The Shit That Matters

Anamaria Velasquez
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Welcome to The Shit That Matters with Anamaria Velasquez, the podcast for rule-breakers, deep feelers, and soul-led humans ready to stop pretending and start living here to talk about the real, the messy, magical, and meaningful stuff most people avoid or are uncomfortable to speak about. Each episode offers unfiltered insights, personal lessons, and healing conversations that help you feel like you're not crazy, ready to awaken your true self and live life in a bold, courageous way.  Whether you’re in a healing season or a breakthrough moment, this is your reminder: You’re not alone. And your truth? That’s the shit that matters.

  1. 3D AGO

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 7 The “What Am I Doing With My Life?” Phase Explained

    You’re Not Lost — You’re in the Part No One Talks About If you’ve been feeling stuck, behind, or like you should have things figured out by now… this episode is going to hit. Because what if nothing is actually wrong? In Episode 7 of The Honest Middle series, Ana breaks down the truth about the in-between phase—the space where your old life no longer fits, but your next chapter hasn’t fully arrived yet. This is the part most people try to rush, fix, or escape. But what if this phase isn’t a problem… and the only thing making it harder is the pressure you’re putting on yourself to figure it out? This episode will help you understand what’s really happening in your mind, your body, and your identity—and how to move through it with more trust, clarity, and ease. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:  Why feeling “lost” is often a sign you’re evolving  What’s actually happening in the in-between phase  How urgency is keeping you stuck  Forcing clarity vs. allowing it  Why trust is the missing piece  The 3 ways the universe responds  Navigating identity shifts and grief  Why your purpose isn’t just one thing Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – What the Honest Middle really is 02:30 – The pressure to figure it out 05:00 – This isn’t a problem—it’s a transition 08:00 – Why this phase feels disorienting 11:00 – The “I’m behind” narrative 14:00 – Trust as the missing piece 17:00 – Fear vs. love 20:00 – The universe’s 3 responses 23:00 – Nothing is being withheld 25:30 – Releasing urgency 27:30 – Identity shifts + grief 29:00 – You’re not behind Keywords: identity shift, feeling lost in life, personal growth, self trust, spiritual awakening, life transitions, finding clarity, purpose discovery, human design, emotional healing, identity crisis At some point, you have to stop asking “What am I doing with my life?” and actually do something about it. If you’ve been stuck in the loop—thinking, journaling, talking—and still waking up in the same place, this is your move. This session cuts through the noise, gets honest about what you want, and locks in your next step. You’ll leave with clarity, direction, and a plan you can actually move on. You don’t need more information. You need to see clearly and move. 👉 Book your “What Am I Doing With My Life?” Session here: https://www.lightoasis.co/what-am-i-doing-with-my-life-session  Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    30 min

  2. MAR 24

    The Honest Middle Ep. 6 | Living in Alignment (Without Burning It Down)

    You’ve done the work. You’ve awakened. You know something is shifting… But your life still looks the same. Welcome to Episode 6 of The Honest Middle series, where we talk about the part no one prepares you for…👉 the in-between The space where your identity is evolving, but your reality hasn’t caught up yet. In this episode, Ana breaks down how to start living differently without burning your entire life down and why the real transformation happens through micro shifts, not massive overhauls. We explore how to stop abandoning yourself in everyday moments, how to trust your body over conditioning, and how tools like Human Design can help you make aligned decisions that actually stick. If you’ve been asking: “Do I stay? Do I go? Where do I even start?” This episode is your grounded, no-BS answer. ✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode  Why you don’t need to burn your life down to become who you’re becoming  The power of micro shifts rooted in truth How to stop living from “shoulds” and start living from alignment What it actually looks like to trust your body in real time How Human Design helps you make decisions with clarity and confidence  Why you feel like you’re failing (and why you’re actually not)  The difference between awareness vs. embodiment How to begin rewriting your identity through action⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome + what “The Honest Middle” really is 02:15 – The moment where everything feels different… but nothing has changed 04:30 – Do you burn it all down or stay? The real question 06:00 – Why you don’t need to blow up your life to change it 08:10 – Micro shifts: the real path to transformation 11:45 – What alignment actually looks like in everyday moments 15:20 – Letting go of people-pleasing + embracing discomfort 18:40 – Human Design explained simply (and why it matters) 23:10 – The 5 Human Design types + how they make decisions 29:30 – Why you feel like you’re failing (but aren’t) 34:15 – Awareness vs. embodiment: where most people get stuck 39:00 – Boundaries, identity, and real-life integration 45:10 – How to start living your new identity today 49:30 – Invitation into deeper work (Discovering You) 🔗 Resources & Links ✨ Get your free Human Design chart:  https://www.lightoasis.co/freehd ✨ Explore Discovering You (next-level integration + embodiment work) join the Waitlist: https://www.lightoasis.co/discovering-you-live  🔑 Keywords  identity shift, personal growth, self trust, human design, alignment, embodiment, nervous system, self awareness, transformation, boundaries, healing journey, spiritual growth, life transitions, becoming your highest self, mindset shifts Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    30 min

