Magic Divorce Club Podcast

Hannah Harvey

A community and resource for those going through divorce. Sharing tools and techniques to help you turn your pain into something beautiful and save money along the way. magicdivorceclub.substack.com

  1. 22h ago

    Ep 39 - The Scars Divorce Leaves in Your Body

    ✨Look out for Magic Summer✨ I've been building something special for you to support you over the summer holidays. It starts tomorrow morning with a few big announcements and ends on Monday 27th July. Hello my love, Divorce leaves marks. We know it. We feel it. Some are obvious. Others are buried so deeply in the body that we may not even realise they’re there. In today’s episode of the Magic Divorce Club podcast, I’m joined by holistic bodyworker and scar work practitioner Anna Casey for a fascinating conversation about physical scars, emotional scarring and what it means to feel at home in your body again. Ep 39 - The Scars Divorce Leaves in Your Body Anna explains that scars are not always simply marks on the surface. They can affect how we move, how safe we feel being touched and how connected we feel to certain parts of ourselves. As we talked, I began thinking about divorce in the same way. When you are simply trying to survive conflict, grief, legal battles and enormous change, your body does whatever it can to protect you. Things may heal quickly enough to keep you functioning, but that does not necessarily mean they have healed in the way you truly needed. In this episode, we explore: • why physical scars can have a much wider impact than we realise• how difficult experiences can leave us feeling disconnected from our bodies• the temptation to change our appearance after divorce because we believe something must be wrong with us• why healing is about following the body rather than forcing it• how curiosity, softness and compassion can help us feel whole again One of the ideas that stayed with me was this: You do not need to get rid of the uncomfortable parts of yourself. You need to build a relationship with them and we explore how to do this in this month’s MDC Workshop. See below 👇 You can find Anna on Instagram at @annacasey_holisticbodywork, where she shares more about scar work, somatic therapy and reconnecting with the body. You can also reach her via her website here. I hope today’s conversation sparks some curiosity about your own body. Not, “What is wrong with me?” But perhaps: “What has my body been trying to protect me from, and what might it need from me now?” You’ve got this and I’ve got you, Hannah xx PS Body Confidence After Divorce Wednesday 29 July at 12pm This workshop is not about dieting, fixing yourself or forcing your body to look different. It is about understanding what your body has actually been through, getting honest about what it needs from you now and creating a way of caring for yourself that comes from truth and trust rather than shame. If you’re a member of LUXE, this workshop is included. Or you can grab a ticket here. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe

    Ep 39 - The Scars Divorce Leaves in Your Body
  2. Jul 8

    Ep 38: Processing Your Divorce Story vs Retraumatising Yourself

    My love, In this week’s episode I talk about something I’ve been turning over for a while now: at what point does telling our divorce story stop helping us heal, and start hurting us all over again? Ep 38: Processing Your Divorce Story vs Retraumatising Yourself I’ve been thinking about this ever since I did a little podcast about Lily Allen’s album West End Girl when it first came out. If you know it, you’ll know why. So many of the women who get in touch with me say the same thing when they hear it. The cheating. The secrecy. The shame. The blindsidedness. The agreements you get to because you were just trying to keep your family together. She’s written a whole musical of the end of a relationship, and it took me a while to recover from listening to it the first time. My friend Jo came with me to see her live a few weeks ago, and honestly, I was a little scared to go in. I knew it was going to be triggering. I knew I would cry. And yet, it was incredible. It also brought up this real tension I wanted to sit with, out loud. There’s advice that says just move on, cut the ties, leave everything in the past. We know that’s not always the best advice - this stuff lives in us so it’ll be there wherever we go. However, there’s also the other extreme, talking about it constantly and never actually moving through it. So where’s the line? In this episode I go into: * Why sitting with the truth of your own story, properly, with someone holding you through it, is different from just reopening the wound alone (or with someone reactionary) * How sharing the stuff we’re most ashamed of is often exactly what sets other women (and ourselves) free too, even if the situation looks different to theirs * The question I think matters most: what’s the intention behind sharing? Are you telling this story to process and heal, or because reopening it feels familiar? 👆 Listen to the full episode above If you’d like to try writing your story, feel free to send it to me. Whether it’s something you want me to share (anonymously or in your name) or just something you want to write down and send my way so you’re not holding it alone, I’m here for you. Just reply to this email. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS Shownotes: * My book: How to Divorce Sober * Lily Allen’s West End Girl * Ep 16: Secrets, divorce and turning pain into art - lessons from Lilly Allen * Send me your story This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe

    Ep 38: Processing Your Divorce Story vs Retraumatising Yourself
  3. Jul 1

    Ep 37: What Divorce Did To My Relationship With My Body

    Hi love, Happy July :) This month we’re looking at Body Confidence after Divorce in the MDC… so this week I’m starting July with the honest version of my own story. EP 37: What Divorce Did To My Relationship With My Body Nobody warns you that divorce can completely change how you feel about your body. Not just how you look. How you relate to your body. Whether you trust it. Whether you’ve been treating it like something to fix or something to shrink so it takes up less space. In the episode I share: * The phase where I stopped eating because I thought if I could just get thin enough, someone else would love me. * The swing in the other direction. * The disordered eating I didn’t really name at the time. * And where I’ve landed now, which isn’t perfect, but it’s a lot closer to something that actually feels like care. None of it was really about food. It was about rejection. Worthiness. Whether I felt safe enough to look after myself at all. This is the July theme inside Magic Divorce Club: body confidence after divorce. I wanted to start here, with the messy version of it, before we do anything else. 👆 You can listen to the full episode above, or wherever you get your podcasts. If this episode brings up anything difficult around food or your body, please know you’re not alone in it. Beat is the UK’s eating disorder charity and their helpline is free: 0808 801 0677 — beateatingdisorders.org.uk Please do hit reply and tell me - can you relate? Or share your story. I’d love to hear from you and reply to every email. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS Here are the show notes for the episode: * My book: How to Divorce Sober * Magic Mondays - 10am every Monday, this month we’ll focuse on love and self-compassion, join for as little as £6.67/month here * Magic Divorce Club JULY Workshop: Body Confidence After Divorce - Live at midday on 29th July. If you’d like to join us, sign up for LUXE membership here: Or grab a drop-in ticket here. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe

    Ep 37: What Divorce Did To My Relationship With My Body
  4. Jun 29

    Open the doors and windows to your life

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com Hi love, This morning’s Magic Monday picked up something from Thursday’s productivity workshop I’d missed: habits, and how much of what we do every day runs on autopilot. The same things over and over, give the same results. So we slowed down and asked a different question. Not what do I need to get done today, but what does my body actually want me to do for it, everyday? Because when you change your habits, you change your destiny! * You can watch today’s Magic Monday replay above * And I’ve created an AI prompt for you below (in the PS) to help you identify what your perfectly imperfect morning routine could look like. For one of the club members, she’s going to work on stepping outside every morning - even for just 5 mins - so you can feel more alive and connected to nature. Such a beautiful idea! What came up for me is that I need to read in the morning. It just lights me up. I’m a manifesting generator in Human Design, and I tend to do my best work when I have something to respond to rather than trying to create ideas from an empty brain. My empty brain likes to fill itself with worry or urgency or hustle. Reading gives me that bit of inspiration to get my brain firing in a whole new beautiful way. It puts a thought in my head, opens something up and gives my mind somewhere interesting to go before the demands of the day begin. I’ve just finished the first novel I’ve read in about a year, Leonard and Hungry Paul. There’s a moment where one of the characters realises that his life has quietly been getting smaller and he says this: “I just can’t help feeling that I need to open the doors and windows of my life a little.” from ‘Leonard and Hungry Paul’ by Ronan Hession. That idea has been rattling around in my head ever since. Because to me that question of what we do every day and how our habits form our destiny just feels intrinsically linked. Especially during divorce - it’s a whole new chapter. A painful one, I know. And one that can make our lives feel small. But really it’s an opportunity to fling the windows and doors wide open and see what is now possible for you. Because I believe a lot is possible for you. That you can change your habits and destiny and truly create a future you are so proud of and LOVE 🥰 And it all starts with the first step. So, when you’re ready, settle in for Magic Monday (recording above) and once you have stepped into the Magic Divorce Clubhouse and made yourself at home, keep this in mind … What’s one small thing that you can do to open the doors and windows to your life again? What helps you feel inspired, connected, rested or a little more like yourself? Whatever comes up for you doesn’t need to be impressive. But it does need to be true for you. To light you up. To create that fresh flow of energy around your life. * Five minutes outside counts. * A couple of pages of a book count. * Sitting quietly with your coffee counts. As always, tell me everything so I can cheerlead you on! You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS If you’re not a member, we’d love to have you :) join below to watch today’s replay and be sure to join us next Monday: PPS Here is you AI prompt to explore what a realistic morning routine that lights you up could look like (copy and paste everything in the box below):

