The Unwritten Woman | Self Discovery For Black Women

Crystan Cumberbatch
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“For the woman who knows she’s more than…” You’ve played the roles, followed the rules, and lived up to expectations—but what happens when you realize you’re more than the life you’ve been given? The Unwritten Woman is an intimate space for deep conversations about reinvention, identity, and self-discovery. Hosted by Crystan Cumberbatch (author of Unlocking Authenticity: a Journey from people pleasing to empowerment), this podcast is for the woman who is breaking free from people-pleasing, unlearning old narratives, and reclaiming her power—softly, boldly, and unapologetically. Through soulful storytelling, raw reflections, and candid conversations, we’ll explore what it means to shed expectations, embrace self-worth, and rewrite your life on your own terms. ✨ Expect deep truths, whispered revelations, and permission to become who you were always meant to be. Because your story isn’t over yet—it’s still unwritten. Subscribe now and start your next chapter.

  1. 1D AGO

    Hyper Independence in Black Women | Being Soft and Strong Without Losing Yourself

    Have you ever been praised for being strong… but quietly felt alone? This episode is not polished. It is not wrapped up with a bow. It is me thinking out loud about something I am actively unpacking. We talk about hyper independence. About control. About fear that disguises itself as strength. About what happens when protection becomes your identity and you do not even realize it. At some point I learned that needing someone was not safe. I learned to be capable. Self sufficient. Unbothered. But I am starting to question what that strength has cost me. From the lens of a Black woman who was rewarded for resilience but not always supported in softness, this conversation goes deeper than independence. It touches identity. Trauma. Isolation. And the quiet shift from surviving to choosing who we are becoming. I am asking myself hard questions in this episode. And I am inviting you to do the same. When did you learn that vulnerability was dangerous? Press play. Let’s explore it together. #TheUnwrittenWoman #HyperIndependence #SelfActualization #BlackWomenHealing #EmotionalGrowth #TraumaAwareness #PersonalDevelopmentPodcast #AuthenticLiving #WomenHealing #MentalHealthConversations #HealingJourney

    24 min

  2. FEB 19

    Choosing From Who I’m Becoming

    This episode is different.  It wasn’t scripted. It wasn’t planned. It was recorded in real time — in the middle of me feeling something deeply and deciding not to run from it. Therapy taught me to pause, identify what I’m feeling, and choose how I respond. In this episode, you’ll hear me do exactly that. You’ll hear pauses. You’ll hear processing. You’ll hear me sit with my emotions instead of reacting from them — asking myself what I’m actually feeling, why it feels familiar, and what part of me is responding. This is a longer episode because healing takes time. Choosing differently takes time. The heart of this conversation is self-actualization. Awareness is important, but it’s not the end goal. The real work is choosing differently the next time. Are we choosing from our unhealed self… Or are we choosing on behalf of the woman we’re becoming? If you’re learning how to pause before you speak, respond instead of react, and embody your growth in real time — this episode is for you. Press play when you’re ready to choose on purpose.

    28 min

  3. FEB 12

    Becoming Beyond Expectations

    Baby girl, for so many of us, identity has been shaped by roles, expectations, and the pressure to keep others comfortable. In this episode, we pause to ask a deeper and more intentional question: Who am I becoming when I’m no longer performing, proving, or seeking approval? This conversation explores self-actualization as a lived and gentle process rather than a final destination. We talk about defining identity beyond performance, allowing emotional and spiritual clarity to guide our decisions, and how aligned becoming happens through small, conscious choices. This episode invites listeners to honor where they are, release who they needed to be, and move toward wholeness with intention and compassion. 🎧 Listen now and begin defining who you are becoming on purpose. #TheUnwrittenWoman #IdentityBeyondPerformance #WhoAmIBecoming #IntentionalLiving #SelfDiscoveryJourney #HealingToGrowth #BlackWomenHealing #EmotionalIdentity

    9 min

  4. FEB 5

    From Healing to Choosing

    Baby girl, healing was never meant to be the finish line. Season one of The Unwritten Woman| Self Discovery 4 Black Women helped us understand our stories, our wounds, and the patterns that shaped us. This episode marks the shift into what comes next. In Season 2, Episode 1, we explore the difference between healing and choosing, and why awareness alone is not enough to build the life you desire. I talk about what it feels like when you realize you are ready for more. That moment when healing has done its job, but choosing your future feels both exciting and unsettling. We unpack how agency, intention, and forward movement begin once you stop living only in reflection and start living on purpose. This episode sets the foundation for the entire season and invites you to step into self-actualization, embodiment, and intentional living. Not perfectly, but consistently. 🎧 Listen now and begin the shift from understanding your past to choosing your future. #TheUnwrittenWoman #SelfDiscovery4BlackWomen #FromHealingToChoosing #IntentionalLiving #SelfActualization #HealingJourney #PersonalGrowthPodcast #BlackWomenHealing #EmbodiedLiving #ChooseYourself

