I Have Some Questions...

Erik Berglund
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Most people know the headline of a leader’s story. Few know the path it took to get there. This podcast goes beyond titles, book launches and business wins, to explore the lived journey behind the thought leader. Through deep, unhurried conversations, we uncover the moments that shaped them—the doubts, pivots, convictions, and quiet breakthroughs that built their body of work. Each episode features authors, coaches, executives, and bold thinkers who have forged their own path. Instead of rehearsed talking points, they’re invited into a space where thoughtful questions unlock something more human. The result is a layered conversation that reveals not just what they preach, but how they became the kind of person who can teach it.Because we believe the best stories aren’t always told—they’re revealed. And when brilliant people are given the right questions and the room to answer them fully, what emerges is insight you can feel, frameworks you can apply, and a deeper understanding of what it truly takes to lead, create, and contribute at a meaningful level. 

  1. 136: "Should You Avoid or Plan For Conversational Landmines?" ft. Alli Murphy

    1D AGO

    136: "Should You Avoid or Plan For Conversational Landmines?" ft. Alli Murphy

    A real-world leadership scenario sparks a deep, practical conversation between Erik and Alli: how to deliver difficult organizational news that may feel like a step backward for someone—even when it’s the right move. This episode unpacks how leaders can navigate emotional complexity, maintain trust, and turn potentially damaging moments into opportunities for growth, clarity, and connection. It’s not about saying the perfect thing—it’s about showing up the right way. 🧭 Conversation Highlights Reframing “demotion” into support  Reporting closer to the CEO may feel prestigious—but it often comes with chaos. A strong middle layer can actually create more clarity, guidance, and success.The power of knowing your people  Positioning a change as a “win” only works if you deeply understand what that person values, wants, and struggles with.Process over outcome in hard conversations  Great leaders define success by how they show up—not by how the other person reacts.Unexpected moments = trust-building opportunities  Surprising, emotional conversations are rare—and powerful chances to demonstrate genuine care and humanity.Preparing for “landmines”  Anticipating tough reactions (like “Was I considered for that role?”) allows leaders to respond with clarity instead of defensiveness.💡 Key Takeaways Leadership isn’t about avoiding discomfort—it’s about navigating it well.You can’t control reactions, but you can control your presence.Empathy without direction leads nowhere; empathy + clarity builds trust.Organizational growth often creates more opportunity—not less.The hardest conversations are often the most defining leadership moments.❓ Questions That Mattered What does this person actually want—and how well do you know it?What’s the shared win in this situation?What would success look like for you in this conversation?What’s the “landmine” you’re most afraid of stepping on?If you had six months of runway, how would you have prepared them differently?🗣️ Notable Quotes “A lot of leadership is helping people see a change as a win—because it actually can be.” “You can’t control how they react—but you can control how you show up.” “Decouple doing a good job from whether the other person feels happy.” “You don’t get many moments like this—so how you show up really matters.” “You can plan for landmines, but you can’t control them.” 🔗 Links & Resources Listen to other episodes co-hosted with Alli

    14 min

  2. 4D AGO

    135: "Sometimes You Don't Need The Final Roadmap; a Destination Will Do" (reflections on Andrea Brown)

    🧠 Erik’s Take In this reflection, Erik unpacks his conversation with Andrea Brown — and admits something uncomfortable: he wasn’t fully sold on her exit-strategy-first mindset at first. The big idea that stuck? You don’t have to know exactly how your business will end… but if you’re not clear on what you want the end to look like, you can’t be strategic on the way there. This episode is a real-time processing of that shift in thinking — especially as Erik contrasts his two businesses: one with a clear exit path, one without. The difference in clarity? It’s shaping how decisions get made. He also digs into the dangerous temptation to treat AI as strategy — instead of what it really is: a tool that amplifies whatever foundation already exists. 🎯 Top Insights from the Interview Exit clarity creates strategic clarity. You don’t need the exact roadmap — but you need a destination.Mythology distorts reality. It’s easy to look back at Apple or Amazon and assume they had total clarity from day one. They likely didn’t — but they did move toward a direction.Capital deployment reveals strategy gaps. Most strategic mistakes show up when money, time, and talent are invested in the wrong direction.AI is not a strategy. It accelerates whatever already exists — clarity or chaos.Efficiency without direction is dangerous. Getting somewhere faster doesn’t help if you’re headed the wrong way. 🧩 The Personal Layer Erik reflects candidly on the tension between theory and lived experience. For his service-based business, Language of Leadership, the exit isn’t obvious. It’s harder to conceptualize what selling or transitioning that business would look like. But for Luminary? The exit path is much clearer — and it’s already influencing how they hire, invest, and move. That contrast made Andrea’s argument land. It’s not about knowing every step. It’s about choosing a direction — so forks in the road don’t feel random. 🧰 From Insight to Action If this episode hit close to home, here are a few practical next steps:Write down your desired exit — even if it feels speculative.Audit your last 3 major investments. Did they clearly align with that direction?Before adopting new AI tools, ask: What objective is this accelerating?Define how you’ll measure whether an AI experiment worked.Identify one area where you might be scaling chaos instead of clarity. 🗣️ Notable Quotes “If you don’t know where you’re going, getting there faster doesn’t help.” “You don’t have to know exactly how the exit happens — but you do need a direction.” “There’s no efficient way to do something that doesn’t need to be done.” “AI amplifies whatever foundation already exists.” 🔗 Links and Resources Listen to Andrea Brown's Episode

