African Men Speak

Ralph Ofuyo

A journey exploring African masculinity through research, conversations, and personal reflection. The show examines what it means to be an African man today, drawing on academic studies and diverse perspectives from across the continent's rich cultures. Covering topics from personal growth and fatherhood to identity, vulnerability, and accountability. Hosted by a former humanitarian worker turned stay-at-home dad, this programme explores what it means to be a man today, engaging with nuance and difficult truths.

  1. 5d ago

    In Conversation #008: On Fatherhood, Healing and Showing Up | John Kanyoni

    In this eighth episode of our "In Conversation" series, I speak with John Kanyoni, a Kenyan author, counsellor, masculinity mentor and founder of Safe Haven Nurtures, where he works with teenage boys, men, couples and families. In this conversation, John reflects on the experiences that led him into this work, beginning with his own upbringing and his determination to be a different kind of father to his children. He speaks about the challenges he faced balancing work and family, and how those experiences eventually led him into mentoring men and boys. Drawing on more than a decade of experience, John discusses the pressure men face to prove themselves through money, status and professional success, often at the expense of their relationships. He introduces what he calls the three A's — acceptance, affection and affirmation — and explains why their absence can leave men searching for recognition and belonging elsewhere. We explore the difference between providing for a family and being present, the importance of connecting with children before correcting them, and how parents sometimes pass on expectations and behaviours they themselves grew up with. John also discusses his two-year mentorship programme for teenage boys and his book, Man – Show Up: A Journey to Authentic Masculinity. The conversation then turns to marriage and relationships: how expectations change, why communication breaks down, and how couples can become so focused on each other's shortcomings that they overlook their own contributions to the difficulties they face. John explains how he draws on professional counselling, personal experience and Christian faith to help couples better understand themselves and each other. Towards the end, we discuss why men need trusted spaces where they can speak openly, seek support and hold one another accountable. For John, the changes he has witnessed in men and families over the years remain a reason for hope. At its heart, this is a conversation about fatherhood, responsibility, relationships and what it means for men to show up for the people in their lives. Book recommendations: "Dad is Destiny" by Simon Mbevi"Healing the Masculine Soul" by Gordon Dalbey"To Be A Man" by Robert Augustus Masters"Understanding The Purpose and Power of Men" by Dr. Myles Munroe

    In Conversation #008: On Fatherhood, Healing and Showing Up | John Kanyoni

  2. Oct 4

    In Conversation #007: On Music, Memory & Identity | Furaha Ruguru/LaMusicJunkie

    In this seventh episode of our "In Conversation" series, Furaha Rugura takes us through her decade-long journey documenting Kenyan music through LaMusicJunkie. What began as music journalism gradually became something broader: an exploration of culture, history, language and identity. Furaha traces that journey from growing up in urban Nairobi without speaking Kikuyu, through the frustration of feeling excluded from family conversations, to deliberately learning the language as an adult. She explains how music became one of the tools that helped her reconnect — first with language, and eventually with the histories and traditions carried inside it. The conversation expands into Kenya's musical past, why many Kenyans can name global African icons but struggle to name earlier Kenyan musicians, and what is gained when old sounds are not merely preserved but allowed to evolve. Furaha also talks about creating TaaRnB, her attempt to explore the relationship between taarab and contemporary R&B, and the process that led to her single Sirudi.  Later, we discuss what she wants to pass to her son — language, culture, freedom, community and closeness to nature — and how parents can bring children into their own worlds rather than creating an entirely separate one for them.  Near the end, Furaha reduces much of the conversation to one word: jikumbuke. There are still breadcrumbs leading back — through music, food, stories, architecture, language, art and family — if we decide to follow them

    In Conversation #007: On Music, Memory & Identity | Furaha Ruguru/LaMusicJunkie

  3. Sep 27

    In Conversation #006: On Fatherhood, Discipline & Legacy | Sidney Osundwa

    In this episode of the African Men Speak "In Conversation" series, Sidney Osundwa shares his story and experience on fatherhood across three generations. The conversation explores memories of Sidney's grandfather and father, becoming a husband and parent himself, changing approaches to discipline, the importance of education and faith, the pressures of providing for a family, and the hope of leaving a positive legacy for the next generation. Rather than offering definitive answers, the discussion reflects on how family experiences shape the fathers we become.

