The Choice Space

Dr Lee David

The Choice Space is a podcast for busy people who want to pause, reset and make wise choices — without overhauling their lives to get there. Hosted by Dr Lee David — GP, CBT therapist and author — each episode offers practical tools, expert insights and evidence-based strategies to support your mental wellbeing, energy and focus. From burnout and boundaries to healthy habits, menopause and inner critics, this is your space to reflect and move forward — one small, meaningful step at a time.

  1. Sep 23

    Why We Don't Need To Be Superhuman

    What if pushing ourselves harder isn’t actually helping us perform at our best?  In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Susie Muir, palliative care doctor and professional life and leadership coach, about why doing more, multitasking and pushing through exhaustion can undermine our performance – and what can help us work and live more effectively instead. We look at why rest and recovery aren’t about lowering our standards, but can be essential for sustaining them. Understanding our own capacity, strengths and what gives or drains our energy can help us decide where to put our effort – rather than expecting ourselves to keep doing everything, all of the time. We also consider what happens to our brains under pressure – why multitasking is really rapid task switching, how too much stress can affect memory, decision making and insight and why this can make it particularly difficult to recognise when we need to step away and recover. Drawing on thousands of conversations with people approaching the end of life, the discussion widens to what success really means and what matters when we look back on our lives. Connection, everyday moments and making space for what we genuinely value can easily be lost when productivity and busyness take over. This is a conversation about redefining high performance – not by achieving less, but by finding more sustainable ways to pursue what matters without expecting ourselves to be superhuman. Key moments 01:08 Why we strive to be superhuman 04:46 Rest, recovery and performance 09:40 Why connection matters 11:44 Lessons from palliative care 17:28 Rethinking high performance 22:52 Strengths, values and priorities 25:40 Boundaries and saying yes 27:05 The problem with multitasking 31:52 How stress affects performance 36:25 Recognising signs of overload 42:45 Permission to be human About Dr Susie Muir Dr Susie Muir has been a doctor for 20 years and is dual trained in general practice and palliative care. She is also a professional life and leadership coach, focusing on leading ourselves in order to lead others. Drawing on her experience in healthcare and thousands of conversations with people at the end of their lives, Susie is determined to support people to perform at their best at home, at work and in life. You can connect with Susie via her website, LinkedIn or Instagram About the host Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david

    Why We Don't Need To Be Superhuman
  2. Sep 9

    Exploring the Science of Blue Health

    How can being around water have such a powerful effect on how we think, feel and relate to others? In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with blue health coach, ocean advocate and author Lizzi Larbalestier about our relationship with water and what the growing science of blue health can tell us about its effects on our minds, bodies and behaviour. Research suggests that being near the sea, rivers and lakes can influence our mood and thinking, encourage physical activity and play, stimulate creativity and even change the way we interact with other people. But blue health isn’t only about getting to the coast. Water is part of our everyday environment – in rain and clouds, showers, fountains, canals and the water we drink. Paying more attention to it can engage our senses, create a pause from some of the demands around us and open up different ways of thinking. Water can also offer a vivid reminder of movement and change. Waves rise and fall, rivers flow and even the stillest lake is continually shifting. When we are searching for certainty in a world that is constantly changing, perhaps the more useful goal is clarity – helping us see what matters and choose how we want to move forwards. Our experiences around water can also shape our relationship with the natural world. As places become more familiar and meaningful to us, we may become more curious about them, more aware of the life they support and more motivated to protect them. An engaging exploration of the science of blue health and the surprising ways water can influence our everyday lives. Key moments 00:49 Why does water affect our wellbeing? 05:45 The science of blue health 09:32 Why connection to nature matters 10:49 Blue health beyond the coast 15:38 Why do ideas come in the shower? 19:24 The Choice Pause – creating space through water 21:19 What water teaches us about change 25:54 Water and the nervous system 29:54 The emotional range of water 31:07 Why we protect what we love 36:22 The surprising power of everyday water 38:10 Bringing more fluidity into our lives About the guest  Lizzi Larbalestier is an award-winning ICF Blue Health Coach, marine-based change facilitator and author of The Healing Power of Water: The Essential Guide to Blue Health. She coaches individuals and trains professional coaches at the coast in the UK and overseas. Her work brings together blue health, environmental psychology and ocean advocacy, using water and coastal environments to explore how we think, make decisions and respond to uncertainty and change. Her approach also makes space for curiosity, philosophical discussion and playfulness, while encouraging a deeper connection with the natural world. You can connect with Lizzi via her website, Instagram or sign up to her newsletter. About the host Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david

