Aces Up Your Sleeve

Aces Up Your Sleeve
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Join Kade and Sabrina, two a-spec autistic therapists, and their special guests as they help you navigate relationships.

  1. Trauma, Kink, Healing & PDA

    2D AGO

    Trauma, Kink, Healing & PDA

    If submission has ever felt like a demand and triggered your PDA, this week’s episode might resonate with you! We’re answering if you’re a “bad sub” if you’re a PDAer, how to navigate explaining your nervous system to a partner, and why kink is healing. We explore a few ways people can heal from trauma and feel empowered by kink. Join us! BTW: This is part 3 of our 3-parter mini series on kink as we look forward to an event later this month called THRIVE; it’s a virtual BDSM and mental health conference. THRIVE is from May 29 - 31st, all online, and it’s by donation - your donation towards your ticket ends up going right to the volunteer staff and presenters! On this week’s Upping the Ante, our Patreon bonus content is focused on CPTSD, “disappearing” or “dissolving” during sex, and if it makes you a bad partner if you don’t reciprocate. If you’ve ever wondered why autistic and AuDHD focus seems to be different than allistic folks’ attention- especially in the bedroom- then you’ll want to hear what we’ve got to say! (Also, if you’re a mental health professional, this is your last week to sign up for the first ever GEMS Neurodiversity Summit - this one’s focus is Autistic + ADHD Teens. It’s on May 16th starting at 10am Pacific and it’s going to be SO fun! We’re hoping to build a tightknit community and to continue hosting GEMS Summits in the future.) Find us at GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens this week: www.neuropebble.com/gems-summit GEMS Neurodiversity Community for therapists on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/924737776755804 Join us at THRIVE later this month: https://thrivevirtualcon.com/Therapists can take a sneak peek at our June 17th, 2026, event here: https://www.cryptidlearns.com/course/kink-healing-inner-child-liveTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

    23 min
  2. ADHD Hyperfocus on Kink

    MAY 5

    ADHD Hyperfocus on Kink

    Have you ever wondered where that praise or degradation kink stems from? Or if it's possible to hyperfocus on kink and fetishes? Let's talk about it on this week's episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! We're talking about the importance of meeting your needs, libido discrepancy, differences of opinion when it comes to kink, and more! We're answering: Is it normal to develop a praise kink when you grew up AuDHD and never got good feedback from parents or teachers or anyone really? So my husband (DX, no medication) gets these phases where he needs sex / kinky things in his life SO badly, he becomes really desperate. Like - talking about it in his sleep, getting really upset, sad, angry, dramatic about the topic etc. sometimes up to a point where the intensity of it all scares me.Context: We've been together for 10 years, have sex on average l'a say 1-2x per week, do looots of crazy kinky things. Which I think is pretty damn great, but it never seems to be good enough for him. We also have an open relationship so he'd even be free to find other outlets if his drive is just higher than mine. But he says he needs this with me. The only other situations where I see him getting that intense are when he hyperfocuses on problems... So I'm wondering if hyperfocussing on sexual needs is a thing that happens for people with ADHD? If so - what could be done about it? PS: Lately he's worked on some self-reflection and communication skills, which heeeelps so much, mostly cause he's a bit more at ease and it's not always a catastrophe to him if I don't want to do something kinky or have sex. But it's still not easy and creating a lot of pressure for me... BTW: This is part 2 of our 3-parter mini series on kink as we look forward to an event later this month. It’s called THRIVE and it’s a virtual BDSM and mental health conference. THRIVE is from May 29 - 31st, all online, and it’s by donation - your donation towards your ticket ends up going right to the volunteer staff and presenters! On Upping the Ante, we’re helping you find ways to avoid castration and still get your desires and needs for intimacy met! We explore challenges that may be unique to ADHDers when it comes to sex, connection, and even climax. Give it a listen! To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

    27 min
  3. Autism & BDSM: Am I Kinky? with Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

    APR 28

    Autism & BDSM: Am I Kinky? with Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

    On this week’s episode, we’re joined by the wonderful Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti! Gloria (she/her) is an educator and community discussion facilitator who has been teaching workshops on shame, consent, neurodivergence, and identity in kink communities for several years. As a late-diagnosed autistic woman, she brings both lived experience and thoughtful dialogue to conversations about communication, ethics, and belonging in BDSM spaces. This week, she’s answering listener questions about neurodivergence and kink with us! If you’ve ever wondered if you might be kinky, this episode is for you. We’re also giving some suggestions about how to tell your long-term partner that you’d like to explore kink in the bedroom. We're answering: I’ve wondered for a while now if I’m kinky or if I just like thinking about kinky things. I’m ADHD and Autistic and have only ever had three partners but we never did anything but what most would call vanilla. Single now so nothing fun’s happening lol. But how do I know if I’m kinky or if it’s just fun to think about? Hello Aces, I am a 45 yr old late diagnosis autistic woman who has been married for ten years this August. I need help knowing how to tell my husband that I want us to be more adventurous between the sheets. How do I do this? I have never asked for anything of the sort and never complained about our romps in the bedroom. Thank you for any suggestionsBTW: This is part 1 of our 3-parter mini series on kink as we look forward to an event later this month. It’s called THRIVE and it’s a virtual BDSM and mental health conference. THRIVE is from May 29 - 31st, all online, and it’s by donation - your donation towards your ticket ends up going right to the volunteer staff and presenters! (This is for all audiences, not just therapists!) Show notes:  Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GloriaJacksonNefertitiGloria’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gloriajacksonnefertiti/Gloria’s linktree: https://linktr.ee/gloriajnGloria's recorded presentation on Autism, Kink, and Consent: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1KgodjGR59KWPuyvC-ykANaYMr4AUkwdX/view?usp=drive_linkTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

