One Second by How to be Second

Nathan Young

Hey, this is Nathan Young, founder and Author of How to be Second, and this is One | Second, a conversation between two people with wildly different identities where we’re exploring how we’re different while embracing that we’re better, together.In our vernacular at H2B2, I am a Second, and my co-host Aramondo Davison is what we call a "Natural 1iC". What's a Second? “Seconds” (people with this identity) are people who tend to have ALL of a long list of natural tendencies, all bundled into one person, like: team focused, inspired by the needs of others, collaborative, high willingness to serve, seeks alignment, sees in implications, and understands systems. Common roles they find themselves in might be: The right hand, the glue, the everythinger, the tig-tig saya, admin, Second in Command, COO, Chief of Staff, Manager, Integrator, President. What's a 1iC? People with this identity seem to have grandiose ideas on the daily, dreamer, visionary, tip of the spear, ceo, etc

  1. 12/03/2025

    What is an opportunity creator? What is the difference between kind and direct vs. nice?- One Second by How to be Second

    Nathan and Mondo unpack their definitions of opportunity creator. Together they explore how Ones and Seconds see the world differently—why some people dump Legos on the floor and others organize them into rockets—and how those wiring differences make partnerships powerful. Along the way, they dive into risk, ego, faith, calling, and the courage it takes to leave a good seat in search of a better one. Then they dive into the messy gap between being nice and being direct and kind—and why so many people confuse the two. Mondo unpacks how honesty without extra explanation often gets mislabeled as arrogance, especially in cultures that expect niceness as the norm. Nathan reflects on his own journey from being direct and harsh to learning how clarity and kindness can coexist, even if it means giving up the comfort of “being nice.” Along the way, they explore people-pleasing, relationship dynamics, and what it really takes to polish old habits without losing your voice. If you want more like this, subscribe or find more on Howtobesecond.com This is One Second, a conversation between two people with wildly different identities where we're exploring how we're different while embracing that we're better together. In our vernacular at How to be Second, I am a Second, and my co-host Armando Davison, is what we call a natural 1iC, or a Visionary. Enjoy.

    38 min
  2. What is your Love Language? How do you ask for help?- One Second by How to be Second

    11/19/2025

    What is your Love Language? How do you ask for help?- One Second by How to be Second

    Nathan and Mondo dig into the love languages that shape how they give and receive care—revealing why acts of service define them both, and how that plays out in their marriages, partnerships, and leadership styles. Together they explore how mismatched “languages” can make or break trust between firsts and seconds in command—and why understanding how someone feels loved might be the key to working, leading, and relating better. After that they unpack the complicated dance of giving and receiving help—from the discomfort of asking for it to the frustration of being “helped” in all the wrong ways. Mondo reflects on the season when he had to depend on others for even the basics, and how that reshaped his empathy and boundaries. Nathan shares the sting of people offering fixes he never asked for, exploring how “help” can sometimes serve the helper more than the helped. Together, they wrestle with pride, humility, and the surprising ways God uses uncomfortable asks to grow trust, character, and connection. If you want more like this, subscribe or find more on Howtobesecond.com This is One Second, a conversation between two people with wildly different identities where we're exploring how we're different while embracing that we're better together. In our vernacular at How to be Second, I am a Second, and my co-host Armando Davison, is what we call a natural 1iC, or a Visionary. Enjoy.

    41 min

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Hey, this is Nathan Young, founder and Author of How to be Second, and this is One | Second, a conversation between two people with wildly different identities where we’re exploring how we’re different while embracing that we’re better, together.In our vernacular at H2B2, I am a Second, and my co-host Aramondo Davison is what we call a "Natural 1iC". What's a Second? “Seconds” (people with this identity) are people who tend to have ALL of a long list of natural tendencies, all bundled into one person, like: team focused, inspired by the needs of others, collaborative, high willingness to serve, seeks alignment, sees in implications, and understands systems. Common roles they find themselves in might be: The right hand, the glue, the everythinger, the tig-tig saya, admin, Second in Command, COO, Chief of Staff, Manager, Integrator, President. What's a 1iC? People with this identity seem to have grandiose ideas on the daily, dreamer, visionary, tip of the spear, ceo, etc