Sex coach and Board-Certified Sexologist Amanda Dames, known as The Kink Consultant, joins Dr. Stacy Friedman for an explicit, no-holds-barred sexologist talk on kink, fantasy, and fetish — and what happens when one partner wants to be tied up and the other wants the lights off. A former professional dominatrix turned Somatica-certified relationship coach, Amanda gets specific about what people are actually asking for behind closed doors, why fantasy and fetish aren't the same thing, and how couples navigate mismatched desire without blame, pressure, or pretending. This is a raw conversation about permission, communication, and finally saying the dirty thing you've been holding back. In This Episode You Will Learn The real difference between a fantasy, a fetish, and a kink Why so many people carry shame around what actually turns them on — and how to release it How to navigate a relationship where one partner is kinky and the other isn't Exactly what to say (and not say) when a partner shares a new desire Why 'you should just know how to do this' is a myth worth retiring Guest Bio Name: Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant Email: info@thekinkconsultant.com Instagram: @the_kinkconsultant Website: https://www.amandadames.com/ Amanda Dames, known as The Kink Consultant, is a Board-Certified Sexologist, Somatica®-certified sex and relationship coach, former professional dominatrix, and host of The Kink Consultant Podcast. Drawing on her professional expertise and lived experience, Amanda helps individuals and couples navigate mismatched desire, communicate their fantasies, and explore kink and power exchange with greater confidence, connection, and consent. Her straightforward, shame-free approach makes complex and deeply personal conversations feel practical and approachable. Amanda's work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women's Health, HuffPost, The Knot, Court TV, and other major media outlets. Through coaching, speaking, workshops, and digital education, she helps couples discover the kind of spice that turns them both on and brings them closer together. Host Bio Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Private Intimacy Advisor, Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project — on a mission to make midlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy — without apology. She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue. ✨ Everything you need is one click away: 👉 linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman 🔥 Vibe Tribe — Dr. Stacy's private midlife community. Live sessions, courses, and conversations that go way beyond the surface. Try it free for a week. https://drstacy.mn.co/ 📖 Pleasure Playbooks — Step-by-step guides for real bedroom results. Because great sex doesn't just happen — it's built. https://drstacyfriedman.com/shop-with-dr-stacy/#ebooks 💋 Shop catalog for adult products (code PURPLE for 20% off) https://drstacyfriedman.com/shop-with-dr-stacy/#catalogs 📅 Free 30-minute intimacy consult https://calendly.com/stacy-drstacy/30-min 🎁 Free PDFs including: 10 Things They Really Want in Bed — https://drstacyfriedman.com/free-downloads/ Follow Dr. Stacy @drstacyfriedman on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and all social media platforms.