    28 min
  4. Autistic Celebrities

    APR 21

    Autistic Celebrities

    Who did we look up to as autistic little kids? The answer is tricky- and we’re sharing it with you on this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! We’re covering “good” and “bad” autistic representation and where to find it. (Hint: it might be both harder and easier than you think!) Join us in reminiscing about special interests and all of the autistic traits we notice in media. On Upping the Ante, we're critically examining the darker side of neurodivergent celebrities and autistic influencers. We're focusing on harmful behaviors, accountability, and the impact of misusing a platform. Join us to hear more about why it'd be great to have more autistic celebrities and how tough fame must be for autistic folks. A list of neurodivergent celebrities: https://www.imdb.com/list/ls545872590/ To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

    40 min
  5. Autistic Health Challenges

    APR 14

    Autistic Health Challenges

    Ready to hear all about chronic pain, illness, and being autistic? We're ready to talk about it! Join us for a raw and real conversation about what it's like to navigate these challenges, especially when the onset is pretty sudden.  We're answering this question about autistic health challenges: Are there any unique experiences for autistic people who suddenly get injured or start to have an on-going illness? I’m already bad with transitions and now I have to deal with all of these other changes. Any tips or tricks?To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

    33 min
  6. Parenting Autistic & ADHD Teens with Jamie Roberts

    APR 7

    Parenting Autistic & ADHD Teens with Jamie Roberts

    To wrap up our mini-series on Teens this week, we’re mostly talking to parents about how to support their autistic and ADHD teenagers! We’re joined by Jamie Roberts, an AuDHD LMFT, who specializes in supporting teens and has published two books for ND teens. We’re answering how to know when they need down time, the importance of recharging, and when you ought to be concerned. We’re also discussing why neurodivergent teens may not seem “motivated” toward independence these days - and how to support them. We're answering: Can you talk about the importance of down time/alone time in high masking autistic teens, how to help them/their parents/family support that need, how to recognize the difference between helpful alone/down time and down time/alone time that may be signs of isolation?What do you recommend to parents of neurodivergent older teens/young adults that show no motivation for moving towards independence, taking into account the complexities of society right now and how next to impossible society makes it for young people to survive?Jamie joined us today for our teen mini series because of the upcoming virtual GEMS ND Summit on Autistic + ADHD Teens on May 16th! Therapists and mental health professionals can check out neuropebble.com/gems-summit for more info. (This is the last week of the Early Bird pricing so snag a ticket soon!) Jamie at www.neuropebble.com or @neuropebble on InstagramGEMS Neurodiversity Community for therapists on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/924737776755804Neurodiversity for Teen Girls (Jamie’s new book!): https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648486234/neurodiversity-for-teen-girlsTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

    32 min
  7. Autistic & ADHD Teen Self-Harm

    MAR 31

    Autistic & ADHD Teen Self-Harm

    This week's episode involves us exploring the complex topics of self-harm, self-stimulatory behaviors, and support strategies for autistic and ADHD teens. (We definitely talk directly about all of these topics, so feel free to skip this one if you need to!) We're sharing about harm reduction, stigma, communicating with parents and guardians, and ways to support teens compassionately. This is part 2 of our Teens miniseries where we're talking to and about working with teens! If you're a mental health professional, we'd love to see you at this year's virtual GEMS Neurodiversity Summit on May 16th - link below in the show notes - where the focus is on Autistic + ADHD Teens. EARLY BIRD TICKETS - Therapists, join us at the GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens: https://www.neuropebble.com/gems-summit-teens To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

    39 min
  8. Successful Autistic Teens

    MAR 24

    Successful Autistic Teens

    Welcome to season 2! We're starting off with a small series on Autistic & AuDHD Teens in light of our upcoming GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens event in May. For today’s topic, we’re discussing success during teen years and answering listener questions:  I’m writing to you two on behalf of one of my students. I’m a Sophomore English Teacher and I have a student who is very bright but barely talks and does not participate in class discussions. Though he has an Individualized Education Plan that lists him as autistic, his only accommodations are (1) getting breaks as needed during class and (2) extended test-taking time. Are there other ways I can support him in class? Do you two have any words of encouragement for him and students like him?Hi I desperately need to make money to afford my own things. I’m 17 with a drivers license but Im shy and not good at masking. What jobs can I do? Who could hire me?You'll get some school accommodation ideas, autistic-teenager-friendly job ideas, and more! On Upping the Ante, we spoke more about “successful teens” and what that looked like for us as teenagers, including what expectations were tough on us. We’re sharing some personal insight- maybe it’ll resonate with you? Let us know! Possible IEP Accommodations list: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1iOj9EAboD-ekOGyr_Rz1ThPNWJxwHM859AMOQDzMHt8/edit?usp=sharingDestiny Huff, IEP Advocate: https://www.instagram.com/destinyhuff_iep_advocateWA PAVE: https://wapave.org/ EARLY BIRD TICKETS - Therapists, join us at the GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens: https://www.neuropebble.com/gems-summit-teens To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auys Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcast Sabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG) Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

    48 min
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Join Kade and Sabrina, two a-spec autistic therapists, and their special guests as they help you navigate relationships.

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  • Creator
    Aces Up Your Sleeve
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Aces Up Your Sleeve
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