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Are you struggling with infidelity, betrayal, or a loss of intimacy? The Noble Marriage Podcast is a raw and authentic guide for couples seeking marriage restoration and healing from trauma. Hosted by Travis and Adelle—Board Certified Master Mental Health Coaches—this show provides the transformational tools you need to move from brokenness to a thriving marriage from a Biblical perspective. We dive deep into the real issues: infidelity recovery, porn addiction, emotional abuse, communication breakdowns, and PTSD in marriage. Through the lens of Biblical counseling and our own story of overcoming drug and alcohol addiction, we help you identify the "blind spots" and false walls keeping you disconnected. Whether you are dealing with betrayal trauma or simply want to reignite passion, we offer practical steps to build a healthy, intimate connection as God intended. It’s time to stop believing the lies of the enemy and start moving mountains in your marriage. Subscribe for weekly insights on marriage coaching and spiritual restoration.

  1. 51M AGO

    Unlocking God’s Power: Prayer & Miracles in Your Marriage | BONUS EPISODE

    Resources & Next Steps Free Download: ➡️ Download your FREE Prayer Guide here: https://programs.thenoblemarriage.com/offers/4tY9AnmH — Get the exact prayers to pray for your spouse and your marriage. Deep Dive: Becoming Whole and Complete Program — Transform your life and marriage through the application of these spiritual truths. Join the Conversation: Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more live discussions and practical tools for your marriage.  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKOMu9LEEytsNV8nbDzBq9Q?sub_confirmation=1  Unlocking God’s Power: Prayer & Miracles in Your Marriage In this episode, Travis and Adelle tackle the most common question they receive: "How do I fix my marriage?" While there are many practical steps to take, they focus on the most powerful, supernatural tool available to every believer—Prayer. Prayer isn't just a "nice thing to do"; it is a mountain-moving, border-crossing force that supersedes any earthly power. Travis and Adelle break down why some prayers feel ineffective and provide a clear, biblical framework to align your heart with God’s will to see real transformation in your relationship. The Common Pitfall: Praying Worries Instead of Faith Many people struggle with "unanswered" prayers because they are inadvertently praying lies or fear. God is a loving Father who wants to answer us, but praying out loud our worries can often block the alignment of our faith. Ineffective Prayer Examples: "Help me worry about what's important." (God wants us to have peace, not worry). "Show me a sign it’s over so I can leave." (God is for restoration and healing). "Make my spouse change because I can’t take it." (God often wants to work in us first). Prayer as an Offensive Weapon Based on Ephesians 6:10-18, prayer is one of the two offensive weapons in spiritual warfare (alongside the Sword of the Spirit/The Word). Spiritual Hierarchy: We aren't fighting "flesh and blood" (our spouse); we are fighting spiritual influences. Authority: Speaking prayers out loud is vital. While the enemy cannot hear your thoughts, he hears the authority of Jesus in your voice when you bind up evil or renounce lies. The 5-Step Prayer Framework Travis and Adelle share a powerful framework to ensure your prayers are effective and aligned with the Kingdom: Praise & Thanksgiving: Start by focusing on who God is. This increases your faith and centers your heart on gratitude rather than the problem. Repentance: Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any lies you’ve believed or sins you need to confess. This clears the line of communication and removes "blocks" like pride or unforgiveness. Renouncing Evil: Use the authority of Jesus to cast off the enemy's influence or attachments you’ve identified during repentance. Speaking Truth: Fill the "void" left by the enemy with God’s Word. Pray Scripture back to Him to reinforce your identity as His child. Request: Once your heart is aligned and clear, make your requests known. When we remain in Him, we can ask and it shall be granted (John 15:7). Practical Tip: The Power of the Prayer Journal To combat "Spiritual Amnesia," Travis and Adelle highly recommend keeping a prayer journal. Faith Building: Seeing written proof of how God answered a "small" prayer from six months ago builds massive faith for the big miracle you need today. Clarity: Writing helps you think through exactly what you are bringing to the Lord and stay focused during your quiet time. Biblical Context for This Episode Mark 11:25: The necessity of forgiveness before prayer. James 4:7: Submitting to God and resisting the devil. Psalm 51:17: God will not reject a broken and repentant heart. Hebrews 4:12: The power of the Word to expose our innermost thoughts. Join us next time as we begin Season 4, where we go even deeper into the daily practices of becoming a whole and complete individual!