  3. MAR 10

    The Honest Middle Ep. 5 | Why Clarity Comes After Action (Stop Waiting to Feel Ready)

    In this episode of The Honest Middle series on The Shit That Matters Podcast, I talk about one of the most important turning points in personal growth: the moment when awareness alone is no longer enough. There comes a point in healing where autopilot has turned off. You’re more aware of your patterns, your identity, and the ways you’ve been moving through life. But instead of moving forward, many people get stuck in a space of waiting. Waiting to feel clear. Waiting to feel confident. Waiting to feel ready. What I’ve learned in my own journey and through working with clients is that clarity doesn’t arrive first. Clarity is built through actively participating in your life again. In this episode, I talk about why self-awareness can sometimes turn into overthinking, how the nervous system can get stuck in a freeze state during personal growth, and why identity is rebuilt through experience rather than analysis. When you start experimenting with small decisions, setting boundaries, listening to your energy, and showing up differently in your relationships and daily life, something powerful begins to happen. You collect proof. You rebuild self-trust. And slowly, your new identity begins to form. If you’ve been feeling like you’re somewhere between who you were and who you’re becoming, this conversation will help you understand why that space exists and how to move through it. In This Episode • Why personal growth can feel confusing during the “in-between” phase • How waiting for clarity keeps people stuck in the healing process • The difference between self-awareness and overthinking • How the nervous system can enter a freeze state during identity shifts • Why identity is rebuilt through real-life experiences • Learning to listen to your body, energy, and internal cues • Reclaiming your authority and decision-making power • Small habits and experiments that rebuild self-trust • Why actively participating in your life changes everything Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to The Honest Middle series 02:00 The turning point in personal growth 04:00 Why waiting for clarity keeps people stuck 06:00 When self-awareness turns into overthinking 08:00 Nervous system freeze during healing and growth 10:00 What participating in your life again looks like 14:00 Why identity is rebuilt through experience 18:00 Reclaiming your authority and decision-making power 24:00 Small habits that rebuild self-trust 30:00 When life starts feeling alive again 33:00 Discovering You and next steps Ready to Go Deeper? If this episode resonated with you, there’s a good chance you’re exactly the kind of person I created Discovering You for. Discovering You is a space for people who can feel something shifting inside of them, even if they can’t fully articulate it yet. Maybe your old identity isn’t fitting anymore. Maybe the way you used to move through life just isn’t working the same way. Inside Discovering You, we explore your patterns, energy, voice, values, and purpose so you can begin building a life that actually reflects who you are becoming. You can join the wai Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    26 min

  4. MAR 2

    PCOS, Fertility, and the Quiet Grief

    This week’s episode is tender. Raw. Real-time. I’m recording this from day two of my period after a month that felt different, more connected, more hopeful, more in tune with my body than ever before. As a 34-year-old woman who has lived with PCOS since I was 16, I’m opening up about fertility, irregular cycles, shame, self-trust, and what it means to love your body even when it doesn’t do what you hoped it would. This is not a teaching episode.  There’s no framework.  No steps. Just me telling the truth. Timestamps: 00:00 – A tender content note + why this episode feels so alive for me  03:45 – Getting my first period at nine + feeling “different” early on  08:10 – PCOS symptoms at 16 + years of dismissal before my diagnosis  13:30 – The years I was angry at my body + living in stress mode  18:45 – Learning self-compassion + what whole human healing means to me  24:20 – Why this cycle felt different + the hope of “maybe this time”  28:15 – The moment with Gino that shifted something in both of us  33:40 – The hard conversations about fertility + wondering if I was “enough”  39:10 – Day two grief + choosing not to hate myself  43:50 – GLP-1, PCOS, and removing shame from getting support  48:30 – Holding hope and grief in the same body  52:00 – The quiet, private moments that actually matter This episode is about becoming anchored in myself, especially in the moments no one else sees. It’s about not abandoning myself when life doesn’t unfold on my timeline. If you’re navigating fertility, diagnosis, timing, body changes, or hard relationship conversations, I hope this makes you feel less alone. You are not broken. You are not alone. This is the shit that matters. 💛 Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    37 min

  5. FEB 24

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 4 The Identity Shift You Didn’t See Coming

