The Mother Wound Project

Tandi Hartle

Break the Cycle. Reclaim Your Voice. Heal for Good. Welcome to The Mother Wound Project, the podcast for daughters of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable mothers who are ready to stop playing small and start living life on their own terms. Hosted by trauma-informed hypnotherapist and spiritual coach Tandi Hartle, this show dives deep into the hidden wounds, generational patterns, and emotional scars left by dysfunctional mother-daughter relationships, and gives you real, soul-level tools to heal them. Each episode offers powerful insights, raw personal stories, and practical strategies to help you: Recognize the signs of the mother woundBreak free from guilt, perfectionism, and self-abandonmentRewire your subconscious beliefsReclaim your self-worth, voice, and divine feminine powerWhether you're deep in your healing journey or just realizing how your mother’s behavior shaped your identity, this podcast will validate your experience, empower your healing, and guide you back to the woman you were always meant to be. It’s time to stop shrinking yourself for someone who never saw you. New episodes drop weekly. Follow now and start healing.

  1. Why Every Conversation With Your Mom Feels Like a Trap (And How to Stop Getting Pulled In

    4D AGO

    Why Every Conversation With Your Mom Feels Like a Trap (And How to Stop Getting Pulled In

    Ever hang up the phone after talking to your mom and think… what just happened to me? You went in calm. You knew what you wanted to say. And somehow you're the one apologizing, doubting yourself, and replaying the conversation at 2am. In this episode, I break down why conversations with emotionally immature mothers feel like traps, not because you're saying the wrong thing, but because you're stepping into a system that was never designed for mutual understanding. You'll learn: • The 4 most common conversational "trap" dynamics (moving goalposts, emotional courtroom, gotcha questions, rewriting history) • Why you freeze, fawn, or over-explain, even when you promised yourself you wouldn't • Her 5 most common "trap moves" and one-line responses for each • The difference between a relationship and a role, and how to tell which one you're in • A quick self-check to use after every interaction Plus, I share practical tools to stop getting pulled into the old patterns, so you can finally protect your peace without the guilt hangover. 🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED: 📞 Book a Free Discovery Call — Not sure if coaching or hypnotherapy is right for you? Let's talk. This is a free 20-minute conversation where we'll get clear on what's keeping you stuck and whether 1:1 support is your next step. No pressure — just clarity. 👉 Click Here The Mother Wound Survival Kit — Scripts for guilt hooks, victim flips, and baiting conversations + nervous system tools to calm your body when guilt spikes + grounding practices so you don't collapse or second-guess yourself afterward. 👉 Click Here 1:1 Mother Wound Coaching + Hypnotherapy — Personalized support to map your mom's patterns, build your exact exit lines, and rewire the freeze/fawn/over-explain response at the root. This is where we go deep on YOUR specific family dynamic. 👉 Click Here If every conversation with your mom leaves you feeling smaller than when you started, you're not difficult, you're waking up. And you're allowed to choose peace.

    39 min
  2. “It Wasn’t That Bad…” Why You Still Minimize Your Childhood Pain (And How to Finally Heal the Mother Wound)

    FEB 11

    “It Wasn’t That Bad…” Why You Still Minimize Your Childhood Pain (And How to Finally Heal the Mother Wound)

    Do you constantly tell yourself, “Other people had it worse” or “She did her best” even though your body still reacts like it wasn’t okay? In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi breaks down the quiet self-gaslighting that keeps women stuck in emotional loops long after childhood ends. If you grew up with an emotionally immature, narcissistic, or trauma-impacted mother, you may have learned to minimize your pain as a survival strategy. But what kept you safe as a child is now keeping you from healing. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you defend your mother even when she isn’t in the roomHow loyalty conditioning trains you to minimize emotional abuseWhy your nervous system still reacts even when your mind says “it wasn’t that bad”The real turning point in mother wound healingHow to stop protecting her image and start protecting yourselfThis conversation is for women navigating childhood emotional neglect, narcissistic mothers, trauma bonding, loyalty conditioning, and the painful process of telling the truth about their past. You don’t have to label her. You don’t have to hate her. But you do have to stop gaslighting yourself. If you’re ready to stop minimizing your pain and start healing in a grounded, supported way, this episode is for you. If this episode hit something deep, don’t just sit with it alone. Start with the Mother Wound Survival Kit practical nervous system tools, grounding practices, and guided support for when guilt, grief, or anger surfaces. Click Here Or, if you’re ready to go to the root, apply for 1:1 Hypnotherapy + Coaching where we untangle minimization, self-blame, and loyalty conditioning at the subconscious level. Click Here You don’t have to keep carrying what was never yours. Links are in the show notes. It’s time to stop protecting her image, and start protecting your life.