    Exploring the Science of Blue Health
  3. Jun 24

    Why Becoming A New Parent Can Feel So Hard

    Becoming a parent is one of life's biggest transitions. Alongside the practical changes of caring for a new baby can come profound shifts in identity, relationships, emotions and mental health. In this episode, perinatal psychologist Julianne Boutaleb joins Dr Lee David to explore why this period can feel so challenging and why many new parents are surprised by the intensity of the experience. From changes in the brain and heightened sensitivity to uncertainty through to sleep deprivation, relationship changes and the loss of the village that once helped families raise children, the conversation explores some of the reasons life with a new baby can feel harder than expected. Julianne explains how modern parents often place enormous pressure on themselves to get everything right. They discuss perfectionism, social comparison and the belief that we should somehow instinctively know how to care for a baby. The discussion highlights why babies do not need perfect parents and how the idea of "good enough" parenting may be more helpful than many people realise. The episode also explores the importance of connection and support. Julianne reflects on the role of partners, family, friends and wider communities in helping parents navigate the emotional ups and downs of early parenthood. She explains why asking for help can be difficult and why many parents mistakenly believe they should be able to manage alone. Lee and Julianne also discuss perinatal mental health, including anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts and birth trauma. They explore how to recognise when additional support may be needed and why early support can make a meaningful difference. This is a thoughtful conversation about the emotional realities of life with a new baby and a reminder that finding this period difficult is often a reflection of the scale of the transition rather than a sign that something has gone wrong. And you can read Julianne's poem, Little Stranger, here in in our blog. Key moments 00:00 The reality of becoming a parent 03:05 Why the transition feels so challenging 06:17 Uncertainty and loss of control 08:53 The support new parents need 12:07 Comparison and parenting pressure 17:00 How parenthood changes the brain 19:58 Why babies don't need perfect parents 23:58 The importance of a village 29:19 Small moments of support and kindness 31:22 Recognising perinatal mental health difficulties 36:24 Growth and change through parenthood 38:27 Choice Space takeaway About the guest Julianne Boutaleb is a consultant perinatal psychologist and founder and clinical director of Parenthood In Mind. With more than 24 years' experience across the NHS and private practice, she specialises in supporting parents and parents-to-be with perinatal mental health difficulties including anxiety, depression, birth trauma, PTSD, tokophobia, reproductive loss, fertility treatment, attachment difficulties and relationship challenges. Julianne has a particular interest in the impact of birth trauma on parents, couple relationships and parent-infant attachment, and has extensive experience teaching and training health professionals in perinatal mental health, attachment and early years wellbeing. She works with individuals, couples and families using a range of evidence-based approaches including CBT, ACT, compassion-focused therapy and attachment-based interventions. You can contact her via the Parenthood in Mind Website, LinkedIn and Instagram About the host Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david

