The Shit That Matters

Anamaria Velasquez
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Welcome to The Shit That Matters with Anamaria Velasquez, the podcast for rule-breakers, deep feelers, and soul-led humans ready to stop pretending and start living here to talk about the real, the messy, magical, and meaningful stuff most people avoid or are uncomfortable to speak about. Each episode offers unfiltered insights, personal lessons, and healing conversations that help you feel like you're not crazy, ready to awaken your true self and live life in a bold, courageous way.  Whether you’re in a healing season or a breakthrough moment, this is your reminder: You’re not alone. And your truth? That’s the shit that matters.

Episodes

  1. 9H AGO

    The Honest Middle Ep. 5 | Why Clarity Comes After Action (Stop Waiting to Feel Ready)

    In this episode of The Honest Middle series on The Shit That Matters Podcast, I talk about one of the most important turning points in personal growth: the moment when awareness alone is no longer enough. There comes a point in healing where autopilot has turned off. You’re more aware of your patterns, your identity, and the ways you’ve been moving through life. But instead of moving forward, many people get stuck in a space of waiting. Waiting to feel clear. Waiting to feel confident. Waiting to feel ready. What I’ve learned in my own journey and through working with clients is that clarity doesn’t arrive first. Clarity is built through actively participating in your life again. In this episode, I talk about why self-awareness can sometimes turn into overthinking, how the nervous system can get stuck in a freeze state during personal growth, and why identity is rebuilt through experience rather than analysis. When you start experimenting with small decisions, setting boundaries, listening to your energy, and showing up differently in your relationships and daily life, something powerful begins to happen. You collect proof. You rebuild self-trust. And slowly, your new identity begins to form. If you’ve been feeling like you’re somewhere between who you were and who you’re becoming, this conversation will help you understand why that space exists and how to move through it. In This Episode • Why personal growth can feel confusing during the “in-between” phase • How waiting for clarity keeps people stuck in the healing process • The difference between self-awareness and overthinking • How the nervous system can enter a freeze state during identity shifts • Why identity is rebuilt through real-life experiences • Learning to listen to your body, energy, and internal cues • Reclaiming your authority and decision-making power • Small habits and experiments that rebuild self-trust • Why actively participating in your life changes everything Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to The Honest Middle series 02:00 The turning point in personal growth 04:00 Why waiting for clarity keeps people stuck 06:00 When self-awareness turns into overthinking 08:00 Nervous system freeze during healing and growth 10:00 What participating in your life again looks like 14:00 Why identity is rebuilt through experience 18:00 Reclaiming your authority and decision-making power 24:00 Small habits that rebuild self-trust 30:00 When life starts feeling alive again 33:00 Discovering You and next steps Ready to Go Deeper? If this episode resonated with you, there’s a good chance you’re exactly the kind of person I created Discovering You for. Discovering You is a space for people who can feel something shifting inside of them, even if they can’t fully articulate it yet. Maybe your old identity isn’t fitting anymore. Maybe the way you used to move through life just isn’t working the same way. Inside Discovering You, we explore your patterns, energy, voice, values, and purpose so you can begin building a life that actually reflects who you are becoming. You can join the wai Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    26 min

  2. MAR 2

    PCOS, Fertility, and the Quiet Grief

    This week’s episode is tender. Raw. Real-time. I’m recording this from day two of my period after a month that felt different, more connected, more hopeful, more in tune with my body than ever before. As a 34-year-old woman who has lived with PCOS since I was 16, I’m opening up about fertility, irregular cycles, shame, self-trust, and what it means to love your body even when it doesn’t do what you hoped it would. This is not a teaching episode.  There’s no framework.  No steps. Just me telling the truth. Timestamps: 00:00 – A tender content note + why this episode feels so alive for me  03:45 – Getting my first period at nine + feeling “different” early on  08:10 – PCOS symptoms at 16 + years of dismissal before my diagnosis  13:30 – The years I was angry at my body + living in stress mode  18:45 – Learning self-compassion + what whole human healing means to me  24:20 – Why this cycle felt different + the hope of “maybe this time”  28:15 – The moment with Gino that shifted something in both of us  33:40 – The hard conversations about fertility + wondering if I was “enough”  39:10 – Day two grief + choosing not to hate myself  43:50 – GLP-1, PCOS, and removing shame from getting support  48:30 – Holding hope and grief in the same body  52:00 – The quiet, private moments that actually matter This episode is about becoming anchored in myself, especially in the moments no one else sees. It’s about not abandoning myself when life doesn’t unfold on my timeline. If you’re navigating fertility, diagnosis, timing, body changes, or hard relationship conversations, I hope this makes you feel less alone. You are not broken. You are not alone. This is the shit that matters. 💛 Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    37 min

