Keywords: growth, loneliness, ambition, personal development, self-improvement, self-growth, hustle, climbing, crowd, success Summary: In this episode of Chill and Chai, the hosts delve into the theme of growth, exploring the loneliness that often accompanies personal and professional development. They discuss the challenges of ambition, the contrast between climbing towards goals and following the crowd, and the grind that comes with striving for success. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and the need to embrace solitude in the growth journey, encouraging listeners to identify their feelings of loneliness and understand that it is a natural part of the process. Takeaways: Growth is often a lonely journey. Personal growth requires self-reflection and solitude. Ambition can lead to feelings of isolation. It's important to identify the reasons behind feelings of loneliness. The grind of pursuing goals can be isolating. Not everyone will understand your vision or ambition. It's okay to be different and not follow the crowd. Success can feel lonely, especially when others don't share your drive. Embrace the solitude of growth as a time for self-discovery. You have one life to live, so pursue what makes you happy. Sound Bites: "Growth is lonely." "It's about you." "You got one life." Chapters Markers: 00:00 Introduction to the Growth Seat 01:24 Loneliness in Growth 03:28 Personal Growth and Loneliness 05:38 Comfort Zones and Business Growth 08:02 The Climb vs. The Crowd 12:17 The Grind of Success 15:31 Downplaying Success to Fit In 19:14 Advice for the Lonely in Growth 22:17 Embracing Your Unique Journey Transcript: Chill (00:00) Welcome to Chill and Chai, where real talk meets real purpose. Where two women balancing life, knocking out goals, and everything in between. Whether you're chasing your dreams after you're nine to five, or getting to the grind, grab your favorite cup and come join us. We're sipping on timeless talk. Chill (00:23) Hello there everyone. This is your girl chill. think I'm chill. Chai (00:28) Yes, you are chill, which you are not chill. And I am chai, which I occasionally drink chai. But here's Chillin' Chai. We are here today to talk about something very near and dear to my heart. No, it's not chocolate. It's growth. And we're going to call this series The Growth Seat. Chill (00:53) Ayyyy, they're growth seat. Chai (00:55) The growth seat. You're sitting in your seat and are you growing? The growth seat. I very much love this topic. I believe in growth. Everything grows. At least I hope so. Everything grows. In the sun, in your office, at home, in relationships, in life. Growth. see a lot of growth. So this is going to be called the growth seat. What up to the growth seat? Love it. All right. My friend, Chill. Let's talk about the growth seat. All right. All right. So within the growth seat, there are so many topics to discuss, but what I want to ask you about and in our ambition that we have, she's very ambitious, my friends. Loneliness in the growth seat and loneliness in your ambition. Chill (01:37) Mm-hmm. Mm-mm. Chai (01:52) I know that it's kind of difficult to talk about because everybody is growing together, we're a team, let's do this together. But the question remains, is growth lone? Chill (02:07) Growth is lonely. Growth is very lonely. The only way that you can really grow is by separating yourself and getting to know yourself. And if you don't do that, then you may be growing, but it's not the way that you want it to grow. Chai (02:24) Okay, so tell me about a time recently where you had like small growth. Just tell me about some growth, lessons learned, something. Chill (02:37) Okay, so growth, boom. I have a new girl working for me. A young lady. A young lady, excuse me, thank you. A young lady working for me. And I've had to really grow. I have been a true trainer throughout my career as in a management position, excuse me. But this one has really found some opportunities for me to grow. Chai (03:05) You mean it's been a challenging time for you during your growth and it's been lonely because you do Chill (03:12) yourself. Because I'm doing it myself. So that was where we're still growing. ⁓ I have to take a step back and realize myself and have to realize where she is with her learning process. that's been a growing moment for me. Chai (03:28) So growth, work-related. Now I want to talk to you about personal growth. Is personal growth lonely? Chill (03:33) Bro. Personal growth is lonely. I will say that I am such a person who's always with a lot of people. Meaning like ⁓ socially, yes, I'm always with a lot of people or at least like two or three. ⁓ Chai (03:47) meaning socially. You're always talking to somebody, you're always chatting with somebody, you're always around somebody. We'll