Out and About AF

Gabe Vasquez
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Out & About AF is an LGBTQIA+ alcohol-free podcast where queer identity meets sober living. Hosted by Gabe, this show shares real stories about sobriety, sober curiosity, dating, mental health, and sober travel. Each episode explores navigating LGBTQ life without alcohol, building social confidence, and finding community beyond drinking culture. Whether you’re sober, sober curious, or exploring an alcohol-free lifestyle, you’re in the right place.

  1. Sober Dating in the LGBTQIA+ Community: Jordan Hurt’s Journey and the Birth of Queerity

    5D AGO

    Sober Dating in the LGBTQIA+ Community: Jordan Hurt’s Journey and the Birth of Queerity

    Want to know what’s in store for the Out and About AF Retreat?Join our upcoming Retreat Info Session on Zoom to get all the details, ask questions, and receive an exclusive discount for attending. 🔗 Sign up for the Zoom Info Session HERE🔗 Sign up for the Retreat HERE Spots are limited and this retreat is designed for LGBTQIA+ individuals who are navigating life alcohol free and craving real connection, community, and growth. In this episode of Out and About AF, I sit down with Jordan Hurt, real estate professional and founder of the upcoming sober dating app Queeredy, to talk about what it really looks like to build connection without alcohol in the LGBTQIA+ community. Jordan shares his story growing up in Ohio in a conservative religious household where alcohol was normalized but his identity was not. From grabbing beers for his grandfather at three years old to drinking under the bleachers as a teenager, he walks us through how substance use became tied to belonging, confidence, and survival. We talk about: • Family rejection after coming out• Being sent to live in a highly conservative environment• Moving to New York City for freedom and self-discovery• Getting a DUI and still believing drinking was not a problem• The reality of dating sober• Why he created Queerity Queerity officially launches February 19th and is designed to help LGBTQIA+ individuals build meaningful sober connections without the pressure of alcohol culture. This episode is honest, layered, and deeply relatable for anyone navigating sobriety, identity, and dating. Connect with Jordan Instagram: @jordvnhurtQueerity App: @queerityapp (Launching February 19) Connect with Out and About AF Instagram: @outandaboutafWebsite: outandabout.com If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and share with someone who needs to hear that connection is possible without alcohol.

    1h 9m
  2. Retreats, Recovery, and Reclaiming Who You Are with Megan

    FEB 12

    Retreats, Recovery, and Reclaiming Who You Are with Megan

    In this episode of Out and About AF, I sit down with Megan to talk about the transformative power of sobriety retreats and what really happens when you step away from your daily life to focus on your healing. We share parts of our sobriety journeys, the anxiety that can surface in recovery, and how powerful it is to be in community with people who truly understand you. Megan talks about founding Sobah Sistahs and leading women through incredible retreats in Bali, and we dive into why investing in yourself is one of the most important decisions you can make in sobriety. Retreats have a way of collapsing time. A weekend can feel like months of growth. The connections, the identity shifts, the clarity. It can be life changing. Connect with Out and About AFInstagram: @outandaboutafReady to join me for the One-Day Sober Men's Retreat click HERE Connect with Sobah SistahsInstagram: @sobahsistahsInterested in joining Megan in Bali click HERE

    59 min
  3. CliftonStrengths Meets Sobriety with Sally Magee

    FEB 5

    CliftonStrengths Meets Sobriety with Sally Magee

    One-Day Sober Men’s Retreat Learn more about the upcoming one-day sober men’s retreat and how to join HERE In this episode of Out and About AF, I sit down with Sally Magee, a CliftonStrengths certified coach, to talk about how understanding your strengths can support an alcohol-free life. Sally shares her journey from heavy drinking to becoming alcohol-free and how discovering her strengths helped her move through sobriety with more clarity, confidence, and self-trust. We talk about how the CliftonStrengths assessment can be a powerful tool for navigating challenges, setting realistic goals, and building a life that actually feels aligned. We also get into the importance of community, connection, and knowledge in sobriety. If you’re sober curious, newly alcohol-free, or looking for practical tools to support sustainable change, this episode is for you. Sobriety isn’t just about giving up alcohol — it’s about discovering who you are without it. Sally MageeInstagram Website Out and About AF Instagram Website

