Spiritually Kinky: Creating the Path to Being Fully Seen, Deeply Felt & Wildly Free

Dustin Lea Wheeler
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Spiritually Kinky is a podcast about conscious creation, personal transformation, nervous system awareness, and reclaiming your authentic identity.  Hosted by Dustin Lea Wheeler, this show explores how to break inherited patterns, move beyond self-sabotage, and create a life aligned with who you truly are. Dustin teaches the shift from living as the oldest version of your past self into the youngest version of your future self, helping listeners recognize the “Not-It Identity”—the survival identity formed in childhood to belong and stay safe—and step into their creative power. But this isn’t your typical self-improvement podcast. Welcome to Spiritually Kinky—the playground for your wild soul and untamed truth. Here we ditch the masks, question old conditioning, and remember how powerful it is to be fully seen, deeply felt, and wildly free. Around here we explore: • Conscious creation & creator identity • Breaking inherited patterns and generational conditioning • Nervous system awareness and emotional intelligence • Purpose, power, pleasure, and authentic self-expression All with a wink… and a whip of wisdom. If you’re ready to stop fixing yourself and start creating the life you were meant to live, welcome to the Spiritually Kinky revolution with Dustin Lea Wheeler.  - it's time to play!  All with a wink… and a whip of wisdom.

  1. 5d ago

    🎙️ Episode #60 The Dangerous Lie of Alignment

    Send us Fan Mail What if the reason you feel stuck… isn’t because you’re broken — but because you’ve been taught to worship your emotions as truth? In this deep and emotionally raw episode, Dustin Wheeler explores the dangerous lie behind “feeling aligned” and why so many conscious creators, high achievers, and spiritually-minded people end up trapped waiting to feel ready before taking action. This conversation dives into: nervous system conditioningemotional regulationsurvival mode psychologymanifestation mythsemotional addictionidentity loopspower, choice, focus & flowburnout cyclessuccess vs fulfillmentconscious creationembracing contradiction without abandoning yourselfYou’ll learn why: feelings are real but not always truthemotional familiarity becomes identitythe nervous system mistakes survival for safetypower is the speed between idea and fruitionregulation is not suppressiontrue creation requires both the creator AND the humanThis is one of the deepest Spiritually Kinky episodes yet. If you’ve been feeling exhausted, emotionally overwhelmed, stuck in self-development loops, or waiting to “feel aligned” before moving toward your future… this episode will hit differently. Because maybe the goal isn’t becoming less emotional. Maybe the goal is learning how to stay connected to yourself while emotions move through you. ✨ Join the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool: Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    19 min

  2. May 17

    🎙️ Episode #59 The Loneliest Part Of Becoming

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when life hurts… and you still have to choose whether you’re going to stay open? In this episode, Dustin Wheeler shares a deeply honest conversation about grief, emotional resilience, nervous system regulation, and the part of conscious creation nobody really talks about:  the lonely part of becoming. Three weeks after saying goodbye to Simba, Dustin explores what it means to continue creating, loving, and moving forward without bypassing pain or collapsing into survival. Inside this conversation:  — why difficult emotions are not proof you’re failing  — how the comfort cave slowly removes aliveness  — the difference between grief and collapse  — why the nervous system retreats during painful seasons  — how to hold creative tension without abandoning yourself  — why emotional mastery is about staying connected to yourself while life hurts This episode is for the person who feels emotionally exhausted…  the person trying not to shut down…  and the person learning how to carry both grief and vision at the same time. You are not broken. Difficult seasons do not disqualify you.  They deepen you. 🎙️ If this episode spoke to you, make sure you follow the podcast, share it with someone you love, and come join us inside the Spiritually Kinky community for creators where we help people retrain their nervous system for conscious creation instead of survival. Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    15 min