    1h 12m

  2. FEB 18

    The Enemy’s Blueprint vs. God’s Plan for Your Freedom | BONUS EPISODE

    What’s Next? Betrayal Help: Join our Betrayal Group Coaching! Here is what a participant had to say about this program: "I highly recommend the group coaching calls. The openness and transparency from other couples is so refreshing. I’ve been able to really open up. God is definitely on these calls. Love you guys."  Join this support group today!   https://programs.thenoblemarriage.com/offers/uRBt4CHP/checkout    Season 4 Teaser: Get ready for a deep dive into Becoming a Whole and Complete Individual. We will focus on daily practices, communication, and building a lifestyle of intimacy and freedom. Youtub playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_qjPvk2kzzkAxSWSCl7G0wvLsLKs0rGe  The "Whole and Complete" Program: For those ready to apply these lessons, visit the Academy at TheNobleMarriage.com to start the program Nicole and others discussed today. https://programs.thenoblemarriage.com/offers/Sp2C2WjG/checkout In this special live wrap-up of Season 3, Travis and Adelle dive deep into the reality of spiritual warfare and how the enemy’s "six layers of deception" specifically target marriages. With nearly 60% of professing Christians unsure if a real spiritual enemy exists, this episode is a wake-up call to the reality of the battle for your heart and your home. The 6 Layers of Deception: A Quick Recap Travis and Adelle review the layers covered this season, showing how they build upon one another to keep us stuck: The Emotional Heart (Thorns): The foundational lies and fears (like "I’m not good enough" or "I am a failure") that color how we see the world. The Body (The Flesh): Our carnal desires and the "God-sized hole" we try to fill with things other than Him. The Thoughts: The "incessant roommate" in our heads that makes us miserable by creating filters of negativity toward our spouse. Lies Written on the Heart: The stories we tell ourselves about our past, confusing the facts of what happened with the false significance the enemy attaches to them. Unforgiveness: The spirit of offense and bitterness that acts as a legal block between us and God’s healing. Strongholds (Spiritual Bondage): The deepest layer where agreements with hell allow the enemy to influence our identity and behaviors. The "Mirror" vs. The "Binoculars" Travis highlights a powerful principle from Matthew 7:3-5 regarding the "log in your own eye." The Trap: We often use the Bible (and our own judgment) as binoculars to spot every speck in our spouse’s eye. The Solution: Turn the binoculars around and use the Word as a mirror. When we deal with our own "log"—our own lies and reactions—we finally see clearly enough to love our spouse instead of condemning them. Jesus the Disruptor Adelle discusses how Jesus is a "holy disruptor." He doesn't just soothe us; He disrupts the lies and the evil in our hearts with a perfect blend of Truth and Grace. When we ask Him to disrupt our hearts, He begins to stir up the things that don't belong there so they can be healed. Key Takeaways & Humor in the Journey Naming the Enemy: Following a suggestion from the live chat, Travis and Adelle discuss naming your "not-best-self." Whether it’s "Debbie Downer" (negative thoughts) or "Drill Sergeant Johnson" (controlling behavior), externalizing the struggle helps you fight the lie rather than your own identity. Willpower vs. Transformation: Willpower is temporary and exhausting. True healing comes from changing the "neuropathways" of our hearts through a vertical relationship with God. Submit, Resist, Flee: Based on James 4:7, the protocol for freedom is simple: Submit to God, resist the devil, and he must flee.     Scripture References from this Episode Ephesians 6:12: Our struggle is not against flesh and blood. Matthew 7:3-5: The log and the speck. John 10:10: The thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy. James 4:7: Submit, resist, and flee. Hebrews 4:12: The Word of God is a double-edged sword. Deuteronomy 6:4-9: Living a lifestyle of loving God wholeheartedly.

