The Kelly Healing Project

Kelly Tumlin
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Join Kelly as she shares powerful stories of healing, courage, and transformation. In each episode, she dives deep into trauma, resilience, and reclaiming personal power—unfiltered and unapologetic. Whether you're on your own journey of recovery or seeking inspiration to rise stronger, this is your safe space to own your story and ignite your inner strength. Please visit thekellyhealingproject.com for more resources.

  1. 1d ago

    Who Are You Beneath the Conditioning? Astrology, the Enneagram & Self-Awareness with Indra Rinzler

    Who are you underneath the beliefs, patterns, identities, and conditioning you've accumulated throughout your life? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I sit down with spiritual guide, author, and longtime student of the human experience Indra Rinzler for a fascinating conversation about self-awareness, spirituality, Vedic astrology, the Enneagram, and what it means to live more consciously. Indra has spent more than 50 years exploring spirituality and Vedic astrology and has studied the Enneagram of Personality since 1999. Rather than approaching these systems simply as ways to predict the future or place ourselves into categories, Indra uses them as tools for understanding our patterns, blind spots, fears, strengths, and conditioning. We explore the difference between who we truly are and the identity we've built throughout our lives, why certain stories may continue serving us even when they appear limiting, and how greater awareness can help us begin questioning the beliefs we've mistaken for truth. Indra also introduces his Wheel of Totality, his spiritual approach to exploring the areas of ourselves we may have difficulty seeing, and shares four doorways to conscious living: observing ourselves, releasing what no longer serves us, learning to love ourselves, and living in the present moment. In this conversation, we discuss: • Indra's 50+ year spiritual journey • Vedic astrology and how it differs from Western astrology • Using astrology for self-awareness rather than prediction • Free will, control, and the circumstances we're given in life • The Enneagram and the fears underlying our personality patterns • People-pleasing and the search for safety through other people • Conditioning and the stories we learn to believe about ourselves • Indra's Wheel of Totality and the concept of spiritual blind spots • Why limiting stories can sometimes serve us before we're ready to release them • Why lasting happiness isn't necessarily found outside ourselves • The four doorways to conscious living • Moving from autopilot toward greater awareness • Learning to question our own thoughts, reactions, and patterns • Indra's book, Indra's Net: A Seeker's Guide to the Human Experience • Why asking the right questions can be the beginning of healing If you've ever wondered how much of who you think you are is actually you—and how much was shaped by family, society, fear, or conditioning—this conversation offers a different way of looking at the journey back to yourself. Connect with Indra Rinzler and learn more about his work: indrarinzler.com Interested in learning more about your Vedic chart? Indra invited listeners to email him their birth date, exact birth time, and birth place at indrarinzler@gmail.com. He'll send you your chart along with a few comments (this is not a full reading). Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  2. 4d ago

    The Trimesters of Grief: Losing a Child, Carrying Loss & Finding Life Again with Katie Rizzo

    What does it mean to keep living after experiencing a loss that changes everything? In this deeply personal episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with author Katie Rizzo to talk about the loss of her 25-year-old son, Nicholas, to addiction—and what grief has actually looked like in the aftermath. Before talking about how Nicholas died, Katie shares who he was: a son, brother, friend, and person deeply loved by his family. Together, Kelly and Katie explore the complicated layers of losing someone to addiction, including the stigma surrounding substance use, the questions that remain after loss, and the reality that grief doesn't follow a predictable timeline. Katie also shares the idea behind her memoir, The Trimesters of Grief, and the unexpected parallels she began noticing between pregnancy and grief—from the physical symptoms and numbness of early loss to eventually realizing that grief isn't something we simply finish or leave behind. The conversation explores what it means to continue a relationship with someone after death, why Katie began writing poetry to Nicholas “across the veil,” and how writing became a way to express emotions she couldn't always put into ordinary words. Kelly also opens up about her own experience with traumatic loss, creating an honest conversation about the different ways grief can affect our identities, relationships, nervous systems, and ability to trust life again. Rather than trying to turn loss into something positive or tie grief into a neat ending, Katie shares what she's learning about allowing grief and joy to exist at the same time—and continuing to live while still carrying the person you love with you. In this episode: • Remembering Nicholas beyond his addiction • Losing a child to addiction and the stigma surrounding that loss • Katie's “Trimesters of Grief” framework • Why grief doesn't have a finish line • Writing and poetry as ways of processing loss • Continuing a relationship with someone after death • The complicated relationship between grief, guilt, and joy • How traumatic loss can affect identity and relationships • The practices that have helped Katie continue moving forward • Why healing doesn't have to mean letting go • Learning to carry grief while continuing to live Katie is the author of The Trimesters of Grief and None of Them Are You. Connect with Katie and learn more about her work at katierizzo.com. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  3. Sep 26

