Spiritually Homesteading | How to Lose Your Religion & Keep Your Jesus

Laura Farhy
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Most faith podcasts will tell you what to believe. This one helps you figure out how to build. Spiritually Homesteading exists for the spiritually curious, the quietly disillusioned, and the stubbornly hopeful. The people who got honest about their faith and ended up with more questions than answers. The ones who left the church, or stayed and felt alone in it. The ones who still feel something pulling them toward God but don't know what to do with that feeling anymore. This podcast is not about de-converting. This is about what comes next: the slower, harder, more rewarding work of rebuilding a faith that actually belongs to you. Not inherited. Not performed. Not borrowed from someone else's certainty and rules. Think of it like tending a homestead. Nothing grows overnight. Nothing grows without effort. But when you put your own hands in the soil and tend something with intention, it becomes yours in a way that nobody can take from you. That's what we're building here. Episode by episode. Together. If you've been hurt by the church but haven't lost your hunger for truth...Welcome home.

  1. 16h ago

    S2:10 - God Doesn't Need an Attorney — And You Were Never Supposed to Be One

    Many Christians feel pressured to defend God, argue theology, and convince others to believe. But what if faith was never meant to be forced? In this episode, we explore why God doesn’t need human defense attorneys, the difference between discipleship and domination, and how performative Christianity often pushes people further away from authentic faith. We discuss: why forced faith isn’t real faith, how spiritual control damages relationships, the importance of free will, and why living your beliefs matters more than arguing them. If you’re deconstructing toxic religious expectations while trying to keep your relationship with Jesus intact, this conversation is for you. #progressivechristianity #deconstructingchristianity #christianpodcast #christianfaith #christianfaith #christianityexplained #deconstructingfaith #deconstructedchristian #exvangelical #leavingchurch #reconstructingfaith #christianityexplored #faithcrisis #faithhabits #faithquestions #christianpodcast  #christianpodcaster

  2. Sep 27

    S2:09 - Deconstructing Christianity: Why I kept my faith

    What happens when you deconstruct Christianity but still hold onto your relationship with God? In this episode of Spiritually Homesteading, Laura shares her personal journey through a 10-year deconstruction process and explains why her faith survived even when institutional Christianity didn’t. This episode explores the tension of feeling “too Christian for atheists and too atheist for Christians,” the importance of personal spiritual experiences, and why healing—not conformity—is the real goal of deconstruction. Laura also shares a humorous story about asking God for a deeper spiritual experience… and unexpectedly encountering “ginger Jesus.” If you’ve been questioning church culture but still feel connected to Christ, this conversation offers honesty, encouragement, and permission to rethink faith on your own terms. #progressivechristianity #deconstructingchristianity #christianpodcast #christianfaith #christianfaith #christianityexplained #deconstructingfaith #deconstructedchristian #exvangelical #leavingchurch #reconstructingfaith #christianityexplored #faithcrisis #faithhabits #faithquestions #christianyoutube #christianyoutuber

  3. Sep 20

    S2:08 - Atheist vs Christian: Are We More Alike Than We Think?

    What happens when the people who reject religion start mirroring the very behavior they criticize? In this episode, Laura takes an honest and even handed look at the surprising similarities between fundamentalist Christianity and hardline atheism, from moral superiority to dogmatic certainty. This is not an attack on either side. It is an invitation to ask ourselves the question we all avoid: am I genuinely open to being wrong? Thought provoking, fair, and a little uncomfortable in the best possible way.   #progressivechristianity #deconstructingchristianity #christianpodcast #christianfaith #christianfaith #christianityexplained #deconstructingfaith #deconstructedchristian #exvangelical #leavingchurch #reconstructingfaith #christianityexplored #faithcrisis #faithhabits #faithquestions #christianpodcast #christianpodcaster

  4. Sep 13

    S2.07 - God's Upgrade: How He Uses Your Toughest Trials to Level You Up

    Have you ever walked into a room and felt completely out of your league? In this episode, Laura shares a personal story about being placed in a class she was not ready for and how it quietly killed her confidence. Through a vulnerable conversation with her daughter, she unpacks what it really means to be surrounded by people who are better than you, and why that is not a reason to quit. If you have ever felt like the smallest fish in the pond, this episode will remind you that you are not in the wrong room. You just have not finished training yet.   #progressivechristianity #deconstructingchristianity #christianpodcast #christianfaith #christianfaith #christianityexplained #deconstructingfaith #deconstructedchristian #exvangelical #leavingchurch #reconstructingfaith #christianityexplored #faithcrisis #faithhabits #faithquestions #christianpodcast #christianpodcaster

