Saying Yes Again: Real Talk About Love, Dating & Relationships After 40

Dr. Lisa and Tony Goudy
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Dating after divorce? Finding love again after 40 or 50? Navigating marriage, relationships, and second chances? Welcome to Saying Yes Again, where Tony and Dr. Lisa have real, honest, and sometimes uncomfortable conversations about midlife love and relationships. From dating and remarriage to communication, intimacy, boundaries, and starting over, we challenge outdated relationship expectations and explore what it really takes to build meaningful connections in the second half of life. Whether you're single, dating, divorced, remarried, or committed to strengthening your current relationship, there's a place for you in this conversation. Because finding love again isn't just about saying yes to someone else. It's about saying yes to yourself, your happiness, and the life you deserve.

  1. Oct 6 ·  Video

    I Don't Want To Take Care of a Man

    The real question is not whether you want to take care of a man—it's whether he can stand beside the life you've built without trying to run it. For women who are single, divorced, widowed, or dating in their 50s, 60s, and beyond, this conversation gets honest about the difference between caring for someone and carrying them. Dr. Lisa & Tony open with the familiar line, "I don't want to take care of a man," and explores what it can mean for women entering a new chapter. After decades of raising children, managing households, and building careers, many women value the freedom and independence they've worked hard to create. They want a relationship that feels like a partnership—not another responsibility. This episode explores why "caring" and "carrying" aren't the same, why age alone doesn't guarantee maturity, and why self-sufficiency, communication, and respect for boundaries matter. Dr. Lisa & Tony also consider the questions worth asking while dating: Can he celebrate your success? Does he have a life and purpose of his own? Does being with him make your life bigger—or smaller? For every woman who wants to protect the life she's built without closing the door to love, this is a conversation about dating with standards, keeping your independence, and saying yes again on your own terms. Dr. Lisa & Tony are the voices behind Saying Yes Again, a podcast about navigating love, loss, independence, and second chances with honesty and clarity. Get our free Saying Yes Again Starter Kit. Discover why dating feels so exhausting after heartbreak—and begin rebuilding the one thing healthy love depends on: Trusting yourself again. Watch our episodes on YouTube Subscribe to our Spotify podcast Follow us on Facebook SayingYesAgain TikTok

    I Don't Want To Take Care of a Man

  2. Aug 28 ·  Video

    Dating Over 50: What If It Doesn't Work Out?

    In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Tony explore the mindset shifts necessary for embracing new relationships in midlife. They talk about shifting from "What if it doesn't work out"? to "What if it does." They discuss overcoming fears, redefining success, and the importance of growth and flexibility in dating again. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Embracing New Beginnings in Midlife 02:07 The Impact of Pessimism on Dating 04:04 Crawling Before Walking: Relearning How to Date 05:55 Changing Priorities and Self-Discovery in Midlife 07:49 The Role of Familiarity and Unfamiliarity in Choices 10:06 Expanding Horizons: Seeking New Options 12:02 The Power of Flexibility and Adjustments in Relationships 13:58 Growth Through Experiences and Saying Yes Again 16:09 Overcoming Fear of Failure and Success 18:06 Building Friendship as a Foundation 19:56 The Deepest Fear: What If It Works? 22:13 Living Fully and Embracing Change 24:11 The Importance of Being Open to the Unfamiliar 26:09 Learning from Every Experience 28:03 Shifting the Question: From What If to Who Might I Become 29:55 The Power of Growth and Saying Yes Again 31:47 Challenge: Saying Yes to Life and Love 34:11 Conclusion: Embrace the Journey of Self-Discovery Get our free Saying Yes Again Starter Kit. Discover why dating feels so exhausting after heartbreak—and begin rebuilding the one thing healthy love depends on: Trusting yourself again. Watch our episodes on YouTube Subscribe to our Apple podcast Subscribe to our Spotify podcast Follow us on Facebook SayingYesAgain TikTok

  3. Aug 4

    What Fear Has Cost You (And You Don't Even Know It)

    Dr. Lisa and Tony explore how fear can hold us back from love, success, and happiness, and how leaning into faith and courage can transform our lives. This episode offers practical advice on overcoming fear and embracing life's opportunities.  Takeaways Fear is a terrible decision-maker; faith shows what you can gain. Every meaningful life moment involves overcoming fear. Building confidence in saying yes makes future fears easier to face. Changing your mindset from 'what if it doesn't work' to 'what if it does' can transform your life. Leaning into fear instead of avoiding it opens doors to love, success, and happiness. Chapters 00:00 Fear is a GPS, not a Stop Sign 02:27 Overcoming Fear of Love and Disappointment 05:34 Every Meaningful Moment Requires Courage 07:42 Trust Yourself More Than Doubts 10:33 Allow Fear to Strengthen, Not Stop You 11:23 Sharing Our Journey to Inspire Others 12:53 The Power of Saying Yes to Your Future 13:32 Leaning into Fear to Discover Your Purpose 14:02 Say Yes to Love, Life, and Second Chances 15:02 Join Our Community and Start Your Journey   Saying Yes Again Website  Saying Yes Again Starter Kit  Saying Yes Again YouTube

