All About Being Single

Wioleta
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  • Self-Improvement

Single by choice, by chance, or by WTF is going on? This candid podcast explores the philosophy of the realities of single life, modern dating, loneliness, self-love, healing, confidence, and personal growth. Through relatable and unfiltered stories (hopefully soon, some guest conversations, and listener voice memos), you’ll find your space and your community to feel seen, empowered, grounded, and ready for love whenever it shows up.

  1. 3d ago

    Single, Petty & Thriving | Using a Little Pettiness to Lose Weight, Travel Solo & Level Up | #63

    Doing things out of spite can actually be a legit motivator to level up when you’re single — and I’m here to say that’s okay. I’m Wioleta, and I walk through why that petty little spark can push you to book solo vacations, lose the extra weight after a breakup, buy a house, or chase better jobs and friendships. I share personal stories — like turning heartbreak into a serious glow-up — and examples of how rejection (romantic or professional) can be the shove you need to improve your life. But we also keep it real: don’t let proving people wrong become your entire reason for living, because eventually the spite should fade and you should be living for you. The goal is to use that annoyance as fuel to take action, not to stew in it, and to arrive somewhere you actually want to be, not just somewhere you can brag about. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/singleandsocialeventsor on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. You know that weird, deliciously petty energy that shows up when someone ghosts you or tells you you won’t make it? I leaned into that exact feeling and turned it into a full-blown upgrade plan — not because revenge is noble, but because spite can be a hell of a motivator. I tell the story of one breakup that wrecked me for a minute in my early 30s, then lit a match under the parts of me that wanted better. I lost the weight I’d gained, rebuilt habits, and slowly stopped giving a damn about the person who hurt me. The core message: negative emotions aren’t inherently bad — if you use them to push yourself toward things you actually want, they can be catalytic. I also call out the social pressure that comes with being single — the curious relatives, well-meaning friends with setups, and people who assume you’re incomplete without a partner — and suggest small, defiant actions: book that solo trip, buy the damn house, go to the restaurant alone. If your “watch me” moments start petty, that's fine. Ideally, spite gets you moving until you stop needing spite at all. The real win is enjoying a life you built for you, not for applause or Instagram validation. Takeaways: I honestly think it's okay to use spite as fuel — I used it to level up instead of stewing.We can be a little petty and book that solo vacation or buy a house, then end up actually loving the life we built.Don't let proving people wrong become your whole purpose — build a life you want for yourself, not a show for others.Spite can kickstart practical changes like losing weight, going after promotions, or creating new social routines, and then it usually melts away into habit.I talk about my own breakup — I grieved, then channeled that energy into self-improvement, and it genuinely helped me get to the next level.The quietest victory is enjoying your life without broadcasting it; you don't owe anyone proof, and peaceful happiness is underrated.

  2. Nov 4

    Single, Home, and Scrolling? Try a Digital Evening Detox, It Helps | #62

    Reclaim some of your alone time by putting your phone down — seriously, those two- or three-hour scroll vibes are stealing our evenings. I talk about how, as a single person who likes to come home and chill (usually with my velcro cat glued to the couch), it's way too easy to default to endless Instagram, Reddit, YouTube or Netflix and wake up wondering where the night went. That scrolling can be entertaining, sure, but a lot of the time it’s just distraction — from loneliness, exhaustion, or the grind — and it stops us from actually making our own memories. So I give a small, doable challenge: try blocking apps for the evening, use a “phone coffin” (yes, it's dramatic and yes, it works), or just unplug for one to three nights and see how you feel. I share practical tips — app blockers, timed trials, moving the experiment to a different part of your day if you work nights — and encourage small steps that actually stick. Give it a try, notice the difference, and remember: our little weekly glow-up is about reclaiming time for ourselves, not chasing anyone else’s highlight reel. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. Reclaim some of your alone time by putting your phone down — seriously, those two- or three-hour scroll vibes are stealing our evenings. I talk about how, as a single person who likes to come home and chill (usually with my velcro cat glued to the couch), it's way too easy to default to endless Instagram, Reddit, YouTube or Netflix and wake up wondering where the night went. That scrolling can be entertaining, sure, but a lot of the time it’s just distraction — from loneliness, exhaustion, or the grind — and it stops us from actually making our own memories. So I give a small, doable challenge: try blocking apps for the evening, use a “phone coffin” (yes, it's dramatic and yes, it works), or just unplug for one to three nights and see how you feel. I share practical tips — app blockers, timed trials, moving the experiment to a different part of your day if you work nights — and encourage small steps that actually stick. Give it a try, notice the difference, and remember: our little weekly glow-up is about reclaiming time for ourselves, not chasing anyone else’s highlight reel.