  3. FEB 24

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 4 The Identity Shift You Didn’t See Coming

    You’ve turned off autopilot. Awareness has kicked in. You’ve done “the work.” And now… something feels different. In this fourth episode of The Honest Middle series, Ana dives into the subtle but disorienting identity shift that happens in the space between who you were and who you’re becoming. Nothing dramatic explodes around you. Your house is the same. Your friends are the same. Your job might even be the same. But you? You’re not. Ana unpacks: Why identity shifts feel unsettling (even when they’re healthy)The nervous system response to outgrowing old labelsHow predictable but misaligned identities keep us stuckThe difference between shrinking back and rushing forwardWhy integration time is non-negotiableA personal story of releasing her old career identity and softening into a new version of herselfThis episode is about the quiet, internal reorganization that happens when you stop performing and start becoming. If you’ve found yourself thinking: “Why am I reacting differently lately?”“Why doesn’t this fit anymore?”“Who even am I right now?”You’re not broken. You’re integrating. ✨ Reflection Question from this episode: When you’re not performing, over-functioning, or proving… who are you at your core? If this resonates, Discovering You Live will be opening soon!!! Join the waitlist HERE. This work is exactly what we explore inside the container. Stay present. Stay curious. Stay steady. You’re in the middle and this is the part that matters. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    32 min

  4. FEB 17

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 3 Doing The Work But Still Feeling "Off"

    You’re doing the healing work. You’re more self-aware.  You’ve let go of old habits.  You’re growing. So why do you still feel off? In this episode of The Honest Middle, we’re talking about identity shifts, nervous system recalibration, and the uncomfortable middle phase of personal growth. When autopilot no longer works and your old coping mechanisms fall away, your identity begins to reorganize. That process can feel disorienting — even when everything looks “fine” on the outside. Inside this episode, we explore: Why growth can feel heavier than expectedWhat it means to outgrow your old baselineHow repatterning your identity takes timeThe difference between surface-level change and embodied growthWhy feeling off doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means you’re expandingIf you’re in the in-between season of becoming, this conversation will meet you there. ✨ Discovering You — LIVE was created for this exact phase.  Join the waitlist here: https://www.lightoasis.co/discovering-you-live Next up: Episode 4 dives into releasing the old version of you — with respect. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    35 min

  5. FEB 12

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 2 Awareness Will Disrupt You

    Awareness isn’t soft at first. It’s disruptive. In Episode 2 of The Honest Middle, we’re talking about what happens after autopilot stops working. When you start noticing your patterns. Your numbing. The conversations that drain you. The ways you’ve been tolerating what no longer fits. Waking up doesn’t instantly feel peaceful. It can feel anxious. Disorienting. Urgent. In this episode, Ana breaks down: Why awareness can feel worse before it feels betterThe difference between urgency and intuitionWhy drastic decisions aren’t the same as alignmentHow nervous system capacity builds real self-trustWhat integration actually looks like in real lifeIf you’ve been questioning more, noticing more, and feeling less certain — this isn’t regression. It’s growth. You can’t go back to sleep. You’re in the middle — and this is where your next level forms. Discovering You — LIVE was created for this exact season. The waitlist is open now!  Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    20 min

  6. FEB 4

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 1 When Autopilot Stops Working

    There’s a moment in life when the ways you used to get through the day - pushing, numbing, keeping it moving - stop working. It feels quiet... like something in your body is saying, we’re done doing it this way. In this episode of The Shit That Matters, we explore that moment—when autopilot shuts off and awareness turns on. This conversation opens The Honest Middle, a new podcast series focused on the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. The season where you know you can’t go back to how things were, but you don’t yet know what’s next. We talk about what happens when survival mode stops feeling supportive, why this in-between season feels disorienting, and how learning to stay present here changes the way you live your life moving forward. This episode is also created in honor of Discovering You — LIVE, a space designed for people navigating this exact moment. The waitlist is now open and linked here: DISCOVERING YOU -- LIVE Waitlist If you’re feeling more aware, more honest, and unsure how to move forward without rushing—this episode is for you. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    28 min