    1h 6m

  3. FEB 11

    Layer 6: Breaking Strongholds & Spiritual Bondage | Ep. 6

    In the Season 3 finale, Travis and Adelle go to the deepest level yet. After peeling back the layers of the emotional heart, the body, thoughts, lies, and unforgiveness, they arrive at the core of the enemy’s blueprint: Strongholds and Spiritual Bondage. This episode isn't about what you can see in the natural world; it’s about the spiritual attachments that keep us from the abundant life God intended. Travis and Adelle share how to use the authority of Jesus to break "agreements with hell" and find lasting freedom. What is a Spiritual Stronghold? A stronghold is a "deep layer" of deception. It is elusive and spiritual in nature. Travis and Adelle describe it as follows: The Agreement: When we believe a lie repeatedly, we make a spiritual agreement. The Attachment: This agreement creates a spiritual "hook" or attachment in the heart. The Influence: Once an attachment exists, the enemy has the ability to influence your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and identity. Travis’s Story: The "Unworthy" Stronghold Even after years of healing, Travis shares how he fell back into a cycle of feeling neglected and undesired by Adelle. The Lie: "She has stopped loving me; she’s not attracted to me." The Behavior: This lie made him show up as "clingy" yet withdrawn, seeking validation elsewhere because he didn't feel "good enough." The Realization: Travis realized this wasn't just a "bad mood"—it was a spiritual weight. By bringing it into the light and using the name of Jesus, he felt a physical weight lift off his body. The Three-Step Path to Freedom Using James 4:7, Travis and Adelle outline the spiritual protocol for breaking bondage. This is a battle of authority, not just willpower. Submit to God (Humility): Take yourself off the throne. Admit you are believing lies and need God’s authority. The enemy laughs at pride; he flees from humility. Confess and Repent: Bring the specific lie into the light. Confess that you made an agreement with it and turn away from it. Resist the Enemy: You don't do this in your own name. You use the Name of Jesus—the name above all names—to command the enemy to flee. Authority in the Heavenly Realms Travis explains that the spiritual world operates like a military hierarchy. You don't have to be the "General" yourself; you just need to be a friend of the General (Jesus). Binding and Loosing: Based on Matthew 16:19, believers have the keys to the kingdom to "bind" evil and "loose" God's truth on earth. The Holy Spirit’s Power: It is the Holy Spirit in you that channels the victory Jesus won on the cross to execute freedom in your current reality. Subscribers Corner: Generational Lies In response to a question from Mi’s Fee, Adelle discusses "generational curses" as generational lies. Inherited Deception: Lies like "I’m not good enough" can be passed down from parent to child. Breaking the Cycle: When you get free, you aren't just doing it for yourself—you are clearing the path for your children and the generations to come. The Weaponry: 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 reminds us that our weapons have "divine power to demolish strongholds." Season 3 Wrap-Up This concludes our deep dive into the six sneaky layers of deception. If you have been following along, you now have the blueprint to identify where the enemy has been hiding in your life. The Goal: Moving from brokenness to restoration as a whole, complete individual.  Next Steps: Check out the Becoming Whole and Complete Program for a deeper, guided dive into each of these layers. Use the discount code provided in the episode!  https://programs.thenoblemarriage.com/offers/Sp2C2WjG/checkout Community: Please leave us a review of this podcast! How is God showing up in your life because you started listening? Be vulnerable in your reviews and we cant wait to hear the impact and insights you are receiving!

