Spiritually Kinky: Creating the Path to Being Fully Seen, Deeply Felt & Wildly Free

Dustin Lea Wheeler
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Spiritually Kinky is a podcast about conscious creation, personal transformation, nervous system awareness, and reclaiming your authentic identity.  Hosted by Dustin Lea Wheeler, this show explores how to break inherited patterns, move beyond self-sabotage, and create a life aligned with who you truly are. Dustin teaches the shift from living as the oldest version of your past self into the youngest version of your future self, helping listeners recognize the “Not-It Identity”—the survival identity formed in childhood to belong and stay safe—and step into their creative power. But this isn’t your typical self-improvement podcast. Welcome to Spiritually Kinky—the playground for your wild soul and untamed truth. Here we ditch the masks, question old conditioning, and remember how powerful it is to be fully seen, deeply felt, and wildly free. Around here we explore: • Conscious creation & creator identity • Breaking inherited patterns and generational conditioning • Nervous system awareness and emotional intelligence • Purpose, power, pleasure, and authentic self-expression All with a wink… and a whip of wisdom. If you’re ready to stop fixing yourself and start creating the life you were meant to live, welcome to the Spiritually Kinky revolution with Dustin Lea Wheeler.  - it's time to play!  All with a wink… and a whip of wisdom.

  1. 4D AGO

    🎙️ Podcast #54 (Part #1 of #3) You’re Not Stuck… You’re Looping - And You Don’t Even See It

    Send us Fan Mail You don’t actually have a motivation problem. And you’re not stuck. But you are repeating something. In this episode, we break down the hidden pattern that keeps recreating the same emotional experiences in your life — no matter how many times you try to change. The cycle of starting over… losing momentum… questioning yourself… and trying again… isn’t random. It’s a loop. And until you understand what’s actually driving it, you’ll keep calling it “self-sabotage” — without ever truly breaking free. This conversation goes deeper than surface-level mindset work. We explore how your nervous system, identity, and subconscious patterns work together to keep you in what’s familiar — even when it’s not what you want. Including: why your body becomes addicted to stress and emotional patternshow your identity reinforces the loopwhy trying harder doesn’t create lasting changewhat actually shifts when you break the cycleIf you’ve been feeling stuck, inconsistent, or like you’re constantly starting over… this episode will show you why. And more importantly… how to begin steppig out of it. Join the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool! Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    11 min

  2. APR 5

    Why You Feel Like Something Is Wrong With You (It’s Not What You Think)

    Send us Fan Mail There are seasons in life that don’t make sense The quiet ones. The heavy ones. The ones where nothing is technically wrong… but everything in your body feels like it is. In this episode, I take you inside one of those days. A day where I didn’t perform. A day where I slowed down… and felt everything. A day that revealed something deeper about what so many of us carry: The belief that something is wrong with us. Through real conversations — from a woman leaving an abusive relationship to a man learning to forgive his mother — a deeper truth emerges: We’re not broken. We’ve just been living inside patterns that taught us to see ourselves that way. This episode is for the one who feels: alone in their emotionslike they’re “too much” or “not enough”stuck in cycles of self-judgment and pressureexhausted from trying to fix themselvesYou’re not alone. And more importantly… you’re not the problem. This is a conversation about presence, nervous system safety, identity, and what actually happens when you stop running from yourself. If you're ready to meet yourself more honestly,  Join the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool!  Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    12 min