    Why Becoming A New Parent Can Feel So Hard
  4. Jun 17

    How ADHD Can Be Missed in Quiet Women

    Some women spend years wondering why everyday life feels more difficult than it seems to for other people. They may appear calm, capable and organised on the outside, yet privately struggle with overwhelm, overthinking, self-criticism and exhaustion. In this episode, Dr Lee David is joined by Gabrielle Treanor, ADHD coach, author and founder of the Quiet ADHD Club, to explore how ADHD can be missed in quiet, introverted and sensitive women. Diagnosed herself at 48, Gabrielle reflects on why many women do not recognise themselves in common ADHD stereotypes. The discussion explores how ADHD may be hidden behind competence, people-pleasing, perfectionism and a lifelong effort to appear as though everything is under control. The conversation looks at masking, rejection sensitivity, burnout, hyperfocus and the impact of living for years without understanding why certain aspects of life feel harder than they seem to for others. It also explores the relationship between ADHD, menopause and the inner critic, and how understanding what is happening can bring relief, self-compassion and a different way of viewing ourselves. Practical strategies are woven throughout the discussion, including creating space for joy and creativity, recognising rejection sensitivity, using movement to support regulation, managing time blindness and building compassionate approaches that reduce pressure rather than adding to it. This is a thoughtful conversation about self-understanding, compassion and recognising ADHD beyond the stereotypes. Key moments 00:00 Finding the quiet ADHD story 01:58 Gabrielle's late ADHD diagnosis 05:30 How ADHD can look different in women 08:56 The hidden inner experience of ADHD 12:25 Perfectionism, masking and the inner critic 14:05 Burnout and unmet potential 18:46 Why joy matters for the ADHD brain 23:07 Rejection sensitivity and relationships 29:40 Self-compassion and regulation 35:04 Time blindness and overcommitting 37:55 Hyperfocus and healthy boundaries 40:59 Movement as a regulation tool About the guest Gabrielle Treanor is a coach, writer, author and podcaster based in Wales, specialising in supporting introverted and sensitive women who discover – or suspect – they have ADHD later in life. Diagnosed herself at 48, Gabrielle hosts the Quiet ADHD Club, works one to one with coaching clients, and has an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology. She is the author of The 1% Wellness Experiment and host of the Pressing Pause podcast. She is also creating the Better Read Book Fest – the UK’s first literary festival dedicated entirely to wellbeing books. You can connect with Gabrielle via her website, Instagram and LinkedIn About the host Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david

    How ADHD Can Be Missed in Quiet Women
  5. Jun 10

    The Hidden Emotions Behind Clutter

    When does clutter become more than too much stuff? For many people, clutter is simply a practical challenge. But for others, it can become linked to grief, shame, overwhelm, changing identities and life experiences that are much harder to untangle than the possessions themselves. In this episode, Dr Lee David is joined by professional organiser and author Lesley Spellman to explore the hidden emotions behind clutter. The conversation looks beyond the practical task of tidying and asks why it can feel so difficult to let things go in the first place. They discuss how possessions can become connected to memories, hopes for the future and versions of ourselves that are hard to leave behind. The episode explores why clutter may build up during periods of stress, poor mental health, trauma or loss, and why simply trying to become more organised rarely addresses what is happening underneath. Lee and Lesley reflect on the role of shame and self-criticism, how clutter can affect confidence and relationships, and why many people find it difficult to ask for help. They also discuss the comfort that possessions can sometimes provide, and how that comfort can gradually become something that limits the life we want to live. The conversation explores why small, manageable steps are often more effective than dramatic clear-outs, how confidence can grow through practice and why understanding the emotions attached to our belongings can make change feel more possible. Rather than focusing solely on creating a tidier home, this episode reflects on how creating space in our environment can sometimes create more room for connection, wellbeing and the things that matter most. Key moments 00:00 When clutter becomes a comfort 01:29 A house full of clutter 04:05 Shame and isolation 06:14 Understanding the emotional side of clutter 09:41 Clutter, safety and control 11:30 Clothes, identity and life changes 13:14 Building your decluttering muscle 15:02 Finding your bigger why 19:58 Grief and letting go 26:49 The power of community 28:36 Why small steps matter 31:26 What changes after decluttering 36:41 Where to start About the guest Lesley Spellman is a professional organiser, author and co-founder of The Declutter Hub, a global online membership supporting thousands of people to declutter and simplify their homes. She co‑hosts The Declutter Hub Podcast with Ingrid Jansen, a show ranked in the top 0.5% of podcasts worldwide with over 3 million downloads and more than 400 episodes. Lesley is co‑author of Reset Your Home and also runs The Clutter Fairy, a successful professional organising service operating across the North West and Midlands in the UK. With 16 years of hands-on experience, she helps people move from overwhelm and guilt to calm, confident living. You can contact Lesley via Instagram, Facebook, or the Declutter Hub website About the host Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david

