The Kelly Healing Project

Kelly Tumlin
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Join Kelly as she shares powerful stories of healing, courage, and transformation. In each episode, she dives deep into trauma, resilience, and reclaiming personal power—unfiltered and unapologetic. Whether you're on your own journey of recovery or seeking inspiration to rise stronger, this is your safe space to own your story and ignite your inner strength. Please visit thekellyhealingproject.com for more resources.

  1. 5d ago

    The Years You Were Never Guaranteed: Second Chances, Reinvention & Love with Gaylen Wilson

    What would you do with the years you were never guaranteed? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with heart transplant survivor, author, and relationship coach Gaylen Wilson for a powerful conversation about resilience, reinvention, sobriety, love, and what it means to truly live after coming face-to-face with the possibility of losing your life. Gaylen’s story is one of repeated reinvention. After losing his farming business, navigating career upheaval, struggling with alcoholism, rebuilding his life, and eventually developing end-stage heart failure, he found himself in survival mode for more than three years. At one point, his heart was functioning at just 5%.  Then, on the same night Gaylen sat down with his wife, Heather, to prepare for the possibility that he might not survive much longer, they received the call that a donor heart was available. Hours later, Gaylen received the transplant that gave him a second chance at life.   Kelly and Gaylen talk about what sobriety required beyond simply stopping drinking, how repeated loss taught him to keep rebuilding, and why gratitude helped him focus on what remained instead of becoming consumed by what had been lost.  They also explore the relationship Gaylen and Heather built through illness, caregiving, emotional safety, attachment, and conflict repair. Gaylen shares the principles behind his Monument Method, including why protecting the relationship can matter more than winning the argument.  This episode is about survival, second chances, recovery, love, and learning how to build a meaningful life when life does not go according to plan. In this episode, you’ll hear about:  Reinventing yourself when life forces you to start over  Gaylen’s journey through alcoholism and sobriety  Facing end-stage heart failure  Receiving a donor heart and a second chance at life  Living in survival mode  Gratitude and resilience after loss  Emotional safety in relationships  Attachment and conflict repair  The Monument Method  Choosing connection over the need to be right Connect with Gaylen: Monument Method Institute: https://monumentmethodinstitute.com/ Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  2. Sep 2

    People-Pleasing Isn't About Being Nice — It's About Feeling Safe

    What if people-pleasing isn’t really about being nice—but about trying to feel safe? In this solo episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I share a recent breakthrough that changed the way I understand my own people-pleasing and fawn response. For many people with a history of trauma, monitoring other people’s moods, anticipating their reactions, avoiding conflict, or trying to keep everyone happy can become a way of creating a sense of safety. Even after we’ve done significant healing, these patterns can continue showing up in subtler ways. I talk about realizing that putting someone on a pedestal can shift all of my attention away from myself and onto them: What do they think of me? Do they like me? How are they going to respond? What can I do to make sure this interaction goes well? Underneath those questions, I recognized something deeper: an attempt to manage the interaction so I could feel safe. In this episode, I explore the difference between kindness and people-pleasing, why old survival patterns don't always disappear just because we understand them, and how healing can involve learning to bring our attention back to ourselves. I also share questions you can use when you notice yourself slipping into people-pleasing: What am I feeling? What reaction am I trying to prevent? What do I actually want? And what would I do if I weren't trying to manage someone else's response? Healing isn't about never having an old survival response again. Sometimes it's simply becoming aware enough to recognize when you no longer need it—and choosing not to abandon yourself in order to feel safe. Healing the past. Empowering your future. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  3. Aug 29

    Who Are You Beneath Survival? Reclaiming Identity After Trauma with Hollyanna Vellichor

    What happens when survival shapes your identity so deeply that you can no longer tell where the trauma ends and you begin? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with Hollyanna Vellichor, founder of Bio Coding™, to talk about trauma, identity, the nervous system, chronic pain, and rebuilding yourself after losing the life you once knew. Hollyanna shares her experience growing up in a high-control religious environment where she learned to suppress parts of herself and adopt the identity expected of her. After leaving, she was forced to rebuild after losing her marriage, home, community, and much of the identity she had known while also navigating complex PTSD, fibromyalgia, and chronic pain.  Kelly and Hollyanna explore self-blame, hyper-responsibility, survival patterns, learning what is actually yours to carry, and how healing can involve stripping away the “noise” until you can hear your own voice again. Hollyanna also shares her perspective on listening to the body’s signals and how those experiences led to the development of Bio Coding™.   This is a conversation about reconnecting with yourself, rebuilding self-trust, and finding meaning and purpose after trauma and profound loss. Connect with Hollyanna: Website: hollyannavellichor.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HollyannaVellichor Substack: Hollyanna Vellichor  Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  4. Aug 23

    Why Boundaries Feel So Hard When You’re a People-Pleaser

    Why can setting a healthy boundary leave you feeling guilty, anxious, or worried that someone is mad at you? If you’ve spent years people-pleasing, saying no isn’t always as simple as knowing you’re allowed to say it. You may find yourself monitoring someone’s reaction, over-explaining your decision, replaying the conversation, or wanting to take the boundary back the moment someone seems disappointed. In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I talk about why boundaries can feel so uncomfortable when you’re used to prioritizing other people’s feelings—and why that discomfort doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve done something wrong. We’ll talk about people-pleasing, guilt after setting boundaries, over-explaining, allowing other adults to have their own reactions, and learning to trust yourself even when someone else is disappointed. New boundaries can feel wrong before they feel normal. ✨ Healing • Growth • Empowerment Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  5. Aug 18

    Why Is It So Hard to Rest? Restorative Yoga & the Nervous System with Lizzie Lasater

