* Listen on the app of your choice In this episode of Hapitalist, Russell sits down with executive coach Steve Barton to dive deep into radical acceptance, Adlerian psychology, and the transformative power of forgiveness. From Steve’s journey of scaling a flower business from $200K to $2M by working smart rather than hard, to a mind-bending out-of-body experience during therapy, this conversation goes down all the best rabbit holes. If you’re an entrepreneur or high-performer looking to stop saying “no” to yourself and finally get out of your own way, this episode is packed with tools to help you rewire your mindset. Episode Highlights * The Game of Ten: Steve breaks down his foundational coaching framework. Learn how reciting six simple phrases (like “I am 10” and “I have enough”) can quiet your ego, shut off mental chatter, and establish profound present-moment awareness. * Radical Acceptance & Amor Fati: True acceptance doesn’t mean condoning bad behavior; it means recognizing you have total control over yourself, not others. The guys also explore Amor Fati—the practice of embracing and falling in love with whatever happens to you, which correlates highly to subjective happiness. * You Are Already a Balloon: Drawing on Adlerian psychology, Russell shares why everyone is born with the innate ability to fly. Coaching isn’t about adding helium; it’s about removing the blocks that are keeping you tethered to the ground. * The Body-Emotion Connection: Why do high-performers stay stuck even after a decade of mindset work? Steve and Russell discuss how the body stores suppressed emotions—like guilt or fear manifesting as physical pain—and constantly fights to preserve its current “safe” state. * The Ultimate Win Condition: What happens when you give someone the freedom and resources to do literally anything? It turns out, most people just want their exact current daily routine, but with inner peace. * Radical Forgiveness: Forgiveness isn’t about the other person. It’s about releasing the heavy, negative thoughts about an event by putting them on a mental altar so you can finally let them go. Links & Resources * Connect with Steve Barton: Book a discovery call and download his book, The Father, The Son, and the Aha Moment, at SteveBartonCoaching.com. You can also find him on LinkedIn under Steve Barton High Performance Coaching. * Connect with Russell Nohelty: Visit Happitalist.com for group coaching, the app, and resources to help you optimize your business for joy. Memorable quotes Here are some of the most impactful pull quotes from the conversation, perfect for social media graphics or highlighting in the show notes: On Change and Action: * “97% of people don’t change at all. And like they don’t even try to change... just by trying to change and do something, do anything, you’re like in the top 3% of humans in the world.” — Russell Nohelty * “You can be as positive thinker or accept radical acceptance, but you don’t take action. And set up systems... You gotta have the systems in place to create what you’re asking for.” — Steve Barton On Potential and Coaching: * “A balloon is born knowing how to get into the air... you’re already a balloon, we just gotta take the blocks away from you. We don’t have to give you more helium.” — Russell Nohelty On Inner Peace and Acceptance: * “You have to be radically accepting you not knowing. That gives you total freedom.” — Steve Barton * “Nobody who has inner peace wants chaos... I’ve never talked to someone who’s like, oh, like, you’re so peaceful. Like, can I give you some chaos? They’re all like, no, thank you. I’ve had my chaos. I want... this is better.” — Russell Nohelty On Forgiveness and Mindset: * “People think they have to forgive a person, place, or situation that happened to them... But the fact is we have to forgive the thoughts about [it].” — Steve Barton * “We disconnect our emotions from our body, and it cries out. The alarm system goes on.” — Steve Barton On Business and Authenticity: * “Every business is perfectly designed to deliver the results that it’s delivering right now. And the only thing that I know is if I’m not getting the results, I have designed my system in a way that doesn’t give me the results that I want.” — Russell Nohelty * “Be your authentic self... You will lose half your friends. Great. And you will gain more from it. People who love people who are their authentic selves... and you will be unstoppable.” — Steve Barton This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit podcast.hapitalist.com