HOUSE OF H.E.R

HOLLIE DOWDING
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Welcome to House of H.E.R. (Healed, Empowered, Rich) a space for women who have been through it… and are choosing themselves anyway.This podcast is hosted by Hollie  a mum, survivor of domestic abuse, late-diagnosed with ADHD, and a woman rebuilding her life from the inside out. House of H.E.R. is rooted in real experiences of domestic abuse  trauma, healing, and starting again when everything you thought you were has fallen away.Here we talk about emotional and domestic abuse, trauma bonding, ADHD, nervous system healing, self-worth, identity loss, motherhood, and the messy middle of becoming someone new. These are honest conversations for women who are tired of pretending they’re fine and ready to feel safe in themselves again.This podcast is for the woman who is just coming out of survival mode. The woman who is exhausted, confused, grieving who she used to be, and questioning everything but still standing. If you’re learning how to feel again, how to trust yourself again, and how to exist without fear, this space was made for you.You don’t need to be healed to be here. You don’t need the answers. You just need somewhere that understands what it costs to leave and what it takes to begin again. 

  1. 4D AGO

    The Healing: Becoming HER

    Send us a text This episode is the final part of my story not the end, but the beginning of something new. After the trauma, the court case, and the survival mode, this is where I talk about what healing actually looks like. Not bubble baths and face masks but hard graft, grief, rebuilding self-worth, and learning how to be still after living in fight-or-flight for so long. We talk honestly about how healing stripped me bare. How the noise didn’t stop overnight. How social media, control, and fear lingered long after the relationship ended  and why real healing couldn’t begin until I finally felt safe. I open up about: Why healing isn’t soft  and why it hurts before it helps The impact of coercive control long after leaving Social media, fake accounts, and how access doesn’t always end when a relationship does Losing trust in myself and learning how to find my voice again Body image, self-worth, and living with trauma-fuelled body dysmorphia Why doing less healing work sometimes helped me heal more The power of sitting still instead of running Cutting out alcohol and seeing clearly for the first time Turning pain into purpose  and how House of H.E.R. was born from the darkest chapter of my life This episode is about learning to breathe again. About rebuilding foundations slowly. About understanding that healing isn’t linear  but it is possible. If you’re in the thick of it, if you feel like you’re “doing all the work” but still hurting, or if you’re scared you’ll never feel like yourself again this one is for you. Trigger Warning This episode contains discussion of domestic abuse, coercive control, physical violence, strangulation, stalking, suicide, and mental health struggles. If you’re struggling right now or something in this episode has brought things up for you, please know you are not alone and help is available. Samaritans Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) https://www.samaritans.org National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge) Call 0808 2000 247 https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk Women’s Aid https://www.womensaid.org.uk The Survivors’ Handbook (Women’s Aid) https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/ Clare’s Law https://www.met.police.uk/rqo/request/ri/request-information/ House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from. Resources & support: https://stan.store/houseofherpod Join our healing community: https://patreon.com/HOUSEOFHER Follow @houseofher__ and my personal account @holliedowdingx on Instagram and please share this episode with a woman who might need it 🥀

