This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth

Jule Kim
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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it. Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.  Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense. This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop) Setting boundaries that actually stick Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control ...and more This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.  Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change. New episodes weekly. Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.

  1. 3D AGO

    What is a Friend? Adult Friendships & Defining What Friendship Means As You Get Older

    Adult friendships are complicated, and figuring out what friendship means as you get older is something most of us are just winging. At some point, you start losing friends, or realizing the ones you have don't quite fit anymore, and you're left wondering what is a friend, really, and what do I actually need from the people around me? I sat down with four people to explore their experiences with friends to answer exactly that.  What came out of these conversations wasn't what I expected. We get into what makes a good friend for you, which in turn, might give some hints on how to also be a better friend. In this episode: How friendship needs shift with every season of life, and why growing apart doesn't mean anyone failedThe grief of losing a long-time friendship you didn't choose to endWhat give and take in a friendship actually looks like in practiceHow to define what a friend really means to you, and why most of us have never stopped to think about itWhy expecting every friend to show up the same way sets you up for disappointmentWhat it looks like to be genuinely content with a small, intentional circleGuests: Jaclyn Mrozek, Mark Chepelyuk, Sandra Park, Von Bondoc Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    30 min

  2. FEB 18

    How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: The Comparison Trap

    How to stop comparing yourself to others: why the comparison trap is actually a safety problem. If you've been stuck in unhealthy comparison and wondering why do we compare ourselves to others even when we know it's bad for us, this episode is going to change what you understand about it.  I kept seeing this pattern in my clients, my friends, pretty much everyone around me. They can't stop comparing and they're exhausted. So I dug into it, and what I found changed how I think about all of it. In this episode, I'm getting into: The hidden four-step cycle behind every destructive comparison cycle, including the one step nobody catchesWhy your brain treats comparison like a safety mechanism, and why "just stop comparing" has never worked for anyoneWhere your self-worth is actually attached and why that determines whether comparison wrecks you or rolls right offWhat you can actually do about itGrab my TEA Chart here. Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    20 min

  3. FEB 11

    How Relationship Advice From Social Media Gets It SO Wrong: Boundaries, Values, and Needs

    Relationship advice from Reddit gets a lot of things wrong. As a coach who works with couples and individuals on communication, boundaries, and emotional patterns, I break down three of the most common relationship posts and unpack what people are asking versus what they actually need to resolve. In this episode, I cover: A girlfriend wondering if she's being manipulative for demanding her boyfriend go to therapy, and why the real issue isn't about manipulation at allHow to tell the difference between a relationship that needs work and one that's just incompatibleWhy a boyfriend asking "what words should I use?" is focused on technique when the actual problem is a misalignment on emotional privacy and loyaltyThe most popular Reddit advice on compatibility, ranked, including "trust your gut," "if they cared, they would," and "if it feels like work, it's the wrong relationship"Why some of the most upvoted advice is actually the most damaging, and the questions I'd invite each of these people to sit with insteadIf you keep having the same arguments and nothing changes, it's probably because you're solving for the wrong problem. This episode will help you figure out what the real issue is so you can finally stop going in circles. This is part one of a three-part series on how to handle the people in your life, starting with partners. Friendship and workplace dynamics are coming next. Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    15 min

  4. FEB 4

    Overcoming a Negative Mindset: How I Changed My Toxic Negativity

    If you’re stuck in a negative mindset and you’re tired of nothing changing, this episode gives you a tool that actually helps. I’m taking you through the exact method I use with my clients to start rewriting your mental habits, shifting your emotions, and taking real action, without toxic positivity or fake affirmations. This is the framework that helped me get out of a constant negativity, self-judgment, and emotional reactivity.  I break down how your thoughts, emotions, and actions are all connected, and how to shift your internal patterns in a way that actually sticks. Here’s what’s in this episode: Why telling yourself to “just stop being negative” never worksWhat to do instead if you’re stuck in toxic negativityHow thoughts, emotions, and actions reinforce each otherWhat to focus on when you can’t change your external situationHow to use my TEA Chart to map your current mindset and shift itTwo client examples that show how a small mindset shift changes everythingWhy your brain will reject certain thoughtsWhat to do when your emotions hit before your thoughts doWant the framework I discuss in this episode? Grab my TEA Chart here. The pdf includes a full breakdown, real examples, and a blank version you can use for yourself. This episode won’t turn you into Ted Lasso overnight, but it's a VERY strong first step towards managing your mindset consciously. Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    19 min

  5. JAN 28

    Making Good Money But No Savings? Money Traps and Financial Literacy from Women in Tech