    9 min
  3. 134: Andrea Brown: "If You Don't Know Where You're Going, Any Path Will Get You There"

    6D AGO

    134: Andrea Brown: "If You Don't Know Where You're Going, Any Path Will Get You There"

    In this episode, Erik sits down with business strategist and author Andrea Brown to unpack one of the most misused words in business: strategy. Together, they explore why most companies start with momentum instead of direction, why exit strategy should shape decisions from day one, and how the AI gold rush is exposing companies that never built a strategic foundation in the first place. 👤 About the Guest Andrea Brown is a business strategist and author of A Business That Works For You. She helps companies clarify direction, eliminate operational chaos, and build scalable strategy across finance, operations, people, and marketing. Her work focuses on aligning every department to a core guiding strategy — so growth doesn’t become accidental, fragile, or self-sabotaging. 🧭 Conversation Highlights Why strategy must begin with the end: exit clarity shapes everythingThe difference between reacting to trends and building intentional directionWhy “growth strategy” isn’t actually a strategyHow siloed departments quietly sabotage scaleThe real story behind companies like Sears, Blockbuster, and NetflixWhy AI is a tool — not a replacement for leadershipThe dangers of “random acts of AI” implementationHow AI can radically improve training and productivityWhy creativity remains the irreplaceable human advantageThe concept of agentic AI supercharging employees instead of replacing them💡 Key Takeaways If you don’t know where you want to go, you can’t build real strategy.Strategy is a guide, not a rigid rule — it must be adaptable and dynamic.Every department needs its own strategy — but all must align to the core direction.AI amplifies what already exists. Organized companies scale. Chaotic companies break.The future belongs to companies that use AI to elevate people, not eliminate them.❓ Questions That Mattered What is strategy actually — and what do most businesses get wrong about it?Why should exit strategy be considered from day one?What causes mature companies like Sears or Blockbuster to miss pivotal shifts?How do you scale without scaling chaos?What’s the right way to integrate AI without destabilizing culture?How can AI become a productivity multiplier instead of a fear trigger?🗣️ Notable Quotes “Strategy is guidance. It’s not a rigid rule.” “If you don’t know where you want to take the business, you can’t build the strategy to get there.” “AI is only as good as the human using it.” “You don’t need to know the future. You need to know the direction.” “Creativity is where humans win.” 🔗 Links & Resources Frequency110's Website: www.frequency110.comCheck out Andrea's LinkedIn