  7. 12/04/2025

    Break Up With Your Toxic Relationship With Time - And Start the Weekly 10

    In this episode of The Shit That Matters, Ana breaks down one of the most common struggles among women, mothers, entrepreneurs, homeschoolers, and full-time workers: our toxic, co-dependent relationship with time. If you constantly feel behind, overwhelmed, stretched thin, or like you “don’t have enough time,” this episode is the truth-bomb you’ve been needing. Ana shares: why time isn’t actually the problemhow society conditioned us to believe “more = better”what a dysfunctional relationship with time looks likethe shift from urgency → alignmentand how to build a week that supports your wellbeing, purpose, and energyYou’ll also learn Ana’s signature framework: ✨ The Weekly 10™ — a capacity compass for purpose-led women Ten simple, repeatable actions that keep you grounded, nourished, and moving forward (even during chaotic weeks). Whether you’re a mom, a full-time employee, an entrepreneur, or all three, the Weekly 10 gives you structure and momentum without burnout. This episode will help you redefine what “enough” really looks like in your life.  What You’ll LearnWhy time isn’t limited — your capacity isThe truth about time and worthinessHow to break co-dependency with timeWhy the “more, more, more” mindset is destroying your peaceThe rise of the ENOUGH WomanHow to identify your weekly non-negotiablesHow to choose a weekly intention that sets your entire toneWhat actually creates results (hint: it’s not hours worked)The Weekly 10 OverviewHere’s the framework Ana teaches inside the episode: One Clear Weekly IntentionBody NourishmentNervous System AnchorSoul/Intuition ConnectionAct of ReceivingRelationship TouchpointFuture-Self Action (Business or Personal)Maintenance TaskJoy/Pleasure MomentRestful ResetReal-Life Weekly 10 Examples (Concise)Ana walks through what the Weekly 10 looks like in different seasons of life: For Moms Intention: “Stay present, not perfect.”Walk with stroller or kidsCar meditationFamily dinner or bedtime connectionOne small business/creative action during nap/independent timeOne house reset taskA joy moment before bedOne earlier bedtime nightFor Homeschool Moms Weekly learning planOutside movement timeBreathwork with kidsBusiness task during independent workMeal prep as life-skills lessonQuiet hour for everyoneFor Full-Time Working Women Sunday or Monday morning intentionMicro-movement (stretching, lunch walk)Transition regulation after workDelegation or receiving one piece of helpOne connection moment with partner/kidsFor Entrepreneurs Weekly CEO intentionMovement 3 daysNervous system regulation before creatingDelegate one micro-taskNurture one important relationshipCreation/visibilitConnect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    50 min

  8. 11/05/2025

    The Good Girl Revolution: Stop Being The Good Girl, Be The Real One

    In this raw, off-the-cuff episode, Anamaria brings you behind the scenes of a potent coaching conversation that sparked The Good Girl Revolution. We’ve all been conditioned to be “good.” To say yes even when we mean no. To stay loyal to people, jobs, or routines long past their expiration date because we don’t want to ruffle feathers. But what happens when you start evolving — and your old yes no longer fits? This episode explores: Why loyalty and permission are deeply connectedHow to give yourself permission to change your mindWhat “being the good girl” is really costing youThe importance of standing in your truth, even when it’s uncomfortableHow using your voice can heal not just you, but the collectiveAnamaria reminds us that you’re not flaky — you’re evolving.  And your evolution? That’s the shit that matters. 🎧 Tune in to hear the full conversation and join the revolution. ✨ Mentioned in this episode: The upcoming Human Design series The Shit That Makes You, YouConnect with Anamaria on Instagram → @growwithanaLearn more at Light Oasis Co. 🎧 Listen, share, and tag @growwithana if this episode hits home — let’s start The Good Girl Revolution together. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    20 min