    46 min
  2. The Statement: Trauma, Truth And Justice

    JAN 18

    The Statement: Trauma, Truth And Justice

    Send us a text Some stories don’t end when you leave 🥀 In Episode 2 of House of H.E.R, I sit down again with my friend Cassie to talk about what happened after I left the part of the story that rarely gets spoken about, and the part that almost broke me. This episode is about the aftermath. The crash. The moment survival mode finally catches up with you. With the relationship over and the truth beginning to surface, my body and nervous system collapsed under everything they had been holding in for so long. I share what it was like to hit rock bottom, experience suicidal thoughts, and realise that leaving didn’t bring instant relief it brought grief, fear, confusion, and the most intense emotional pain of my life. We talk honestly about going to the police, the shock of how serious the case became, and what it was like navigating statements, evidence, CPS decisions, arrest, remand, and court. I share why the Victim Personal Statement became one of the most powerful moments of my healing not because it changed the past, but because it gave me my voice back. This episode also explores the losses that come with speaking up. Friendships ending. People choosing sides. The isolation that can follow telling the truth. And the painful reality that sometimes you have to lose everything connected to your old life in order to save yourself. We talk about trauma responses no one warns you about  emotional numbness, flashbacks, body-based anxiety, fixation, shame, and the urge to minimise what you went through. And we talk about the slow, uncomfortable realisation that healing doesn’t begin when the danger ends  it begins when your body finally feels safe enough to fall apart. This is not an easy listen. But it is an honest one. If you’ve ever wondered why leaving didn’t feel like freedom, why you struggled more after it ended, or why your nervous system feels like it’s still fighting a war that’s already over  this episode is for you. You are not dramatic. You are not failing. Your body is processing trauma. What we cover • What happens after you leave an abusive relationship  • Nervous system collapse and delayed trauma responses  • Suicidal thoughts and hitting emotional rock bottom  • Going to the police and navigating the justice system  • Arrest, remand, and the court process  • The Victim Personal Statement and reclaiming your voice  • Loss of friendships and social fallout after speaking up  • Why healing doesn’t start when the abuse ends Trigger Warning This episode contains discussion of domestic abuse, coercive control, physical violence, strangulation, stalking, suicide, and mental health struggles. If you’re struggling right now or something in this episode has brought things up for you, please know you are not alone and help is available. UK Support Samaritans Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) https://www.samaritans.org National Domestic Abuse Helpl House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from. Resources & support: https://stan.store/houseofherpod Join our healing community: https://patreon.com/HOUSEOFHER Follow @houseofher__ and my personal account @holliedowdingx on Instagram and please share this episode with a woman who might need it 🥀

    59 min
  3. The Love That Almost Killed Me : My Truth Retold

    JAN 11

    The Love That Almost Killed Me : My Truth Retold

    Send us a text Some stories need telling again 🥀 In this episode, I sit down with my friend Cassie to retell my story not for sympathy, but for truth. One year on, with the court case behind me and my nervous system finally out of survival mode, I’m able to speak about what really happened in a way I couldn’t before. This is not a neatly packaged survivor story. It’s an honest, sometimes uncomfortable look at how abuse really unfolds slowly, quietly, and often disguised as love. We talk about how red flags don’t arrive all at once, how control creeps in disguised as care, and how trauma bonding can make even the most intelligent, strong women stay in situations that are destroying them. I share what it was like living inside a relationship that felt safe one minute and terrifying the next, how my identity slowly disappeared, and why leaving didn’t instantly bring peace it brought grief, fear, withdrawal, and the hardest healing of my life. This episode is also about what happens after you leave. The confusion. The shame. The urge to go back. The rebuilding. And the moment you finally realise that what you called love was actually survival. House of H.E.R. was born from this journey not just to tell my story, but to give other women the language, understanding, and community I desperately needed. If you’ve ever felt stuck, numb, anxious, or ashamed for loving someone who hurt you, this episode is for you. You are not weak.  You are not broken.  You were surviving. What we cover • How abuse really begins  • Red flags you don’t see at first  • Trauma bonding and why people go back  • Why leaving isn’t the end it’s the start  • Healing after the court case  • Why House of H.E.R. was created  • Rebuilding your identity after abuse Trigger Warning This episode contains discussion of domestic abuse, coercive control, physical violence, trauma bonding, suicide, and mental health. If you need support If you’re struggling right now or something in this episode has brought things up for you, you are not alone and help is available. UK Samaritans Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) https://www.samaritans.org National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge) Call 0808 2000 247 https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk Women’s Aid https://www.womensaid.org.uk The Survivors’ Handbook (Women’s Aid) If you’re not sure if your relationship is healthy, worried about someone else, or need guidance: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/ Clare’s Law Apply to find out if a current or ex-partner has a history of abuse and may pose a risk: House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from. Resources & support: https://stan.store/houseofherpod Join our healing community: https://patreon.com/HOUSEOFHER Follow @houseofher__ and my personal account @holliedowdingx on Instagram and please share this episode with a woman who might need it 🥀

    1h 12m

  4. 10/26/2025

    Turning Pain Into Power: Katy’s Story, Escaping Abuse and Building a Lifeline for Survivors

