The GIRL Pursuit

Amber Vargas
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  1. 5D AGO

    The Women in My Bones: Cultural Heritage, Ancestral Wisdom, & Conversion

    I used to think my identity was something I built from scratch. Like I could just decide who I wanted to be and become her.But the older I get, the more I realize: I’m not building from scratch. I’m building on the bones of the women who came before me.My cultural heritage isn’t just food, language, or traditions passed down at family gatherings. It’s the fire I carry without knowing where it came from. The trauma I’m working to heal that didn’t start with me. The strength I tap into that feels ancient. The expectations I’m questioning that were never mine to begin with. The wisdom I’m finally ready to receive.In this episode, I’m exploring: -The ancestral women who shaped who I am (and who I’m becoming) -How cultural heritage is a double-edged sword—roots AND expectations-What universe empowerment actually means (hint: it’s cosmic and ancestral) -The patterns I inherited and the ones I’m choosing to break -What I’m passing down to my daughter vs. what stops with me-How embracing your heritage is conversion work—honoring the past without being confined by it This isn’t just about culture. It’s about:        ∙ Healing generational trauma while raising your own kids        ∙ Understanding that your triggers aren’t just yours—they’re inherited        ∙ Recognizing that the fire was always there because your ancestors carried it first        ∙ Choosing which parts of your lineage to carry forward and which to release This episode connects to everything we’ve talked about:        ∙ The fire that was always there (your ancestors had it too)        ∙ Healing while holding your children (you can’t heal generational wounds without knowing the generation)        ∙ Your body that built your fire (it carries ancestral memory)        ∙ The needs no one talks about (what did your ancestral women suppress?)        ∙ Marriage and partnership (how did THEY navigate love and survival?) Because your identity isn’t something you build from scratch. It’s something you convert—taking what was given to you, honoring what serves you, and releasing what doesn’t.You’re not doing this alone. The women who came before you? They’re with you.This is Episode 21 of The GIRL Pursuit: Marriage & Conversion (but really, it’s all conversion work).Let’s talk about the women in our bones.  Comment below: Who are YOUR ancestral women? What did they pass to you that you’re grateful for? What pattern are you choosing to break?  Subscribe for real talk about motherhood, marriage, healing, identity, and the messy, beautiful work of becoming.

    20 min

  2. FEB 4

    Marriage & Conversion: When Your Partner Won't Change (And Why That's Your Lesson)

    I used to obsess over whether my husband wore his wedding ring. To me, it symbolized respect, commitment, and whether he valued our marriage. When he’d forget it, I’d spiral—convinced it meant something about me, about us. Here’s the twist: I barely wear mine anymore. Not because I gave up. Not because the marriage failed. But because that desperate need for him to comply with my vision of what marriage should look like… it dissipated. And in its place? Conversion. In this Season 3 premiere, I’m pulling back the curtain on the ebb and flow of my marriage—the stonewalling, the unspoken anger, the moments I couldn’t articulate what I actually needed. This is about the hard truth no one prepares you for: marriage doesn’t ask your partner to change. It asks YOU to convert into someone who can hold complexity, release control, and recognize love even when it doesn’t look like your blueprint. If you’re frustrated with a partner who won’t “get it,” if you’re exhausted from explaining what you need, or if you’re wondering whether to do the work or walk away—this one’s for you. Season 3 is all about marriage, partnership, and the conversion it demands. Let’s dive in.

    17 min

  3. JAN 23

    39 and Aligned: How My 30s Prepared Me for What's Next (Season 2 Finale)

    The last year in my 30s. I'm reflecting on my entire 30s- what I expected, what actually happened, and how grateful I am for all of it. The things I accomplished and the things I didn't. The plans that worked out and the ones the fell apart. Every single piece of it aligned me for something greater. My 30s didn't go according to plan. But they gave me clarity, wisdom, and purpose. I see it all so clearly now- how everything, even the hard parts, was preparing me for what's next. This is a decade of gratitude. And as I step into my 40s, I'm ready. Thank you for being part of this season. See you in Season 3.

    26 min

  4. JAN 17

    Heal Before You Have Kids (Or Heal While You Raise Them)

    My son was trying to tie his show. It was taking too long. I snapped. And then I realized; this isn't about the shoe. This is about me- my need for control, my anxiety, the urgency I leaned as a kid that I'm now passing to him. In this episode, I talk about the healing I wish I'd done before becoming a mom, and the healing I'm doing now while raising my kids. The triggers we don't know we have until parenthood activates them. The patterns we swore we'd never repeat but catch ourselves doing anyway. The cycle-breaking work that's hard, messy, and so necessary. If you're not a parent yet, do the inner work now. If you already have kids, it's not too late- awareness and accountability can change everything. Let's break the cycles together.

    22 min

  5. JAN 10

    Reading the Room: When to Be Friendly and When to Protect Your Peace

    Your Intuition is a superpower- especially when it comes to reading people. In this episode, I talk about navigating neighbor relationships, trusting your gut when someone's energy feels off and why we need to stop guilting ourselves into friendliness we don't feel. I share how I'm teaching my daughter to read the room, recognize red flags and know that being polite doesn't mean being available. From boundary-pushing neighbors to that unexplainable "something's not right" feeling- this is about honoring your instincts and protecting your peace. Being gangsta mean no without explanation. Being gutsy means trusting yourself even when others don't see what you see.

    14 min

  6. JAN 3

    The Double-Edged Sword: Empowered by Knowledge, Crippled by Fear

    I used to think knowledge was pure power. Then I got rear-ended, and suddenly I knew too much- about how fragile we are, how fast things can go wrong, how little control we actually have. Now that knowledge is both a gift and a curse. It makes me prepared, but it also keeps me up at night. This is the double-edged sword of being informed: you're empowered by what you know, but you're also crippled by the fear that comes with it. In this episode, I'm talking about finding grit in the anxiety, being gutsy enough to stay informed, and being gangsta enough to not let fear win. You can be aware and still be at peace- I'm just figuring out how.

    15 min

  7. 12/28/2025

    The Needs No One Talks About: Woman, Mother, Partner & Me

    Woman. Mother. Partner. Me. Each one has needs- and we're terrible at honoring them all the time. In this episode, I talk about the needs we ignore, the grace we rarely give ourselves, and what it looks like when someone actually sees what you need and steps in. From needing sleep to needing support to needing a damn minute- your needs aren't negotiable. Being gutsy means asking for what you need. Being gangsta means unapologetically receiving it.

    10 min

  8. 12/16/2025

    We Listen With Our Triggers

    I'm guilty of it. You're probably guilty of it too. We listen with our triggers- our past hurt, our insecurities, our defense mechanisms- and then we wonder why no one understands us. This 10-minute episode is me getting real about how our wounds shape what we hear, why communication breaks down, and what happens when we start recognizing the filter. Quick, honest, and necessary.

    10 min
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Embrace the fire inside every G.I.R.L

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  • Creator
    Amber Vargas
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    21
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Amber Vargas
  • Show Website
    The GIRL Pursuit