Who gets to decide who you become? Your parents? Your religion? Your culture? Society? Or you? For Antasha Zahra, this wasn't just a philosophical question. It was the decision that shaped her entire life. Bullied as a child. Growing up feeling different long before she had the language to explain it. Navigating family, religion, mental health, relationships, and society's expectations, Antasha Zahra had to make a choice many people will never fully understand: Continue living the life others expected or finally choose herself. In Episode 6 of Beyond Pride: The Darkness We Battle, Antasha Zahra, transgender woman, content creator and advocate, joins *Hun Ming Kwang, LGBTQ+ Ally, award-winning Master Coach, Filmmaker and InnerWork, Diversity, Inclusion, Deep Democracy & Process Work Facilitator, for one of the season's most heartfelt conversations. Together, they explore: • Growing up feeling different before understanding why. • Bullying, depression and learning to find hope again. • Transitioning while navigating family, faith and culture. • Why every transgender journey is different. • The search for love, acceptance and belonging. • Why labels often stop us from seeing the person behind them. • The importance of kindness, community and choosing compassion over judgement. Throughout the conversation, Antasha speaks candidly about transitioning in Singapore, finding support in unexpected places, navigating relationships, and why living authentically was never about becoming someone else, it was about finally becoming herself. She also shares a perspective that challenges assumptions: whether someone chooses to transition or detransition, the decision should come from an honest relationship with oneself, not from external pressure. Drawing from decades of work in inner work, trauma-informed coaching, diversity, inclusion, Deep Democracy and process work, Ming expands the conversation beyond gender identity into a question that every one of us will face at some point in our lives: How much of who we become is truly our choice and how much has been decided for us? This is a conversation about identity, agency, belonging, and the courage to live a life that is genuinely your own. Because the biggest question is: "Who have I allowed to decide who I become?" --- Beyond Pride: The Darkness We Battle A season exploring the unseen emotional, psychological and relational realities behind LGBTQ+ lives in Singapore. Rather than debating identities, this season creates space for honest conversations around the inner lives we rarely speak about: belonging, shame, inclusion, acceptance, identities, relationships, family, healing, purpose, faith, community and the universal longing to be accepted for who we are. Whether you're part of the LGBTQ+ community, an ally, or simply wanting to be a more conscious parent to your child, or even simply someone searching for a deeper understanding of yourself and others, this season invites you into conversations that move beyond headlines and into our shared humanity. If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone who values thoughtful dialogue, and subscribe for more conversations that challenge how we see ourselves, each other, and the world around us. — 🎙️ About the Podcast The Clean Your Toilet Podcast explores the inner work behind personal growth, leadership, and building a meaningful life through honest, unfiltered conversations. #CleanYourToiletPodcast #Identity #beyourself #Transgender #lgbtq #MentalHealth #Kindness #InnerWork #DeepDemocracy #Healing #Humanity #love #lifelessons #Podcast #Singapore