    People-Pleasing Isn’t Just Being Nice: Fawning, Self-Abandonment & Healing with Ludovica Colella

    What if people-pleasing isn't simply part of your personality—but a pattern you learned in order to maintain connection? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with CBT-trained psychotherapist and confidence coach Ludovica Colella for a conversation about people-pleasing, the fawn response, self-abandonment, boundaries, and rebuilding self-trust. Ludovica explains how people-pleasing patterns can develop early in life, why they can become so deeply connected to our identity, and why understanding where a pattern came from doesn't necessarily mean we'll stop repeating it. Together, Kelly and Ludovica explore what happens when you've spent so much time prioritizing other people's needs that you lose touch with your own, why healthy relationships can initially feel uncomfortable when you're accustomed to unhealthy dynamics, and why guilt after setting a boundary doesn't automatically mean you've done something wrong. They also discuss Ludovica's Inner Design framework, the protective parts that can keep old patterns in place, over-explaining, anger and resentment, learning to tolerate other people's disappointment, and the identity shift that can happen when you stop being the “good girl,” fixer, caretaker, or person responsible for keeping everyone happy. This conversation explores an important part of healing: awareness is powerful, but awareness alone doesn't always create change. Rebuilding self-trust happens when we begin listening to ourselves, honoring our needs, and responding differently to the patterns that once helped us feel safe. In this episode: • People-pleasing and the fawn response • How self-abandonment can hide behind being “nice” • Why insight alone doesn't always change behavior • Ludovica's Inner Design framework • Rebuilding self-trust after years of looking outside yourself for approval • Why healthy relationships can initially feel unfamiliar • Setting boundaries without over-explaining • Guilt, resentment, and anger as information • Learning to tolerate other people's disappointment • Who you become when you stop defining yourself through people-pleasing Connect with Ludovica and learn more about her work at https://lu-cole.com/. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  4. Sep 20

    Stop Taking Other People's Patterns Personally

    Have you ever noticed someone becoming distant, inconsistent, or less engaged—and immediately wondered, What did I do wrong? It’s easy to take other people’s behavior personally, especially when their communication changes, their effort shifts, or you’re left trying to figure out what happened. But someone else’s patterns don’t automatically say something about your worth. In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, we’re talking about how to step out of personalization and into observation. We’ll explore the difference between noticing a pattern and trying to diagnose it, why understanding someone can sometimes turn into over-functioning, and how another person’s behavior can activate patterns of your own. We’ll also talk about something we don’t always consider: how completely different you can feel in different relationships. One dynamic may leave you questioning yourself, overthinking, or chasing reciprocity, while another gives you room to feel relaxed, authentic, playful, and secure. Instead of asking, What’s wrong with me? or What’s wrong with them? maybe the better question is: What’s happening between us—and what is this dynamic showing me? You don’t have to diagnose someone, make them the villain, or blame yourself to recognize when a pattern isn’t working for you. Their pattern can give you information without becoming a statement about your worth. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: Separate observation from personalizationRecognize patterns without becoming hypervigilantStop over-functioning when someone else pulls awayNotice when another person’s pattern activates your ownPay attention to who you become in different relationshipsUse consistency, reciprocity, and communication as informationTrust yourself to decide what you want to do nextBecause their patterns belong to them. What you choose to do with the information belongs to you. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  5. Sep 18

    Why Knowing Your Patterns Isn’t Enough: The Subconscious Mind, Trauma & Healing with Leanna Lapidus