  3. MAR 29

    🎙️ Podcast #52 You Don’t Need to Heal — You Need to Decide

    Send us Fan Mail What if the reason manifestation isn’t working…  has nothing to do with how much you’ve healed? What if the real reason you feel stuck…  is because healing quietly became the place you’ve been hiding? In this episode of the Spiritually Kinky Podcast, we break down one of the biggest lies in personal development: that you need to fix, process, or heal yourself before you can create the life you desire. Because the truth is… you don’t need more healing.  You need a decision. If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of: constantly “working on yourself”feeling close… then losing momentumtrying to feel ready before you moveor looping through manifestation techniques that don’t stickthis episode will shift the way you see everything. We dive into: Why the healing loop keeps you stuck in “almost”The difference between healing vs conscious creationHow your nervous system impacts manifestation and receivingWhy you feel aligned one moment… and back in doubt the nextThe split between your “not-it” identity vs your creator identityHow decision—not worthiness—is what actually creates changeThis isn’t about becoming a better version of you. This is about remembering who you are…  and choosing from that place. 🔥 Ready to stop fixing and start creating? Join the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators where we go beyond mindset and into: nervous system regulationidentity recodingconscious manifestationand embodied creation👉 Join here: Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    7 min

  4. MAR 22

    🎙️ Podcast #51 No One Talks About This Part — When Love, Loss, and Life Collide

    Send us Fan Mail Most personal development and manifestation advice will tell you to stay positive, shift your mindset, and keep your vibration high. But what about the moments when life feels heavy… raw… and completely out of your control? In this episode, Dustin Wheeler opens up about a deeply personal experience and shares the side of growth that is rarely talked about — the part where you’re grieving, feeling everything, and still trying to navigate your life. This conversation explores the difference between suffering and being present with something that truly matters, and why so much of the advice in the spiritual and personal development space can unintentionally lead to self-abandonment. Inside this episode: The truth about emotional depth and real-life momentsWhy “high vibe only” advice can be harmfulHow to stay connected to yourself during difficult seasonsThe role of love and grief in the human experienceA powerful reflection inspired by the film Collateral BeautyIf you’ve been feeling like you have to hold it all together or perform your way through hard moments, this episode will remind you: You are not broken. You are the creative force within. And you don’t have to abandon yourself to create your life. 🔥 Join the Spiritually Kinky Community (Skool): Click Here! A space to create your life without abandoning yourself 🔥 Start the Magnetic Shift Workshop: Click Here! Learn how to shift your reality without forcing or faking it Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    6 min

  5. MAR 15

    🎙️ Podcast #50 The Biggest Lie in Personal Development

    Send us Fan Mail What if the biggest lie in personal development is the belief that you must fix yourself before you can create the life you want? In Episode 50 of the Spiritually Kinky Podcast, Dustin Wheeler breaks down the hidden trap inside the self-help world that keeps people stuck in endless cycles of healing, fixing, and self-improvement. After more than 35,000 conversations with strangers and years studying conscious creation, Dustin reveals why most people aren’t broken — they’re simply operating from an outdated identity designed for survival, not creation. In this episode you'll discover: • The hidden loop that keeps people stuck in personal development • Why the survival identity fights change • The emotional tug-of-war that drains your energy • The shift from fixing yourself to consciously creating your life • How to retrain your nervous system to support expansion If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly working on yourself but still not getting where you want to go, this conversation will change how you see growth forever. You are not broken. You are the creative force within. Instead of spending years trying to fix yourself, it may be time to step into conscious creation. Join the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool.  Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    11 min

  6. MAR 8

    🎙️ Podcast #49 Why Your Nervous System Resists The Life You Want (It’s Not Self-Sabotage)

    Send us Fan Mail Why does your nervous system resist the life you say you want? Most people believe they are the problem. But what if the real issue isn’t you—it’s the identity your nervous system built to keep you alive? In this episode, Dustin Wheeler explains the powerful difference between survival identity (“not-it identity”) and desire identity (“it identity”) and why your nervous system may resist the very life you say you want. Your unconscious identity forms in early childhood and is reinforced by generational patterns that teach your nervous system what is predictable, familiar, and survivable. Even when those patterns limit you. You’ll learn: • How identity forms between ages 0–4 • Why the unconscious repeats what feels familiar • The difference between safety and aliveness • Why high achievers struggle to enjoy what they create • Why productivity becomes tied to worth • How expansion triggers identity resistance • How to retrain your nervous system for conscious creation Your survival identity was brilliant. It kept you alive. But conscious creation is about updating that identity so your nervous system can support the life you actually desire. If you’re ready to move from survival identity to desire identity, this episode will help you see yourself—and your patterns—in a completely new way. If you’re ready to stop shrinking back into survival…  and start becoming the version of you your desires have been pointing toward…  come join us on Skool - Click Here!  #NervousSystemHealing #ConsciousCreation #IdentityShift #SelfSabotage #SpirituallyKinky Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    9 min