    The Hidden Emotions Behind Clutter
  6. Jun 3

    Why Movement Matters In Midlife

    What if movement in midlife is less about performance – and more about protecting the life you want to live? In this episode of The Choice Space Podcast, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Juliet McGrattan – former GP, runner, coach and author of The Runner’s Guide to Menopause – about why movement becomes especially important during midlife and menopause, and how to approach it in a way that feels realistic and supportive. For many women, movement suddenly feels harder. Energy, motivation, recovery, aches and pains, changing bodies and busy lives can all affect how exercise feels. Others may feel unsure where to begin, particularly if movement has never felt enjoyable or part of their identity. Lee and Juliet explore the many ways movement can support health and wellbeing during midlife – from improving mood, managing stress and supporting social connection, to reducing future risk of conditions such as heart disease, type 2 diabetes and frailty. They discuss why strength, mobility and balance become increasingly important during menopause, and how small, sustainable changes can make a meaningful difference over time. The conversation also reflects on the pressures women often place on themselves around exercise. They discuss moving away from comparison, body shame and perfectionism, and instead finding ways of moving that feel flexible, enjoyable and personally meaningful – whether that means running, walking, strength work or simply starting where you are. This is a thoughtful conversation about meeting your body where it is, valuing movement for what it gives back, and building habits that support the life you want to keep living. Key moments 00:00 Why movement feels harder 04:16 Barriers to exercise in midlife 05:29 Why movement matters for health 09:14 Running as a gift to yourself 11:23 Making running feel enjoyable 13:07 Walking as a starting point 14:12 Listening to your body 16:59 What rest days really mean 19:12 Choice Pause – meeting your body where it is 21:05 Celebrating small wins 22:39 Staying motivated to move 29:14 Strength, mobility and ageing well 35:17 A small first step into movement About the guest Dr Juliet McGrattan is a former GP, award-winning author, international speaker and coach who helps women improve their health and wellbeing through movement. Once an inactive mum and GP, Juliet’s own journey into running led her to become a marathon runner and passionate advocate for women’s health through exercise. She now combines medical knowledge with a practical, accessible approach to movement, helping women feel stronger, healthier and more confident in active lives. Juliet is the resident health expert for 261 Fearless and Women’s Running magazine, co-founder of the UK charity 261 Club UK. SShe is the author of several books including: Sorted: The Active Woman's Guide to Health (2017), and The Runner’s Guide to Menopause: Your essential toolkit for strong, happy and healthy training was published in March 2026.  You can connect with Juliet via her website, Instagram, Facebook or LinkedIn About the host Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david