  3. Oct 27

    30 Single Challenges: Pick One and Glow Up with Me | Episode 61

    I give you 30 upbeat, slightly rebellious challenges to help singles step outside their comfort zones and actually enjoy being single. I walk you through playful things like taking yourself on a no-phone, dress-up date; saying yes to invitations for 30 days (yes, even the awkward couples’ BBQs); and writing a partner checklist just to ceremonially burn it and replace it with how you want to feel. We toss in practical moves too — a 30-day app detox or a rebuilt morning focused on pleasure, not productivity — and goofy-but-useful prompts like creating a flyer advertising your best partner qualities or writing wedding-level vows to yourself. I share personal flavor (once I joked my bio said “looking for my future ex-husband,” because why not) and suggest humbling experiences like beginner classes or doing one scary solo thing a week. My Glow Up challenge is simple: pick at least one item, actually do it this week, and drag another single friend into the experiment. It’s a light, hands-on episode meant to get you living intentionally and having fun while single — no sidekick required. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/singleandsocialeventsor on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. I tossed out the heavy stuff for a playful, practical episode where I give you a 30-item challenge list designed to make single life feel less like a waiting room and more like a playground. I walk you through concrete, low-stakes experiments — take yourself on a dressed-up date with no phone, say yes to invitations for 30 days (especially from couples and coworkers), host a dinner for six paired-up friends so singles aren’t always left waiting, or try a full social-media fast from relationship content. I even confess my own misadventure — I tried improv and hated it — so you know I’m not handing out polished platitudes, just real ideas to push your comfort zone. There’s creative stuff too: design a flyer advertising your best partner qualities, make a Canva infographic about the perks of being single, or recreate your dating bio without the “rules.” Practical self-care shows up everywhere: redo your bedroom like a boutique hotel, rebuild mornings around pleasure, and write wedding-level vows to yourself. The episode ends with a Glow Up challenge — pick at least one item, do it this week, and send the episode to a fellow single. Even if we’re late, we’re right on time.

  4. Oct 20

    How Can a Daily Gratitude Practice Improve My Single Life? | Episode 60

    A daily gratitude practice can genuinely change your life — seriously, it's the simplest habit that's shifted how I feel about being single. I talk about how easy it is to get sucked into comparison (thanks, Instagram) and how intentionally noticing what we already have helps reframe that sting of missing out. We celebrate the big wins — a career you built, tight friendships, travel freedom, personal growth — and the tiny delights too, like a warm cup of coffee, your cat burrowing into your lap, or the way sunlight hits your face on a walk. My practical takeaways: try naming five things a day (out loud if writing feels like a chore), get specific about why you're grateful, and even do it in the moment instead of saving it for later. Remember, we can't make someone want to be with us, but we can choose what we focus on — gratitude gives us that tiny bit of control back. Take the "glow up" challenge with me this week, send me your lists if you want, and know it's never too late to start noticing the good. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/singleandsocialeventsor on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. Gratitude is the tiny secret weapon we low-key forget when single life starts feeling like a glitch in the matrix. I walk you through how a simple daily gratitude practice rewired my perception — not by magicking a partner into existence, but by turning my attention to what’s actually going right. We talk big wins (career milestones, friendships, moving cities, personal growth) and why those count even more when you did them solo — spoiler: doing things alone is way harder and you deserve credit for it. I also get practical: try five things a day, say them out loud if writing feels like homework, or whisper them to your cat (I literally do this). The goal isn’t toxic positivity but balance — notice small delights (warm coffee, a cat’s headbutt, the way light hits the trees) and use gratitude as an anti-comparison armor against Instagram’s highlight reel. I share how I sometimes do gratitude while walking, why being specific makes the practice stick, and a cheeky little glow-up challenge to do it every day this week. If you want a gentle nudge to feel less stuck and more alive, this is your permission slip to start. Takeaways: I explain that a daily gratitude practice rewires your attention from what you're missing to what you've actually built and earned.We talk about both big wins—career growth, friendships, peaceful home—and tiny moments like warm coffee or a cat's head nudge that brighten days.I recommend doing short, specific gratitude lists daily—five items, spoken aloud or noted during a walk—to make the habit realistic and sticky for real life.We acknowledge social comparison triggers—Instagram posts and milestone announcements can hijack your mood, so try noticing small positives as they actually happen.I remind you that many self-improvements you achieved while single—setting boundaries, quitting bad habits, or building fitness—are huge wins worth celebrating right now. Links referenced in this episode: allaboutbeingsingle.com

