without Hashem, and an invitation to deeper bitul and compassion instead of toxic shame and self-loathing. Rav Shlomo walks us through: Why the worst thoughts so often attack us in shul, during Shemoneh Esrei, or in moments of kedushaThe dangerous lie that “if I’m still thinking this, it must be the real me”How Reb Usher reads “don’t let it break you” – let your heart crack open to Hashem, but don’t shatter as a personThe difference between healthy shiflus and the cycle of shame that actually feeds addictionWhat this all means for a generation raised on TikTok, over-exposure, and impossible expectationsWhy the Ba'al Teshuva has an advantage over someone who is Frum from Birth when these thoughts attackFor anyone who’s ever walked out of davening feeling like, “If people knew what was in my head…”, this shiur is a lifeline. Don’t let damaging thoughts define you. Let them become the place where you discover how deeply Hashem is holding you, every second. ----------For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com Join Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t

    39 min
  3. 13. The Gifts That Emerge From Confusing Thoughts

    11/10/2025

    13. The Gifts That Emerge From Confusing Thoughts

    Rav Shlomo Katz and the chevra of Shirat David learn a fierce, yet compassionate, letter from Reb Usher Freund on what to do precisely when, in holy moments, the mind floods with מחשבות זרות—blurry, intrusive, and confusing thoughts. Instead of spiraling into self-hatred, Reb Usher reframes them as invitations to ביטול/אין: not “I am garbage,” but “I’m held and that my strength is borrowed Light.”  We explore how recognizing our true value as receivers gives us real contro, not over what thoughts appear, but over how we respond. With Tehillim’s “הוציאה ממסגר נפשי,” the image of the loyal בהמה to its master, and Avraham’s “ואנכי עפר ואפר,” the shiur charts a path to turn rent-free thoughts into rent-paid growth. Topics include: - Why bad thoughts show up in good places—and why that doesn’t define you.- “Control” redefined: not stopping thoughts, but steering response.- Living with thoughts vs. warring with them; tasting ביטול without falling into ייאוש.- “בהמות הייתי עמך”: learning holy surrender from a loyal animal to its Master.- “הוציאה ממסגר נפשי”: escaping the hamster-wheel mind.-Avraham’s “ואנכי עפר ואפר” as the gateway to deepest strength.- Turning confusion into clarity: from rent-free to rent-due. ----------For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com Join Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t

    35 min
  4. 12. When the Pain Starts to Crumble

    11/03/2025

    12. When the Pain Starts to Crumble

    Rav Shlomo Katz and the chevra of Shirat David learn a short but searing letter from Reb Usher Freund about what happens when pain starts to crumble. Writing to a woman trapped in an agunah reality, Reb Usher validates the anguish, and then reframes it: pain can be a cleansing wash (רחיצת שמלה) that scrubs away stains; the process still hurts, but accepted with love it stops being torture and begins to reveal Or Shivat HaYamim (the primordial “seven-day light). “Ketz sam la’choshech”— there is an end to darkness, and it arrives faster when we choose patience, prayer, and love over despair and victim-identity. Topics include: “Ketz la’choshech” is real: why every darkness has an end even when you can’t imagine it.The wash-metaphor: רחיצה מכאיבה—how cleansing pain works, and how קבלה באהבה changes the experience (not always the facts).Validation before mussar: being seen as the gateway to healing influence.Pain vs. suffering: pain can be involuntary; suffering is often a choice of stance.Birth pangs & geulah: why labor-level pain hints at a light that follows.Where בחירה sits: tending to my nefesh and avodah even when others misuse theirs.From “worshipping the wound” to Bnei Emunah—trading victimhood for partnership with Hashem.— For more Shiurim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com Join Rav Shlomo Katz’s WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t

    29 min
  5. 10/20/2025

    11. Accessing Supernatural Powers

    Rav Shlomo Katz and the chevra of Shirat David learn Reb Usher’s short but piercing letter about the “game” Hashem set into creation: neshamas sent into gufim—so that our way to powers lema’alah min ha’teva (above our nature) actually runs through the body, not around it. We explore free will in real time (not acting on every thought), the danger of turning streaks of self-control into self-worship, and the quiet addiction to feeling like a victim. The avodah is to notice the strength we’re given, trace it back to its Source, and live like a baby held by its mother—safe, nourished, and not compelled by every impulse. Topics include: “The game”: souls in bodies—why access to kochos she’me’al hateva is davka through the guf.Bechira in the moment: thoughts arise constantly; emunah means I don’t have to act on them.Streaks vs. Source: when discipline becomes ego-service—and how to turn victories into thanksgiving.The quiet pleasure of sadness: how victimhood removes responsibility—and how to break its spell.“Like a baby in its mother’s arms”: cultivating felt safety with Hashem to dissolve compulsion.Reading the paragraph again (and again): training the eye to see that every strength is a gift.Touching Or HaGanuz—the light of Bereishit—without pretending we’re perfect.— For more Shiurim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com Join Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode

    37 min
  6. 09/29/2025

    10. Is Pain the Only Way to Discover the Real Me?

    Rav Shlomo Katz and the chevra of Shirat David learn a piece from Reb Usher that reminds us that the foundation of our existence is emunah—and that the milchemes hamiddos (inner war of character) never clocks out. We learn how to ask not “lama?—why is this happening?” but “lemah?—what is this for?” and how that shift turns panic into tefillah, despair into light, and homes full of worry into homes clothed in warmth. Topics include: Why tzaddikim begin each day certain that Hashem believes in them—even when yesterday was rough.The core daily avodah: strengthening ourselves “again and again,” starting anew without getting tired.The difference between asking for emunah and simply wishing to find it.“Concern vs. worry”: turning da’agah into tefillah—and how a parent’s calm face uplifts the whole home (“Lo tira leveita mi’sheleg”).Two wars inside us—Beha’aloscha (reactive sirens) vs. Ki Teitzei (pre-emptive courage)—and why a Jew is called to go out to the fight.How yissurim awaken bitul/efesiyut (holy nothingness) that reveals Or HaGanuz—the hidden light of emunah.Cooling Amalek vs. a house of warmth: becoming Bnei Emunah, not just a “startup nation.”Believing in Geulah means believing in Am Yisrael—and in the light waiting at the end of each circle.— For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com Join Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode

    42 min

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In this series Rav Shlomo Katz explores the inspiring, powerful Torah and Wisdom of Reb Usher Freund zt"l