    Why can we understand exactly why we do something—and still struggle to stop doing it? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, Trauma and Anxiety Specialist, and Transformational Coach Leanna Lapidus for a conversation about the subconscious mind, childhood experiences, survival patterns, addiction, shame, self-trust, and what it can take to create lasting change. Leanna’s work is deeply connected to her own story. Growing up in Ukraine in a home affected by alcoholism, fear, and emotional instability, she began developing beliefs and survival strategies that followed her into adulthood. Her own healing journey eventually led her to hypnotherapy, and she went on to spend nearly a decade working in addiction treatment at Passages Malibu. Together, Kelly and Leanna explore how experiences from childhood can shape beliefs about who we need to be in order to feel safe—whether that means becoming agreeable, perfectionistic, independent, controlling, or constantly taking care of others. They also discuss why recognizing a pattern doesn't automatically change it, why willpower may not be enough, and the difference between changing a behavior and understanding what the behavior may have been helping us cope with in the first place. Leanna explains her approach to hypnotherapy and the subconscious mind, including why she believes new beliefs and behaviors need reinforcement over time. Kelly and Leanna also explore an important question: Can we deeply heal and still occasionally experience triggers connected to our past? The conversation goes deeper into shame, self-trust, emotional healing, the nervous system, and the identity shift that can happen when patterns we've carried for years begin falling away. Because healing may not be about creating an entirely new version of ourselves. Sometimes, it’s about discovering who we are underneath everything we learned we had to be. In this episode, you’ll hear about: How childhood experiences can shape subconscious beliefsWhy people-pleasing, perfectionism, and other patterns can begin as protectionWhy understanding a pattern doesn't always make it disappearAddiction and coping mechanismsWhat hypnotherapy is—and what happens during a sessionShame and self-judgmentWhy healing doesn't necessarily mean never being triggered againThe role of the body and nervous system in changeRebuilding self-trustIdentity after survival patterns begin falling awayConnect with Leanna: Leanna Lapidus: leannalapidus.com Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  6. Sep 12

    The Becoming Series: Stop Building Your Life Around Avoiding Discomfort

    What if the thing you’ve been calling “not ready” is actually discomfort? In this solo episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly explores the difference between protecting yourself from genuine harm and building your life around avoiding anything that feels uncertain, awkward, vulnerable, or uncomfortable. After years of focusing on emotional safety, boundaries, nervous-system regulation, and learning to trust yourself, there can come a point where healing asks something different of you: Can you expand again? Kelly breaks down how avoidance can create immediate relief while quietly making your world smaller over time, why unfamiliar experiences can sometimes feel threatening even when they aren’t unsafe, and how fear can become a powerful decision-maker when we automatically treat every uncomfortable feeling like a stop sign.  She also explores the important distinction between discomfort and danger, why confidence often develops after we act rather than before, and how small experiences of manageable discomfort can help rebuild self-trust.   In this episode, you’ll hear about:  Why a safe life and a small life are not the same thing  How avoidance can reinforce fear  The difference between discomfort, danger, and genuine red flags  Why familiar doesn’t automatically mean safe  How to recognize when fear is protecting you versus limiting you  Why you can be nervous and still genuinely want something  Letting yourself be a beginner again  Building confidence through action instead of waiting to feel ready  Using manageable discomfort to strengthen self-trust  Why fear deserves a voice—but doesn’t always deserve the final vote Kelly leaves you with one question to journal on: If you knew you could handle the discomfort, what would you do?  Because healing isn’t only about learning how to protect yourself. Sometimes, healing is also learning when you no longer need protection—and allowing yourself to be seen, take the chance, try something new, and expand.  Connect with Kelly: thekellyhealingproject.com Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  7. Sep 4

    The Years You Were Never Guaranteed: Second Chances, Reinvention & Love with Gaylen Wilson