  5. Oct 13

    I Love My Single Life and I Still Want a Relationship (Both Can Be True) | Episode 59

    You can love your single life and still want a relationship — seriously, those two can coexist and that’s the hill I will happily die on. I talk about how everyone seems desperate to make us pick a side, whether it’s “stop looking,” “work on yourself,” or the classic “you’ll meet them when you’re not looking” (which, spoiler: didn’t work for me). I share the messy-but-productive truth: I’m busy remodeling my house, hosting events, juggling a full-time job, and yes I still sometimes wish someone could help with the dishes or just cuddle on a Saturday. We unpack why people hate holding two conflicting beliefs at once, and how that pressure makes singles feel like they have to invalidate parts of their own experience. My challenge for the week is simple and strangely liberating — whenever you think in absolutes, add “but also” (for example, “I’m happy being single, but also I want a relationship”) and notice how that gives you permission to be a whole person. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/singleandsocialeventsor on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. I get the constant confusion people have about single life — and honestly, I used to roll my eyes at it until I realized how wired we are to force everything into neat boxes. I love my independence: my own space, my decisions, spending money on whatever ridiculous impulse I want. At the same time, I sometimes open the door at night and wish there was someone to cuddle, share dinner, or help with the remodel when my arms are exhausted from doing all the heavy lifting. Those two truths sit side-by-side in my life, and that’s okay. We explore why people insist you must either "love being single" or "desperately want a partner," how that pressure shows up in well-meaning (but annoying) advice like “you’ll find them when you stop looking,” and why such binary thinking erases the messy reality of human emotions. I drop personal examples — juggling a demanding job, remodeling my house, hosting singles events, and still wanting companionship — to show how growth and loneliness can coexist. The takeaway is simple: stop invalidating someone’s experience by using one part of it to cancel out another. Let’s normalize being proud of our lives while still wanting more. Takeaways: I can love my single life and still want a relationship, no contradiction at all.We shouldn't force people into neat boxes — you can be independent, confident, and also quietly craving weekend cuddles.I notice friends and strangers often tell us to 'just stop looking' or 'learn to love yourself' as if one sentence fixes complicated feelings, which it definitely doesn't.It’s normal to wake up proud of your accomplishments and, by evening, feel disappointed you haven't met someone to share them with.A useful trick I share: add 'but also' to your self-talk — 'I'm grateful, but also I want more' — it actually frees up emotional space.So we should stop invalidating each other's mixed feelings — stop telling lonely singles they're selfish or happy singles they're lying, and offer real support instead. Links referenced in this episode: allaboutbeingsingle.com

