Marriage Made in Heaven

Joshua & Ali Spitsbergen
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Where matrimony meets hilarious reality. Hosted by Joshua & Ali Spitsbergen, Marriage Made in Heaven isn’t your typical marriage podcast. After 16 years of doing life, love, and ministry together, they're pulling back the curtain on what it really looks like when two become one—biblically, practically, and yes… sometimes embarrassingly. Each week, they dive into the good, the hard, and the just plain funny of married life—sharing biblical truths, real-life stories, and lessons they’ve learned (sometimes the hard way). From pillow talk confessions to kingdom-minded conversations, this podcast is here to help you build a marriage grounded in grace, rooted in God’s Word, and full of joy—even when it gets messy. Whether you’re dating, newlywed, or 20 years deep, you’ll laugh, learn, and leave each episode feeling seen, equipped, and a little less alone. Because this? This is about having a Marriage Made in Heaven—with a whole lot of grace and “Did you seriously just say that?” moments.

  1. DEC 4

    From Roommates to Partners: How to Reconnect and Strengthen Your Marriage God’s Way

    If your marriage has started feeling more like roommates managing logistics than partners building a life together, this episode is your fresh start. You don’t need a crisis to begin again, you can reconnect, rebuild, and strengthen your marriage right now, God’s way. Today, we’re walking you through the belief shift, the daily habits, and the simple changes that bring passion, connection, and purpose back into your marriage. You can absolutely have a do-over with the spouse you vowed to, and this episode shows you how. What We Cover in Today’s Episode • The Paradigm Shift That Restores Connection Your marriage isn’t a distraction from your calling; it’s your greatest multiplier. This single shift will realign your vision, your language, and the energy you bring into your home. • Why “Starting Over” Has Nothing to Do with Divorce Too many couples think renewal means ending things. But you can rebuild your marriage from the inside with new perspective, new intention, and new habits. • The Roommate Trap When conversations become transactions…When passion fades into patterns… When you feel like co-managers instead of partners, that’s not a sign to give up. It’s a sign to recalibrate. The 5 Practical Steps to Reconnect & Strengthen Your Marriage 1. Language Audit Stop speaking death over your marriage (“you always,” “you never”) and start speaking life (“we are,” “we will,” “I appreciate”). Your words shape the atmosphere of your home. 2. Presence Over Performance Give each other 15 minutes of full attention daily. Phones down. Eyes up. Connection over accomplishment. 3. Vision Together Ask: “What do we want our marriage to look like in one year? Five years?” A shared vision becomes a shared mission, and it reconnects you at a heart level. 4. Micro Gestures of Love Small things done consistently become big results: a note, a text, a kiss that lasts longer than one second, making the coffee first, touching his shoulder as you walk by. Micro gestures fill the emotional bucket. 5. Weekly Check-Ins Date nights aren’t a luxury, they’re a lifeline. Ask each other: “How are we doing?” “What do you need more of from me right now?” These questions rebuild intimacy, trust, and understanding. If You Feel Disconnected… You’re Not Alone Most couples don’t fall apart because of one event; they drift from little things left unattended. The good news? Reconnection starts with just one intentional shift today. Start here: Take 15 minutes tonight to be fully present with your spouse. No agenda. No distractions. Just connection. It’s amazing what God can rebuild when you give Him room to move. 💍 Subscribe to Marriage Made in Heaven wherever you listen to podcasts, so you never miss a weekly walk with us. 🙏 If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who could use some hope today.