    Why can slowing down feel so difficult—even when we know we need rest? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I sit down with yoga teacher, writer, and creator Lizzie Lasater to explore our relationship with rest, the nervous system, and what happens when we're so accustomed to doing, achieving, and pushing forward that slowing down actually feels uncomfortable. Lizzie shares how her own experience with anxiety and panic attacks shaped her relationship with yoga and eventually led her deeper into Restorative Yoga. We talk about why rest is more than simply stopping or distracting ourselves, how practices like Restorative Yoga and Savasana can help us intentionally slow down, and why we don't have to earn the right to rest.  We also explore what can happen when someone has spent years in a heightened or hypervigilant state and why certain forms of rest may not immediately feel safe or comfortable. Lizzie shares how Restorative Yoga can be adapted to meet people where they are rather than forcing the body into relaxation.  Our conversation expands into functional movement, somatic strength, perimenopause and menopause, boundaries, self-empathy, creativity, and why caring for our own nervous systems can influence how we show up in our relationships and the world around us. In this episode, we talk about: Why slowing down and doing nothing can feel surprisingly difficultThe difference between true rest and distraction Restorative Yoga, Savasana, and nervous system regulation Anxiety, hypervigilance, and creating a sense of safety in rest Why women may need both more rest and more strength as they age Functional movement, perimenopause, and changing relationships with our bodies Boundaries, self-empathy, creativity, and making space for ourselvesLizzie Lasater is a yoga teacher, writer, and creator exploring the intersection of Restorative Yoga, graceful aging, functional movement, and embodied creativity. She has taught yoga since 2005 and is the co-author, with her mother Judith Hanson Lasater, of Savasana: The Practice of Radical Rest. Connect with Lizzie Lasater: Website: Lasater Yoga Lizzie's website: LizzieLasater.com YouTube: Lizzie Lasater on YouTube Instagram: @lizzie.lasater Newsletter: Lizzie's Newsletter Learn more about Savasana: The Practice of Radical Rest: Savasana: The Practice of Radical Rest Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  6. Aug 15

    The Becoming Series: Loving Someone Doesn't Mean They Didn't Hurt You

    Grief can be complicated—especially when the person you lost was also connected to some of the pain you've had to heal from. Today would have been my mom's birthday, and in this deeply personal episode of The Becoming Series, I'm talking about what it means to love someone while still acknowledging the ways they hurt you. You can miss someone and grieve the relationship you wish you could have had. You can understand someone's trauma without excusing their behavior. You can have compassion for what they experienced while still honoring the impact their actions had on you.   In this episode, I talk about complicated grief, boundaries, childhood trauma, hyper-independence, finding your voice, taking responsibility for your own healing, and what it means to break generational patterns. At some point, healing can shift the question from “Why did this happen to me?” to “What am I going to do with what happened to me?” You may not have chosen what happened to you, but you get a say in what happens next. You can become the person you needed, create safety for yourself, and decide which patterns end with you.   Loving someone doesn't mean they didn't hurt you. And acknowledging that they hurt you doesn't mean you never loved them. Both can be true.  Healing the past. Empowering your future. 💜 Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  7. Aug 12

    The Becoming Series: Every Season Has Something to Teach You

    Not every season of life will feel like growth—but that doesn’t mean you aren’t growing. Some seasons are about expansion. Others are about slowing down, letting go, setting boundaries, resting, rebuilding, or learning how to trust yourself again. And sometimes, the seasons that make the least sense while we’re living them become the ones that teach us the most. In this episode of the Becoming series, we talk about recognizing the purpose in different seasons of life, releasing the pressure to constantly move forward, and learning to be present with who you are right now. We’ll explore: • Why growth doesn’t always look like progress  • Seasons of expansion, rest, and letting go  • How difficult seasons can reveal patterns and boundaries  • Why we don’t need to judge past versions of ourselves  • Learning to stop rushing toward the next chapter  • Asking, “What is this season trying to teach me?”  • How every decision is shaping the person you’re becoming You don’t have to understand every season while you’re in it. Sometimes the meaning becomes clear only when you look back. You may not be behind. You may simply be in a season you haven’t learned how to recognize yet. Keep becoming. 💜 Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  8. Aug 9

    Trauma, AuDHD & Finding Your Authentic Self with Ellie "AuDHD" Capstick

    What if some of the things you've always attributed to trauma were also connected to the way your brain is wired? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I sit down with Ellie “AuDHD” Capstick for an open and powerful conversation about autism, ADHD, trauma, masking, self-worth, and discovering her neurodivergence later in life. Ellie shares how receiving her diagnosis helped her begin making sense of experiences she had struggled to understand for years. We talk about the overlap between trauma and neurodivergence, the exhaustion of masking, unhealthy relationship patterns, nervous system regulation, parenting neurodivergent children, and learning to advocate for what you actually need. We also explore the emotional side of finally understanding yourself—the grief for the person you might have been with the right support, but also the freedom that can come from realizing you don't have to keep forcing yourself to fit into expectations that were never right for you. This conversation is ultimately about self-understanding, self-acceptance, and reclaiming the parts of yourself you may have spent years believing were “too much” or somehow wrong. Connect with Ellie: 💜 Ellie’s Socials & Resources 🌐 AuDHD and Then Some Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

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Join Kelly as she shares powerful stories of healing, courage, and transformation. In each episode, she dives deep into trauma, resilience, and reclaiming personal power—unfiltered and unapologetic. Whether you're on your own journey of recovery or seeking inspiration to rise stronger, this is your safe space to own your story and ignite your inner strength. Please visit thekellyhealingproject.com for more resources.

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  • Creator
    Kelly Tumlin
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    93
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Kelly Healing Project
  • Show Website
    The Kelly Healing Project

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