    You’ve turned off autopilot. Awareness has kicked in. You’ve done “the work.” And now… something feels different. In this fourth episode of The Honest Middle series, Ana dives into the subtle but disorienting identity shift that happens in the space between who you were and who you’re becoming. Nothing dramatic explodes around you. Your house is the same. Your friends are the same. Your job might even be the same. But you? You’re not. Ana unpacks: Why identity shifts feel unsettling (even when they’re healthy)The nervous system response to outgrowing old labelsHow predictable but misaligned identities keep us stuckThe difference between shrinking back and rushing forwardWhy integration time is non-negotiableA personal story of releasing her old career identity and softening into a new version of herselfThis episode is about the quiet, internal reorganization that happens when you stop performing and start becoming. If you’ve found yourself thinking: “Why am I reacting differently lately?”“Why doesn’t this fit anymore?”“Who even am I right now?”You’re not broken. You’re integrating. ✨ Reflection Question from this episode: When you’re not performing, over-functioning, or proving… who are you at your core? If this resonates, Discovering You Live will be opening soon!!! Join the waitlist HERE. This work is exactly what we explore inside the container. Stay present. Stay curious. Stay steady. You’re in the middle and this is the part that matters. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    32 min

  6. FEB 17

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 3 Doing The Work But Still Feeling "Off"

    You’re doing the healing work. You’re more self-aware.  You’ve let go of old habits.  You’re growing. So why do you still feel off? In this episode of The Honest Middle, we’re talking about identity shifts, nervous system recalibration, and the uncomfortable middle phase of personal growth. When autopilot no longer works and your old coping mechanisms fall away, your identity begins to reorganize. That process can feel disorienting — even when everything looks “fine” on the outside. Inside this episode, we explore: Why growth can feel heavier than expectedWhat it means to outgrow your old baselineHow repatterning your identity takes timeThe difference between surface-level change and embodied growthWhy feeling off doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means you’re expandingIf you’re in the in-between season of becoming, this conversation will meet you there. ✨ Discovering You — LIVE was created for this exact phase.  Join the waitlist here: https://www.lightoasis.co/discovering-you-live Next up: Episode 4 dives into releasing the old version of you — with respect. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    35 min

  7. FEB 12

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 2 Awareness Will Disrupt You

    Awareness isn’t soft at first. It’s disruptive. In Episode 2 of The Honest Middle, we’re talking about what happens after autopilot stops working. When you start noticing your patterns. Your numbing. The conversations that drain you. The ways you’ve been tolerating what no longer fits. Waking up doesn’t instantly feel peaceful. It can feel anxious. Disorienting. Urgent. In this episode, Ana breaks down: Why awareness can feel worse before it feels betterThe difference between urgency and intuitionWhy drastic decisions aren’t the same as alignmentHow nervous system capacity builds real self-trustWhat integration actually looks like in real lifeIf you’ve been questioning more, noticing more, and feeling less certain — this isn’t regression. It’s growth. You can’t go back to sleep. You’re in the middle — and this is where your next level forms. Discovering You — LIVE was created for this exact season. The waitlist is open now!  Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    20 min

  8. FEB 4

    The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 1 When Autopilot Stops Working

    There’s a moment in life when the ways you used to get through the day - pushing, numbing, keeping it moving - stop working. It feels quiet... like something in your body is saying, we’re done doing it this way. In this episode of The Shit That Matters, we explore that moment—when autopilot shuts off and awareness turns on. This conversation opens The Honest Middle, a new podcast series focused on the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. The season where you know you can’t go back to how things were, but you don’t yet know what’s next. We talk about what happens when survival mode stops feeling supportive, why this in-between season feels disorienting, and how learning to stay present here changes the way you live your life moving forward. This episode is also created in honor of Discovering You — LIVE, a space designed for people navigating this exact moment. The waitlist is now open and linked here: DISCOVERING YOU -- LIVE Waitlist If you’re feeling more aware, more honest, and unsure how to move forward without rushing—this episode is for you. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/

    28 min
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Welcome to The Shit That Matters with Anamaria Velasquez, the podcast for rule-breakers, deep feelers, and soul-led humans ready to stop pretending and start living here to talk about the real, the messy, magical, and meaningful stuff most people avoid or are uncomfortable to speak about. Each episode offers unfiltered insights, personal lessons, and healing conversations that help you feel like you're not crazy, ready to awaken your true self and live life in a bold, courageous way.  Whether you’re in a healing season or a breakthrough moment, this is your reminder: You’re not alone. And your truth? That’s the shit that matters.

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  • Creator
    Anamaria Velasquez
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Shit That Matters
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