    If you're a high-earning woman wondering "why can't I save money," you're not alone. The women and money conversation rarely addresses what happens when you're smart, educated, and still struggling financially.  In this episode, financial coach Sandra Park and I share the money mindset shifts that finally helped us stop overspending and start building wealth. We get brutally honest about our own money mistakes: my near-daily Amazon orders during my time at Amazon, Sandra's multiple real estate moves, and the "I deserve this" mentality that kept us both stuck. Sandra shares why women in STEM and other high-pressure careers often struggle with money despite their intelligence and education. We talk about why we outsourced our financial decisions to the men in our lives, the mental load that keeps women from learning financial systems, and what actually works when you're ready to take control. Topics covered: Why making more money often leads to more money problemsThe "keeping up with the Joneses" trap in corporate environmentsRetail therapy, stress spending, and the entitlement mindsetHow women outsource financial decisions (and why we need to stop)The mental load difference and why women want simpler financesSandra's order of operations for getting your money rightThe spending category that destroys most budgetsOne 30-day exercise that changes everythingWhen to get help instead of figuring it out aloneConnect with Sandra Park: Website | LinkedIn: Sandra Park | Engineer Her Path Podcast Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    1h 17m

  6. JAN 21

    You're Not “Learning,” You're Procrastinating: How to Actually Learn (the Learning Loop)

    Fear has many faces. Procrastination disguised as learning is one of the biggest traps holding smart, capable people back. If you’ve been bingeing courses, reading books, and calling it “growth”...but not taking action, this episode breaks down exactly why you’re stuck and how to get out. I’m sharing my story of how I left my job at Amazon to start a photography business… and then spent two years doing everything except building that business. I was completely paralyzed by imposter syndrome always telling myself I just needed one more class, one more tutorial, one more certification. Here’s what I get into: The difference between what most of us call learning and the real learning loopHow perfectionism and fear turn learning into procrastinationWhy endless prep feels productive — but keeps you stuckWhat finally snapped me out of the cycle (and what might help you too)A mindset shift that helps you move from theory to action, even when it’s uncomfortableIf you’ve been putting in the work but still not making progress, or if you're tired of the illusion of productivity, listen to this episode. This is a production of Jule Kim, © 2026. Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    17 min

  7. JAN 14

    Hidden Imposter Syndrome: When It Feels Like You Didn’t Earn It the “Right” Way

    Why success feels empty. Imposter syndrome, self-worth, and achievement letdown do not disappear when you succeed.  In this episode, I talk about what it is like to finish something big - self-love affirmation cards - and still not feel proud, confident, or successful. A few years ago, I worked with Penguin Random House to create self-love affirmation cards. The process forced me to confront imposter syndrome after success, the gap between external achievement and internal self-trust, and why success does not automatically make you feel better about yourself. In this episode, I talk about: Imposter syndrome after success and achievement letdownWhy success does not fix self-worth or self-trustHow I really feel about affirmationsEditing conflict and protecting your creative voicePower dynamics in publishing and being afraid to push backWhat I learned about book deals, contracts, and agentsLaunching something publicly and still feeling conflictedLearning how to take a win without minimizing it Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    18 min

  8. JAN 7

    My 2025 Recap: Toxic Friendships, Family Loss, Burnout, & Financial Strain

    In this deeply personal year-end reflection podcast, I’m sharing the truth about what it was like to live through the hardest year of my life. If you're navigating grief, burnout, chronic illness, or financial stress right now, this episode may feel like a mirror. 2025 wasn’t a highlight reel. I cut ties with my closest friend. I lost my brother unexpectedly. My dad was hospitalized. I was sick on and off for most of the year. And my business barely stayed afloat.  This episode is about what happens when everything falls apart and you're still expected to keep going. I’m not offering polished lessons or silver linings. Instead, I’m talking openly about: Why I stayed too long in a toxic friendshipWhat grief really looked like after losing my brotherThe pressure of being the strong one in a family crisisHow financial obligations forced me to work through exhaustionWhat I wish I had done differently, and why I’m not beating myself up for itIf you're looking for a real conversation about emotional resilience, mental health, and healing during hard seasons, this one’s for you. My only goal is that you feel seen. I may not have all the answers, but I’m still here. And if you’re listening, so are you. Organ donation medical history questions Text Jule your thoughts - I really do read these! Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

    17 min
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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it. Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.  Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense. This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop) Setting boundaries that actually stick Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control ...and more This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.  Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change. New episodes weekly. Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.

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