  4. Jul 28

    Before You Say Yes Again, Some Things Have To End

    In this conversation, Lisa and Tony explore the concept of necessary endings, inspired by Dr. Henry Cloud's book, "Necessary Endings." They delve into the importance of recognizing when to let go of old habits, relationships, and mindsets to foster personal growth and create a more fulfilling future. They share personal stories of their own experiences with endings, including relationships, careers, and identities, emphasizing the importance of recognizing when something has run its course. The discussion also touches on overcoming fear of decision-making and the need to stop dwelling on the past to embrace new opportunities. Takeaways 00:00 "Some things have to come to an end." 01:18 "It's about healing and letting go." 06:04 "Burnout pushed me to the point where..." 07:03 "It's okay to let it go and to end." 08:25 "It's time to grow and change." 25:41 "What story do I keep repeating?" 25:41 "Stop being fearful of making decisions." Chapters 00:00 The Necessity of Endings 02:13 Personal Stories of Transformation 11:48 Identifying Necessary Endings 21:59 Letting Go of the Past 25:41 Overcoming Fear of Decisions 28:29 Embracing Growth and Change Links and resources Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud - https://www.amazon.com/Necessary-Endings-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/1591457684 Connect with Saying Yes Again: Get our free Saying Yes Again Starter Kit. Discover why dating feels so exhausting after heartbreak—and begin rebuilding the one thing healthy love depends on: Trusting yourself again. Watch our episodes on YouTube Subscribe to our Apple podcast Subscribe to our Spotify podcast Follow us on Facebook SayingYesAgain TikTok

    Before You Say Yes Again, Some Things Have To End

  5. Jul 14

    Empowering Women to Trust Their Intuition After Divorce with Dr. Nicole Rochester

    In this episode, Dr. Nicole Rochester shares her transformational journey through divorce, healing, and rediscovering herself. She offers powerful insights on recognizing red flags, trusting intuition, and embracing second chances in love. Dr. Nicole Rochester is a mom, pediatrician, business owner, TEDx speaker, and the host of the Your nEXt Chapter Podcast. She ended a 28-year marriage and had to navigate heartbreak, betrayal, grief and loss. A recovering perfectionist and the proverbial "strong friend", Dr. Nicole experienced a transformational journey of healing by embracing vulnerability and discovering the power of her community. Rooted in her faith, Dr. Nicole is committed to creating safe spaces where high-achieving women who have experienced "divine disruptions" can heal, recover, and THRIVE as they write the next chapter of their lives!  key  topics Recognizing subtle signs of emotional abuse The importance of self-worth and self-love Trusting intuition and recognizing red flags The role of faith and community in healing Letting go of control and embracing divine timing The significance of unlearning limiting beliefs Steps to rebuild trust in oneself and others The impact of personal boundaries and honesty Navigating dating after divorce with intention The importance of self-care and joy in recovery Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Nicole Rochester 01:43 Signs of a Troubled Marriage 05:32 Recognizing Emotional Abuse 09:31 Advice for Those Experiencing Betrayal 12:28 The Internal Struggle of Professional Women 15:43 The Turning Point in Dr. Nicole's Journey 19:58 God's Preparation for Change 22:43 Empowering Women Post-Betrayal 25:10 Breaking the Superwoman Myth 26:18 The Importance of Asking for Help 27:51 Trusting Yourself and Your Intuition 29:13 Dating with Intention 35:34 Embracing New Beginnings 36:06 Future Aspirations and Community Engagement Links and resources Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud - https://www.amazon.com/Necessary-Endings-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/1591457684 Your Next Chapter Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-next-chapter/id1471234567 Dr. Nicole Rochester - Social Media - https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co/ Dr. Nicole Rochester - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co Get your free Saying Yes Again Starter Kit. Discover why dating feels so exhausting after heartbreak—and begin rebuilding the one thing healthy love depends on: Trusting yourself again.