  7. MAR 1

    🎙️ Podcast #48 You’re Not the Problem. Your Nervous System Is Protecting You

    Send us Fan Mail Most people think they are the problem. But what if the real issue isn’t you — it’s the unconscious identity your nervous system built to survive? In this episode, Dustin Wheeler explains how your survival programming formed in early childhood, how your self-conscious mind learned “how the world works,” and why your nervous system continues to replicate what feels familiar — even when it’s limiting your growth. You’ll learn: How identity forms between ages 0–4Why your nervous system resists expansionThe difference between contraction, stabilization, and expansionWhy forcing growth leads to collapseHow to retrain your nervous system to feel safe in what you desireWhy your identity is chosen, not fixedYour survival identity was never the problem.  It was created for you, by you, out of love. But it may be outdated. Conscious creation isn’t about fixing what’s broken.  It’s about remembering who you are and retraining your unconscious to automate your superpowers toward what you’d love to create. If you’re tired of expansion highs followed by collapse, this episode will give you clarity and relief. Join the Spiritually Kinky community for creators ready to build safety, stability, and sustainable expansion. Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    7 min

  8. FEB 22

    🎙️ Podcast #47 What To Do When Nothing Is Changing (The Truth No Coach Shares)

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I dismantle the high-vibe illusion sold across Instagram and TikTok and reveals the unsexy truth about conscious creation: it’s not about manifesting a life without storms. It’s about learning to face them without abandoning yourself. Inside this episode: Why plateaus are integration phases — not punishmentWhat your nervous system does when nothing changesHow self-sabotage often shows up during stillnessThe myth of “if I were aligned enough, this would be easier”Building emotional resilience for entrepreneurs and conscious creatorsHow to navigate uncertainty without losing your identityIf you’ve been doing the work and wondering why it still feels hard, this conversation will steady you. Conscious creation isn’t about controlling the weather. It’s about becoming the lighthouse. Join the Spiritually Kinky Skool community for Creators who want depth, nervous system mastery, and real-world conscious creation without bypassing their humanity. - Join Here!  You are not broken. You are the creative force. And storms don’t disqualify you — they reveal your strength. #ConsciousCreation #NervousSystemHealing #EmotionalResilience #PersonalGrowthTruth #SpirituallyKinky Support the show  ✨ Book a Conscious Creation Call with me: https://calendly.com/spirituallykinky/conscious-creation-call  🍓 Explore all the Spiritually Kinky magic on the website: www.spirituallykinky.com

    7 min
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Spiritually Kinky is a podcast about conscious creation, personal transformation, nervous system awareness, and reclaiming your authentic identity.  Hosted by Dustin Lea Wheeler, this show explores how to break inherited patterns, move beyond self-sabotage, and create a life aligned with who you truly are. Dustin teaches the shift from living as the oldest version of your past self into the youngest version of your future self, helping listeners recognize the “Not-It Identity”—the survival identity formed in childhood to belong and stay safe—and step into their creative power. But this isn’t your typical self-improvement podcast. Welcome to Spiritually Kinky—the playground for your wild soul and untamed truth. Here we ditch the masks, question old conditioning, and remember how powerful it is to be fully seen, deeply felt, and wildly free. Around here we explore: • Conscious creation & creator identity • Breaking inherited patterns and generational conditioning • Nervous system awareness and emotional intelligence • Purpose, power, pleasure, and authentic self-expression All with a wink… and a whip of wisdom. If you’re ready to stop fixing yourself and start creating the life you were meant to live, welcome to the Spiritually Kinky revolution with Dustin Lea Wheeler.  - it's time to play!  All with a wink… and a whip of wisdom.

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