  6. Oct 7

    Attention All Singles | Finding Your Person Is Mostly Luck | Episode 58

    Meeting your person is mostly about luck — seriously, that’s the main point I want you to hear right away. I’m Wioleta, and I’ll happily argue that no amount of therapy, profile-refreshing, or confidence-boosting will guarantee you bumping into the perfect human at the perfect time. That said, I’m not saying stop trying: going to singles events, redownloading (or deleting) dating apps, getting off the couch, and actually talking to people increases your chances — but it doesn’t control the outcome. So when a date tanks, don’t immediately assume you’re broken; ask what you learned, what you enjoyed, and where else you might meet people who vibe with you. I find that thought kind of freeing — it takes the shame off being single and replaces it with the simple truth that a lot of this is just random alignment. Do the work to be your best self so your life improves now, and take more chances so your luck has more opportunities to find you; if luck hasn’t shown up yet, hey — we’re probably right on time. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/singleandsocialeventsor on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. I keep it blunt and oddly comforting: finding your person is mostly about luck. I say this as your host, Wioleta — not to be a downer, but to take some of the weight off our shoulders. We unpack how countless tiny variables have to conspire for two people to meet, be single at the same time, notice each other, want to pursue something, not ghost, and actually end up compatible. That’s a lot of moving parts. I admit I’m all for self-improvement — therapy, emotional availability, confidence, trying the apps, showing up to singles events — because they make life better and they nudge the odds in our favor. But optimizing yourself isn’t a guarantee; sometimes it’s simply random alignment, plain and simple. Call it fate, luck, or a cosmic weirdness — I toy with the idea that some of this feels almost predestined — yet I also give practical encouragement. Saying “yes” more, getting off the couch, talking to people, and treating bad dates as data instead of personal failures both increases your chances and helps you learn about yourself. The takeaway? Don’t let coupled people convince you that staying single means you’re broken. We can increase the odds without needing to control the outcome, and that relief? It’s my little glow-off for the week. Takeaways: I remind you (and myself) that meeting our person often comes down to plain luck, not just self-optimization.We can do therapy, download apps, go to singles events, and still not meet them — timing and randomness matter a lot.I like to think some things feel predestined, but taking chances, saying yes, and getting off the couch increases possibilities.Instead of beating ourselves up after a bad date, we should ask what we learned and where else we might meet people.We can't control the outcome, only increase our odds — so let's expand experiences, talk to more people, and enjoy the ride.My little glow-up: a lot of life is lucky; even if your luck's been late, we're right on time, seriously.

  7. Sep 29

    I've Been Single for Years | Here's What No One Actually Gets About Long Term Singles | Episode 57

    I make the case that lived experience—not statistics, studies, or other bullshit—is the only thing that really explains what it’s like to be single for a long time. I talk about how long-term singlehood reshapes your life: you make big decisions alone, handle finances solo, come home to an empty house more nights than not, and build routines around yourself in ways people who’ve always been partnered just don’t get. It’s like trying to describe city life to someone who’s only ever lived in the country—they can imagine it, but they miss the daily details and the loneliness that compounds over time. I also push back on tired platitudes like “just put yourself out there” or “enjoy being single,” pointing out you can love yourself and still want an intimate partner (they’re not the same thing, shockingly). My little “glow up” takeaway: do less explaining and more living, seek people who actually get your experience, and don’t feel obligated to turn your life into a courtroom case for partnered folks who think they’ve got it all figured out. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/singleandsocialeventsor on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. I turn the microphone on the cultural weirdness around long-term singlehood and why partnered folks often misread us. I use a few sharp metaphors (city vs country living) to show how people who haven’t lived single for years can’t grasp the daily, compounding texture of loneliness and independence. I rant — in the nicest way — about how statistics and pep talks don’t replace lived experience. Real insight, I say, comes from the messy, real-life stuff: doing your own repairs, managing contractors (my remodel saga again!), and still wanting closeness. That lived reality is the truth we should trust. Then I pivot to the social dynamics: why some people reflexively offer solutions instead of empathy, and how that leaves us explaining ourselves endlessly. I outline better alternatives for listeners who want to support a single friend: listen, validate, and stop treating singlehood like a project to be fixed. I wrap up with a cheeky but earnest “glow up” prescription — do less explaining, live more, and find people who actually get you — because your story is valid without the partnered jury’s stamp of approval. Takeaways: I found that long-term singlehood reshapes daily life: I make big decisions, handle finances, and build routines solo, like being the CEO of a one-person startup.We can't expect folks who've always been partnered to truly get our loneliness; it's like explaining city traffic to someone from the countryside who never sat in a jam.I can love myself and still want a partner — being independent doesn't cancel the desire to share life's small, mundane moments and big choices.When people say just put yourself out there, I hear duh — I've been trying for years, not a few weeks, so spare me the platitudes.I prioritize lived experience over statistics: what matters is how we actually feel, and sometimes someone saying 'that sounds hard' helps more than a study citation.