    15 min

  2. NOV 26

    What You Believe About Marriage Is What You Build

    What you believe about your marriage is what you will eventually build. In business, you already know this. You believe you’ll hit the goal, so you plan, you act, you stretch, you invest. But in marriage? So many leaders quietly lower the bar: “Marriage is just hard.”“This is just how it is now.”“We’re too busy for more.”“The passion always fades.”And then they wonder why their home life feels flat, distant, or disconnected. In this episode, we’re talking about belief, mindset, and the words you speak over your marriage and how they are actively building (or breaking) what you experience at home. If your marriage is just an afterthought, your beliefs will reflect it. If you believe a marriage made in heaven is possible, you will start to build like it is. In this episode, we talk about: Why your marriage is a mirror of your mindsetThe hidden limiting beliefs that quietly sabotage connectionCommon scripts like “you can’t have both a thriving business and a marriage”Why no amount of effort can outrun a broken belief systemHow to “remodel” a marriage by rebuilding on a firm foundation in ChristThe power of choosing to serve, not compareWhy information alone isn’t enough – you need implementationHow digital distraction is stealing intimacy (and what to do about it)Practical boundaries for phones, screens, and “dead scroll” timeWhy intentional things like family dinners, walks, and workouts together matterHow your words can shift the atmosphere in your homeWe share real stories from our own journey, the times we had to admit, “Okay, our belief has slipped below heaven’s standard here,” and how changing our mindset started changing our marriage. You’ll be challenged to: Stop repeating cultural scripts about “normal” marriageCatch yourself when you speak small about your spouse or your relationshipFlip the script and start speaking life, vision, and possibilityTreat your marriage with the same faith, belief, and intentionality you bring to your businessAsk: What would change if I really believed we could have a marriage made in heaven?Behind every great marriage, there is intention, belief, and effort. It doesn’t “just happen.” It’s built, brick by brick, through the thoughts you think, the words you speak, and the actions you take. We don’t want you settling for average. We believe you can build extraordinary. And it starts with what you believe. We love you; we’re cheering you on, and we’re so honored to walk this out with you. 💍 Subscribe to Marriage Made in Heaven wherever you listen to podcasts, so you never miss a weekly walk with us. 🙏 If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who could use some hope today.

    28 min

  3. NOV 20

    Self-Control in Marriage: How Taking Responsibility Can Transform Your Relationship

    If we’re honest… it’s a whole lot easier to point the finger than it is to look in the mirror. But if there’s one thing we’ve learned in marriage, it’s this: Relationships don’t fall apart because of big blowups. They fall apart when no one takes responsibility. In today’s episode, we’re tackling two of the most underrated (but most transformative) marriage skills: Self-control and self-awareness. Not the fluffy, feel-good kind. The biblical, fruit-of-the-Spirit kind that reshapes how you think, how you talk, how you respond, and how you love. Inside this conversation, we’re breaking down: • Why self-control is the secret ingredient to a thriving marriage • How self-awareness disarms conflict and invites healing • The danger of reacting instead of responding • Why taking ownership (even when it’s hard) unlocks breakthrough • How resentment builds walls and how humility tears them down • Why peace is a choice, not a personality trait • What “WIN” (What’s Important Now) looks like in real-life marriage decisions • How your daily habits impact your emotional and spiritual health • Why self-control is not weakness, it’s spiritual maturity We share real stories, real struggles, and real shifts we’ve made in our own marriage, the moments we had to swallow our pride, humble ourselves, and say the words no one likes to say: “I was wrong. I’m sorry. How can I be better?” When you stop demanding perfection from your spouse and start taking responsibility for your own actions, everything changes. Trust deepens. Peace returns. Your marriage becomes a place of safety instead of stress. And yes, we talk about how practical things like health, habits, schedule overload, and even working out (yep, we go there) play a huge role in keeping your nervous system regulated so you can show up as the best version of yourself. Healthy marriages aren’t built on perfection. They’re built on responsibility. They’re built on humility. They’re built on self-control. This episode will challenge you, stretch you, and encourage you because a marriage made in heaven is absolutely possible, and it starts with the choices you make today. We love you. We’re cheering for you. And we’re grateful to walk this journey alongside you. 💍 Subscribe to Marriage Made in Heaven wherever you listen to podcasts, so you never miss a weekly walk with us. 🙏 If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who could use some hope today.