    Send us a text In the final episode of season one, Hollie and Mollie welcome their first ever guest: Katy Longhurst a survivor, mother, and tech innovator who has transformed unthinkable trauma into tangible change. With grace and raw honesty, Katy shares her story of surviving years of coercive control, violence, psychological manipulation and how she went on to create Ask Joan, an app designed to help people in domestic abuse situations discreetly call for help from any household appliance. Instagram: @askjoanapp www.askjoan.co.uk This conversation is one of courage, clarity, and deep truth. It’s a testament to every woman who has been told she’s imagining it and proof that healing isn’t just survival, it’s innovation. ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions of trauma, domestic abuse, stalking, and psychological manipulation. Please listen with care and take space if you need to. 💭 “You didn’t just survive, you rebuilt the system that failed you.” If you need support right now, here are some resources that may help: National Domestic Abuse Helpline - 0808 200 0247 Samaritans (UK) – Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) National Suicide Prevention Helpline (US) – Call or text 988 Crisis Text Line (US/UK) – Text HOME to 741741 Women’s Aid (UK) – womensaid.org.uk ‘I’m not sure if my relationship is healthy/ I’m worries about someone else/ I need support - The survivors handbook: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/ Claires Law - Apply for information about your current or ex-partner because you're worried they may have a history of abuse and are a risk to you: https://shorturl.at/chTXf We also have direct links to support resources on our landing page: https://stan.store/houseofherpod House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from. Resources & support: https://stan.store/houseofherpod Join our healing community: https://patreon.com/HOUSEOFHER Follow @houseofher__ and my personal account @holliedowdingx on Instagram and please share this episode with a woman who might need it 🥀

    1h 7m

  5. 10/12/2025

    Stalking & Harassment: The Violence You Can’t Always See

    Send us a text In this episode, Hollie and Mollie open the doors to one of the most silenced parts of abuse, stalking and harassment. They share lived experiences of what it means to live in constant fear, the reality of coercive control, and the devastating gap between the law and survivors’ safety. From phone hacking to online surveillance, this conversation exposes how digital abuse and psychological terror leave invisible scars that are still rarely recognised as violence. This episode is raw, real, and a call for change: for systems that protect women, for online accountability, and for survivors to know they are not alone. Trigger warning: This episode discusses stalking, harassment, trauma, suicidal thoughts and abuse. Please take care of your heart while listening, pause, step away, or come back when you feel ready. 🔗 Mentioned in this episode: • The Holly Guard app: a free safety app for anyone at risk of stalking or violence. https://hollieguard.com/ You’re not too much. You’re not too late. You are her. And you’re home now. 🥀 House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from. Resources & support: https://stan.store/houseofherpod Join our healing community: https://patreon.com/HOUSEOFHER Follow @houseofher__ and my personal account @holliedowdingx on Instagram and please share this episode with a woman who might need it 🥀

    1h 10m

  6. 09/28/2025

    Justice & What Comes After: Our Healing Isn’t Linear (Part Two)

    Send us a text We’re back in a new studio, a new season of life, and a deeper layer of truth. In Part Two of our justice story, Hollie opens up about what happened after the arrest — the calls from CPS, the court dates, the waiting, the disbelief, and the slow realisation of just how much she’d survived. This episode isn’t only about the legal process. It’s about what happens inside you when the noise stops. About the guilt and shame that linger even after you’ve left. About therapy, somatic healing, and learning that strength isn’t the same thing as being healed. Trigger warning: this conversation includes themes of trauma, mental health and abuse. Please listen with care and step away if you need to. If you’ve ever walked away from something that nearly destroyed you, or you’re still in the middle of it, this episode is for you. We’re building a roadmap for healing together — messy, nonlinear, and real. “You are not too much. You’re not too late. You are her. And you’re home now.” 🥀 Love, Hollie & Mollie  ⚠️ Trigger warning: contains discussion of abuse, victim shaming, suicide, and mental health. If you need support right now, here are some resources that may help: National Domestic Abuse Helpline - 0808 200 0247 Samaritans (UK) – Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) National Suicide Prevention Helpline (US) – Call or text 988 Crisis Text Line (US/UK) – Text HOME to 741741 Women’s Aid (UK) – womensaid.org.uk ‘I’m not sure if my relationship is healthy/ I’m worries about someone else/ I need support - The survivors handbook: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/ Claires Law - Apply for information about your current or ex-partner because you're worried they may have a history of abuse and are a risk to you: https://shorturl.at/chTXf We also have direct links to support resources on our landing page: https://stan.store/houseofherpod House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from. Resources & support: https://stan.store/houseofherpod Join our healing community: https://patreon.com/HOUSEOFHER Follow @houseofher__ and my personal account @holliedowdingx on Instagram and please share this episode with a woman who might need it 🥀