    27 min
  3. How to Stop Feeling Responsible for Her Happiness

    FEB 4

    How to Stop Feeling Responsible for Her Happiness

    Mother Wound Healing, Guilt, and Emotional Responsibility If you’ve spent your life managing your mother’s emotions, walking on eggshells, and feeling crushing guilt anytime you choose yourself....this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we unpack why so many daughters of emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers feel responsible for their parent’s happiness, and why that belief is so hard to shake, even in adulthood. You’ll learn how childhood conditioning turns emotional caretaking into an invisible, unpaid job, why guilt often intensifies when you go low contact or no contact, and how family, religion, and society reinforce the myth that being a “good daughter” means self-sacrifice. We explore: How emotional responsibility gets wired into the nervous systemWhy “just letting it go” doesn’t workThe difference between family roles and real relationshipsWhy guilt shows up even when distance is healthyHow emotional blackmail, religious pressure, and minimization keep women trappedThis episode isn’t about blaming. It’s about clarity, relief, and finally understanding why your body reacts the way it does. If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I feel so guilty when I know I’m doing the right thing?” “Why does choosing myself feel wrong?” “Why can’t I stop worrying about her feelings?” You’re not broken, you were conditioned. Ready for support beyond the episode? ✨ The Mother Wound Survival Kit A trauma-informed starting point with tools to regulate your nervous system, ground yourself when guilt spikes, hold boundaries without collapsing, and stop abandoning yourself to keep others comfortable. Click Here ✨ 1:1 Coaching & Hypnotherapy with Tandi Personalized support to rewire deep emotional patterns formed by emotionally immature or narcissistic parenting, including guilt, people-pleasing, fawning, anxiety, and chronic self-doubt, so healing happens at the root, not just in your head. Click Here You don’t owe anyone your wellbeing. And you don’t have to carry what was never yours to begin with. Subscribe, share this episode with someone who needs it, and take the next step when you’re ready.

    24 min
  4. The Eggshell Dance: Living With Constant Criticism

    JAN 28

    The Eggshell Dance: Living With Constant Criticism

    The Eggshell Dance: Living With Constant Criticism If you grew up feeling like one wrong word, one wrong look, or one wrong move could ruin everything, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project, we unpack what it really means to live in the “eggshell dance," that exhausting, hyper-aware way of being where you’re constantly monitoring tone, timing, and behavior to avoid criticism. This isn’t about occasional conflict. It’s about growing up with chronic criticism from an emotionally immature or narcissistic parent, and how that conditioning follows you into adulthood. We talk about: Why constant criticism trains hypervigilance in the nervous systemHow your parent’s voice becomes the inner critic in your own headWhy feedback feels devastating, even when you’re competent and capableHow walking on eggshells shows up in adult relationships, work, and self-worthThe difference between healthy guidance and shame-based criticismWhy you were never “too sensitive”, you were adaptiveI also share personal stories and explain how this pattern forms at a subconscious and bodily level, not just a mindset level, and what it actually takes to begin stepping off the eggshells for good. If you’re exhausted from trying to get it right, from shrinking yourself to keep the peace, or from hearing a critical voice every time you rest, succeed, or speak up, this episode will help you feel seen and grounded. FREE Discovery Call: Click Here Hypnotherapy & Coaching: Click Here The Mother Wound Survival Kit are available in the show notes if you feel ready to go deeper. Click Here You’re not broken. You adapted. And adaptation can be healed.