    1h 12m
  4. 133: "Are You a Great Chaser of Vanity Metrics?" ft. Alli Murphy

    MAR 30

    133: "Are You a Great Chaser of Vanity Metrics?" ft. Alli Murphy

    In this conversation, Erik and returning co-host Alli Murphy unpack a subtle but dangerous pattern in modern leadership: we often reward visibility, speed, and activity instead of real impact. What starts as a question about “performing busy” quickly expands into a deeper systems-level conversation—how incentive structures, feedback loops, and cultural norms quietly shape behavior (often in the wrong direction). From sales dashboards to inbox anxiety to creative work being squeezed out by responsiveness, this episode challenges leaders to rethink what they measure, reward, and reinforce—and offers practical ways to start shifting it. 🧭 Conversation Highlights The “Performing Busy” Trap  Teams often optimize for what’s visible—emails sent, meetings held, reports filled—rather than what actually drives outcomes.Effectiveness > Efficiency  Doing more isn’t the goal. Doing what matters is. Leaders must prioritize impact over volume.The Power of “So What?”  Activity without context is meaningless. Communicating impact requires connecting actions to outcomes.Systems Shape Behavior  Incentives, reporting structures, and feedback loops often unintentionally reward the wrong things.Change Happens One Conversation at a Time  Cultural shifts don’t happen through announcements—they happen through repeated, intentional conversations.💡 Key Takeaways You get what you reward—whether you mean to or not  If you reward responsiveness, you’ll get responsiveness. If you reward impact, you’ll get impact.Vanity metrics are seductive—but dangerous  They’re easy to track, easy to share, and often completely disconnected from real results.Clarity beats activity  The question isn’t “what did you do?”—it’s “what changed because of what you did?”Local optimization can break the whole system  Improving one area in isolation can actually make overall performance worse.Leaders must actively deprogram “looking busy” culture  This takes time, repetition, and individual coaching—not just top-down directives.❓ Questions That Mattered Are we rewarding activity… or actual impact?What signals are we unintentionally sending through our systems?How do we distinguish between being efficient and being effective?What does “so what?” look like in how we communicate our work?Where are we optimizing parts of the system at the expense of the whole?🗣️ Notable Quotes “Stop making your reports look longer and start putting things in them that actually matter.” “Be more interested in being effective than being efficient.” “We did this… so what?” “When you optimize each system, you can make the whole system worse.” “Looking busy doesn’t make you dollars.” 🔗 Links & Resources Listen to other episodes co-hosted with Alli

    14 min

  5. MAR 27

    132: Clarifying Your Intentions Before Asking Will Change Everything" (reflections on Steve Toomey)

    🧠 Erik’s Take After sitting down with Steve Toomey, Erik found himself less interested in the mechanics of questions—and more interested in the conditions that make them meaningful. The original goal was simple: reverse engineer what makes a good question. The result? A much bigger conversation. Steve didn’t offer a tidy framework. Instead, he pointed toward context: Who are you asking?Why are you asking?Are you genuinely interested?Do you share enough common ground to make the question land?Erik walked away realizing that good questions aren’t just about phrasing. They’re about intention, presence, and alignment. 🎯 Top Insights from the Interview Interest precedes insight. It’s easier to ask profound questions when you’re genuinely curious about the person in front of you.Shared ground matters. A good question requires enough mutual competency or curiosity to create meaningful dialogue.Intent shapes impact. Are you gathering information? Solving a problem? Teaching? Serving? If you don’t know your motive, your question may miss.Turning outward reduces anxiety. Focusing on serving others is one of the most powerful antidotes to self-absorption, loneliness, and insecurity.Your meta-narrative drives your behavior. The story you tell yourself internally shapes how you show up externally.🧩 The Personal Layer Erik was surprised by where the conversation landed. He expected a tactical framework for crafting better questions. Instead, he got a philosophical lens: good questions emerge from good context. That insight felt bigger than interviewing. It felt like leadership.It felt like parenting.It felt like marriage.Because how often do we ask questions with the wrong intent? Trying to fix when someone wants to be heard.Trying to teach when someone wants connection.Trying to solve when someone just needs presence.The conversation with Steve also reinforced a recurring theme in Erik’s work: The fastest way to improve your own well-being is to stop obsessing over it. In a world saturated with anxiety—AI fears, financial uncertainty, social media overload, male loneliness—the reflex is to look inward. But Steve’s reminder was simple and ancient: Turn outward. Serve someone. The paradox? That’s where joy tends to show up. 🧰 From Insight to Action If Erik were to distill this reflection into practice, it would look like this: Before asking a question, clarify your intention.Check your interest level—are you genuinely curious?Notice when you’re trying to fix instead of understand.Audit your internal meta-narrative. What story are you telling yourself?Identify one person you can intentionally serve this week.Good questions don’t just change conversations. They change direction. 🗣️ Notable Quotes “A good question isn’t just about wording—it’s about context.” “The best thing you can do for yourself is turn outward.” “If you don’t know your intention, you’ll ask the wrong question.” “Who do I want to be—and how would I know I’m doing it?” “Your internal story sets the tone for your external life.” 🔗 Links & Resources Listen to Steve Toomey's Episode

    11 min
  6. 131: Steve Toomey: "Are You Asking to Understand, or to Respond?"

    MAR 25

    131: Steve Toomey: "Are You Asking to Understand, or to Respond?"