    1h 52m

  7. 09/15/2025

    The Beginning of the End: Leaving, Surviving, and Seeking Justice

    Send us a text In this episode of House of H.E.R., Hollie and Mollie sit down to speak about the part of the story that was once untold the leaving, the aftermath, and the long road toward justice. For the first time, Hollie shares openly about the police process, the court case, and what it really looked like to break free. From the trauma bond that kept her tied, to the car accident that became a turning point, to the relentless harassment and finally the courtroom where truth could no longer be denied this is the reality of surviving domestic abuse. ⚠️ Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions of domestic abuse, trauma, and mental health struggles. Please listen with care, and only if you feel ready. Our hope is that by opening this chapter, anyone navigating similar pain feels less alone, more informed, and reminded that there is a way through. Because leaving is not the end of the story it’s the beginning of reclaiming your life. House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from. Resources & support: https://stan.store/houseofherpod Join our healing community: https://patreon.com/HOUSEOFHER Follow @houseofher__ and my personal account @holliedowdingx on Instagram and please share this episode with a woman who might need it 🥀

    1h 31m

  8. 08/31/2025

    Love vs love bombing: Butterflies or Alarm Bells?

    Send us a text A candid, compassionate deep-dive into the blurry line between love bombing and real love. We unpack butterflies vs. nervous system chaos, boundaries vs. rules, conditional love, attachment styles, and why “calm” is the greenest flag. We share therapy takeaways (hi Angela 👋), inner-child insights, and real-life examples, from “you can’t wear that” to silent treatment. So you can spot control, honour your needs, and choose relationships that let you be you. Trigger warning: contains discussion of abuse, victim shaming, suicide, and mental health. Common traits of rigid, porous, and healthy boundaries. Rigid Boundaries • Avoids intimacy and close relationships. • Unlikely to ask for help. • Has few close relationships. • Very protective of personal information. • May seem detached, even with romantic partners. • Keeps others at a distance to avoid the possibility of rejection. Porous Boundaries • Overshares personal information. • Difficulty saying “no” to the requests of others. • Overinvolved with other’s problems. • Dependent on the opinions of others. • Accepting of abuse or disrespect. • Fears rejection if they do not comply with others. Healthy Boundaries • Values own opinions. • Doesn’t compromise values for others. • Shares personal information in an appropriate way (does not over or under share). • Knows personal wants and needs, and can communicate them. • Accepting when others say “no” to them. ⸻ Most people have a mix of different boundary types. For example, someone could have healthy boundaries at work, porous boundaries in romantic relationships, and a mix of all three types with their family. One size does not fit all! If you need support right now, here are some resources that may help: National Domestic Abuse Helpline - 0808 200 0247 Samaritans (UK) – Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) National Suicide Prevention Helpline (US) – Call or text 988 Crisis Text Line (US/UK) – Text HOME to 741741 Women’s Aid (UK) – womensaid.org.uk ‘I’m not sure if my relationship is healthy/ I’m worries about someone else/ I need support - The survivors handbook: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/informat... Claires Law - Apply for information about your current or ex-partner because you're worried they may have a history of abuse and are a risk to you: House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from. Resources & support: https://stan.store/houseofherpod Join our healing community: https://patreon.com/HOUSEOFHER Follow @houseofher__ and my personal account @holliedowdingx on Instagram and please share this episode with a woman who might need it 🥀

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Welcome to House of H.E.R. (Healed, Empowered, Rich) a space for women who have been through it… and are choosing themselves anyway.This podcast is hosted by Hollie  a mum, survivor of domestic abuse, late-diagnosed with ADHD, and a woman rebuilding her life from the inside out. House of H.E.R. is rooted in real experiences of domestic abuse  trauma, healing, and starting again when everything you thought you were has fallen away.Here we talk about emotional and domestic abuse, trauma bonding, ADHD, nervous system healing, self-worth, identity loss, motherhood, and the messy middle of becoming someone new. These are honest conversations for women who are tired of pretending they’re fine and ready to feel safe in themselves again.This podcast is for the woman who is just coming out of survival mode. The woman who is exhausted, confused, grieving who she used to be, and questioning everything but still standing. If you’re learning how to feel again, how to trust yourself again, and how to exist without fear, this space was made for you.You don’t need to be healed to be here. You don’t need the answers. You just need somewhere that understands what it costs to leave and what it takes to begin again. 

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  • Creator
    HOLLIE DOWDING
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 HOUSE OF H.E.R
  • Show Website
    HOUSE OF H.E.R

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