This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth

Jule Kim
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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it. Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.  Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense. This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop) Setting boundaries that actually stick Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control ...and more This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.  Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change. New episodes weekly. Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.

  1. 3D AGO

    Overcoming a Negative Mindset: How I Changed My Toxic Negativity

    If you’re stuck in a negative mindset and you’re tired of nothing changing, this episode gives you a tool that actually helps. I’m taking you through the exact method I use with my clients to start rewriting your mental habits, shifting your emotions, and taking real action, without toxic positivity or fake affirmations. This is the framework that helped me get out of a constant negativity, self-judgment, and emotional reactivity.  I break down how your thoughts, emotions, and actions are all connected, and how to shift your internal patterns in a way that actually sticks. Here’s what’s in this episode: Why telling yourself to “just stop being negative” never worksWhat to do instead if you’re stuck in toxic negativityHow thoughts, emotions, and actions reinforce each otherWhat to focus on when you can’t change your external situationHow to use my TEA Chart to map your current mindset and shift itTwo client examples that show how a small mindset shift changes everythingWhy your brain will reject certain thoughtsWhat to do when your emotions hit before your thoughts doWant the framework I discuss in this episode? Grab my TEA Chart here. The pdf includes a full breakdown, real examples, and a blank version you can use for yourself. This episode won’t turn you into Ted Lasso overnight, but it's a VERY strong first step towards managing your mindset consciously. Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    19 min

  2. JAN 28

    Making Good Money But No Savings? Money Traps and Financial Literacy from Women in Tech

    If you're a high-earning woman wondering "why can't I save money," you're not alone. The women and money conversation rarely addresses what happens when you're smart, educated, and still struggling financially.  In this episode, financial coach Sandra Park and I share the money mindset shifts that finally helped us stop overspending and start building wealth. We get brutally honest about our own money mistakes: my near-daily Amazon orders during my time at Amazon, Sandra's multiple real estate moves, and the "I deserve this" mentality that kept us both stuck. Sandra shares why women in STEM and other high-pressure careers often struggle with money despite their intelligence and education. We talk about why we outsourced our financial decisions to the men in our lives, the mental load that keeps women from learning financial systems, and what actually works when you're ready to take control. Topics covered: Why making more money often leads to more money problemsThe "keeping up with the Joneses" trap in corporate environmentsRetail therapy, stress spending, and the entitlement mindsetHow women outsource financial decisions (and why we need to stop)The mental load difference and why women want simpler financesSandra's order of operations for getting your money rightThe spending category that destroys most budgetsOne 30-day exercise that changes everythingWhen to get help instead of figuring it out aloneConnect with Sandra Park: Website | LinkedIn: Sandra Park | Engineer Her Path Podcast Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    1h 17m

  3. JAN 21

    You're Not in Learning Mode, You're Procrastinating: How to Actually Learn (the Learning Loop)

    Fear has many faces. Procrastination disguised as learning is one of the biggest traps holding smart, capable people back. If you’ve been bingeing courses, reading books, and calling it “growth”...but not taking action, this episode breaks down exactly why you’re stuck and how to get out. I’m sharing my story of how I left my job at Amazon to start a photography business… and then spent two years doing everything except building that business. I was completely paralyzed by imposter syndrome always telling myself I just needed one more class, one more tutorial, one more certification. Here’s what I get into: The difference between what most of us call learning and the real learning loopHow perfectionism and fear turn learning into procrastinationWhy endless prep feels productive — but keeps you stuckWhat finally snapped me out of the cycle (and what might help you too)A mindset shift that helps you move from theory to action, even when it’s uncomfortableIf you’ve been putting in the work but still not making progress, or if you're tired of the illusion of productivity, listen to this episode. This is a production of Jule Kim, © 2026. Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    17 min

  4. JAN 14

    Hidden Imposter Syndrome: When It Feels Like You Didn’t Earn It the “Right” Way

    Why success feels empty. Imposter syndrome, self-worth, and achievement letdown do not disappear when you succeed.  In this episode, I talk about what it is like to finish something big - self-love affirmation cards - and still not feel proud, confident, or successful. A few years ago, I worked with Penguin Random House to create self-love affirmation cards. The process forced me to confront imposter syndrome after success, the gap between external achievement and internal self-trust, and why success does not automatically make you feel better about yourself. In this episode, I talk about: Imposter syndrome after success and achievement letdownWhy success does not fix self-worth or self-trustHow I really feel about affirmationsEditing conflict and protecting your creative voicePower dynamics in publishing and being afraid to push backWhat I learned about book deals, contracts, and agentsLaunching something publicly and still feeling conflictedLearning how to take a win without minimizing it Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    18 min

