Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice

Laura Nave
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Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice — the podcast for women who are done waiting for “the one” and ready to become a parent on their own damn terms. We’re talking fertility, pregnancy, the emotional chaos, and the village it takes to raise a kid.Sometimes you cry in the bathtub. Sometimes you're crying because your toddler bit you. And sometimes, you cry because you chose all of this.Unfiltered conversations about solo motherhood—because doing it alone doesn't mean doing it quietly.

  1. 3D AGO

    Jess’s Story: Navigating Egg Freezing, IVF & Immunology

    Send a text In this episode of Choosing Chaos, we sit down with Jess to talk about what it really looks like to pursue single motherhood by choice later in life. Jess froze her eggs in her younger years, believing she was preserving an option for the future. But when she ultimately decided to conceive in her 40s, she learned those eggs were no longer usable — and she had to pivot. What followed were multiple rounds of IVF, each carrying emotional weight, physical demands, and significant financial considerations. We also explore an important and often overlooked part of the fertility conversation: when transfers fail, it’s not always about the clinic, the protocol, or donor compatibility. Sometimes there are deeper-rooted health factors at play. Jess shares why exploring underlying issues — including reproductive immunology — and advocating for comprehensive testing may help uncover the “why” so many women are searching for. The journey to motherhood isn’t always straightforward, and freezing your eggs isn’t a guarantee. While it can be helpful, embryo freezing often shows stronger success rates. This conversation is about informed choices, self-advocacy, resilience, and building the family you envision — even when the path isn’t linear. Jess shares education and support for women considering this path on TikTok at @jessnuremberg. If this episode resonates, make sure you’re subscribed to Choosing Chaos so you don’t miss more stories of courage, choice, connection — and the beautifully chaotic realities of motherhood. Connect with Choosing Chaos: 📸 Instagram: choosing_chaos_smbc 🎵 TikTok: @choosingchaossmbc 📧 Email: choosingchaossmbc@gmail.com Support the show

    42 min

  2. FEB 16

    Fine, I'll Just Do It Myself with Michelle

    Send a text Michelle joins us to share the story behind her bold pivot to single motherhood by choice. After choosing to leave a relationship impacted by addiction, she found herself redefining the vision she once had for starting a family. Instead of waiting for the “right” circumstances, Michelle leaned into community, trusted her intuition, and decided to move forward on her own terms — turning what could have been a sidestep into a meaningful journey. We dive into loving someone through addiction, the strength it takes to let go, and the courage to choose the life you truly want. It’s a conversation that’s honest, uplifting, and beautifully human. Michelle is also the author of Party in a Petri Dish, a heart-warming children’s book in which Bailey explains how Mommy wanted a baby so much she took a leap of science and love to make it happen — celebrating the beauty of unique family stories along the way.  Grab a copy today: Party in a Petri Dish Addiction is a deeply sensitive and complex topic. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance use, support is available. In the U.S., you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline for immediate support. You can also contact the SAMHSA National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357) for free, confidential treatment referral and information services. If you’re outside the U.S., please consult your local health services for substance use and recovery resources in your area. Support the show

    57 min

  3. FEB 9

    Jackie: A Story of Choice, Community, and Connection

    Send a text We’re sharing a story that beautifully expands what love and family can look like. In this episode, Jackie — a single mom by choice — opens up about her path to motherhood, from beginning her journey with a known donor to ultimately choosing a different direction. She shares the courage it took to pivot, the joy of welcoming her daughter, and the intentional ways she’s built connection along the way — including creating a sibling community and surrounding herself with a strong village of other single moms by choice. At its heart, this conversation is about generosity, support, and the powerful ripple effect of embryo donation. It’s a story of love multiplied — and a reminder that family can be built in the most thoughtful, expansive ways. 💛 Connect with Choosing Chaos: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/choosing_chaos_smbc 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@choosingchaossmbc 📧 Email: choosingchaossmbc@gmail.com Be sure to subscribe so you never miss more stories of courage, choice, and the beautiful mess of motherhood. If today’s episode resonated, we’d love for you to follow, rate, and leave a comment! Support the show

    47 min

  4. FEB 2

    A Beautiful Path to Motherhood: Masha’s Story

    Send a text On this episode of Choosing Chaos, I’m chatting with Masha, a mom of two sweet daughters, about her journey into motherhood — the joys, the challenges, and all the unexpected ways love and family show up along the way. 💛 We also talk about the ways she’s been able to share the gift of motherhood with another single mom by choice, and how building your village sometimes looks different than you expect. For more info on embryo donation and resources for single parents by choice, check out Embryo Connections. This episode is full of warmth, honesty, and inspiration — perfect for anyone navigating motherhood, family, or just life’s beautiful chaos. Connect with Choosing Chaos: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/choosing_chaos_smbc 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@choosingchaossmbc 📧 Email: choosingchaossmbc@gmail.com Support the show