  3. May 10

    🎙️ Episode #58 The Lie of the Perfect Path

    Send us Fan Mail Why do so many people stay stuck waiting for the “right” decision? Why do high achievers overthink themselves into exhaustion…  even when they deeply want more from life? Because most people unconsciously believe there’s a perfect path.  A path with all reward and no grief.  A life where they never make the wrong choice.  A version of expansion that somehow feels completely safe. But that path doesn’t exist. In this episode, Dustin Wheeler dives into the nervous system’s addiction to certainty, why overthinking is often emotional buffering, and how survival identities keep people trapped waiting for guarantees before they move. Inside this conversation:  — why uncertainty feels dangerous to the nervous system  — how overthinking becomes a form of self-protection  — why familiar pain feels safer than unfamiliar possibility  — the difference between certainty and self-trust  — why creators must learn to move before they feel fully ready This episode is for the person who feels stuck between safety and expansion…  the person waiting for clarity before they fully live…  and the person secretly terrified of making the wrong choice. You are not broken. Your nervous system simply learned that predictable felt survivable. But conscious creation begins the moment you stop waiting for guarantees… and start participating in your life. 🎙️ If this episode spoke to you, make sure you follow the podcast, share it with someone you love, and come join us inside the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool where we help you stop creating from survival… and start creating from true choice. Join here!  Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    8 min

  4. May 3

    🎙️ Episode #57 (Part 3 of 3) Why You Go Back to the Same Patterns (Even When You Know Better)

    Send us Fan Mail You didn’t fail. You didn’t lose your progress. And nothing is wrong with you. So why does it feel like you keep going back? In this episode, we explore one of the most misunderstood parts of personal growth: Why change doesn’t always stick — even when it feels real in the moment. You see the pattern. You understand it. You even shift for a moment… and then something pulls you back. Not because you’re weak. Not because you lack discipline. But because your system is still calibrated to what’s familiar. This conversation dives into the deeper layers of: nervous system conditioningemotional patterningidentity reinforcementand why your body resists unfamiliar statesYou’ll begin to understand why going back is part of the process — not a failure of it. And how real change happens when your body, not just your mind, catches up. Join our Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool here. Ready to go deeper into Conscious Creation? Check out the Spiritually Kinky Academy here:  https://spirituallykinky.com/academy Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    7 min

  5. Apr 26

    🎙️ Episode #56 (Part 2 of 3) You’re Not Broken… You’re Overloaded: Why Nothing Is Sticking

    Send us Fan Mail You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, and tried to “fix” yourself more times than you can count. So why does it still feel like nothing is fully changing? In this episode, we explore the real reason so many people feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected — even after years of personal development and healing. This isn’t about a lack of effort or discipline. It’s about the gap between awareness and embodiment. We break down: Why information has outpaced integrationThe loneliness that comes with waking upIdentity fragmentation and internal conflictThe nervous system’s role in what you can actually createHow the “healing loop” keeps people stuck in perpetual becomingAnd what it actually takes to create lasting changeThis episode is a deep recalibration. A return to truth. And an invitation to stop fixing…  and start creating. If you’re ready to move from survival into creation… Join us inside the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skook (Click Here) Ready to go deeper into Conscious Creation? Check out the Spiritually Kinky Academy here!  Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    26 min

  6. Apr 19

    🎙️ Episodet #55 The Lonely Path: The Part of Becoming No One Talks About

    Send us Fan Mail Most people will tell you that following your purpose feels aligned… expansive… exciting. But there’s a part they don’t talk about. The part where it gets quiet. Where the validation disappears. Where you start questioning everything. In this episode, we go into the lonely chapter of becoming—the stretch of your journey where you outgrow your old life… but haven’t fully landed in your new one yet. The middle. The place where: You wonder if you’re delusional for wanting moreYou question if you’re making the right decisionsYou feel disconnected from people who used to feel like homeAnd it feels like you’re building something… with no proof it’s workingThis is the part most people turn back. Not because they’re not capable— but because they think this feeling means they’re off track. It doesn’t. This episode is for the ones who feel called to create something exceptional… and are realizing that path doesn’t always feel glamorous. It can feel uncertain. Unstable. And sometimes… incredibly lonely. But this isn’t punishment. This is preparation. Inside this episode, we talk about: Why following your purpose can feel lonelyThe truth about the “middle phase” of growth and successThe internal battle between who you were and who you’re becomingWhy most people give up here—and how to keep goingWhat it really takes to love something you’re creating… without guaranteesIf you’re in this chapter right now… Feeling the tension. Feeling the doubt. Feeling like you’re walking this path alone… This episode will remind you: You are not the only one here. 💬 Ready to go deeper? Join us inside the Spiritually Kinky space—where we don’t just talk about the highlight reel… we walk the middle together. 👉 Join Our Skool Community: Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators 👉 Want to Jump in the Magnetic Shift Workshop!  🎙️ Want more? Subscribe, share, and send this to someone who’s quietly walking their own lonely path right now. Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    12 min