talk about that later if you're being alone. But go ahead. Chill (04:04) Not you trying to expose me, y'all. But... I am because sometimes they're... You know, lately I've been on a journey, right? And maybe I'm having something and I want to... Maybe I'm feeling some type of emotion. Maybe I'm upset. And I want to reach out to somebody. Sure. But then I look down and I'm like, who can I reach out to? Chai (04:06) Personal growth. Are you lonely in personal growth? You have no one to share your personal Chill (04:33) I people to share my personal growth with, but what I'm coming to realize, not that people don't care, but it don't really help you. Maybe they're feeding into your negative energy that you already have. Maybe they're, I don't know, just listening, but just really kind of like trying to get the tea on you so they can go spill it with somebody else. So now I just talk to God and I'll be telling God, like, God, this lonely. Chai (04:59) You're your fate. You're feeling your fate. You're feeling your fate. Chill (05:05) Yeah, big time. Big time. Big time. ⁓ What about you? What is your business and personal growth? Okay. Chai (05:14) Business grow. We are in the year of 2025. For all of those future listeners, it is hell out here. But you know, for my future listeners, we are changing and adapting. And that means for me to grow outside of my comfort zone. And that is a challenge. And Chill (05:38) Give me an example of what a comfort zone that you're in right now. Chai (05:42) Comfort zone. Clients. I have a set of clients I love and I love to work with them. Doesn't mean that their businesses are taking off like they did five years ago, 10 years ago. So I have to go find new clients in different ways to do business. So it's just not the one-on-one relationship. It's partnering with multiple people. This industry is very much a solo kind of relationship building kind of opportunity, but I've had to learn how to trust. Chill (06:02) Yeah ⁓ Chai (06:11) Yeah. And grow. so business, personal. Don't even talk about it. What do you Chill (06:13) That's hard. That is hard. personal do do do do do you mean we talked last week about the no so any personal growth with that no personal Chai (06:28) Both is lonely because... Chill (06:31) So that's a no, just so everybody knows. Chai (06:34) Personal growth is lonely and why? Because I have an ambition and a drive that is like no one else that I know. I mean, I woke up on Sunday morning and already had a new business idea in my head and I came to work on Monday. like, this has nothing to do with what we do, Trisha. I know, but this is my idea. So I am constantly challenging myself to learn new things. Chill (07:03) green. Chai (07:05) I believe in fake it till you make it. And I know we talked about this already, but I like to challenge myself. Can I do this? Can I grow? And let me tell you, other people don't share my thought process or my excitement or my ambition. Hello husband, hashtag husband does not share anything that I am excited about. And this is probably why we yin and yang real well. We vibe, but. I get no love. I get no love at home for I want to do this and let's do that. I'm and just personal growth, accepting things that I cannot change. is hard. So yeah, personal growth I think is lonely because no one really shares the feelings and the emotion. Okay, let me ask this question. The climb versus the crowd. Okay, because we're both ambitious women. Yeah. Right. Chill (07:51) No. Ask away. Chai (08:02) Alright, you are Gen-A-Z. Chill (08:04) I don't ⁓ Chai (08:07) You're out there You're not Gen X. I'm Gen X. You're Gen Z or millennial. You're on the border I have definitely a Gen X er a hundred and ten million percent Gen X all the way and I'm saying the climb versus the crowd my people We were climbers. We had we were doers. Mm-hmm. We had to do it No one is gonna do it for you. You had to do it yourself. Mm-hmm What about your generation? Chill (08:36) think it's a mix. I think it's a mix. ⁓ I think there's a lot of people who follow the crowd. But then I also feel like there's a few, or a mix of us, a good handful of us too who are climbers. We're gonna reach that ball. Chai (08:53) Okay, so then let me ask that question. The climb versus the crowd. Now you got your friends, you got your social circle, you got your people. All right, you're the climber and they're the crowd. Is that lonely? Chill (09:07) That is lonely. Talk to me. Some people don't see the vision. Like, I have a thousand one vision. She's right. You could wake up one day and be like, I have this dream. I have this plan. I'm going to execute. And then you share it. And other people are like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, down. What are you even talking about? I don't get it.