    55 min

  5. JAN 26

    So… I Became a Mom: Joni’s Story

    Send a text In this episode, we sit down with Joni to hear her journey to motherhood through IUI — and how that experience helped her discover who she truly is. She opens up about life in the sandwich generation, balancing the needs of her child and her parents, navigating the emotional ups and downs of postpartum, and the beautiful, unexpected joys of becoming a mom. Her story is honest, heartfelt, and a reminder of why it’s so important to take care of ourselves while caring for the people around us — because we can’t pour from an empty cup. Connect with Choosing Chaos: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/choosing_chaos_smbc 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@choosingchaossmbc 📧 Email: choosingchaossmbc@gmail.com Be sure to subscribe so you never miss more stories of courage, choice, and the beautiful mess of motherhood. If today’s episode resonated, we’d love for you to follow, rate, and leave a comment! Support the show

    44 min

  6. JAN 19

    NICU Moms Speak: The Fear, the Love, the Strength

    Send a text Birth doesn’t always go the way we imagine. In this episode, we reconnect with Kristen, Lindsay, and Annie as they share their honest and emotional NICU journeys — from fear and uncertainty to resilience, growth, and unexpected strength. We talk about what it’s really like to have a baby in the NICU, how families cope with the emotional rollercoaster, and what it means to choose chaos — to choose love, courage, and connection in the middle of uncertainty. Whether you’re currently in the NICU, have been there before, or love someone who is, this conversation is for you. Resources mentioned:  March of Dimes, Hand to Hold, Graham’s Foundation, and Postpartum Support International. Subscribe to Choosing Chaos so you never miss stories of courage, choice, and the beautiful mess of motherhood.  Find us on TikTok, Instagram, Youtube and Patreon — and don’t forget to follow, rate, and review. We’d love to hear from you 🤍 Support the show

    1h 6m

  7. JAN 12

    Science, Probability, and Kelley's Decision to Move Forward

    Send a text In this episode of Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice, Kelley joins Laura for an honest conversation about the emotional realities of becoming a solo mother by choice. Kelley reflects on why relationships aren’t always easy — and why leaving one can be just as complicated as staying. She shares how the path to motherhood through IUI or IVF can take time and carry an emotional toll, and why connection matters — including what it means for her and her daughter to be connected to donor siblings. We also talk about postpartum anxiety — how difficult it can be, how it can cause you to second-guess yourself, and why recognizing it and seeking support is so important. And finally, Kelley reminds us that while becoming an SMBC is both difficult and courageous, it does get easier. We also address postpartum anxiety, explore ways to recognize it, and share supportive resources for anyone who may be struggling. Postpartum Support Resources: Postpartum Support International — support line, online groups, and local referrals: 1-800-944-4773 or https://www.postpartum.net Connect with Choosing Chaos: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/choosing_chaos_smbc 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@choosingchaossmbc 📧 Email: choosingchaossmbc@gmail.com Be sure to subscribe so you never miss more stories of courage, choice, and the beautiful mess of motherhood. If today’s episode resonated, we’d love for you to follow, rate, and leave a comment! Support the show

    48 min

  8. JAN 5

    New Year, Organized Chaos with Sage Haus

    Send a text New year, same chaos—just better managed ✨ In this episode, we’re talking all things organized chaos with Sage Haus and why having the right support can be a total game changer, especially for solo moms by choice. From reclaiming your time to reducing the mental load, this conversation is all about how a house manager can feel like an extension of your village—so you can focus on you, your family, and your goals. If 2026 is the year you reprioritize yourself while still keeping life running smoothly, this episode is for you. Learn more about Sage Haus and their approach to modern home management: Website: Sagehaus.com Instagram: MySageHaus Because chaos is inevitable—but support makes all the difference. Support the show

    33 min
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Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice — the podcast for women who are done waiting for “the one” and ready to become a parent on their own damn terms. We’re talking fertility, pregnancy, the emotional chaos, and the village it takes to raise a kid.Sometimes you cry in the bathtub. Sometimes you're crying because your toddler bit you. And sometimes, you cry because you chose all of this.Unfiltered conversations about solo motherhood—because doing it alone doesn't mean doing it quietly.

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