  7. Apr 12

    🎙️ Episode #54 (Part 1 of 3) You’re Not Stuck… You’re Looping - And You Don’t Even See It

    Send us Fan Mail You don’t actually have a motivation problem. And you’re not stuck. But you are repeating something. In this episode, we break down the hidden pattern that keeps recreating the same emotional experiences in your life — no matter how many times you try to change. The cycle of starting over… losing momentum… questioning yourself… and trying again… isn’t random. It’s a loop. And until you understand what’s actually driving it, you’ll keep calling it “self-sabotage” — without ever truly breaking free. This conversation goes deeper than surface-level mindset work. We explore how your nervous system, identity, and subconscious patterns work together to keep you in what’s familiar — even when it’s not what you want. Including: why your body becomes addicted to stress and emotional patternshow your identity reinforces the loopwhy trying harder doesn’t create lasting changewhat actually shifts when you break the cycleIf you’ve been feeling stuck, inconsistent, or like you’re constantly starting over… this episode will show you why. And more importantly… how to begin steppig out of it. Join the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool! Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    11 min

  8. Apr 5

    🎙️ Episode #53 Why You Feel Like Something Is Wrong With You (It’s Not What You Think)

    Send us Fan Mail There are seasons in life that don’t make sense The quiet ones. The heavy ones. The ones where nothing is technically wrong… but everything in your body feels like it is. In this episode, I take you inside one of those days. A day where I didn’t perform. A day where I slowed down… and felt everything. A day that revealed something deeper about what so many of us carry: The belief that something is wrong with us. Through real conversations — from a woman leaving an abusive relationship to a man learning to forgive his mother — a deeper truth emerges: We’re not broken. We’ve just been living inside patterns that taught us to see ourselves that way. This episode is for the one who feels: alone in their emotionslike they’re “too much” or “not enough”stuck in cycles of self-judgment and pressureexhausted from trying to fix themselvesYou’re not alone. And more importantly… you’re not the problem. This is a conversation about presence, nervous system safety, identity, and what actually happens when you stop running from yourself. If you're ready to meet yourself more honestly,  Join the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool!  Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    12 min
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Spiritually Kinky is a podcast about conscious creation, personal transformation, nervous system awareness, and reclaiming your authentic identity.  Hosted by Dustin Lea Wheeler, this show explores how to break inherited patterns, move beyond self-sabotage, and create a life aligned with who you truly are. Dustin teaches the shift from living as the oldest version of your past self into the youngest version of your future self, helping listeners recognize the “Not-It Identity”—the survival identity formed in childhood to belong and stay safe—and step into their creative power. But this isn’t your typical self-improvement podcast. Welcome to Spiritually Kinky—the playground for your wild soul and untamed truth. Here we ditch the masks, question old conditioning, and remember how powerful it is to be fully seen, deeply felt, and wildly free. Around here we explore: • Conscious creation & creator identity • Breaking inherited patterns and generational conditioning • Nervous system awareness and emotional intelligence • Purpose, power, pleasure, and authentic self-expression All with a wink… and a whip of wisdom. If you’re ready to stop fixing yourself and start creating the life you were meant to live, welcome to the Spiritually Kinky revolution with Dustin Lea Wheeler.  - it's time to play!  All with a wink… and a whip of wisdom.

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