  8. Sep 22

    October Challenge for Single People | Productivity Bingo (eat, plan, don’t doom-scroll) | Episode 56

    We turned a to-do list into a bingo card... a 5x5 “single life” bingo that makes adulting and being single feel weirdly fun and actually doable. I walk you through why this isn’t about perfection but momentum: fill any square in any order, celebrate small wins, and stop rewriting the same miserable list every night. I give tons of square ideas... everything from “ignored bad dating advice” and “took a break from dating apps” to “bought myself flowers,” “made myself laugh” (my personal favorite), and a free center of “my life is not on hold.” You can make yours productivity-focused (because running a one-person household is a full-time job) or purely single-joy themed, with dating-app mini-challenges, anti-cliché reminders, and social-confidence moves like starting a convo or going to an event solo. I even tell you to send me your card so I can feature it, steal your best ideas, and maybe send you a little something for joining the bingo fun. Bottom line: this card is a playful way to remind ourselves that our lives are happening now... relationships are a bonus, not a deadline. And yes, we’re right on time. Check out upcoming singles events hosted by Wioleta at singleandsocial.com. Suggestions on how to improve this podcast? Email me at allaboutbeingsingle@gmail.com. Want to send a voice memo regarding an episode's topic? Leave me a voice note at www.allaboutbeingsingle.com. Want to see additional content? Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thisiswioleta/ or https://www.instagram.com/singleandsocialeventsor on Threads https://www.threads.com/@thisiswioleta. Want to watch this on YouTube? Subscribe to my channel https://www.youtube.com/@AllAboutBeingSingle. Download the free https://singleminded.gumroad.com/l/huivqv. We turned the blah of to-do lists into something actually fun: a single-person bingo card you can use for a month. I walk us through making a 5x5 grid (25 squares, free center) and give a whole buffet of prompts you can drop into the squares... everything from “ignored bad dating advice” and “took a break from dating apps” to “bought myself flowers” and “did something future-me will thank me for.” The idea isn’t perfection; it’s momentum. I riff a bit on ADHD brains (and on being human in general), so instead of rewriting your list every dang day you celebrate wins as you fill squares in any order. I even suggest turning it into a productivity card if you live alone and need accountability for chores, bills, or creative work. Practical examples: put “made plans for myself,” “ordered what I actually wanted,” “went somewhere alone,” and “didn’t doom-scroll before bed” into your grid. I also invite you to share your card... I’ll feature favorites and swap ideas. And remind us that progress beats pressure every time. Takeaways: I turned my to-do list into a bingo card to celebrate momentum over perfection; for example, completing 'buy myself flowers' or 'took a walk without a destination' counts as progress.We set a 5x5 card with a free middle square like 'my life is not on hold' so I remember life happens now, not after a relationship.I use the bingo idea as ADHD-friendly accountability; pick small, fun squares like 'sent the first text' or 'did something brave' rather than rewriting long todo lists.We also include anti-cliché squares to ignore pressure: 'didn't make a five-year plan' or 'ignored relationship advice from someone who settled,' which is refreshingly liberating.I challenge myself to social confidence squares... starting a convo, smiling at someone attractive, or going to an event alone (tiny scary wins that build real confidence).We keep it playful: add silly squares like didn't stalk a crush or danced for thirty seconds, and feel free to send me your card so I can steal your brilliant ideas for future episodes.

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Single by choice, by chance, or by WTF is going on? This candid podcast explores the philosophy of the realities of single life, modern dating, loneliness, self-love, healing, confidence, and personal growth. Through relatable and unfiltered stories (hopefully soon, some guest conversations, and listener voice memos), you’ll find your space and your community to feel seen, empowered, grounded, and ready for love whenever it shows up.

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  • Creator
    Wioleta
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    64
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    ©2025 Wioleta
  • Show Website
    All About Being Single

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