    48 min
  5. Why Can’t You Just Let It Go? How Family Minimization Keeps Women Stuck in the Mother Wound

    JAN 21

    Why Can’t You Just Let It Go? How Family Minimization Keeps Women Stuck in the Mother Wound

    Why Can’t You Just Let It Go? How Family Minimization Keeps Women Stuck in the Mother Wound Why is it so easy for everyone else to tell you to “let it go,” yet your body, nervous system, and emotions refuse to move on? In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we unpack why that phrase is one of the most invalidating and damaging messages women hear when healing from an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother. You’ll learn why “just letting it go” isn’t wisdom, it’s emotional, psychological, and spiritual bypassing. We explore how family members, religious conditioning, and social norms pressure women to forgive prematurely, stay quiet, and return to roles that keep dysfunctional systems intact. We also break down the real psychological impact of growing up with emotional neglect, guilt-tripping, enmeshment, and chronic invalidation, including anxiety, rumination, low self-worth, people-pleasing, and identity loss. This episode clarifies the difference between: Emotional processing vs. forced forgivenessForgiveness vs. reconciliationHealing vs. complianceBoundaries vs. punishmentMost importantly, you’ll hear why protection, not endurance, is the foundation of real healing, and why you don’t need permission, consensus, or understanding from others to take your wellbeing seriously. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive,” “holding onto the past,” or “creating drama” for naming harm, this episode is for you. “Why Can’t You Just Let It Go Ready to go deeper? ✨ The Mother Wound Survival Kit A grounded, trauma-informed starting point with tools to calm your nervous system, release guilt, hold boundaries, and stop self-abandoning when pressure shows up. Click Here To Get Your Kit ✨ 1:1 Coaching & Hypnotherapy with Tandi Personalized support to rewire deep patterns formed by emotionally immature or narcissistic parenting, including fawning, people-pleasing, chronic self-doubt, and anxiety, so healing happens at the root. Click Here for a FREE Discovery Call You don’t have to do this alone. And you don’t have to earn your right to heal.

    54 min
  6. Guilt for Pulling Back? The Truth About “Reducing Contact”

    JAN 14

    Guilt for Pulling Back? The Truth About “Reducing Contact”

    Do you feel intense guilt after pulling back from a relationship with your mother, even when you know the relationship is harmful? You’re not imagining it, and you’re not doing anything wrong. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we dive deep into why guilt shows up when daughters of emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers begin reducing contact. We explore how internalized obligation, family pressure, flying monkeys, and societal conditioning keep women trapped in abusive dynamics, and why guilt, while normal, cannot be where you stay if you want to heal. You’ll learn why stepping back often causes your mother’s behavior to escalate, how family members are pulled in to pressure you back into compliance, and why you cannot heal in the same environment that harmed you. This episode validates the guilt while naming the hard truth: unprocessed guilt keeps women stuck in pain, obligation, and self-betrayal. If you’ve struggled with guilt, anxiety, rumination, or fear after setting boundaries or reducing contact, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening—and why choosing yourself is not selfish. Support Your Healing: Mother Wound Survival Kit – A powerful starting point with nervous system tools and support to help you hold boundaries without collapsing into guilthttps://course.themotherwoundproject.com/motherwoundsurvivalkit1:1 Hypnotherapy & Coaching – Deep, personalized work to rewire guilt, people-pleasing, fawning, and childhood conditioning at the roothttps://themotherwoundproject.com/one-on-one-sessions/You’re not wrong for stepping back. You’re choosing healing.