    18 min

  4. NOV 13

    Dream Big Together: How Supporting Each Other’s Passions Strengthens Your Marriage

    In this heartfelt episode of Marriage Made in Heaven, we're talking about what it really means to dream big together and how supporting your spouse’s passions can reignite joy, connection, and purpose in your marriage.  You’ll hear: Why discouragement and negativity can quietly destroy intimacy and trustHow cheering each other on leads to deeper fulfillment and unityThe connection between personal purpose and a peaceful homeReal stories of couples who turned resentment into revivalA powerful weekly challenge to start dreaming together againBecause a marriage made in heaven isn’t built on playing it safe; it’s built on faith, fun, and believing in each other’s God-given dreams.  💍 Subscribe to Marriage Made in Heaven wherever you listen to podcasts, so you never miss a weekly walk with us. 🙏 If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who could use some hope today.

    24 min

  5. NOV 6

    Love Is Patient, Love Is Kind: Living 1 Corinthians 13 in Real Marriage

    In this heartfelt episode of Marriage Made in Heaven, we're unpacking one of the most quoted yet misunderstood scriptures about love, 1 Corinthians 13. It’s the verse that shows up at every wedding, but how often do we actually live it in our day-to-day marriage? From forgiveness and patience to emotional maturity and servanthood, this conversation dives deep into what real, biblical love looks like behind closed doors; when life is busy, tempers flare, and grace feels like work. We're sharing stories from our own journey, lessons from counseling couples, and powerful truths about the kind of love that endures, heals, and transforms. You’ll hear them discuss:  • What it really means that “love is patient, love is kind”  • How to love when your feelings don’t match your faith  • The difference between emotional reactions and spiritual maturity  • What forgiveness looks like after betrayal or broken trust  • Why humility and servanthood are the foundation of lasting love  • How to guard your marriage against division, temptation, and pride We don’t sugarcoat it, we talk about our mistakes, our growth, and how God’s Word continues to anchor our marriage through every season. Key Quote: “Love isn’t a feeling; it’s a decision to show the heart of God when everything in you wants to do the opposite.” 💍 Subscribe to Marriage Made in Heaven wherever you listen to podcasts, so you never miss a weekly walk with us. 🙏 If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who could use some hope today.

    33 min

  6. OCT 30

    God Has a Bigger Vision for Your Marriage: How to Dream and Thrive Together

    When was the last time you and your spouse actually dreamed together? In today’s episode, we're unpacking what it means to have God’s vision for your marriage, not just goals, but a Kingdom-driven purpose that shapes every decision, prayer, and plan. We're sharing practical ways to strengthen your marriage by celebrating wins, addressing weaknesses, forgiving quickly, and speaking life over each other. Because when you trade drifting for divine direction, your marriage comes alive again. If you’ve ever felt like you’re just surviving day to day, this episode will reignite your wonder, restore your joy, and remind you that God’s plans for your marriage are far greater than anything you could dream up. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why every marriage needs a shared vision from GodHow to create intentional goals that align with Heaven’s planThe importance of speaking words of life over your spouseWhat Joseph and Daniel teach us about holding on to heavenly visionHow forgiveness and servanthood open the door to miracles in marriageWhy “what you focus on grows” is the secret to lasting connection💬 Favorite Quotes “If you don’t have vision for your marriage, you’ll end up wandering instead of wondering.” “You can talk to the fool in your spouse or the king in them, what you speak will grow.” “God’s vision always leads to freedom, fruitfulness, and joy.” Scriptures Mentioned Proverbs 29:18 — Where there is no vision, the people perish.Colossians 3:1–3 — Set your affection on things above.John 14:12 — Greater works will you do.Matthew 5:6 — Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness.❤️ Challenge for This Week During your next date night, skip the talk about bills and schedules. Instead, dream together. Ask: What’s God’s vision for our marriage in this season? Write it down, pray over it, and start walking it out, together. 💍 Subscribe to Marriage Made in Heaven wherever you listen to podcasts, so you never miss a weekly walk with us. 🙏 If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who could use some hope today.