    Why Movement Matters In Midlife
  7. May 27

    How Stress Becomes Burnout Via The Nervous System

    Many people recognise times when it becomes harder to switch off. We may feel constantly under pressure, more emotionally reactive or as though we are just about keeping up. But sometimes ongoing stress can begin to shift into something else – where we feel more exhausted, detached and less able to think clearly or recover. In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Claire Plumbly, clinical psychologist and author, about how stress can sometimes progress into burnout through its impact on the nervous system. The conversation explores the difference between stress and burnout and how burnout may develop when the nervous system stays under pressure for too long. Lee and Claire discuss the green, amber and red states of the nervous system and how understanding these can help make sense of why coping may suddenly feel harder – or why we may feel more disconnected, overwhelmed or shut down. They also reflect on why burnout is often about more than work alone. Caring responsibilities, parenting, menopause, challenging relationships and the pressure to keep going can all add to the load we are carrying. The discussion explores why feeling heard matters when life feels overwhelming, and practical ways to support recovery – including building small pauses and transition points into busy days. This is a thoughtful conversation about stress, burnout and recovery, offering a more compassionate and realistic way to understand why coping can sometimes start to feel harder. Key moments 00:00 The tennis ball machine analogy 02:46 Stress versus burnout 05:47 The tipping point into burnout 08:01 Burnout beyond paid work 10:47 Burnout and the nervous system 16:37 Green, amber and red zones 18:33 Why we need green to think 22:13 Burnout and trauma parallels 27:07 Relationships and nervous system safety 35:08 “Wow, that’s a lot” 40:02 Transition points and reset About the guest Dr Claire Plumbly is a clinical psychologist, author of the Amazon bestseller Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before It Manages You, and founder of Plum Psychology – a psychology practice for overcoming trauma, burnout, anxiety and low self-esteem. Claire and her team are trauma-trained psychologists offering therapy, workplace workshops and EMDR intensives. She is based online and in Taunton, Somerset.  You can connect with Claire via her website, Instagram, YouTube and LinkedIn  About the host Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david

    How Stress Becomes Burnout Via The Nervous System
  8. May 20

    Why Trauma Often Goes Unseen

    Many people live with patterns of anxiety, stress or physical symptoms without realising that past experiences may still be shaping how they feel today. In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David speaks with Dr Susanna Petche, GP and founder of Trauma Sense, about why trauma is often missed – and how it can affect both mind and body in ways that are not always obvious. The conversation explores how trauma is frequently minimised or overlooked, both by individuals and within wider systems of care. They discuss how experiences that were never fully acknowledged can continue to influence how safe life feels, how we relate to others, and how we see ourselves. They also reflect on how trauma responses can show up in everyday ways – through anxiety, physical symptoms, or reactions that don’t seem to make sense. This includes the role of the body in holding stress, and how triggers can operate outside of conscious awareness. They explore how trauma can remain unrecognised for many years, sometimes being understood as anxiety, depression or physical health problems. This can make it harder for people to make sense of their experiences, and to find the right kind of support. The discussion highlights the importance of being seen and believed, and how simple, human responses can support healing. They explore the role of self-compassion, curiosity and body-based approaches in helping people begin to make sense of their experiences. This is a thoughtful conversation about recognising trauma, offering a more compassionate and realistic way to understand ourselves and others. Key moments 00:00 Personal experience of trauma 04:16 Why trauma is often missed 05:03 Minimising and dismissing trauma 07:28 Trauma and loss of safety 09:17 Why validation matters 10:12 Trauma, shame and self-blame 17:36 Signs of trauma responses 21:57 Understanding triggers 24:01 The Choice Pause 27:46 Self-compassion and healing 32:05 Starting to make sense of trauma About the guest Dr Susanna Petche is a GP with over 25 years’ experience and the founder of Trauma Sense. Her work focuses on improving understanding of trauma and its wider impact on health. She integrates insights from neuroscience, functional medicine and coaching to support individuals and professionals. Through her teaching, speaking and clinical work, she aims to bring greater awareness to how trauma can be recognised and understood in everyday life. You can contact Susanna via her website, Instagram and watch her TEDx talk About the host Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn.  You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here:  https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david

    Why Trauma Often Goes Unseen

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The Choice Space is a podcast for busy people who want to pause, reset and make wise choices — without overhauling their lives to get there. Hosted by Dr Lee David — GP, CBT therapist and author — each episode offers practical tools, expert insights and evidence-based strategies to support your mental wellbeing, energy and focus. From burnout and boundaries to healthy habits, menopause and inner critics, this is your space to reflect and move forward — one small, meaningful step at a time.

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