This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth

Jule Kim, Executive Coach
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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it. Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.  Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense. This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop) Setting boundaries that actually stick Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control ...and more This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.  Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change. New episodes weekly. Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.

  1. 2D AGO

    Why You Struggle to Apologize (and What It’s Costing Your Relationships)

    Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Most people who never learned how to apologize don't even realize that's the problem. I grew up in a Korean household where apologies never happened, so I spent years refusing to apologize without understanding what that was doing to my relationships. In this episode, I'm getting into why some people genuinely can't apologize, why over-apologizing does just as much damage, and what shifted for me when I finally stopped holding back. In this episode: Growing up without any model of what a healthy apology looks likeHow being punished into saying sorry as a kid turned apologies into a shame triggerThe moment in my relationship when I realized accountability wasn't optionalThe metaphor I use to think about what apologies are actually forOver-apologizing and why so many women are quietly burning their credibilityHow my parents, in their 70s, started doing something I never thought they'd doWhat changed across all of my relationships once I stopped withholding apologiesIf you've ever struggled to say sorry, or you're waiting on an apology you might never get, this one's for you. Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    12 min

  2. APR 1

    Masking to Belong: People Don’t Know the Real You Because You Won’t Let Them

    Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Masking and people-pleasing often start as survival strategies in childhood, but over time they become the only version of you that people ever see. I break down how I used intelligence and helpfulness to earn belonging for decades without realizing it, and why that kept people from actually connecting with me. Topics covered in this episode: The Golden Buddha story and why we cover ourselves up to feel safeHow I discovered that being "the smart one" was my version of maskingWhy leading with intelligence, humor, or helpfulness earns you a spot but not a real connectionThe family messages that taught me to perform instead of show up as myselfWhen protective armor turns into a prisonWhat I'm still working through underneath my own maskHow to start figuring out what your mask isSupport the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    11 min

  3. MAR 26

    Your Unmet Needs: The Real Reason You Can’t Stop Self-Sabotaging

    Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Unmet emotional needs are the invisible saboteurs behind some of our most frustrating patterns.  I'm talking about the stuff where you know exactly what you need to change and you still can't do it.  In this episode I'm getting into what unmet needs actually are, how they're different from values, and how they've been running my life in ways I didn't see for years.  I share my own story of years of buying way too much stuff and filling up every room in my house, no matter how many times I tried to stop. I also walk through real examples from my clients and my own family to show you the two signs that a need is in the driver's seat. Topics covered: Why organizing and decluttering never worked for me, and what I was actually trying to solve forThe difference between needs and values, and why people mix them upTwo signs an unmet need is running things: behavior you can't stop, and emotional reactions that are way out of proportion to the situationHow unmet needs show up in sales calls, relationships, and everyday conflictWhy we lock onto one way to meet a need and act like it's the only optionCommon patterns I see in my clients: overworking, people-pleasing, emotional eating, and relationship conflictAn exercise to start figuring out your own unmet psychological needs (and when to do this with a therapist or coach, not alone)Want to read in-depth companion article to this episode? Send me a message on LinkedIn if you want to work on your unmet needs together. Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    16 min

  4. MAR 18

    The 4-Step Formula for Boundaries So You Stop Feeling Like a Doormat

    Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Setting boundaries in relationships is one of those things most of us were never properly taught. In this episode, I break down what is a boundary, my 4-step formula, and how to actually set boundaries without being mean with family, friends, and coworkers. Topics covered in this episode: What a boundary actually is (and what it isn't)Why setting boundaries feels selfish, especially for people pleasersSigns you need stronger boundariesThe 4-step boundary setting formulaWhy ghosting someone is not the same as setting a boundaryIf you've been struggling with how to set boundaries or you keep letting things slide to avoid conflict, this episode is your starting point. Have questions about boundaries? Text the link in the show notes or find me on LinkedIn. Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    11 min

  5. MAR 12

    You Built the ‘Right’ Career. So Why Does It Feel So Wrong?

    Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Why finding your purpose feels impossible: If you have no career direction, feel trapped by the golden handcuffs, and don't know what your next step is, I get it. I spent 39 years cycling through careers I didn't enjoy before I finally found my calling in coaching. In this episode, I talk about why so many of us end up stuck in careers we don't care about and how to choose your next career when you don't know where to start. Topics covered in this episode: Why we fall into careers based on convenience, money, or momentum instead of genuine fitHow promotions and lifestyle creep make it harder to leave the longer you stayThe real reason most people won't go after what they want (and it's not money or experience)Why we're more willing to fail at things we don't care about than risk failing at something we loveAn exercise I use with my coaching clients to identify what you're genuinely obsessed with, not just what you're good atHow to connect that obsession to an actual career pathDealing with people who judge you for starting over (I've done it more times than I can count)Why quitting what isn't meant for you is an act of self-trustIf you've been wondering whether there's more to your career than what you're doing now, this one's for you. Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    19 min

  6. MAR 4

    The Real Reason You’re Not Confident in Job Interviews

    Text Jule comments or topic requests :) If you keep getting interviews but not offers, the biggest problem may not be your qualifications. In this episode, I break down the scarcity, desperation, impostor thinking, and interview mindset mistakes that make strong candidates come across shaky. If you've been wondering why you feel so nervous in job interviews, this one's for you. With over a million layoffs in the US in 2025 alone and more people competing for fewer roles, it's taking longer than ever to land a job offer.  As an executive coach experienced in interview prep, I break down why the biggest blocker in interviews isn't your qualifications or your answers. It's your interview mindset. Topics covered in this episode: How to stop feeling desperate in your job search and why that desperation is wrecking your interviewsHow to shift negative self-talk before an interviewThe myth of the perfect candidate and why it's sabotaging youWhat to do when you feel imposter syndrome for a job you're interviewing forWhy getting the interview means you already belong in the roomA simple pre-interview exercise to help you walk in grounded and clearWhether you're struggling with imposter syndrome in interviews, not getting job offers despite being qualified, or just need to get your head on straight before your next one, this episode is for you. Guest Episode: Job interviewing tips to get hired YouTube video: How to answer interview questions successfully Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    16 min

  7. FEB 25

    What is a Friend? Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels So Hard

    Text Jule comments or topic requests :) Adult friendships are complicated, and figuring out what friendship means as you get older is something most of us are just winging. At some point, you start losing friends, or realizing the ones you have don't quite fit anymore, and you're left wondering what is a friend, really, and what do I actually need from the people around me? I sat down with four people to explore their experiences with friends to answer exactly that.  What came out of these conversations wasn't what I expected. We get into what makes a good friend for you, which in turn, might give some hints on how to also be a better friend. In this episode: How friendship needs shift with every season of life, and why growing apart doesn't mean anyone failedThe grief of losing a long-time friendship you didn't choose to endWhat give and take in a friendship actually looks like in practiceHow to define what a friend really means to you, and why most of us have never stopped to think about itWhy expecting every friend to show up the same way sets you up for disappointmentWhat it looks like to be genuinely content with a small, intentional circleGuests: Jaclyn Mrozek, Mark Chepelyuk, Sandra Park, Von Bondoc Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    30 min

  8. FEB 18

    Why You Can’t Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

    Text Jule comments or topic requests :) How to stop comparing yourself to others: why the comparison trap is actually a safety problem. If you've been stuck in unhealthy comparison and wondering why do we compare ourselves to others even when we know it's bad for us, this episode is going to change what you understand about it.  I kept seeing this pattern in my clients, my friends, pretty much everyone around me. They can't stop comparing and they're exhausted. So I dug into it, and what I found changed how I think about all of it. In this episode, I'm getting into: The hidden four-step cycle behind every destructive comparison cycle, including the one step nobody catchesWhy your brain treats comparison like a safety mechanism, and why "just stop comparing" has never worked for anyoneWhere your self-worth is actually attached and why that determines whether comparison wrecks you or rolls right offWhat you can actually do about itGrab my TEA Chart here. Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    20 min
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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it. Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.  Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense. This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop) Setting boundaries that actually stick Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control ...and more This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.  Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change. New episodes weekly. Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.

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