Have you ever felt anger hit you so fast you didn’t even see it coming, and then felt ashamed for feeling it at all? Anger isn’t a character flaw, it’s a normal human emotion, and physicians feel it more than we like to admit. In this episode of Better Physician Life, Dr. Michael Hersh explains why anger often arrives as a secondary emotion covering disappointment, fear, shame, or loss of control, why suppressing it leads to sarcasm, impatience, or snapping, and how it leaks sideways when we refuse to acknowledge it. You’ll learn that anger is a messenger, not the enemy, and that real control comes from slowing down the moment: interrupting the physiological reflex, naming what you feel, asking what’s underneath, choosing when to address it, and repairing when you miss the mark. This isn’t about never feeling angry, it’s about responding with intention instead of reacting on autopilot, both at work and at home. Free 5-Minute Commute Reset for Physicians: betterphysicianlife.com/commutereset Top 3 Takeaways Anger is rarely the first emotion, it’s the cover. It often sits on top of something quieter like disappointment, fear, shame, or feeling out of control. When you only manage the anger, you miss the real message. Ask: “What just happened inside me? What felt threatened?”Suppressing anger doesn’t make you calmer, it makes it leak sideways: It shows up as sarcasm, impatience, rigidity, or snapping at the people you care about most. The goal isn’t to eliminate anger; it’s to slow down enough to choose what happens next.A pause is power, not weakness. Notice your body (tight jaw, clenched hands), take a breath, name what you’re feeling, and decide: address now or later? Delaying with intention “I want to talk about this, but not like this” protects relationships and restores clarity.About the Show: Created for physicians who want more than clinical competence, Better Physician Life is a space for honest reflection, reinvention, and reclaiming purpose beyond the pager. Hosted by Dr. Michael Hersh, each episode dives into the questions we didn’t learn to ask in training, offering tools and conversations to help you live and lead with intention. About the Host: Dr. Michael Hersh is a full-time practicing gastroenterologist, husband, father, podcaster, and physician coach at Better Physician Life Coaching. He helps physicians rediscover joy and balance by setting meaningful goals, managing stress, and feeling more present at home and less annoyed and frustrated at work. His mission is to help doctors who feel stuck in medicine create a more fulfilling life that they actually enjoy living. Through coaching and conversation, he empowers physicians to reconnect with their purpose and design a career (and life) they love. Dr. Hersh is also the creator and host of the Better Physician Life podcast: How to Get Unstuck in Your Medical Career—a show for doctors who feel out of sync or stuck, and want to explore what true success can look like beyond the exam room. 🔗 Connect with Dr. Hersh: 🌐 Website: www.betterphysicianlife.com 🔗 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/michael-hersh-md 📸 Instagram: @betterphysicianlife 📺 YouTube: @betterphysicianlife 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/betterphysicianlifecoaching 📱TikTok: @betterphysicianlife If you find yourself walking through the door still stuck in work mode, check out the 5-Minute Commute Reset for Physicians. Work doesn’t end on its own. This is a short, structured reset you can use on the drive home to shut down work-mode, clear your head, and show up more present for whatever comes next. You can download it for free at: https://www.betterphysicianlife.com/commute-reset The Better Physician Life Podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute medical, legal, or professional advice. Always consult qualified professionals regarding your personal or organizational decisions. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