    In this long-awaited conversation, Erik sits down with longtime friend and mentor Steve Toomey to unpack the art of curiosity, the discipline of presence, and the quiet power of asking better questions. They explore why interest fuels insight, how empathy can both strengthen and sabotage leadership, and what it really means to be “faithfully present” in a divided world. From boardrooms to Teen Challenge, from StrengthsFinder revelations to St. Francis’ prayer, this conversation weaves leadership, faith, humility, and self-awareness into a compelling invitation: Stop trying to win the conversation. Start trying to understand. 👤 About the Guest Steve Toomey is a seasoned business leader, former commercial real estate executive, and lifelong student of faith, culture, and human nature. Known for his thoughtful questions and relational presence, Steve brings decades of leadership experience—paired with humility and reflection—into every conversation. His influence spans business, ministry, mentorship, and community-building, where he’s consistently focused on one thing: understanding people deeply enough to serve them well. 🧭 Conversation Highlights Why curiosity—not intelligence—is the foundation of a great questionThe tension between offering advice and asking one more questionHow empathy can become a leadership crutch if not paired with accountabilityWhat Steve learned from 40 years of marriage about “fixing” vs. understandingWhy culture change doesn’t happen through laws—but through faithful presenceThe surprising leadership breakthrough Steve had late in his careerHow knowing someone’s story increases compassion (and reduces judgment)Why comparison quietly robs leaders of confidence and contribution 💡 Key Takeaways Interest drives insight. The quality of your questions often reflects the depth of your curiosity.Empathy without accountability leads to stagnation. Both are necessary for real leadership.Most excuses fall into predictable patterns. When you recognize them, you can redirect instead of react.Comparison distorts contribution. Your value often lies in the very differences you’re tempted to dismiss.Faithful presence beats grand gestures. Culture shifts slowly—through consistent relational investment. ❓ Questions That Mattered What actually makes a good question?Am I asking to understand—or asking so I can respond?Who am I trying to serve in this conversation?What story might I be missing about this person?Am I comparing myself out of confidence instead of leaning into my strengths? 🗣️ Notable Quotes “There are certain people I don’t find interesting… and I don’t ask good questions when I’m not interested.” “There are a lot of things that aren’t our fault—but they’re still our responsibility.” “If you don’t know someone’s story, it’s hard to be compassionate.” “The line between them and us is much thinner than you think.” “Just be faithfully present. You don’t have to fix everything.” 🔗 Links & Resources The Cathedral of Saint Thomas More'Make Me an Instrument' Prayer

    1h 25m
  7. 130: "Can You Tell The Difference Between Growth Stress and Burnout Stress?" ft. Alli Murphy

    MAR 23

    130: "Can You Tell The Difference Between Growth Stress and Burnout Stress?" ft. Alli Murphy

    In this conversation, Erik and Alli explore a powerful new concept spreading through the workplace: “quiet cracking.” Together they unpack the subtle signals leaders should watch for, the fine line between healthy stress and destructive burnout, and why rest isn’t the opposite of work—it’s actually part of the cycle that makes growth possible. They also explore how misaligned goals, overwhelming workplace noise, and unrealistic expectations can push ambitious people toward the breaking point—and why no one should try to navigate that alone. 🧭 Conversation Highlights Quiet Quitting vs. Quiet Cracking. Quiet quitting is a deliberate decision to stop overextending. Quiet cracking happens when ambitious, high-performing people push themselves until they mentally or emotionally break. Spotting the “Eye Twitch” Moment. Leaders must know their people well enough to notice subtle changes—mistakes, withdrawal, or attitude shifts—that signal someone is under abnormal strain.Stress Isn’t Always the Enemy. Growth requires pressure. The challenge is distinguishing between productive strain that builds strength and unhealthy stress that leads to burnout.Rest Is Part of the System. High performers often treat rest as the opposite of work—but in reality, recovery is part of the performance cycle.When Success Stops Fitting Your Life. Burnout often appears when people are still chasing a goal that no longer aligns with who they are or where they want to go.💡 Key Takeaways  Ambitious people are often the most vulnerable to burnout. They don’t slow down—they push harder.Leaders must know what “normal” looks like for their people. You can’t spot warning signs without a baseline.Rest isn’t a reward—it’s a requirement. Growth cycles include both stress and recovery.Misalignment causes hidden burnout. When the goal changes but the effort doesn’t, people quietly crack.Perspective from others is essential. It’s incredibly difficult to diagnose burnout when you’re inside it.❓ Questions That Mattered What are the early signals that someone is quietly cracking under pressure?How can leaders tell the difference between growth stress and burnout stress?What role does rest and recovery play in long-term performance?How often are people chasing a goal that no longer fits their life?What support systems help leaders recognize when something is off?🗣️ Notable Quotes “Quiet cracking is the involuntary mental and emotional burnout of high performers who want to succeed but are breaking under overwhelming pressure.”  “You have to know what normal looks like for someone before you can recognize when something’s wrong.” “Rest isn’t the alternative to working hard—it’s part of the recipe.” “Most of the time, you can’t figure this out on your own. You’re too in it.” “Sometimes burnout happens because the thing you’re chasing no longer fits.” 🔗 Links & Resources Listen to other episodes co-hosted with Alli