    Open the doors and windows to your life
  5. Jun 25

    [LUXE] Productivity for Divorce

    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe My love, When I first announced this workshop, a few people joked that “productivity” was the last thing they needed during divorce. I felt exactly the same. If someone had handed me another colour-coded planner while I was in the middle of mine, I’d probably have cried. Or thrown it at them. The problem isn’t that you’re disorganised. The problem is that divorce is already using half your brain, on every decision, every solicitor email, every message from your ex, every worry about the kids, every money decision. It’s all running quietly in the background, like dozens of tabs open at once. No wonder even the simple stuff can suddenly feel impossible. That’s why I built this workshop. Not to help you squeeze more into your day. To help you get some of your headspace back. Inside the replay, we work through this together: * Emptying the mental clutter that’s competing for your attention * Separating what you can control from what you can’t, so you’re not fighting unwinnable battles * Picking three things that actually matter this month, instead of trying to do everything at once * Breaking the overwhelming stuff, especially divorce admin, into small next steps * Building a plan that still works on the days you’re exhausted, triggered, or running on no sleep * Building your own rejuvenation menu, (because rest must be part of the plan if you want to avoid Divorce burnout) You don’t need another impossible to-do list. You need a plan that fits the life you’re actually living right now. Productivity for Divorce Workbook Alongside the replay, you also have the Productivity for Divorce Workbook, which is attached below the paywall👇 It walks you through each exercise in your own time. Inside: * A brain dump to clear the mental clutter * A simple way to work out what actually matters * A way through the unfinished stuff that’s been weighing on you * A habit you can actually keep, even when life’s chaotic * A rejuvenation menu you’ll keep coming back to * A calm-first plan for the days everything gets knocked sideways You don’t need to do it all in one sitting. Make a cup of tea. Find an hour where nobody needs anything from you. Press play. Pause whenever you need to. Breathe. Because being productive during divorce was never about getting more done (sometimes you literally can’t - you’re waiting on other people). It’s about spending less of your life stuck in urgency, avoidance and mental clutter, so there’s more of you left for the things that actually matter. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS if you’re already a LUXE member, this replay and workbook live in the workshop library here, so you can always come back to it. PPS If you’re not yet a LUXE member… You can join LUXE to watch right now and access all the other workshops here: OR grab this workshop only here. PPPS Here is the workbook:

    [LUXE] Productivity for Divorce
  6. Jun 24

    Ep 36: Slowing down is the fastest way through this (using productivity tips to avoid Divorce Burnout)

    Hiya love, I haven’t recorded a podcast for a few weeks. Sorry about that Partly because we moved house. Partly because I’ve been blending families. But mostly because, if I’m honest, I burned out from working too hard. The irony hasn’t escaped me that this month’s theme inside Magic Divorce Club is… productivity. Yet there I was, exhausted, overwhelmed with an ever longer to-do list and wondering where all my energy had gone. The thing I’ve realised (again) is that productivity during hard times (divorce being top of the list) isn’t about squeezing more into your day. It’s about creating enough safety, space and rejuvenation that you can actually function. So I’ve been re-learning all these lesson, just in time to share them in this month’s Workshop, Productivity for Divorce, tomorrow at midday. When you’re going through divorce you’re often trying to parent, work, make legal decisions, process grief and somehow keep everything else ticking along. It’s exhausting. In this week’s podcast I’m talking about: ✨ Why I ended up in burnout after moving house ✨ The productivity trap so many women fall into during divorce ✨ Why “self-care” isn’t a luxury, it’s essential maintenance ✨ The surprising reason slowing down can actually help you move forward faster If you’ve been feeling exhausted, stuck, overwhelmed or like you’re constantly running on empty, I think you’ll really relate to this one. 👆Listen above or wherever you get your podcast. And if you’d like to go deeper, tomorrow I’m running a workshop all about productivity during divorce. Not the hustle-and-grind version. The calm, sustainable version. The version where you stop waiting until burnout forces you to stop. I hope to see you there. You’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe

    Ep 36: Slowing down is the fastest way through this (using productivity tips to avoid Divorce Burnout)
  7. May 28

    [LUXE] The Energetics of the Legal System

    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit magicdivorceclub.substack.com/subscribe My love, This month’s Magic Divorce Club workshop is now ready to watch above. We’re covering the legal side of divorce in 3 parts * Why the legal stuff is so triggering in the first place, and what you can do about it * How to find your voice and actually speak up for yourself, including a short ceremony to help you connect to your voice and what’s true for you. * Exactly how I use AI as a buffer. A gatekeeper for your emotions, so your body doesn’t have to be the shock absorber for every message, every email, every bit of legal noise that comes your way. 👇There’s also an AI workbook, attached below the paywall, with the exact prompts I use. If you’re not LUXE yet, you can watch the opening for free, and then either grab this workshop on its own here or upgrade to LUXE here: Joining LUXE gives you this workshop plus the full library of monthly workshops, and Magic Mondays (live every Monday at 10am). Next month’s workshop is one I’m genuinely excited about: Productivity for Divorce. Not to rush divorce, because often you can’t … but it is possible to use productivity tips, as unsexy as that might sound, to stop it taking over the rest of your life. This is … How to contain it, move through the load with less dread, rejuvenate in the middle of it and protect your energy for your kids, your work, and you. More on that soon. I’d love to hear how you found today’s workshop so please do reply and tell me what you liked, what shifted for you and what you want more of. As always, you’ve got this. And I’ve got you. Hannah XOX PS Here is today’s workbook for you to download:

    [LUXE] The Energetics of the Legal System

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A community and resource for those going through divorce. Sharing tools and techniques to help you turn your pain into something beautiful and save money along the way. magicdivorceclub.substack.com