  5. Sep 6

    S2.06 - Religious Trauma Is Real: What Harvard Says About Healing

    Back in April, I had the privilege of sitting in on a Religious Trauma Symposium hosted at Harvard Divinity School. Chaplains. Professors. Survivors. Researchers. All in the same room, talking about something that most churches will not touch with a ten-foot pole — the real, measurable, documented harm that religion can cause to the people sitting in its pews. In this episode we will talk about what was discussed and how those who are hurt can find help Link to resources here #churchhurt #religioustrauma #progressivechristianity #deconstructingchristianity #christianpodcast #christianfaith #christianfaith #christianityexplained #deconstructingfaith #deconstructedchristian #exvangelical #leavingchurch #reconstructingfaith #christianityexplored #faithcrisis #faithhabits #faithquestions #christianpodcast #christianpodcaster

  6. Aug 30

    S2.05 - Colonialism and Christianity: The History Your Church Skipped

    What if you didn't walk away from God — you walked away from empire? This episode asks the question that deconstruction often misses: who handed you your faith, and why?   Full description ↓ Colonialism didn't just steal land — it stole stories. When European colonizers brought Christianity to the Americas, it wasn't an invitation. It was an instrument. In this episode, we trace that history and ask what it means for those of us trying to rebuild something real on the other side of it. Deconstruction is not the enemy of faith. It's land clearing. And you can't build something genuinely yours on ground that's still full of someone else's foundations. If you're in a season of deconstruction or reconstruction — this one's for you. 🌱 Spiritually Homesteading is for people building a faith that's actually theirs. #progressivechristianity #deconstructingchristianity #christianpodcast #christianfaith #christianfaith #christianityexplained #deconstructingfaith #deconstructedchristian #exvangelical #leavingchurch #reconstructingfaith #christianityexplored #faithcrisis #faithhabits #faithquestions #christianpodcast #christianpodcaster

  7. Aug 23

    S2.04 - Why Every Christian Needs to Learn to Disciple Themselves

    How many years have you been going to church and are you actually different? It's the question nobody wants to answer honestly. Because the truth is, a lot of us have been showing up, sitting down, receiving, going home, and calling it a relationship with God. And when that system breaks down, when the pastor falls, when the church hurts you, when Sunday stops being enough...we're left with nothing. Because we built our entire faith inside someone else's house. In this episode, Laura makes the case for self-discipleship: taking radical personal ownership of your spiritual life, not because church is bad, but because no one else can do this for you. She traces how Moses, David, Paul, and even Jesus himself built their most significant spiritual breakthroughs not inside religious institutions, but in deserts, caves, and quiet places far from the crowd. You'll learn what self-discipleship actually looks like in real life (no theology degree required), why spiritual stagnation is silent until it isn't, how to build one small daily habit that will do more for your faith than another year of Sundays, and the 30-second morning question that turned Laura's entire ordinary life into a spiritual practice. Your faith should be able to survive a Monday. This episode helps you build one that can. #progressivechristianity #deconstructingchristianity #christianpodcast #christianfaith #christianfaith #christianityexplained #deconstructingfaith #deconstructedchristian #exvangelical #leavingchurch #reconstructingfaith #christianityexplored #faithcrisis #faithhabits #faithquestions #christianyoutube #christianyoutuber

  8. Aug 16

    S2.03 - Is Jealousy a Sign From God?

    The church told you jealousy is a sin to be confessed and buried. But what if it's actually one of the most honest prayers you'll ever pray? Jealousy doesn't lie. It tells you exactly what you want, and exactly what you don't believe you're allowed to have. And when you stop trying to kill it and start getting curious about it, it becomes one of the most powerful tools for spiritual growth you've never been taught to use. In this episode, Laura shares a personal story about sitting across from a woman living the life she wanted, and the spiral of comparison, self-doubt, and buried belief that followed. Instead of letting it consume her, she used it. And what she discovered changed her prayer life, her self-perception, and her relationship with God. You'll learn how to decode the beliefs hiding inside your jealousy, why Brené Brown calls it "fear in disguise," how to use it as a mirror instead of a weapon, and how God used a baby gate and a dog to show Laura something she'd been missing about her own life. Jealousy isn't a sickness. It's a symptom , and it's pointing you somewhere important. This episode shows you where.   #faithcrisis #spiritualcrisis #doubtisnottheenemy #leavingchurch #churchtrauma #religioustrauma #deconstruction

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Most faith podcasts will tell you what to believe. This one helps you figure out how to build. Spiritually Homesteading exists for the spiritually curious, the quietly disillusioned, and the stubbornly hopeful. The people who got honest about their faith and ended up with more questions than answers. The ones who left the church, or stayed and felt alone in it. The ones who still feel something pulling them toward God but don't know what to do with that feeling anymore. This podcast is not about de-converting. This is about what comes next: the slower, harder, more rewarding work of rebuilding a faith that actually belongs to you. Not inherited. Not performed. Not borrowed from someone else's certainty and rules. Think of it like tending a homestead. Nothing grows overnight. Nothing grows without effort. But when you put your own hands in the soil and tend something with intention, it becomes yours in a way that nobody can take from you. That's what we're building here. Episode by episode. Together. If you've been hurt by the church but haven't lost your hunger for truth...Welcome home.

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