    1h 2m
  4. Dancing Through It All: Redefining Fun and Purpose with Lauren

    JAN 29

    Dancing Through It All: Redefining Fun and Purpose with Lauren

    ✨ Upcoming Event:I’m hosting a one-day men’s alcohol-free retreat in the DFW area focused on identifying triggers, body awareness, and designing a life without alcohol. The day will also include gentle movement, breathwork, and meditation. 👉 Secure your spot for just $50 by clicking here to secure your spot! In today’s episode, I sit down with Lauren for one of those conversations that just flows. We talk openly about addiction, personal growth, and what it really looks like to create a fun, meaningful, and purposeful life—without relying on substances. This episode is full of real talk, connection, and the kind of energy that leaves you feeling inspired (and maybe dancing a little afterward). Lauren shares her journey, insights, and what’s helped her build a life that feels aligned, grounded, and genuinely joyful. If you’re questioning your relationship with alcohol or looking for a new way to live fully, this conversation is for you. 🔗 Connect with Lauren:InstagramGrab Your Copy Of Blurred Lines - My Reclamation of Power from Alcohol Addiction (P.S. You Are Not Powerless) 🔗 Out and About AF:InstagramWebsite

    1h 24m
  5. Sobriety, Spirituality, and Shame: A Real Conversation with Chris Tompkins

    JAN 22

    Sobriety, Spirituality, and Shame: A Real Conversation with Chris Tompkins

    In this episode of Out and About AF, I sit down with therapist and author Chris Tompkins for a really honest conversation about sobriety, spirituality, and what recovery can look like within the LGBTQIA+ community. Chris shares his personal journey to getting sober and we talk about how shame shows up for so many gay men — and how it can impact our relationship with alcohol and other substances. We also get into the importance of community, the need for truly safe spaces, and the reality that there’s no one “right” way to do sobriety. Chris also shares more about his upcoming book and the work he’s doing to help gay men heal shame and build self-love. This episode is for anyone who’s sober, sober-curious, or just starting to question their relationship with alcohol and wanting something that feels more intentional — without the pressure of being perfect. Where to find Chris Tompkins:👉 Instagram👉 Website Connect with me / Out and About AF:👉 Instagram👉 Website Want to work together? I offer a 12-week alcohol-free coaching program that’s focused on progress, not perfection. We move through four phases — awareness, regulation, identity, and integration — so you can build an alcohol-free life that actually feels good and sustainable. 👉 Apply Here

    52 min
  6. Redefining Body Positivity with Jon aka Coach Cub

    JAN 15

    Redefining Body Positivity with Jon aka Coach Cub

    In this episode, I sit down with Jon aka Coach Cub for an honest and grounded conversation about body positivity, mental health, and the role alcohol often plays in the gay community. We talk openly about our personal journeys with sobriety, emotional growth, and self-acceptance, and unpack the pressure so many gay men experience around body image. Jon shares a refreshing perspective on body positivity not as something you have to feel perfectly all the time, but as an ongoing relationship built on compassion, patience, and realism. We also explore how coaching, inclusive spaces, and supportive communities can help foster resilience, connection, and joy, especially for those navigating life without alcohol. This episode is a reminder that healing doesn’t require perfection, just honesty, support, and the willingness to grow. Connect with Jon 🐻 Connect with Out and About AF 🌈✈️

    1h 10m

  7. 12/18/2025

    From Blackouts to Clarity: My Story | Part 2

    In this episode, I’m sharing Part 2 of my sobriety story, the part that doesn’t always get talked about. I open up about my slip after 110 days alcohol free, the emotions that came with it, and what it was really like to face myself and my community afterward. We talk about relapse not from a place of shame but from a place of learning honesty and growth. That first year of sobriety stretched me in ways I didn’t expect. It forced me to get real about vulnerability, ask for support, and stop pretending I had everything figured out. Community played a huge role in helping me get back on track and I share why being honest even when it’s uncomfortable changed everything. If you’re navigating your own sobriety journey whether you’re curious starting over or somewhere in between this episode is a reminder that progress isn’t always perfect and that every step forward is worth celebrating. Sobriety didn’t take my life away.It gave me a better one. Check out all the things happening with Out and About AF

    56 min

  8. 12/11/2025

    From Blackouts to Clarity: My Story | Part 1

    In this episode, I’m finally sharing my own story. I talk about how alcohol became such a big part of my life, how my upbringing shaped the way I coped, and what it was like trying to figure all of this out as someone in the LGBTQIA+ community. I walk through the moments that pulled me deeper into drinking, the consequences that followed — including multiple DUIs — and what it looked like to keep trying to get sober without really committing to it. I also talk about the support I got from family, friends, and community, and how much that actually mattered. And since there’s no way to fit all of it into one episode, I end with a cliffhanger. Part 2 is coming next, where I’ll get into what my first year alcohol-free was really like.

    41 min
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Out & About AF is an LGBTQIA+ alcohol-free podcast where queer identity meets sober living. Hosted by Gabe, this show shares real stories about sobriety, sober curiosity, dating, mental health, and sober travel. Each episode explores navigating LGBTQ life without alcohol, building social confidence, and finding community beyond drinking culture. Whether you’re sober, sober curious, or exploring an alcohol-free lifestyle, you’re in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Gabe Vasquez
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    29
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Gabe Vasquez
  • Show Website
    Out and About AF