Magic Divorce Club Podcast

Hannah Harvey

A community and resource for those going through divorce. Sharing tools and techniques to help you turn your pain into something beautiful and save money along the way. magicdivorceclub.substack.com

  1. Ep 37: What Divorce Did To My Relationship With My Body

    1d ago

    Ep 37: What Divorce Did To My Relationship With My Body

    Hi love, Happy July :) This month we’re looking at Body Confidence after Divorce in the MDC… so this week I’m starting July with the honest version of my own story. EP 37: What Divorce Did To My Relationship With My Body Nobody warns you that divorce can completely change how you feel about your body. Not just how you look. How you relate to your body. Whether you trust it. Whether you’ve been treating it like something to fix or something to shrink so it takes up less space. In the episode I share: * The phase where I stopped eating because I thought if I could just get thin enough, someone else would love me. * The swing in the other direction. * The disordered eating I didn’t really name at the time. * And where I’ve landed now, which isn’t perfect, but it’s a lot closer to something that actually feels like care. None of it was really about food. It was about rejection. Worthiness. Whether I felt safe enough to look after myself at all. This is the July theme inside Magic Divorce Club: body confidence after divorce. I wanted to start here, with the messy version of it, before we do anything else. 👆 You can listen to the full episode above, or wherever you get your podcasts. If this episode brings up anything difficult around food or your body, please know you’re not alone in it. Beat is the UK’s eating disorder charity and their helpline is free: 0808 801 0677 — beateatingdisorders.org.uk Please do hit reply and tell me - can you relate? Or share your story. I’d love to hear from you and reply to every email. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS Here are the show notes for the episode: * My book: How to Divorce Sober * Magic Mondays - 10am every Monday, this month we’ll focuse on love and self-compassion, join for as little as £6.67/month here * Magic Divorce Club JULY Workshop: Body Confidence After Divorce - Live at midday on 29th July. If you’d like to join us, sign up for LUXE membership here: Or grab a drop-in ticket here. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe

    19 min
  2. Open the doors and windows to your life

    3d ago

    Open the doors and windows to your life

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com Hi love, This morning’s Magic Monday picked up something from Thursday’s productivity workshop I’d missed: habits, and how much of what we do every day runs on autopilot. The same things over and over, give the same results. So we slowed down and asked a different question. Not what do I need to get done today, but what does my body actually want me to do for it, everyday? Because when you change your habits, you change your destiny! * You can watch today’s Magic Monday replay above * And I’ve created an AI prompt for you below (in the PS) to help you identify what your perfectly imperfect morning routine could look like. For one of the club members, she’s going to work on stepping outside every morning - even for just 5 mins - so you can feel more alive and connected to nature. Such a beautiful idea! What came up for me is that I need to read in the morning. It just lights me up. I’m a manifesting generator in Human Design, and I tend to do my best work when I have something to respond to rather than trying to create ideas from an empty brain. My empty brain likes to fill itself with worry or urgency or hustle. Reading gives me that bit of inspiration to get my brain firing in a whole new beautiful way. It puts a thought in my head, opens something up and gives my mind somewhere interesting to go before the demands of the day begin. I’ve just finished the first novel I’ve read in about a year, Leonard and Hungry Paul. There’s a moment where one of the characters realises that his life has quietly been getting smaller and he says this: “I just can’t help feeling that I need to open the doors and windows of my life a little.” from ‘Leonard and Hungry Paul’ by Ronan Hession. That idea has been rattling around in my head ever since. Because to me that question of what we do every day and how our habits form our destiny just feels intrinsically linked. Especially during divorce - it’s a whole new chapter. A painful one, I know. And one that can make our lives feel small. But really it’s an opportunity to fling the windows and doors wide open and see what is now possible for you. Because I believe a lot is possible for you. That you can change your habits and destiny and truly create a future you are so proud of and LOVE 🥰 And it all starts with the first step. So, when you’re ready, settle in for Magic Monday (recording above) and once you have stepped into the Magic Divorce Clubhouse and made yourself at home, keep this in mind … What’s one small thing that you can do to open the doors and windows to your life again? What helps you feel inspired, connected, rested or a little more like yourself? Whatever comes up for you doesn’t need to be impressive. But it does need to be true for you. To light you up. To create that fresh flow of energy around your life. * Five minutes outside counts. * A couple of pages of a book count. * Sitting quietly with your coffee counts. As always, tell me everything so I can cheerlead you on! You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS If you’re not a member, we’d love to have you :) join below to watch today’s replay and be sure to join us next Monday: PPS Here is you AI prompt to explore what a realistic morning routine that lights you up could look like (copy and paste everything in the box below):