    39 min
  7. How to Stop Over-Explaining Your Boundaries

    JAN 7

    How to Stop Over-Explaining Your Boundaries

    Do you feel anxious after setting a boundary, like you need to explain, justify, or defend yourself just to keep the peace? If you grew up with an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother, over-explaining may feel automatic… but it’s not a communication problem. It’s a trauma response. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we unpack why daughters of emotionally immature mothers over-explain their boundaries, how guilt and fear keep the pattern alive, and what boundaries actually need in order to work, without emotional exhaustion or collapse. You’ll learn how childhood conditioning, fawning, and responsibility for your mother’s emotions trained you to over-justify your needs, why over-explaining hands your power away, and how to interrupt the guilt spiral that follows setting a boundary. This episode focuses on nervous system regulation, internal rewiring, and reclaiming your right to say no without proving your worth. If you struggle with people-pleasing, fawning, guilt after boundaries, or fear of disappointing others, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening and how to start breaking the pattern. Resources & Support: Mother Wound Survival Kit – Scripts and nervous system tools to help you hold boundaries without over-explaining Click HereDaughters Rising Inner Circle – Monthly coaching, sister circles, and live trainings for real-life boundary practice Click Here1:1 Hypnotherapy & Coaching – Deep work to rewire guilt, people-pleasing, and childhood conditioning Click HereYou don’t owe anyone an explanation for protecting your peace.

    52 min
  8. The Silent Treatment: Why It Hurts So Much (and How to Respond)

    12/31/2025

    The Silent Treatment: Why It Hurts So Much (and How to Respond)

    The silent treatment can feel like torture, especially if you grew up with an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother. In this episode, we break down why the silent treatment hurts so deeply, what it reveals about the psychology of the person using it, and how to respond in a way that protects your nervous system, your self-worth, and your identity. You’ll learn how the silent treatment activates old attachment wounds, triggers panic in your body, and reinforces childhood conditioning like over-apologizing, chasing, and people-pleasing. We’ll also unpack how repeated withdrawal and stonewalling can cross the line into emotional abuse, especially when paired with blame-shifting, playing the victim, and using distance as punishment. From there, you’ll get a clear, practical framework for how to respond without abandoning yourself: you’ll learn how to regulate before you react, name what’s really happening, stop chasing, set calm boundaries, and step out of the control dynamic. We’ll also explore what it means when the silent treatment is a long-term patter, and how to start building an “exit strategy” from the dynamic, even if you’re not ready (or able) to leave the relationship right now. If you struggle with: feeling like you’re “too sensitive,” walking on eggshells in relationships, collapsing into shame when someone pulls away, or feeling responsible for fixing everyone else’s emotions, this episode will help you see the pattern clearly and start responding from your empowered adult self, not your scared inner child. Ready to Go Deeper? Grab the Mother Wound Survival Kit Get practical scripts, nervous system grounding tools, and step-by-step support for handling conflict, emotional withdrawal, and triggers with your mother and other key relationships. This is your toolbox for those moments when you’re spiraling and don’t know what to say or do next. Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle If you’re craving community and live support, the Inner Circle gives you coaching, sister circles, and deep healing around boundaries, conflict, and emotional manipulation. You’ll learn how to honor your needs, hold your ground, and stop abandoning yourself in relationships. Work With Me 1:1 For personalized support, you can work with me privately to: rewire abandonment and mother-wound patterns, soothe and regulate your nervous system, and unhook from people-pleasing so you can feel solid, safe, and grounded — no matter how someone else is reacting. www.themotherwoundproject.com Your worth is not defined by someone else’s silence. This episode will help you remember that and start living from it.

    45 min

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Break the Cycle. Reclaim Your Voice. Heal for Good. Welcome to The Mother Wound Project, the podcast for daughters of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable mothers who are ready to stop playing small and start living life on their own terms. Hosted by trauma-informed hypnotherapist and spiritual coach Tandi Hartle, this show dives deep into the hidden wounds, generational patterns, and emotional scars left by dysfunctional mother-daughter relationships, and gives you real, soul-level tools to heal them. Each episode offers powerful insights, raw personal stories, and practical strategies to help you: Recognize the signs of the mother woundBreak free from guilt, perfectionism, and self-abandonmentRewire your subconscious beliefsReclaim your self-worth, voice, and divine feminine powerWhether you're deep in your healing journey or just realizing how your mother’s behavior shaped your identity, this podcast will validate your experience, empower your healing, and guide you back to the woman you were always meant to be. It’s time to stop shrinking yourself for someone who never saw you. New episodes drop weekly. Follow now and start healing.

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