    31 min

  4. FEB 4

    Layer 5: Unforgiveness—The Ultimate Healing Blocker EP. 5

    In this powerful episode, Travis and Adelle pull back the curtain on the fifth layer of deception: unforgiveness. They explore how the enemy uses the "spirit of offense" to trap individuals in bitterness and resentment, effectively blocking the path to true restoration. Whether you are struggling to forgive a spouse after betrayal or wrestling with self-forgiveness, this episode provides a biblical roadmap to reclaiming your peace and your future. The Foothold of Bitterness Many couples misunderstand Ephesians 4:26-27: "Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry." Travis and Adelle clarify that this isn't necessarily a command to stay up all night arguing until a conflict is resolved. Instead, it is a warning not to let anger settle into bitterness. When we allow unforgiveness to take root, we give the enemy a "foothold"—legal ground to torment our minds and stall our healing. "Forgiveness is the price we pay for being forgiven for our sins. It is a death to self, and it is the cup our Father in Heaven passed to His only Son." Forgiveness vs. Trust: Knowing the Difference One of the greatest deceptions is the belief that forgiving someone means you must immediately trust them. Travis and Adelle break down these critical distinctions: Forgiveness is given freely as a gift from God; Trust must be earned over time through consistent action. Forgiveness is a decisional choice to release a "debt"; Trust is a feeling of safety built on a proven track record. Forgiveness relinquishes your role as judge and executioner; Trust involves setting healthy boundaries to prevent further harm. Forgiveness happens between you and God; Trust happens between two people in a relationship. Key Insights & Personal Stories The Victim Trap: Adelle shares how she initially held onto unforgiveness as a "shield," fearing that if she forgave Travis, she was giving him permission to hurt her again. She eventually realized that unforgiveness wasn't protecting her; it was keeping her in a "prison of bitterness." The Emotional Process: While forgiveness is a decision made in a moment, the emotional healing is a process. Adelle reveals it took 6 to 8 months for her feelings to finally align with her choice to forgive. Heart Disloyalty: Travis reflects on how his own bitterness and resentment toward Adelle—long before the physical infidelity—created a "heart disloyalty" that made him susceptible to the enemy's schemes. Self-Forgiveness: You cannot truly forgive yourself until you first receive God's unconditional forgiveness and understand your identity as His child. Subscribers Corner: Choosing Not to Be a Victim We highlight a powerful insight from our subscriber, Ben, who notes that choosing forgiveness is a choice to stop being a victim. While betrayal is an action inflicted by another, staying in blame and accusation keeps the betrayed spouse powerless. Forgiveness allows you to take your power back and refuse to let trauma define your identity. Resources for Your Journey Watch the Series: If you missed the first four layers (Emotional Heart, Body, Thoughts, and Lies), check out our "Six Layers of Deception" playlist on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_qjPvk2kzzlv-P9iqpAwjrAIxoNmUm4W  Deep Dive: Our Becoming Whole and Complete Program offers a step-by-step guide to uprooting these strongholds and finding lasting freedom. https://programs.thenoblemarriage.com/offers/Sp2C2WjG/checkout Reflect: What is one thing you can do right now to let go of a "debt" you are holding over your spouse or yourself? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

    28 min

  5. JAN 28

    Real-Time Battles & The Power of Surrender | BONUS EPISODE

    In this raw and transparent bonus episode, Travis and Adelle follow up on their most popular topic: The Third Layer of Deception—Our Thoughts. Adelle steps into a moment of deep vulnerability, correcting a previous statement about her own mental battles and sharing the "game on" reality of spiritual warfare. They also dive into a live Q&A, addressing topics from addiction and identity to how to reconnect with God when you feel alone. Inside the Episode The "Game On" Moment: Adelle shares how a moment of perceived strength in her thoughts was met with an intense week of mental attacks. She discusses the importance of staying humble and recognizing that no one is "above" the enemy's tactics. The Three-Part Human: Travis breaks down the biblical anatomy of a person, explaining how the Spirit, Soul, and Body interact. He emphasizes that while our Spirit may be willing, our Soul (mind, will, and emotions) and Body often drag us toward old patterns. Agreements with Hell: Adelle explains that believing a lie is more than just a "bad thought"—it is making an "agreement" that gives the enemy a foothold in your life. The Power of Small Wins: Dealing with a lack of motivation or discipline? The couple discusses starting with "micro-habits," like drinking water first thing in the morning or moving your alarm clock across the room, to build momentum against spiritual oppression. Live Q&A Highlights 1. Why do I feel "not good enough"? One viewer shared how betrayal reinforced a childhood lie of being "unworthy." Adelle and Travis discuss how betrayal often "presses the lie" deeper into the heart, but healing comes from rewriting that heart with God's truth (referencing Psalm 46:5 and Luke 1:45). 2. Reconnecting with God (Bianca’s Question) For those feeling isolated in their faith, Travis suggests: Acknowledge the Hide: Just like Adam and Eve, we tend to hide when we feel shame. Start Small: Download a Bible app, do a daily devotional, and start a "letter to God" journal. Wait for the Response: Prayer is a conversation. Spend time sitting in silence after you pray to listen. 3. Addiction & The Shame Loop Addressing "objectification addiction," the couple and community member Kenny discuss how shame is the primary fuel for addiction. They clarify that the betrayer's actions are a result of their own heart issues, not a reflection of the spouse’s worth. Key Scriptures for Your Fight Romans 7:15-25: The battle between wanting to do good and the "power at work" within our flesh.  2 Corinthians 10:5: Taking every thought captive and making it obedient to Christ.     1 Corinthians 6:18: The command to flee from sexual immorality—not just resist it, but run.     1 Peter 5:10: The promise of restoration after a season of suffering.   Next Steps for Your Healing Listen on the Go: Listen at 1.25x speed for a quick boost of encouragement during your commute. Join the Program: If you are ready to uncover the blind spots in your own life, sign up for the Becoming Whole and Complete Program at thenoblemarriage.com. The Husband’s Corner: Men, take ownership of your healing journey. Visit our website to explore resources specifically designed for husbands.

