What makes someone a mother? In the final chapter of Merveille’s oral history, she reflects on the years she spent raising her daughter while completing her education, working as a teacher, and navigating the challenges of life in eastern Democratic Republic of the Congo. Merveille first took responsibility for her daughter when the child was six years old. While still a student, she depended on her father’s support before eventually finding part-time teaching work to help cover rent, school fees, food, and other household expenses. Balancing university, employment, childcare, and motherhood left little room for her own needs. She also speaks openly about the judgment she faced. Some people assumed she was a single mother who had given birth outside marriage. Others knew the child was not biologically hers but still questioned why she had chosen to take responsibility for her. Despite the humiliation and rejection she experienced, Merveille continued raising her daughter and supporting her education. Her story also brings attention to the practical challenges facing women who raise children without partners. Merveille describes relying on trusted neighbors when she had to work or attend school, and the difficult decisions that came when her daughter became sick. She argues for affordable childcare, employment opportunities, training, and sustainable income-generating support for women raising children alone. Today, Merveille continues teaching and making doughnuts and cakes to support herself and her daughter. Despite the economic effects of war and the limitations of her income, she remains committed to her daughter’s education and to building a more stable future. At the heart of this final chapter is Merveille’s understanding of motherhood. Her daughter is not biologically hers, but she has cared for her since childhood, supported her education, stayed beside her through illness, and continued providing for her despite enormous challenges. For Merveille, motherhood is not defined by childbirth. It is built through affection, responsibility, sacrifice, education, and the decision to remain present in a child’s life. What You’ll Hear in This Episode 00:00 Life After University and Raising Her Daughter08:00 Balancing Education, Work, and Motherhood14:00 The Challenges of Raising a Child Without a Partner20:00 Work, Income, and Supporting Her Daughter’s Education25:00 What Motherhood Means to Merveille30:00 Life After War, Hope, and the Future Why This Story Matters Merveille’s story expands the way we understand female-headed households and motherhood. Her experience shows that caregiving can take many forms, and that women may assume parental responsibilities because of family circumstances, poverty, displacement, or the absence of other caregivers. Her testimony also points to the practical support that women need to build stable lives: affordable childcare, education, employment, training, and sustainable opportunities to earn an income. Most importantly, Merveille asks us to look beyond assumptions and understand the circumstances behind every woman who raises a child alone. About The Archive Speaks The Archive Speaks is an oral history series from The Refugee Archive, documenting the lived experiences of displaced women and female-headed households around the world. These testimonies preserve personal memories shaped by conflict, displacement, caregiving, and survival, allowing women to tell their stories in their own words. Tags: DRC, Democratic Republic of the Congo, Merveille's story, Merveille DRC, South Kivu, Goma, Bukavu, motherhood, motherhood without giving birth, female headed households, female headed household, single mothers, women and displacement, women in conflict, women in DRC, oral history, African oral history, displaced women, displacement stories, caregiving, kinship care, raising a child, women resilience, education in conflict, single motherhood, humanitarian storytelling, conflict in eastern Congo, The Archive Speaks, The Refugee Archive, women and war, motherhood and displacement, stories of displaced women This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit therefugeearchive.substack.com/subscribe