    6 min

  5. SEASON 2 TRAILER

    Season 2 Trailer

    Season two of The Unwritten Woman is about moving from healing to choosing. In season one, we opened the box—naming our stories, unpacking patterns, and understanding how our past shaped who we became. That work was necessary. It created awareness, compassion, and clarity. Season two builds on that foundation and shifts the focus to self-actualization: defining the life we want, setting goals that align with our values, and building systems that support us in becoming her consistently—not perfectly. If you’re new to The Unwritten Woman, we invite you to begin with Season 1 and give yourself time with that work. And if you’ve already walked that journey with us, this season is your invitation to reflect, realign, and step into what comes next. Season two launches Thursday, February 5th. Come as you are. This season, we choose.

    2 min

  6. 09/04/2025

    When The Pressure Is Too Much (Season 1 Finale)

    This season may be ending, but the journey isn’t over. In this episode, I open up about the pressure of juggling it all—work, projects, launches, and life—and how perfectionism almost got the best of me. I share the truth about how healing and growth really work: it’s not linear, you won’t always get it right, but with the right tools you can pause, reset, and reclaim your peace. Don’t miss the surprise at the end of this episode! I’ll be sharing free resources plus details on the upcoming Boundaries Unlocked 30-Day Challenge starting October 1st, 2025!! If you’re ready to stop people-pleasing, set healthy boundaries, and protect your peace, this challenge is for you.  Free Resources:  • Reflect & Empower Starter Kit (https://payhip.com/b/1...)  • Setting Boundaries, Shaping Your Life Exploration Guide (https://payhip.com/b/A...) Join the Boundaries Unlocked 30-Day Challenge starting Oct 1st, 2025 Registration closes Friday Sep 26th, 2025, so don’t wait! (https://payhip.com/b/d...) Subscribe and turn on your notifications so you don’t miss that launch of Season 2 beginning January 2026!! #TheUnwrittenWoman #Boundaries #HealingJourney #SelfDiscovery #Podcast

    20 min

  7. 08/28/2025

    Designing Her

    Sis, it’s one thing to talk about who you’re becoming — it’s another to live it out every single day. In this episode of The Unwritten Woman, we’re breaking down what it looks like to align your life with the woman you’re becoming. We’re talking boundaries, standards, and non-negotiables — and how to move beyond just knowing your values to actually living them. I’ll share real-life examples from my own journey so you can see what it looks like to anchor boundaries into your daily rhythms, make choices that honor your future self, and live with intention. This isn’t theory — it’s practice. And the life you’re building? It starts with what you decide to honor today.  #TheUnwrittenWoman #BecomingHer #BoundariesMatter #IntentionalLiving #SelfWorth #HealingJourney #BlackWomenHealing #ValuesInAction #PersonalGrowthPodcast

    20 min

  8. 08/21/2025

    Becoming Her Starts With Permission

    Sis, here’s the truth — becoming your authentic self doesn’t start with a strategy. It starts with permission. In this empowering episode of The Unwritten Woman, I’m walking you through what it means to stop waiting for approval, stop asking for someone else’s blessing, and start showing up for your life exactly as you are. I share personal examples from my own journey of learning to give myself permission to live, heal, rest and thrive on my own terms. But this isn’t just about me — this is about you. Only you can unlock the door to your freedom, your voice, and your next chapter. It’s time to stop shrinking, stop waiting, and start becoming. The permission you’ve been looking for? It’s already yours. #TheUnwrittenWoman #PermissionToBeHer #AuthenticityJourney #CrystanCumberbatch #StopPeoplePleasing #SelfWorthMatters #BecomingHer #BlackWomenHealing #PersonalGrowthPodcast #LiveYourTruth

    16 min
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“For the woman who knows she’s more than…” You’ve played the roles, followed the rules, and lived up to expectations—but what happens when you realize you’re more than the life you’ve been given? The Unwritten Woman is an intimate space for deep conversations about reinvention, identity, and self-discovery. Hosted by Crystan Cumberbatch (author of Unlocking Authenticity: a Journey from people pleasing to empowerment), this podcast is for the woman who is breaking free from people-pleasing, unlearning old narratives, and reclaiming her power—softly, boldly, and unapologetically. Through soulful storytelling, raw reflections, and candid conversations, we’ll explore what it means to shed expectations, embrace self-worth, and rewrite your life on your own terms. ✨ Expect deep truths, whispered revelations, and permission to become who you were always meant to be. Because your story isn’t over yet—it’s still unwritten. Subscribe now and start your next chapter.

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