    50 min

  6. JAN 21

    Layer 4: Uncovering the Lies Written on Your Heart | Ep. 4

    In this episode, Travis and Adelle dive into the fourth layer of deception from the enemy: the lies written on our hearts. While we’ve previously explored the emotional heart, the flesh, and our thoughts, this layer uncovers the deep-seated, subconscious beliefs—often formed in childhood—that dictate how we view ourselves, our spouses, and God. The enemy’s ultimate goal is to get us to doubt God’s goodness, causing us to wall off our hearts and live in a state of self-sabotage and "predictable" misery rather than the abundant life we were designed for. Key Insights from the Episode The Brain’s Processing Trap: At a young age, when we are vulnerable and lack awareness, our brains mix circumstances with predictions and assessments. The enemy uses these moments to whisper lies that we mistake for absolute truth. The Walled-Off Heart: When we believe lies (e.g., "I can't trust anyone" or "I am not enough"), we subconsciously build walls to protect ourselves. These walls don't just keep the "bad" out; they prevent true intimacy with the people we love. The "Thorn" Metaphor: Lies act like thorns lodged deep within the heart. They cause negative emotions (prickliness) that serve as information. Instead of just reacting to the "sting," we must investigate the root lie causing the pain. Postmodern Deception: Travis and Adelle challenge the idea of "my truth." Living by your own "truth" is often a deception that keeps you trapped in a victim mentality. Real freedom only comes from God’s Truth. Individual Healing: You don’t need your spouse to be on the journey to begin uncovering your own lies. You deserve the best version of yourself, regardless of the marriage's outcome. Adelle’s Story: The Root of Betrayal Adelle shares a raw "core memory" involving her first kiss at age 14. When her father—the man she trusted most—used a moment of vulnerability to "trap" and punish her, she made a subconscious agreement with the enemy: "People I love will deceive and betray me." This lie lived in her blind spot for 25 years, causing her to be "prickly," questioning, and guarded in her marriage to Travis long before his actual infidelity occurred. Uncovering this allowed her to put her "past in the past" and stop living a predictable life of reaction. Questions for Self-Reflection To uncover the lies on your heart, look at the ways you protect yourself and the walls you’ve built. Ask yourself: What is one subtle lie I suspect is written on my heart about myself or my spouse? What do I believe about God’s faithfulness in the middle of this pain? The Discovery Question: "What am I believing about my spouse right now, and what does that lie say it means about me?" Subscribers Corner: Breaking Generational Sin We highlight Henry from South Africa, who realized through these videos that the enemy was attacking his children through his own past trauma. "Praise God for the awareness that allows us to flip the switch on generational sin and create a life-giving legacy for our children." Resources for Your Journey Program - Becoming Whole and Complete: A step-by-step guide to identifying and uprooting the six layers of deception. Use the link in our description for more info.  https://programs.thenoblemarriage.com/offers/Sp2C2WjG/checkout The Husband’s Corner: Men, if you are ready to take personal responsibility and discover your true identity, visit the "Husband's Corner" at thenoblemarriage.com.