    In Conversation #006: On Fatherhood, Discipline & Legacy | Sidney Osundwa

  4. Sep 6

    In Conversation #005 — On Identity, Faith and the Power of Stories | Prof. Akosua Adomako Ampofo

    Professor Akosua Adomako Ampofo joins me for a wide-ranging conversation about identity, power, faith, masculinity and the stories through which we understand ourselves and others. We begin with her idea of the classroom as an activist space and what decades of teaching have taught her about listening, disagreement and changing minds. That takes us into questions of faith, doubt and belonging: why changing a belief can be difficult when that belief also connects us to family, religion and community. We then turn to African masculinities and Prof. Ampofo's longstanding work on men and gender. Drawing on her research with young African men, we explore one particularly persistent expectation: that a man must provide. We discuss why unemployed men are judged differently from unemployed women as prospective partners, whether the male-breadwinner model is really as traditionally African as we sometimes assume, and how colonialism, religion and changing economic realities have shaped our ideas about men's roles. That leads naturally into fatherhood. What happens when we measure a father's contribution primarily through money? What value do we place on presence, care and the relationship a man builds with his children? And what does the contemporary manosphere offer men when so much of its vision of masculinity revolves around status, wealth and control? Finally, we discuss Prof. Ampofo's growing work in film and storytelling, including 715House, which she co-founded with filmmaker Akosua-Asamoabea Ampofo. We talk about music and popular culture, why stories can make academic ideas tangible, and why theory and lived experience need not exist in separate worlds. We close with three books: Peace Adzo Medie's His Only Wife, Ngũgĩ wa Thiong'o's Wizard of the Crow, and James Baldwin's Go Tell It on the Mountain. A conversation about masculinity, but also about something broader: how our identities are formed, what makes beliefs difficult to change, and the institutions, communities and stories that shape the way we see the world.

    In Conversation #005 — On Identity, Faith and the Power of Stories | Prof. Akosua Adomako Ampofo

  5. Jul 22

    In Conversation #004 - On Opportunity, Boys and the Future | Dr Mzamo Masito

    In this episode of African Men Speak, I sit down with Dr Mzamo Masito, founder of African Men Care and author of This Country Hates Our Boys. Together we explore opportunity, social fatherhood, mentorship, education, identity and what it means to help boys and young people thrive.  Rather than searching for easy answers, this conversation asks how families, communities and institutions can create the conditions for young people to flourish.

    In Conversation #004 - On Opportunity, Boys and the Future | Dr Mzamo Masito

  6. Jul 13

    In Conversation #003 - On Home, Belonging & Parenthood | Janet Karanja

    Janet Karanja left Kenya as a young woman, excited by the promise of building a future in the United States. Today, she is a mother, business owner, realtor, and autism advocate living in Orlando, Florida. In this conversation, Janet reflects on what life abroad actually demands: building a business, raising Black boys, navigating autism and education systems, confronting racism, and preserving African identity while adapting to a new home. We discuss the realities often missing from diaspora success stories, including the absence of extended-family support, the pressure placed on parents, and the difficult balance between protecting children and preparing them for the world. Janet also speaks candidly about her husband’s role as a father, what both of them have learned while raising their sons, and the importance of responsibility, discipline, culture, and self-advocacy. This is a conversation about migration, but more fundamentally, it is about adaptation, family, identity, and what it takes to build a life far from home. Books mentioned: The Out-of-Sync Child — Carol Stock Kranowitz Discipline Is Destiny — Ryan Holiday

    In Conversation #003 - On Home, Belonging & Parenthood | Janet Karanja

  7. May 31 ·  Bonus

    AMS Essays #001 - What Are We Building?

    What does cycling have to do with masculinity? More than I expected. This essay began with a simple observation: some roads seem built to last, while others never seem to get there. That question led me into a wider conversation about infrastructure, stewardship, power, responsibility, and the kinds of societies we choose to build. Moving between cycling, governance, Ubuntu, and African Masculinities, this episode asks a simple question: What are we building? African Men Speak is a long-form podcast exploring African Masculinities, identity, culture, history, and the systems that shape the lives of African men and women. A special thank you to Frank Ongeri and the team at The Cycling Network K.E — a great bunch of riders doing honest, grounded cycling content out of Kenya. Frank's generous contribution, professionalism, patience, and willingness to be a part of this essay went well beyond what was asked. Go find them on YouTube:   / @thecycling_network.k.e

    AMS Essays #001 - What Are We Building?

  8. May 10

    Five Questions #012 – "True masculinity starts with self-understanding” – Kenyan Man (Diaspora)

    In this twelfth episode of our Five Questions series, a Kenyan man in the diaspora reflects on masculinity through the lenses of leadership, emotional growth, family responsibility, and self-understanding. Raised in a female-dominated household without a father figure, he explains how masculinity for him became rooted in the ability to lead, provide, and protect — not only financially, but emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The conversation explores how marriage counselling challenged inherited ideas about masculinity, helping him become more aware of his emotions, communication, and relationships. He discusses tensions between traditional African expectations of men and more contemporary understandings of vulnerability, affection, and emotional openness. Grounded in personal experience, this episode reflects on masculinity beyond money, status, or physical strength, arguing instead for self-awareness, emotional maturity, and responsibility.

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A journey exploring African masculinity through research, conversations, and personal reflection. The show examines what it means to be an African man today, drawing on academic studies and diverse perspectives from across the continent's rich cultures. Covering topics from personal growth and fatherhood to identity, vulnerability, and accountability. Hosted by a former humanitarian worker turned stay-at-home dad, this programme explores what it means to be a man today, engaging with nuance and difficult truths.

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  • Creator
    Ralph Ofuyo
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    26
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Ralph Ofuyo
  • Show Website
    African Men Speak