  5. JAN 7

    My 2025 Recap: Toxic Friendships, Family Loss, Burnout, & Financial Strain

    In this deeply personal year-end reflection podcast, I’m sharing the truth about what it was like to live through the hardest year of my life. If you're navigating grief, burnout, chronic illness, or financial stress right now, this episode may feel like a mirror. 2025 wasn’t a highlight reel. I cut ties with my closest friend. I lost my brother unexpectedly. My dad was hospitalized. I was sick on and off for most of the year. And my business barely stayed afloat.  This episode is about what happens when everything falls apart and you're still expected to keep going. I’m not offering polished lessons or silver linings. Instead, I’m talking openly about: Why I stayed too long in a toxic friendshipWhat grief really looked like after losing my brotherThe pressure of being the strong one in a family crisisHow financial obligations forced me to work through exhaustionWhat I wish I had done differently, and why I’m not beating myself up for itIf you're looking for a real conversation about emotional resilience, mental health, and healing during hard seasons, this one’s for you. My only goal is that you feel seen. I may not have all the answers, but I’m still here. And if you’re listening, so are you. Organ donation medical history questions Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    17 min

  6. 12/31/2025

    New Year Goals: How I Finally Built Habits That Stick (with ADHD, Autism, and Zero Motivation)

    If you struggle with consistency, habit building, or following through on goals—especially if you have ADHD or feel like traditional goal setting doesn’t work for you—this episode is for you. I’m talking about habits, routines, and why I spent years starting things and quietly stopping, even when I really wanted change.   This episode comes from my own experience with ADHD, autism, and struggling with goals and consistency in a way I couldn’t explain. For a long time, I assumed the issue was discipline. Or motivation. Or that I just hadn’t found the right program yet. So I kept researching, prepping, planning, and trying again—without ever really moving forward. In this episode, I’m sharing the pattern I didn’t see for years and how my relationship with habits, routines, and consistency started to change once I understood myself better.  If you’ve ever felt stuck with the same goals year after year, or frustrated that you can start things but can’t seem to make them last, this conversation will probably feel familiar. This is what actually helped me move out of that guilty churn where I always felt like a failure, and why doing things the “right” way was never the thing that worked for me. Topics in this episode: Consistency and habit buildingGoal setting that doesn’t stickADHD, autism, and follow‑throughWhy routines break downResistance and overthinkingIdentity and long‑term changeThis is a production of Jule Kim © 2025. Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    26 min

  7. 12/24/2025

    You’re Not Stuck, Your Ego is in Charge with Chardét Ryel

    If you’ve ever caught yourself making a decision that felt off—like it came from a place of fear, proving yourself, or ego, this episode is for you. I’m joined by my very first guest on the podcast, the incredible podcast visibility coach Chardét Ryel: host of Feel Good Nakd and Her First Three Years. We talk about what ego-driven decisions really look like, how burnout shows up, and why proving yourself is one of the fastest paths to exhaustion. We also talk about what changes when you stop leading with hustle and start building around balance and alignment instead. Chardét reveals what shifted for her after 12 years as an entrepreneur: the one change she made this year, what happened when she finally dropped the pressure, and how creating from intention instead of fear has made everything feel lighter.  If you’re feeling burned out, low-key resentful, or just ready to stop grinding your way through business or life, this conversation will speak to you. It’s fun, honest, a little spicy in places—and full of moments that will make you pause and reflect. Sometimes the biggest shift starts with a single question: What if I just stopped doing the thing that drains me the most? This is one of those episodes you’ll want to revisit whenever things feel heavy.  Hit play and let’s talk about what it really means to build from a place of alignment instead of fear, ego, or self-hate. Topics Discussed in the Episode: What ego-driven decisions look like in business and lifeWhy “proving yourself” is a recipe for burnoutHow to know if you’re operating from fear, not alignmentSetting boundaries when you’re burned out and overextendedCommunication dynamics when working with men vs. womenThe difference between surrender and being passiveHow to build a business around the life you actually wantWays to Support This Podcast: Share this episode with a friend who's burned out or stuck in hustle mode.Follow the podcast to catch future episodes on mindset, communication, and real growth.This is a production of Jule Kim © 2025. Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    53 min

  8. 12/17/2025

    Healthy Emotional Processing: The Missing Step in Personal Growth (part 2)

    Healthy emotional processing is more than just “feeling your feelings” - it’s a critical skill most of us were never taught. If you’ve ever rushed to fix a problem because that's what you thought you were supposed to do, or found yourself repeating the same emotional cycles, this episode will show you why. I’m unpacking what happens when you skip  emotional reflection and go straight into problem-solving, how emotional repression shows up, and why it backfires over time.  You’ll learn how to start recognizing your emotional responses more clearly and how to stop being ruled by them. This conversation is especially for you if: You overthink but still feel stuckYou avoid confrontation to keep the peaceYour emotions often feel “too much” or out of controlYou want to feel more emotionally grounded and in controlCalm App Feelings Wheel Atlas of Emotions Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it. Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.  Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense. This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop) Setting boundaries that actually stick Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control ...and more This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.  Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change. New episodes weekly. Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.

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