    31 min

  7. 12/31/2025

    Layer 3: The Battleground of Thoughts and Breaking the Misery Cycle | Ep. 4

    In the third layer of the deception series, Travis and Adelle confront the greatest battlefield: our thoughts. They expose how the enemy uses thoughts—even seemingly random ones—to create false realities and drive destructive behaviors. By using the powerful analogy of clouds and the blue sky, they teach you how to separate your identity from your thoughts. They share personal stories of how giving significanceto negative thoughts led to clinginess, withdrawal, temper tantrums, and a "thought-feeling-behavior loop" that caused misery and disconnection. Learn the biblical way to take thoughts captive and start renewing your mind for genuine freedom. Key Discussion Points: The Third Layer: Our Thoughts: Thoughts are constant, but the significance we give them determines their power. The enemy uses this process to trap us. The Cloud and Sky Analogy: View your mind as the consistent blue sky—always there. View your thoughts as clouds (fluffy, misty, or stormy) that are simply passing by. The key is not to wrap yourself up in the clouds or believe they are your identity. The Cycle of Negative Thoughts: Travis shares his pattern where negative thoughts (e.g., "I'm not worthy of your love," "You're pulling away") were given significance. The Trap: These thoughts are often driven by deep-seated fears/thorns. Instead of examining the thought, the natural human response is blame ("You are the reason I'm having these thoughts; they must be real"). Confirmation Bias: Once blame sets in, we actively look for evidence to prove the negative thought is true, intensifying the misery. The Thought-Feeling-Behavior Loop: This psychological process is a deception used to destroy marriages: Negative Thought (e.g., "You don't love me")  → Feeling (e.g., rejected, unworthy)  → Behavior (e.g., clinginess, withdrawal, withholding love). The Result: We act in a way that is the opposite of what we want (connection), which ultimately pricks the spouse and causes the very rejection we feared. The Truth of Relationship: Dr. James Dobson's statistic reveals that 97% of couples feel their spouse is against them, but in reality, 99.93% are for each other—they just don't know how to communicate it effectively. Separating Identity from Thoughts: Your thoughts are not your identity. Your True Identity: You are an image-bearer of the Almighty God (Genesis 1:26-28). You have the mind of Christ and God has given you a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). The Sanctification Process: While your spirit is instantly transformed in Christ, your soul and body (where deception lives) must be actively transformed through a lifestyle of renewing the mind. The Call to Action (Romans 12:2 & 2 Corinthians 10:5): Renew Your Mind: Do not conform to the patterns of this world (like making your thoughts your identity); be transformed by renewing your mind to test and approve God's perfect will. Take Captive Every Thought: We must demolish arguments and take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ to prevent the enemy from leading us to destruction. Focus on the True and Noble (Philippians 4:8): Replace negative thoughts by intentionally focusing on what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, or praiseworthy. Special Gift & Resources: Gift: Congratulations to Jenna! We are gifting you the Becoming Whole and Complete Program for sharing your vulnerability. Contact us within 48 hours to claim your gift! Discount Code: Get 10% off the Becoming Whole and Complete Program—the deep-dive curriculum that covers all six layers of deception and equips you to gain real freedom. 👉 {Use code YT10BWC for 10% off!} Continue Your Healing: Watch our special playlist of past videos that complement today's discussion to keep your healing journey active. Reflection and Next Step: Ask the Holy Spirit: Take a moment to ask God to remove the veil from your eyes so you can see the truth about your thoughts. Crucify the Deception: What is the one thought that is consistently keeping you trapped or miserable? Write it down and surrender it to Jesus this week.