    19 min

  7. OCT 23

    Too Busy for Your Spouse? Why Busyness Is Killing Marriages (and How to Stop It)

    In this honest and faith-filled conversation, we unpack one of the most common struggles they see in marriages today: the trap of being too busy to truly connect. From chasing success to juggling work, business, and family, it’s easy to let busyness steal your peace, your purpose, and your partnership. They dive into biblical truth and practical strategies for setting boundaries, creating balance, and putting first things first, God, marriage, and family. You’ll hear real talk about what happens when work comes before your spouse, why boundaries matter more than balance, and how to build a schedule that honors both your calling and your covenant. If your home has felt more like a business meeting than a safe haven lately, this episode will help you realign, reconnect, and restore peace in your marriage. Key Takeaways Busyness ≠ Fruit of the Spirit — Productivity without peace leads to burnout, not blessing.Boundaries over balance — You can’t please God or your spouse if you’re constantly overextended.Connection over competition — Your marriage isn’t a scoreboard; it’s a covenant.Peace + Profit can coexist — When you trust God with your time, He multiplies your results.Make home your haven — Plan non-negotiable family hours, date nights, and digital detox days.Scripture References “No one serving as a soldier entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him who enlisted him.” — 2 Timothy 2:4 “Whatever you do, in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus.” — Colossians 3:17  Episode Quote “Busyness is not a badge of honor. It’s a trap that steals your peace, your purpose, and your connection with the people God entrusted to you.” — Ali Spitsbergen Practical Tips from Ali + Joshua Set non-negotiable family hours and stick to them.Use a shared digital calendar (like Hearth or Google Calendar) to align schedules.Plan one family trip per quarter to reset and reconnect.Schedule weekly date nights, even if it’s at home after the kids go to bed.Take a digital Sabbath each week, no phones, no work, just family. 💍 Subscribe to Marriage Made in Heaven wherever you listen to podcasts, so you never miss a weekly walk with us. 🙏 If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who could use some hope today.

    24 min

  8. OCT 16

    Love & Respect: God’s Blueprint for a Thriving Marriage

    This week, Joshua and Ali dive deep into one of the most powerful biblical principles for marriage, love and respect, straight from Ephesians 5:33. Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Wives are called to respect their husbands. When both are lived out intentionally, it creates a strong, unshakable foundation for a marriage made in heaven. From real stories of their early years together to practical ways they’ve grown as husband and wife, this episode is both fun and deeply convicting. Whether you’re newlyweds or 20 years in, this conversation will encourage you to honor God’s design and model His love within your marriage. In This Episode, You’ll Hear: Why respect is vital for husbands to feel supported and trusted.How unfailing, God-kind of love brings security and joy to wives.Real talk on communication, finances, decision-making, and love languages.Practical ways to show respect and love daily, from small notes to big moments.How to break generational patterns and model a godly marriage for your children.📖 Scripture Reference: “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” — Ephesians 5:33 (NIV) 💍 Subscribe to Marriage Made in Heaven wherever you listen to podcasts, so you never miss a weekly walk with us. 🙏 If this episode encouraged you, share it with another couple who could use some hope today.

    24 min
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Where matrimony meets hilarious reality. Hosted by Joshua & Ali Spitsbergen, Marriage Made in Heaven isn’t your typical marriage podcast. After 16 years of doing life, love, and ministry together, they're pulling back the curtain on what it really looks like when two become one—biblically, practically, and yes… sometimes embarrassingly. Each week, they dive into the good, the hard, and the just plain funny of married life—sharing biblical truths, real-life stories, and lessons they’ve learned (sometimes the hard way). From pillow talk confessions to kingdom-minded conversations, this podcast is here to help you build a marriage grounded in grace, rooted in God’s Word, and full of joy—even when it gets messy. Whether you’re dating, newlywed, or 20 years deep, you’ll laugh, learn, and leave each episode feeling seen, equipped, and a little less alone. Because this? This is about having a Marriage Made in Heaven—with a whole lot of grace and “Did you seriously just say that?” moments.

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    Joshua & Ali Spitsbergen
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