  9. 10/21/2025

    How to End Your Year Rooted, Not Burnt Out

    In this reflective and grounding episode of The Shit That Matters Pod, Anamaria Velasquez guides you through a soulful Q4 check-in — but not the kind you’re used to. Forget the pressure to “finish strong” or hustle your way to the finish line. This is about finishing rooted, balanced, and in love with your life. Ana invites you to slow down, breathe, and connect to the version of yourself you want to be when the year ends — calm, clear, and content. She walks you through powerful reflection questions to help you close 2025 with presence, purpose, and self-trust instead of burnout and people-pleasing. ✨ In this episode, you’ll explore: The identities you’re ready to retire before 2026The money and success beliefs you’re no longer subscribing toHow ease, satisfaction, and joy can become your new success strategyWhy devotion and discipline are meant to coexistReal-life stories of clients embodying joy, satisfaction, and divine feminine energy in their work and livesAna also shares how her program ENOUGH helps women recalibrate their relationship with success — moving from pressure to power, from proving to peace, from “I have to earn it” to “I already am it.” 💭 Journal prompts from today’s episode: What identity am I ready to retire before 2026?What beliefs about money or success am I no longer willing to subscribe to?If ease, satisfaction, and joy were my success strategy for the rest of the year, how would I move differently?How can I end this year in love with my life — not just strong, but satisfied?💫 Mentioned in this episode: ENOUGH — Ana’s signature group coaching program for women ready to stop earning their worth and start living like they already have it. 👉 Learn more or join at www.lightoasis.co/enough   Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    25 min

  10. 10/13/2025

    Stop Calling It Peace When It’s People-Pleasing

    In this episode of The Shit That Matters, Anamaria Velasquez breaks down the real meaning of boundaries — not the Pinterest-quote kind, but the soul-level kind that call you back to your power. She dives into why “protecting your peace” isn’t about shutting people out — it’s about finally choosing yourself. From her own healing journey to lessons inside her Discovering You program, Ana unpacks what happens when you stop people-pleasing, start communicating clearly, and trust that the version of you who sets boundaries is the version meant to lead. If you’ve ever confused silence with peace or guilt with love, this episode will help you remember: your boundaries aren’t walls — they’re invitations to deeper connection and self-respect. Grab Discovering You here! - https://www.lightoasis.co/discovering-you The Rooted Boundaries Guide is included in there!  Takeaways Boundaries aren’t about being mean — they’re about being real.Avoidance is not peace; it’s self-abandonment in disguise.Saying “no” doesn’t make you difficult; it makes you devoted to your well-being.Clear communication is love in action.Choosing yourself might disappoint others, but it liberates you.Your boundaries teach others how to love you.Healing sometimes means saying less and standing taller.It’s selfless to be “selfish” when your intention is to protect your energy.00:00 – Welcome & the story behind this episode 02:00 – What boundaries really mean 06:15 – The loneliness that comes with choosing yourself 11:00 – Boundaries vs. avoidance 16:30 – Lessons from Discovering You & client breakthroughs 22:00 – The healing that happens when you stop over-explaining 27:00 – Closing reflections + call to action Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    27 min

  11. 07/17/2025

    I'm Not Who I Pretended To Be

    Welcome to the first official episode! For years, I played the role. The achiever. The performer. The one who looked like she had it all together while trying to please everyone but me. In this first episode of The Shit That Matters, I’m pulling the curtain way back. I’m sharing the version of me that chased validation, love, and worth in all the wrong places… and what happened when it all stopped working. This is the story of how I came home to myself. If you’ve ever felt like you were performing your life instead of actually living it, then this one’s for you. We’re talking: Shedding the masks and rewriting the rulesLearning how to self-regulate instead of self-abandonThe beauty and grief of transformationAnd the permission to change—even when it’s messyWelcome to the first of many real, raw, healing conversations.  Let’s talk about the shit that matters. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    22 min

  12. 07/15/2025

    The Shit That Matters Trailer

    Welcome to The Shit That Matters—a space for truth-telling, soul-healing, and radical self-return. This trailer gives you a glimpse into what you can expect: raw stories, real tools, and unfiltered conversations that crack you open and call you home. No matter where you’re at in life, you deserve a place where you don’t have to pretend. Let’s sit and talk about the shit that matters—unapologetically. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    3 min
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Welcome to The Shit That Matters with Anamaria Velasquez, the podcast for rule-breakers, deep feelers, and soul-led humans ready to stop pretending and start living here to talk about the real, the messy, magical, and meaningful stuff most people avoid or are uncomfortable to speak about. Each episode offers unfiltered insights, personal lessons, and healing conversations that help you feel like you're not crazy, ready to awaken your true self and live life in a bold, courageous way.  Whether you’re in a healing season or a breakthrough moment, this is your reminder: You’re not alone. And your truth? That’s the shit that matters.

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  • Creator
    Anamaria Velasquez
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Shit That Matters
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