This Is How You Think - Mindset Habits for Personal Growth

Jule Kim, Executive Coach
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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it. Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.  Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense. This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop) Setting boundaries that actually stick Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control ...and more This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.  Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change. New episodes weekly. Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.

  1. 4d ago

    Burnout and Overworking: Why Is It So Hard to Just Do Less?

    Text Jule :) If you’re burned out, you probably already know what you’re “supposed” to do: work less, sleep more, take breaks, exercise, set better boundaries. So why is it so damn hard to actually do any of that? In this episode, I dig into why overworking can continue even when you’re exhausted, why some of us seem to live in a state of perpetual burnout, and what might be happening underneath the urge to keep pushing. Because if information were enough to cure burnout, a lot of us would have fixed this already. I also share what my own burnout has forced me to confront about work, productivity, physical limits, and the warning signs I spent years ignoring. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I feel burned out all the time?” or tried to figure out the real cause of burnout in your own life, this episode will give you some questions worth sitting with. Topics in this episode: Why knowing you need to slow down doesn’t necessarily make you slow downHow overworking can become your normal without you realizing how depleted you areWhy the consequences of pushing too hard can be so easy to ignoreWhat we may be getting from working beyond our capacityThe connection between productivity, accomplishment, and self-worthWhy setting work boundaries can feel harder than it soundsWhat my own experience with autistic burnout has taught me about my limitsWhy waiting until you feel completely exhausted may already be too lateThree questions to help uncover what keeps you pushing past your capacitySupport the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

  2. Aug 13

    Why You‘re Not Reaching Your Potential: How to Know How Far You Can Go

    Text Jule :) What if you’re capable of way more than you know, but you quit before you ever find out? Starting a new career, business, creative pursuit, or anything that matters can bring up a weird mix of hope, fear, self-doubt, and excitement. You see a little evidence that maybe you have real potential. Then almost immediately, the pressure kicks in: What if I’m wrong? What if I’m not actually good at this? What if this becomes one more thing that didn’t work out? In this episode, I’m digging into why pursuing your potential can feel so emotionally loaded, why being a beginner messes with your head, and what happens when your identity and self-worth get tangled up with whether you succeed. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re wasting your potential, questioned whether you should keep going, or felt tempted to quit because you weren’t progressing fast enough, this one’s for you. Topics in this episode: Why starting something new can trigger both hope and fearThe emotional roller coaster of career changes and new pursuitsWhy uncertainty creates so much anxiety around your potentialThe fear of failure when something feels tied to your identityWhy small signs of talent can raise the stakesUntapped potential and the fear of never discovering what you’re capable ofWhy beginners often judge themselves too earlyThe difference between your current ability and your future potentialWhy progress gets harder after the initial excitement wears offKnowing when to keep going and when something genuinely isn’t for youThe role commitment plays in discovering how far you can actually go  Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

  3. Aug 8

    I Thought I Was an A*****e. Turns Out It Was Autism.

    Text Jule :) Late autism diagnosis in women can make you look back at your entire life and think, “Holy shit. How did nobody catch this? Who even am I?” I was diagnosed with autism a year and a half ago, but I’m only now beginning to understand what being autistic actually means for me. And learning about autism in women, masking autism, and autistic burnout has made a whole bunch of things from my past suddenly look very different. In this episode: signs of autism in women that can be missed for decadesgetting an autism diagnosis as an adultwhy I didn’t recognize many of my own autistic traitssensory issues and other autism traits I thought were just “me”struggling to read social cues and the unspoken rules everyone else seemed to understandmasking autism and learning to perform the “right” social behaviorsthe overlap between masking, people-pleasing, shame, and autistic burnoutwhat it’s like to rethink your identity after a late autism diagnosisIf you’re a late-diagnosed autistic woman, think you might be autistic, or have spent your life wondering why being a person sometimes seems harder for you than it does for everyone else, you’ll probably recognize yourself in this episode. Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

  4. Jul 30

    When Being a Team Player Means Betraying Your Integrity

    Text Jule :) Compromising your values at work almost never feels like a big decision while it’s happening. It feels like keeping the peace, not making things weird with the people you sit next to every single day, and telling yourself it isn’t really your business anyway.   A friend of mine got asked to log fake test drives at the dealership where she works, and when she hesitated, her coworkers told her she was the reason nobody was hitting quota.   We talked through what integrity at work actually costs you when the whole team is already in on it, and how to say no to your coworkers without turning yourself into the difficult one. Most people hand their line over to somebody else at some point without ever noticing they did it.   Topics in this episode: The two very different reasons you might feel relieved after making a decision, and why one of them is a red flag Why “everybody else is doing it” and “the customers don’t mind” fall apart the second you look at them What staying quiet in a moment that actually matters does to your self-trust and your self-respect The difference between what’s right and what’s legal, and why people mix those two up constantly Why your coworkers don’t get to draw your line for you, even when they’re the ones covering your numbers Why fitting in at work and keeping your integrity can’t always both win, and what to do when both of them matter to you The two questions I give people when they can’t figure out what the right move is Something small that happened on a bus 15 years ago that I still think about Where my friend landed in the end, and why I wouldn’t recommend her approach to anybody  If you’ve ever gone along with something at work that didn’t sit right with you just to stay on good terms with everybody, this one’s for you. Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

  5. Jul 21

    When a Friend Keeps Letting You Down: Should You Stay or Go? (What Is a Friend part 3)