    Empowering Women to Trust Their Intuition After Divorce with Dr. Nicole Rochester

  6. Jul 7

    Love, Luggage, and a Promise Ring: The Deltoro's Story of Second Chances

    Join us as Constance and William Del Toro share their incredible love story, which blossomed from a chance meeting at the airport into a thriving marriage. Discover how faith, timing, and boldness can create a fairy tale in midlife. Takeaways Be open to love at any age and trust divine timing Honest communication and setting clear intentions are key Self-healing and shadow work prepare you for love Support and partnership strengthen relationships Taking bold, intentional actions can change your life Sharing love stories can inspire others to believe in second chances Chapters 00:00 Introduction to a Magical Love Story 02:06 The Chance Meeting at the Airport 10:04 The First Date and Connection 14:26 The Bold Declaration of Love 19:33 The Proposal and Commitment 22:22 Overcoming Grief and Embracing New Love 23:24 Manifesting Love: The Power of Intentions 25:03 Embracing Authenticity in Relationships 26:32 Second Chances: Luck or Divine Intervention? 28:59 Recognizing the One: Moments of Connection 31:09 The Leap of Faith: Expressing True Feelings 32:35 Advice for Finding Love: Be Open and Engaging 34:05 Navigating Public Perception: Love in the Spotlight 37:49 Building Together: Love and Business Dynamics 40:31 Building a Trustworthy Team 41:12 Supporting a Partner's Ambitions 44:28 Finding Love Later in Life 47:55 Self-Reflection and Healing 48:54 Creating a Love Story: The Book 51:06 Future Plans and Expanding Horizons Del Toro Life - TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thedeltoro_life Del Toro Life - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thedeltoro_life Del Toro Life Website - https://thedeltorolife.com Connect with Saying Yes Again: Get your free Saying Yes Again starter kit. Discover why dating feels so exhausting after heartbreak—and begin rebuilding the one thing healthy love depends on: Trusting yourself again. Get our newsletter packed with inspiration and tips on navigating your second chapter Watch our episodes on YouTube Subscribe to our podcast Follow us on Facebook SayingYesAgain TikTok

    Love, Luggage, and a Promise Ring: The Deltoro's Story of Second Chances

  7. Jul 1

    Embracing Love Again: Navigating Fear and Building Trust

    This episode dives deep into the reality of starting over in love after divorce, highlighting how fear, trust, and self-awareness play pivotal roles in second chances at love. Dr. Lisa and Tony Goudy share their personal journey, insights on overcoming inner obstacles, and practical advice on saying yes to love again. 00:00 - Introduction: Love, fear, and second chances 02:23 - The concept of a 'life partner' versus marriage 03:49 - Overcoming fear to re-enter the dating scene 05:15 - Changing mindset about marriage and love 06:41 - Building trust and friendship after divorce 09:30 - Fear does not disappear with love 10:59 - Love doesn't heal all wounds but enhances the healing process 15:42 - The difference between loving and receiving love 16:12 - The challenge of accepting love from others 18:27 - Internal blocks to receiving love and vulnerability 20:48 - Letting go of the pursuit of certainty in relationships 22:13 - The importance of flexibility and realistic expectations 24:37 - The value of shared experiences and understanding surprises in relationship growth 26:57 - Overcoming fear with intentionality and openness 28:22 - How to connect with Dr. Lisa and Tony Goudy online 29:20 - Teasing upcoming episode: The viral love story of the Del Toro's 30:12 - Final thoughts: Love, life, and second chances Resources & Links: Get your free Saying Yes Again Starter Kit and begin rebuilding the one thing healthy love depends on: Trusting yourself again. Saying Yes Again on Facebook Saying Yes Again on Instagram Watch on YouTube for the full video

    Embracing Love Again: Navigating Fear and Building Trust

  8. Jun 16

    Surviving Texting Drama: Stop Reading Between The Lines

    This episode explores how overanalyzing text messages can hinder dating, especially in midlife. Dr. Lisa and Tony share insights on overcoming fears, building trust, and embracing uncertainty to foster genuine connections. Chapters 00:00 The Texting Dilemma in Dating 02:57 Understanding Assumptions and Reactions 05:45 The Impact of Communication Styles 08:54 Overanalyzing Text Messages 11:43 The Role of Uncertainty in Relationships 15:02 Building Trust and Connection 17:50 Navigating Fear and Control in Dating 20:39 Practical Tips for Healthy Communication 23:56 The Journey to Trust and Certainty 26:46 Embracing Uncertainty in Relationships Connect with Saying Yes Again: Get our free Saying Yes Again Starter Kit. Discover why dating feels so exhausting after heartbreak—and begin rebuilding the one thing healthy love depends on: Trusting yourself again. Watch our episodes on YouTube Subscribe to our Apple podcast Subscribe to our Spotify podcast Follow us on Facebook SayingYesAgain TikTok

    Surviving Texting Drama: Stop Reading Between The Lines
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Dating after divorce? Finding love again after 40 or 50? Navigating marriage, relationships, and second chances? Welcome to Saying Yes Again, where Tony and Dr. Lisa have real, honest, and sometimes uncomfortable conversations about midlife love and relationships. From dating and remarriage to communication, intimacy, boundaries, and starting over, we challenge outdated relationship expectations and explore what it really takes to build meaningful connections in the second half of life. Whether you're single, dating, divorced, remarried, or committed to strengthening your current relationship, there's a place for you in this conversation. Because finding love again isn't just about saying yes to someone else. It's about saying yes to yourself, your happiness, and the life you deserve.

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