    17 min

  8. MAR 20

    129: "Are You Riding Your Career Train Intentionally?" (lessons from Pattie Dale Tye)

    🧠 Erik’s Take This conversation with Pattie Dale Tye hit on something deeply practical—and deeply uncomfortable. Most of us didn’t intentionally choose our careers based on our aptitudes. We drifted. We followed prestige. We followed money. We followed validation. Or we simply followed the path that opened first. And then one day we wake up and realize: “I’m successful… but I’m not fulfilled.” Pattie’s framing of a 90,000-hour career is sobering. You’re on that train whether you like it or not. The only real question is whether you’re riding it intentionally—or just enduring the scenery. Reality will eventually force the issue. You can hide dissatisfaction behind titles, promotions, or income for a while. But when you wake up early or lie awake at night, you know the truth. 🎯 Top Insights from the Interview Know ThyselfThe first step from ordinary to extraordinary isn’t grinding harder. It’s identifying your aptitudes. What are you naturally wired to do well? What energizes you? The 90,000-Hour RealityYou’re on the train. Unless you’re independently wealthy, you’re going to work. So pretending work doesn’t matter—or treating it like a placeholder—is self-deception. Honesty Precedes AgencyBefore you change anything, you have to admit whether you’re fulfilled. Titles and money can camouflage misalignment—but they can’t eliminate it. Agency Doesn’t Always Mean QuittingYou don’t have to blow up your career the moment you feel dissatisfaction. Sometimes alignment comes from shifting responsibilities, building new skills, or serving differently inside the same organization. Give Back to Move ForwardAs a leader, you don’t fix misalignment with pressure. You build trust through generosity. Small, consistent acts of service compound into credibility. 🧩 The Personal Layer There’s a thread here that connects deeply to Erik’s own work: agency. It’s easy to frame dissatisfaction as something happening to you. The company.The market.The economy.The leadership.But the moment you recognize you have agency—whether to realign, to skill up, to move laterally, or to leave—you shift from passenger to participant. And that shift changes everything. Moving from survival mode to contribution mode. From combat to generosity. From self-protection to trust-building. 🧰 From Insight to Action If this episode stirred something, here’s where to start: Audit Your Fulfillment: When you wake up in the morning, what do you actually feel about the work ahead?Identify Your Aptitudes: What do you naturally do well? What gives you energy instead of draining it?Have One Honest Conversation: With yourself. With a mentor. With your leader. Start exploring alignment.Shift to Contribution Mode: In your next meeting, ask: “How can I help?”—without an agenda.Stop Waiting for Permission: You have more agency than you think. 🗣️ Notable Quotes “You’re on a 90,000-hour journey.”“Know yourself.”“Give back to move forward.”“Reality will force you to confront whether you’re fulfilled.”“You don’t always have to quit—you can realign.”🔗 Links & Resources Listen to Pattie Dale Tye's Episode

    12 min
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Most people know the headline of a leader’s story. Few know the path it took to get there. This podcast goes beyond titles, book launches and business wins, to explore the lived journey behind the thought leader. Through deep, unhurried conversations, we uncover the moments that shaped them—the doubts, pivots, convictions, and quiet breakthroughs that built their body of work. Each episode features authors, coaches, executives, and bold thinkers who have forged their own path. Instead of rehearsed talking points, they’re invited into a space where thoughtful questions unlock something more human. The result is a layered conversation that reveals not just what they preach, but how they became the kind of person who can teach it.Because we believe the best stories aren’t always told—they’re revealed. And when brilliant people are given the right questions and the room to answer them fully, what emerges is insight you can feel, frameworks you can apply, and a deeper understanding of what it truly takes to lead, create, and contribute at a meaningful level. 

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  • Creator
    Erik Berglund
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    134
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 I Have Some Questions...
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