    33 min

  8. 12/24/2025

    Layer 2: Conquering the Flesh and the God-Sized Hole | Ep. 3

    Following the discussion on the emotional heart, Travis and Adelle confront the second layer of deception: the flesh and the body. The enemy knows that because of the original fall, we all walk around with a "God-sized hole"—a disconnection from God—that we constantly try to fill with counterfeits (addictions, materialism, unhealthy behaviors). This episode reveals how the body's desires (or appetites) get "loud," leading to a war within, and provides practical, biblical ways to crucify the flesh and choose the Spirit-led life that brings true peace and lasting fulfillment. Key Discussion Points: The God-Sized Hole: Sin created a disconnect from God, leaving a void in our hearts.  The enemy offers many counterfeits to fill this void, including:   Alcohol, drugs, food, and explicit material. Shopping, social media, and technology. Unhealthy relationships, constant busyness, and external validation. The Result: These counterfeits never truly satisfy; they only lead to needing more ("taking it to the next level"). The Body's Loud Language: Our body (part of the soul: mind, will, emotions) operates through desires. Science shows our brain seeks satisfaction chemicals, but they are fleeting because they are designed to be fulfilled by God. Flesh vs. Spirit (Romans 8:5-6): The Flesh: The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God, concentrates on fleshly desires, and ultimately leads to death (Romans 6:23).   The Spirit: The mind governed by the Spirit leads to life and peace.    The Conflict (Galatians 5:16-24): The flesh and the Spirit are in conflict.  When we are not living a Spirit-led life, the soul and body drag us toward sin and death.  The Acts of the Flesh (e.g., immorality, jealousy, fits of rage) will not inherit the Kingdom of God.   The Fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, self-control) is available when we repent and choose to keep in step with the Spirit. Crucifying the Flesh: The enemy attacks with small, subtle compromises that eventually lead to death. Jesus uses strong, definitive language in Matthew 5:29-30 about dealing radically with temptation.   Practical Safeguards for Crucifying the Flesh: Travis shares actionable steps for men (especially those recovering from betrayal) to earn trust and avoid temptation: Fleeing with the Eyes: Do not allow your eyes to linger; Joseph's example shows you must flee the environment if necessary. Blessing It: Praying a genuine blessing over the person (God's daughter/son) makes lusting "impossible" and renews the mind. Renewing the Mind: Actively seek transformation by replacing old patterns with biblical truth (Romans 12:2).    Taking Thoughts Captive: Immediately reject tempting thoughts, making them obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5).   The Power of Patterns: Our bodies rely on patterns. It takes surrendering to the Lord and the Spirit's power to interrupt old, unhealthy patterns and establish new, healthy ones that lead to life. Reflection and Challenge: Journaling Question: What is one area where your body's desires might be leading you away from glorifying God and experiencing true life and peace? Write it down and be brutally honest. Action Step: Choose one of the practical safeguards (fleeing, blessing, renewing, taking captive) and commit to practicing it daily this week to begin crucifying the flesh and creating healthy patterns. Resources: Transformational Program: Interested in the deep healing needed to become a Whole and Complete individual? Check out our signature program designed to walk you through all six layers of deception and find lasting freedom. Sign Up: Visit our website using the link in the description to learn more and sign up for the Becoming Whole and Complete Program.  https://programs.thenoblemarriage.com/offers/Sp2C2WjG/checkout

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Are you struggling with infidelity, betrayal, or a loss of intimacy? The Noble Marriage Podcast is a raw and authentic guide for couples seeking marriage restoration and healing from trauma. Hosted by Travis and Adelle—Board Certified Master Mental Health Coaches—this show provides the transformational tools you need to move from brokenness to a thriving marriage from a Biblical perspective. We dive deep into the real issues: infidelity recovery, porn addiction, emotional abuse, communication breakdowns, and PTSD in marriage. Through the lens of Biblical counseling and our own story of overcoming drug and alcohol addiction, we help you identify the "blind spots" and false walls keeping you disconnected. Whether you are dealing with betrayal trauma or simply want to reignite passion, we offer practical steps to build a healthy, intimate connection as God intended. It’s time to stop believing the lies of the enemy and start moving mountains in your marriage. Subscribe for weekly insights on marriage coaching and spiritual restoration.

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