    What would you do with the years you were never guaranteed? In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, Kelly sits down with heart transplant survivor, author, and relationship coach Gaylen Wilson for a powerful conversation about resilience, reinvention, sobriety, love, and what it means to truly live after coming face-to-face with the possibility of losing your life. Gaylen’s story is one of repeated reinvention. After losing his farming business, navigating career upheaval, struggling with alcoholism, rebuilding his life, and eventually developing end-stage heart failure, he found himself in survival mode for more than three years. At one point, his heart was functioning at just 5%.  Then, on the same night Gaylen sat down with his wife, Heather, to prepare for the possibility that he might not survive much longer, they received the call that a donor heart was available. Hours later, Gaylen received the transplant that gave him a second chance at life.   Kelly and Gaylen talk about what sobriety required beyond simply stopping drinking, how repeated loss taught him to keep rebuilding, and why gratitude helped him focus on what remained instead of becoming consumed by what had been lost.  They also explore the relationship Gaylen and Heather built through illness, caregiving, emotional safety, attachment, and conflict repair. Gaylen shares the principles behind his Monument Method, including why protecting the relationship can matter more than winning the argument.  This episode is about survival, second chances, recovery, love, and learning how to build a meaningful life when life does not go according to plan. In this episode, you’ll hear about:  Reinventing yourself when life forces you to start over  Gaylen’s journey through alcoholism and sobriety  Facing end-stage heart failure  Receiving a donor heart and a second chance at life  Living in survival mode  Gratitude and resilience after loss  Emotional safety in relationships  Attachment and conflict repair  The Monument Method  Choosing connection over the need to be right Connect with Gaylen: Monument Method Institute: https://monumentmethodinstitute.com/                   MVP Monument Validated Person page: www.monumentmethodinstutite.com/MVP.php Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/1aXxBYJ9kw/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monumentmethodinstitute/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MonumentMethodInstitute X: https://x.com/MonumentMethod TikTok: tiktok.com/@monumentmethod LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaylen-wilson-846b62417 Monument Hearts Trailer on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8GmXFnX/ Monument Method Trailer on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8GmATNK/ ED Trilogy on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8GWBKDj/ Monument Hearts Trailer: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1rK_dL9pKJASNnvr9mKbqBi52emj9Bgc9/view?usp=drivesdk Monument Method Trailer: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1zrQ6wnVJtI-F32Gdz_Y2-wI5-NVxE4VP/view?usp=drivesdk ED Trilogy trailer: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1r79WqiQG1p7dCH47N0GxV015VepJg6g2/view?usp=drivesdk ARC Books: https://monumentmethodinstitute.com/arc.html?series=vip                      Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

  8. Sep 2

    People-Pleasing Isn't About Being Nice — It's About Feeling Safe

    What if people-pleasing isn’t really about being nice—but about trying to feel safe? In this solo episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I share a recent breakthrough that changed the way I understand my own people-pleasing and fawn response. For many people with a history of trauma, monitoring other people’s moods, anticipating their reactions, avoiding conflict, or trying to keep everyone happy can become a way of creating a sense of safety. Even after we’ve done significant healing, these patterns can continue showing up in subtler ways. I talk about realizing that putting someone on a pedestal can shift all of my attention away from myself and onto them: What do they think of me? Do they like me? How are they going to respond? What can I do to make sure this interaction goes well? Underneath those questions, I recognized something deeper: an attempt to manage the interaction so I could feel safe. In this episode, I explore the difference between kindness and people-pleasing, why old survival patterns don't always disappear just because we understand them, and how healing can involve learning to bring our attention back to ourselves. I also share questions you can use when you notice yourself slipping into people-pleasing: What am I feeling? What reaction am I trying to prevent? What do I actually want? And what would I do if I weren't trying to manage someone else's response? Healing isn't about never having an old survival response again. Sometimes it's simply becoming aware enough to recognize when you no longer need it—and choosing not to abandon yourself in order to feel safe. Healing the past. Empowering your future. Support the show Thank you so much for being here and listening today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. Visit thekellyhealingproject.com to explore more podcast episodes, coaching, and resources for your healing journey. You can also reach me anytime at thekellyhealingproject@gmail.com. Your healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I'm so grateful you're here.

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Join Kelly as she shares powerful stories of healing, courage, and transformation. In each episode, she dives deep into trauma, resilience, and reclaiming personal power—unfiltered and unapologetic. Whether you're on your own journey of recovery or seeking inspiration to rise stronger, this is your safe space to own your story and ignite your inner strength. Please visit thekellyhealingproject.com for more resources.

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  • Creator
    Kelly Tumlin
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    99
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Kelly Healing Project
  • Show Website
    The Kelly Healing Project

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