    6 min
  3. [LUXE] Productivity for Divorce

    Jun 25

    [LUXE] Productivity for Divorce

    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe My love, When I first announced this workshop, a few people joked that “productivity” was the last thing they needed during divorce. I felt exactly the same. If someone had handed me another colour-coded planner while I was in the middle of mine, I’d probably have cried. Or thrown it at them. The problem isn’t that you’re disorganised. The problem is that divorce is already using half your brain, on every decision, every solicitor email, every message from your ex, every worry about the kids, every money decision. It’s all running quietly in the background, like dozens of tabs open at once. No wonder even the simple stuff can suddenly feel impossible. That’s why I built this workshop. Not to help you squeeze more into your day. To help you get some of your headspace back. Inside the replay, we work through this together: * Emptying the mental clutter that’s competing for your attention * Separating what you can control from what you can’t, so you’re not fighting unwinnable battles * Picking three things that actually matter this month, instead of trying to do everything at once * Breaking the overwhelming stuff, especially divorce admin, into small next steps * Building a plan that still works on the days you’re exhausted, triggered, or running on no sleep * Building your own rejuvenation menu, (because rest must be part of the plan if you want to avoid Divorce burnout) You don’t need another impossible to-do list. You need a plan that fits the life you’re actually living right now. Productivity for Divorce Workbook Alongside the replay, you also have the Productivity for Divorce Workbook, which is attached below the paywall👇 It walks you through each exercise in your own time. Inside: * A brain dump to clear the mental clutter * A simple way to work out what actually matters * A way through the unfinished stuff that’s been weighing on you * A habit you can actually keep, even when life’s chaotic * A rejuvenation menu you’ll keep coming back to * A calm-first plan for the days everything gets knocked sideways You don’t need to do it all in one sitting. Make a cup of tea. Find an hour where nobody needs anything from you. Press play. Pause whenever you need to. Breathe. Because being productive during divorce was never about getting more done (sometimes you literally can’t - you’re waiting on other people). It’s about spending less of your life stuck in urgency, avoidance and mental clutter, so there’s more of you left for the things that actually matter. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS if you’re already a LUXE member, this replay and workbook live in the workshop library here, so you can always come back to it. PPS If you’re not yet a LUXE member… You can join LUXE to watch right now and access all the other workshops here: OR grab this workshop only here. PPPS Here is the workbook:

    13 min
  4. Ep 36: Slowing down is the fastest way through this (using productivity tips to avoid Divorce Burnout)

    Jun 24

    Ep 36: Slowing down is the fastest way through this (using productivity tips to avoid Divorce Burnout)

    Hiya love, I haven’t recorded a podcast for a few weeks. Sorry about that Partly because we moved house. Partly because I’ve been blending families. But mostly because, if I’m honest, I burned out from working too hard. The irony hasn’t escaped me that this month’s theme inside Magic Divorce Club is… productivity. Yet there I was, exhausted, overwhelmed with an ever longer to-do list and wondering where all my energy had gone. The thing I’ve realised (again) is that productivity during hard times (divorce being top of the list) isn’t about squeezing more into your day. It’s about creating enough safety, space and rejuvenation that you can actually function. So I’ve been re-learning all these lesson, just in time to share them in this month’s Workshop, Productivity for Divorce, tomorrow at midday. When you’re going through divorce you’re often trying to parent, work, make legal decisions, process grief and somehow keep everything else ticking along. It’s exhausting. In this week’s podcast I’m talking about: ✨ Why I ended up in burnout after moving house ✨ The productivity trap so many women fall into during divorce ✨ Why “self-care” isn’t a luxury, it’s essential maintenance ✨ The surprising reason slowing down can actually help you move forward faster If you’ve been feeling exhausted, stuck, overwhelmed or like you’re constantly running on empty, I think you’ll really relate to this one. 👆Listen above or wherever you get your podcast. And if you’d like to go deeper, tomorrow I’m running a workshop all about productivity during divorce. Not the hustle-and-grind version. The calm, sustainable version. The version where you stop waiting until burnout forces you to stop. I hope to see you there. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe

    21 min
  5. [LUXE] The Energetics of the Legal System

    May 28

    [LUXE] The Energetics of the Legal System

    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe My love, This month’s Magic Divorce Club workshop is now ready to watch above. We’re covering the legal side of divorce in 3 parts * Why the legal stuff is so triggering in the first place, and what you can do about it * How to find your voice and actually speak up for yourself, including a short ceremony to help you connect to your voice and what’s true for you. * Exactly how I use AI as a buffer. A gatekeeper for your emotions, so your body doesn’t have to be the shock absorber for every message, every email, every bit of legal noise that comes your way. 👇There’s also an AI workbook, attached below the paywall, with the exact prompts I use. If you’re not LUXE yet, you can watch the opening for free, and then either grab this workshop on its own here or upgrade to LUXE here: Joining LUXE gives you this workshop plus the full library of monthly workshops, and Magic Mondays (live every Monday at 10am). Next month’s workshop is one I’m genuinely excited about: Productivity for Divorce. Not to rush divorce, because often you can’t … but it is possible to use productivity tips, as unsexy as that might sound, to stop it taking over the rest of your life. This is … How to contain it, move through the load with less dread, rejuvenate in the middle of it and protect your energy for your kids, your work, and you. More on that soon. I’d love to hear how you found today’s workshop so please do reply and tell me what you liked, what shifted for you and what you want more of. As always, you’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS Here is today’s workbook for you to download:

    13 min
  6. Ep 34: How to stop living in reaction mode during divorce

    May 15

    Ep 34: How to stop living in reaction mode during divorce

    Hi love, This week’s Magic Divorce Club podcast is a little different as I’m sharing Part 3 of my free series, When Divorce Feels Like Too Much. This is the session where I talk through the bigger Calm-First Method I use with divorcing mums who are tired of living in reaction mode. Ep 34: How to stop living in reaction mode during divorce Because it’s not just one message, handover, legal email or child wobble. It’s all of it. Divorce has a way of pulling you back into urgency, panic, over-explaining, people-pleasing, shutting down, or trying to fix everything all while you feel completely unsafe. In this episode, I’ll walk you through: * why quick tools help, but repetition and support matter * the Steady. Settle. Choose. method * the 4 main trigger zones I see during divorce. * why calm is not weakness or compliance * why steadiness is what helps you make clearer decisions, protect your energy, and come back to yourself » Watch above with the slides or listen wherever you get your podcasts. If you watch this week’s episode and find yourself thinking, “I need the right kind of support,” enrolment is now open for The Calm-First Method for Divorcing Mums. It’s my 10-week live programme for separated or divorcing mums who are in the thick of it and want to stop losing whole days and weeks to divorce triggers, so you can steady yourself, protect your energy and choose your next steps with more calm, dignity and self-trust. You can read all the details here: You’ve got this. And I’ve got you.Hannah XOX This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe

    35 min
  7. Ep 33: Why divorce advice sometimes makes everything worse

    May 7

    Ep 33: Why divorce advice sometimes makes everything worse

    Hi lovely, Today’s podcast is about something I think so many women experience in divorce… myself included … but don’t always realise it’s happening. When you’re trying to do all the “right” things, get all the right information, listen to the podcasts, ready the advice, talk to solicitors … then by the time you’re trying to make a good decision you’re already overwhelmed. Then another email arrives.A handover is coming up.Your ex sends a message. And suddenly your whole body goes into panic. Your chest tightens.Your brain seems to be completely against you. You can’t think straight.Everything feels too much. And then the really frustrating part? The advice that was supposed to help becomes triggering too. There are just too many words, too many options, too many things to ‘get wrong’. That’s what I’m talking about in today’s episode: When advice stops being useful… It’s not that you’re weak or dramatic or “not coping properly”. It’s that your body is bracing before your brain has even caught up. And this is exactly why I created my new free 3-part series: When Divorce Feels Like Too Much Part 1 is available now and walks you through what to do in the first 10 minutes after a trigger, so you’re less likely to lose the whole day to panic, spiralling, overthinking or shutdown. Then Part 2 goes live tomorrow and we go deeper into how to stop divorce getting unlimited access to your nervous system, your sleep, your energy and your life. » Listen to today’s podcast above or wherever you get your podcasts » And then watch Part 1 here or save it for later: You don’t have to keep living in reaction mode. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you.Hannah XOX PS Save the Date Part 3 of When Divorce Feels Like Too Much is live on Wednesday 13th May at midday. I’ll walk you through my Calm-First Method, and how it helps you steady yourself and settle the spiral, so you can choose your next steps with intention instead of living in constant reaction mode. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe

    11 min

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A community and resource for those going through divorce. Sharing tools and techniques to help you turn your pain into something beautiful and save money along the way. magicdivorceclub.substack.com