    Text Jule :) Knowing how to tell a friend they hurt you is a skill most of us never learned. So instead of setting boundaries with friends, we drop hints, make excuses for them, and let the resentment pile up. In this episode, I’m talking about how to actually say the thing you’ve been avoiding, and how to figure out whether you’re dealing with a toxic friendship or one that’s totally fixable. I’m also sharing a personal story about a friend who went missing on me during one of the hardest periods of my life, and what happened when I finally told her how I felt. I think ending a friendship should be a conscious choice you make with your eyes open, not something that happens by default while you simmer and eventually explode over. In this episode: The weird middle ground where a friend is just enough to keep around but also annoyingWhy “but I’ve known them for 20 years” is not a reason to keep quietThe two types of people who never actually say what’s bothering them, and how to know if you’re one of themWhat happened when I told a friend she wasn’t there for me after my parents’ car accidentThe line from Tulsa King I fully intend to use on someone somedayWhat to do when you’ve asked for change several times and nothing sticksThe trap of making someone else’s behavior mean something about your worthHow I’ve actually worded it when it was time to part ways with a friend This is part 3 of my What Is a Friend? series, so if you missed the first two episodes, here are the links: 1. What is a Friend? Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels So Hard 2. Adult Friendships: Why that Friendship Feels One-Sided Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

  6. Jul 8

    Adult Friendships: Why that Friendship Feels One-Sided (What Is a Friend part 2)

    Text Jule :) I get asked about adult friendships A LOT, like why it’s so hard to make friends, why some friends are so difficult, or why some friends keep disappointing us. Most of the advice out there talks about good communication, having the same values, and letting go of expectations, but I think this angst about friends centers around friendship compatibility. Compatibility in a friendship goes back to questions we never really sit down and answer, which is what is a friend to me, and are all my friends actually the right kind of friend. In my own case, for a long time I treated everybody the same, which is where most of my problems came from. So in this part 2 episode on friendship (listen to part one What Is a Friend) I get into friendship tiers, aka levels of friendship, because once I had those, I stopped handing all of myself to people who didn't want that from me, and I felt a whole lot less used.  Topics covered in this episode: The five year friendship where I finally clocked that I was doing all the reaching out Why lumping everyone into the same friendship level set me up to feel let down How friendships by circumstance doesn’t mean you’re compatible to be long-term friends The check-in with myself when I don't feel good after hanging out a friendLetting go of a friend, ghosting vs downgrading The way I think about friends who come and go now, and why I’m at peace This is the second episode in my “What is a Friend” series.  Here’s part one: What is a Friend? Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels So Hard and part three: When a Friend Keeps Letting You Down: Should You Stay or Go? Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

  7. Jul 1

    The Rainbows in Grief: What I'm Feeling One Year After Losing My Brother

    Text Jule :) This episode is about grief showing up in your body, why your feelings can hit long before your mind understands why, and how a grief anniversary can knock you flat a year later when you think you’re finally okay. In this episode: Why you feel sad or low for no reason and can’t figure out why What a grief anniversary reaction actually feels like from the inside How your body keeps score of a date your mind has moved past What grief can look like a year after losing someone you love The fear that almost stopped me from talking about any of this My favorite memories of my brother and who he was If you’ve ever felt completely off and had no idea why, this one’s for you. Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

  8. Jun 24

    Quit the Negative Self-Talk ASAP: The Science Behind How Your Words Create Your Reality

    Text Jule :) Despite all the negative self-talk running in my head, for years I figured the whole “watch your words” thing was a load of bullsh*t.    Then about three years ago I came across research showing that emotions have a recipe, and it was a total light bulb moment for me.    So in this episode I’m breaking down the actual science of how the words you use shape what you feel, and how learning to control your emotions starts with paying attention to how you describe what’s happening to you. I’ll keep the mechanics simple, I promise.    In this episode: The saying I dismissed as a kid and why I finally bought into it three years ago The story of my photo getting stolen and how one sentence flipped me from mildly annoyed to full-blown rage Dr. Kristen Lindquist’s research showing that emotions have a recipe My potter’s wheel analogy Why it’s so important to use the right labels for what you’re thinking and feelingThe negative phrases I used to say to myself constantly and how I broke the habit A simple exercise for picking one phrase to swap out, and the friends-and-family trick for figuring out which one  If you tend to spiral when something hard happens and you can’t seem to talk yourself back out of it, this one’s for you. Related episode on how to change your thoughts: I was Toxic. Here's What Changed My Negative Mindset Support the show Interested in coaching with Jule? LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekim Jule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/ Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on Amazon Ways to Support This Podcast: 🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.

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Here's how to stop doing the stupid sh*t you know is bad for you but can't seem to stop doing.This Is How You Think breaks down the emotional patterns keeping you stuck, using analytical precision to help you understand exactly what's happening in your mind - and what to do about it. Perfect for high-achieving women who feel like they're falling apart, constantly experiencing emotional highs and lows, or constantly put everyone else first.  Host Jule Kim - certified professional executive coach, imposter syndrome specialist, and author of Self-Love Affirmations - combines legal reasoning with psychological insight to decode why you do what you do, especially when it makes no logical sense. This podcast tackles real challenges like:How to stop people-pleasing without feeling guilty Why you sabotage your own success (and how to stop) Setting boundaries that actually stick Dealing with imposter syndrome and building real confidence Breaking free from family patterns and cultural expectations Emotional regulation when everything feels out of control ...and more This podcast showcases a unique approach to mindset to help you learn to recognize your patterns, understand their origins, and actually change them.  Move from self-doubt to self-acceptance, and ultimately to the confidence and resilience you deserve. Whether you're navigating workplace dynamics, family relationships, or your own inner critic, This Is How You Think gives you the tools to understand yourself at the deepest level and create lasting change. New episodes weekly. Subscribe now and start understanding how you tick.

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